trying to understand my bf
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Farnie. Which part of my posts make you say i am useless? And do i know you to make you say that about me?Originally posted by jojobeach:YOu make me laugh so hard....
OK. So you don't mind an airhead... Good for you.
Marrying someone smarter and stronger will not make you more happy.
It will only prevent you from sadness and regrets.
Falling in love is not blind.
That is why there is such a thing call "Natural selection".
Do you really believe a smart decent woman will blindly love you if you are stupid and useless?
Do you really believe TS's boyfriend will not , one day wake up and tell himself " I am sick of my useless GF" ????
BEFORE you fall in love with someone again.. ASK yourself why you FELL OUTA LOVE before. -
You know there are still men who believe in protecting women, dont you? And there are still men who believe in protecting their women.Originally posted by jojobeach:You already feel sorry for the female species.
Unfortunately, the female species is not as weak and useless as you would like to believe.
There are times when the males need to step up to be the man.
There are times, when the females need to take the lead.
If you marry a woman who is so useless.
How is she going to take care of your family and offsprings ?
My advise to you is simple.
Don't marry an airhead.
You will be very exhausted at the end of the day and realised your biggest mistake is not marrying someone smarter and stronger. -
Yes, i will speak to him over the weekend. but i guessed i already know the answer.Originally posted by Delphian:If it's affecting you so much, why not have a talk with your bf and find out what his reasons are instead of guessing?
Try to tell him that you were hurt by his reaction, and when you saw him not going all out to defend you the way he could defend others when you are supposed to be the most important girl in his life?
I am sure he might have his own reasons? Try not to attack him and make it sounds like a confrontation... Try whining? lol
Like now, you should have cooled down a little, find a good time, and tell him in a little kitten way," you know that day XXX was so mean in her words and i was so hurt... When you didn't pay much attention to my emotions, it didn't make things better... You could have defended me or sayang me more, but you never, make people so sad you know?" ** puppy face **
That way, he might not feel wronged and may tell you his reasons in a calm way...? Then you will have the answer that none of us could give you here? And you come back tell us?
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Why don't you tell us what exactly did that girl say to you that is so hurtful ?Originally posted by galfriend:Farnie. Which part of my posts make you say i am useless? And do i know you to make you say that about me?
How did the event started ?
What triggers the negative comments ?
Every man wants to be the knight in shining armor.
But there will be a point when they start to get tired of needy girls who whine and moan about every little things. -
Originally posted by jojobeach:Why don't you tell us what exactly did that girl say to you that is so hurtful ?
i dont think it is wise to include so much details here cos many peopel were there that night, anybody might have just come across this thread and identify me immediately.
How did the event started ?
What triggers the negative comments ?
Started? started with her reaching and she was standing there alone, so i just said hello, and there it started
Every man wants to be the knight in shining armor.
But there will be a point when they start to get tired of needy girls who whine and moan about every little things. -
its seems that you have alot of complain about, this and that, what exactly do you want? a knight in shining armour, riding a white house, and so happens to be a prince to rescue you from this damned relationship? -
i think its only ONE isuue mentioned here so far......Originally posted by allentyb:
its seems that you have alot of complain about, this and that, what exactly do you want? a knight in shining armour, riding a white house, and so happens to be a prince to rescue you from this damned relationship?
and the guy was diplomatic enough not to create a scene which only small kids will do.
So TS, learn to understand him. If you feel u seriously need a guys protection....may i suggest u look for a new one. gd luck
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Guys I think you missed out something.
I think the key issue is her boyfriend not standing up for her as much as he did for her friends and this intrigues her. She is very disturbed by this.
It's not whether the boyfriend is a wuss whatsoever. We do not know him as much as galfriend. Some people suggested the boyfriend should give the girl a piece of his mind for some so-called alpha behaviour. Or if we are supposed to flatter the girl by making guys fight over them (just to sidetrack a bit)
Take note: we are not living in stone-age. We are not cavemen. We can think.
Nothing fruitful will ever come out if a fight ensues.
