Feeling distanced from class
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The thing is, no one eats with me, nowadays I sit alone at another table, eat quickly and leave before they see me. When I want people to eat with me, I ask them, not the other way around. No one wanted to eat with me except for my true friends before.Originally posted by lageihsif:well i managed to in sec sch. although not as jialat la...at least still gt ppl eat meals with me...but i didnt have wad u will call true frens back then...
then now im in poly. i got nothing better to do so i joined the freshmen orientation camp. get to meet lots of fun and new ppl. and i feel much happier now...
so if i can do it, i believe he can too
anyway sgf outings u can go wad
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just like you,
i eat alone,
shyt alone,
study alone,
do everything also alone..
but god is kind, no one is born to be alone. somewhere out there, there's a fren for every guy..
you dont need 100 friends.. u just need 1 true fren.. thats enough -
Plsdunbanme,
Before you ask of others to give.
You need to give , first.
To be honest. Loneliness is human.
I am considered a popular person.
My friends spans across the globe.
Do I feel lonely ? Yes.
Do I feel suicidal sometimes? Yes.
Do I feel like the whole world owes me a living sometimes ? Yes.
But when I go out and see children with no legs begging on the streets.
I see animals with eyes rotting in their sockets scavaging the trash.
Do I feel like I am the last one on earth with a problem ? NO.
Friends are for passing time. When you are too busy filling your life with meaningful things , your friends won't really matter to you.
You are from a broken family. Am I correct? -
Life sucks rite?Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:Hi, I'll try to keep this short, I can elaborate if you want me to. Basically, I cannot seem to bond with my class. For example, I would try to socialise with the others by sitting at their table for lunch break, but, all they ever do is talk among themselves while I eat. A lot of times, I finsh eating in silence then walk away, I dont even think they noticed. It makes me feel invisible so I stopped sitting with them after a while. Then now, they still dont notice whenever I'm gone. I'm not demanding attention or anything, I just want to be part of a group that bonds together. I mean, the rest of them are fine, so it is confirmed that something is wrong with me. Is it my appearance? or my attitude? I try to be nice a lot of times. For example, this girl in my class, with whom I have a similar timetable to, I want to get to know her as a friend. Then I try to sit beside her in class. This is how she treats me: When she wants something, she is very nice, smiles and all. But when she doesn't need anything from me, she is PMS and bitchy. But when another guy, also a friend that share the similar timetable comes in, she'd ask me to move away from her so that the guy can sit beside her. Like today, I went in class with that guy friend, she looked at him, only at him, and said "You can sit beside me" That really hurt me a lot, but I try to be nice and I just move away.
That is only once example from a person. as for the class, they wont notice me when I'm gone. Not even a 'Bye!' Class activities, I am the last one to know and conversations, I have to always initiate and not be the one who gets talked to. Instead I'll be the one doing the talking to someone else just in order to seem more sociable. Honestly, I am jealous of how my other guy friends get attention from the other people. Maybe it's because they think I'm a very serious person, but I try to be a fun person and they think I've gone "mad".
I mean, it's nice to feel loved by someone else and feel that you play a part in this community. I mean, everyone else in that community seems to get along fine. It must be just me and I'm already having some problems with this. I think I'm cracking under it. I've considered taking 30 panadols after someone I wanted in a relationship rejected me. Also, i have been saying and hearing these voices of both myself and other people. Sometimes, I'd even have conversations with the voices as though they were real people. I don't want to see a doctor cause what would the rest of the class think of me when they know I'm mentally unstable? Help me please. I'm desperate. I've bought the panadol already.
No one wants to talk to you and u feel like killing yourself?
JC is a place where studies counts and girls usually go for the ones that are clever and smart enough.
maybe you should help others.
Try this instead of hoping your classmates to be your real friend. why not use your time to help others who are really in need?
There are many people who need help in shelters and in greater stress than you.
Call any helpline to register to help others.
unless you are too lazy?
JC people are well know for snobbish and think highly of themselves.
Why let this people push you down? -
I always give. I dare say it myself. I give my full trust and belief in the people I meet. But I need my friends to talk to. I can't speak to my parents cause we're so distant. My good friends know more of me than my parents do. And what meaningful things are there to do as a student? If I were to see children with no legs, I'd give them cash. ANimals with diseases, I'd gladly pay for their medical services even if it eats a hole in my pocket. I've always wanted to be a vet, but I dont think my current subject combi will allow me to. I dare say I have a compassionate nature that sometimes, I expect returned by other people.Originally posted by jojobeach:Plsdunbanme,
Before you ask of others to give.
You need to give , first.
To be honest. Loneliness is human.
I am considered a popular person.
My friends spans across the globe.