I think your boyfriend handled this well. He did not add more insult to you. What Im speaking is through rational reasoning. But maybe it's because it's in you that you are very particular over this while your boyfriend still thinks nothing of it. He's probably very happy over this.
You want him to do more for you like he did for his friends. You want to feel protected because you are his girlfriend. You want to feel different and given special treatment that is at a higher level and different from his friends. It boosts your ego and maybe your love for him. But I guess it's just an ego thing.
Xiao jie, kan kai dian ba. Nu ren zhen ma fan. There are more things to worry than a small thing like this. If you are really not happy with him, get a new strong violent Bruce Lee where no one dares to mess with him.
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You read too much those kind of Xiao Tian Tian manga issit ?Originally posted by galfriend:You know there are still men who believe in protecting women, dont you? And there are still men who believe in protecting their women.
Men will protect their women only if there is a need.
Example.. when in physical threat or danger.
Your case is nothing worth protecting over lah.
It's over another girl biatching at you.......you can always biatch back mah....
You like that abit abit only get hurt..lah.. cry lah.... hello...can don't be like that ornot ?
You not worried your bf will start to believe you are actually a drama queen meh ?
Save your tears and complaining for something more important ok? -
if this knight exists, he is mine oredi.Originally posted by allentyb:
its seems that you have alot of complain about, this and that, what exactly do you want? a knight in shining armour, riding a white house, and so happens to be a prince to rescue you from this damned relationship?
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Yes he exist. He is mine already.Originally posted by FireIce:if this knight exists, he is mine oredi. -
muehhahahhahaahOriginally posted by Bontakun:Loving someone is not just a box of chocolates, they will give you tooth decay. Many times the vegetables has to be put into the menu to balance things out. Many relationships fail because they only want the chocolates in it. Unable to balance the diet (communications, emotions, concerns, etc, etc) has caused many problems and break ups.
wat a cute anal-orgy
ok, i will rber to take more greens.
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how do you know her insults were not on important things? or are you just too presumptuous again?Originally posted by jojobeach:You read too much those kind of Xiao Tian Tian manga issit ?
Men will protect their women only if there is a need.
Example.. when in physical threat or danger.
Your case is nothing worth protecting over lah.
It's over another girl biatching at you.......you can always biatch back mah....
You like that abit abit only get hurt..lah.. cry lah.... hello...can don't be like that ornot ?
You not worried your bf will start to believe you are actually a drama queen meh ?
Save your tears and complaining for something more important ok?
Do me a favor, think before you post in my threads. if it is too hard for you, your advise i can live without. -
I think you are confused or you lost your thoughts along the way you were writing. Otherwise i cant see why you are contradicting yourself in one breath.Originally posted by dokono:Guys I think you missed out something.
I think the key issue is her boyfriend not standing up for her as much as he did for her friends and this intrigues her. She is very disturbed by this.
It's not whether the boyfriend is a wuss whatsoever. We do not know him as much as galfriend. Some people suggested the boyfriend should give the girl a piece of his mind for some so-called alpha behaviour. Or if we are supposed to flatter the girl by making guys fight over them (just to sidetrack a bit)
Take note: we are not living in stone-age. We are not cavemen. We can think.
Nothing fruitful will ever come out if a fight ensues.
I think your boyfriend handled this well. He did not add more insult to you. What Im speaking is through rational reasoning. But maybe it's because it's in you that you are very particular over this while your boyfriend still thinks nothing of it. He's probably very happy over this.
You want him to do more for you like he did for his friends. . You want to feel protected because you are his girlfriend. You want to feel different and given special treatment that is at a higher level and different from his friends. It boosts your ego and maybe your love for him. But I guess it's just an ego thing.
Xiao jie, kan kai dian ba. Nu ren zhen ma fan. There are more things to worry than a small thing like this. If you are really not happy with him, get a new strong violent Bruce Lee where no one dares to mess with him.
doko
Read again what you wrote and note the contradiction.
Your first part was right. I am wondering why i am in a less advantaged position than other friends. Not that i have to be more special. Get it? -
Aiyah, why all the agonies? Seems to me like TS is not happy with the way her bf was and seems to me TS is hoping she could change her bf's attitude. I don't think the bf is gonna change overnight just to suit TS. Simple solution is for them to break up TS's bf can find one that will listen to his lamentations and don't need to 'dong bu dong' stand up for her for such trivial matter and TS herself can find a new guy who will not whine and will jump to her defense at the snap of her finger. Solved!
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Originally posted by FocusPoint:Aiyah, why all the agonies? Seems to me like TS is not happy with the way her bf was and seems to me TS is hoping she could change her bf's attitude. I don't think the bf is gonna change overnight just to suit TS. Simple solution is for them to break up TS's bf can find one that will listen to his lamentations and don't need to 'dong bu dong' stand up for her for such trivial matter and TS herself can find a new guy who will not whine and will jump to her defense at the snap of her finger. Solved!
Originally posted by Bontakun:
No 2 people are perfect match, made in heaven for each other. If that is what you are looking for in life, good luck to you!
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You 2 are still building a relationship. It is at times and situations like these that could bond your relationship even better or break it. Have a talk with him and let him understand your concerns.
Loving someone is not just a box of chocolates, they will give you tooth decay. Many times the vegetables has to be put into the menu to balance things out. Many relationships fail because they only want the chocolates in it. Unable to balance the diet (communications, emotions, concerns, etc, etc) has caused many problems and break ups.b] -
then they shouldnt date such type of girls and go for strong girls like you isnt it?Originally posted by jojobeach:Why don't you tell us what exactly did that girl say to you that is so hurtful ?
How did the event started ?
What triggers the negative comments ?
Every man wants to be the knight in shining armor.
But there will be a point when they start to get tired of needy girls who whine and moan about every little things.
this is very funny, you look down on others who are different from you , you think all guys would like a strong and smart woman.
you must be very successful in your relationship and have never been dumped before i guess
i salute you , you must have the perfect relationship... -
on the contrary , i think i know youOriginally posted by jojobeach:Errr yah.. I also blur lor.
Anyway, it's true lah I also don't know you hor.
I also know I won't be falling in love with you leh.......kekekeke..
and i think you may have fell in love with me before...
hmmm...im pretty sure -
ooopppss! Somebody's cover blown?Originally posted by indonboyz:on the contrary , i think i know you
and i think you may have fell in love with me before...
hmmm...im pretty sure -
or i may be wrong,Originally posted by galfriend:ooopppss! Somebody's cover blown?
but let me ask you ts
isn it true that you are unhappy because your bf behaviour was contradictory
he whines to you daily about his worries and concern about his love ones so much that it is sickening and suffocating
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yes, it is true that he whines to me regularly (well at least used to, he hasnt done that since that nite i shown my unhappiness), and he really is concerned for people around him. but it would be unfair to say that he barely lift a finger, he does put in effort to create nice moments for us, at times when time was tough, he brought to to a sanctuary to rest, away from the problem. but it is also true that unlike what he would do if unfair and insulting remarks were made to other of his friends when he would stand up for them, he just asked me to ignore it. i believe it is for the same reason many here had speculated, he doesnt want to create the scene since firstly, that is a woman, secondly, that woman is the gf of a very nice friend.Originally posted by indonboyz:or i may be wrong,
but let me ask you ts
isn it true that you are unhappy because your bf behaviour was contradictory
he whines to you daily about his worries and concern about his love ones so much that it is sickening and suffocating
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well i guess you answered your own problems now, so you should be happy and the thread should be closed.Originally posted by galfriend:yes, it is true that he whines to me regularly (well at least used to, he hasnt done that since that nite i shown my unhappiness), and he really is concerned for people around him. but it would be unfair to say that he barely lift a finger, he does put in effort to create nice moments for us, at times when time was tough, he brought to to a sanctuary to rest, away from the problem. but it is also true that unlike what he would do if unfair and insulting remarks were made to other of his friends when he would stand up for them, he just asked me to ignore it. i believe it is for the same reason many here had speculated, he doesnt want to create the scene since firstly, that is a woman, secondly, that woman is the gf of a very nice friend.