Do I feel lonely ? Yes.
Do I feel suicidal sometimes? Yes.
Do I feel like the whole world owes me a living sometimes ? Yes.
But when I go out and see children with no legs begging on the streets.
I see animals with eyes rotting in their sockets scavaging the trash.
Do I feel like I am the last one on earth with a problem ? NO.
Friends are for passing time. When you are too busy filling your life with meaningful things , your friends won't really matter to you. -
Yes I agree partially with you. But I DO help others. YOu ought to see me, but only I know. In CIP for example, Flag Day, I'd be one of the few who'd stand throughout the required time and ask for donatinos from every passing person. My can would always be the heaviest and fullest among my friends. They would go and catch a movie and dumb like 5 cent coins in it to fill it up. I am doing voluntary CIP, in fact, I did CIP for SPCA during the JUne Holidays cause I love working with animals. It's really sad to see those animals euthanised after 2 weeks. If I had the capability to do so, I would adopt as many pets as my house would allow.Originally posted by zeny:Life sucks rite?
No one wants to talk to you and u feel like killing yourself?
JC is a place where studies counts and girls usually go for the ones that are clever and smart enough.
maybe you should help others.
Try this instead of hoping your classmates to be your real friend. why not use your time to help others who are really in need?
There are many people who need help in shelters and in greater stress than you.
Call any helpline to register to help others.
unless you are too lazy?
JC people are well know for snobbish and think highly of themselves.
Why let this people push you down?
I also agree with you cause I should not have gone from a neighbourhood school to a top 5 JC. The culture is so different. Maybe that's why I canot fit in. -
hm. sometimes when u expect something in return, u will end up getting nothing.
so yup, just try to take things as it is.
try not to expect anything in return.
as they've always said, the higher ya expectations, the greater the disappointments.
just continue to be nice to others but don't expect people to be nice to u in return.
after all, some people are selfish and they only want to remain at the receiving end.
we, on the giving side, shouldn't care much about what kinda returns we will get.
and who knows? u may get unexpected returns and surprises at the end of the day!
cheer up! -
Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:Yes I agree partially with you. But I DO help others. YOu ought to see me, but only I know. In CIP for example, Flag Day, I'd be one of the few who'd stand throughout the required time and ask for donatinos from every passing person. My can would always be the heaviest and fullest among my friends. They would go and catch a movie and dumb like 5 cent coins in it to fill it up. I am doing voluntary CIP, in fact, I did CIP for SPCA during the JUne Holidays cause I love working with animals. It's really sad to see those animals euthanised after 2 weeks. If I had the capability to do so, I would adopt as many pets as my house would allow.
I also agree with you cause I should not have gone from a neighbourhood school to a top 5 JC. The culture is so different. Maybe that's why I canot fit in.
lol
no wonder.
my frens who went to ACJC also having a hard time there.
think they only mixes with people who have a similar culture in sec sch eg. RV
and i think discussing about animals with ur frens might be a good start. that is, for the girls who have pets at home and are those kind that will drag u to pet shops to stare at pets whenever u all happen to walk past 1 -
do you know what is going to outings?
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which poly you from?
talk to your care person or whoever is considered your form teacher.. ask him/her to let you change class and ask him/her not to let your class know about it at all because its gonna get awkward -
hm. sometimes when u expect something in return, u will end up getting nothing.
Thanks alot. That kinda made my day.
so yup, just try to take things as it is.
try not to expect anything in return.
as they've always said, the higher ya expectations, the greater the disappointments.
just continue to be nice to others but don't expect people to be nice to u in return.
after all, some people are selfish and they only want to remain at the receiving end.
we, on the giving side, shouldn't care much about what kinda returns we will get.
and who knows? u may get unexpected returns and surprises at the end of the day!
cheer up!
But I think it's natural when one gives out something and one would surely expect something in return. I do hope for unexpected returns even though the prospects do not seem very cheerful. -
so you from jc huh?
what i suggest.. transfer to poly next year.. don't choose business or design if you really not sociable.. the other schools should be quite alright -
LOL. First thing, HOW DO YOU KNOW I'M FROM ACJC? I took great pains to keep people from knowing what JC I am inand apparently, you got it out still. Note: I even said top 5 JCs, not the 5th one. so I have no idea how you got it. Anyway, sometimes, my friends and I do talk about pets and rush into any pet shop whenever we pass one. But the thing goes back to the start, these are not true friends, they simply are going into a pet shop not because of me, but because they themselves like pets as well. What I am looking for, is just someone who is willing to OCCASIONALLY give up some of his stuff just to be a friend. Like what I would do for a good friend. I would give my life.Originally posted by lageihsif:
lol
no wonder.
my frens who went to ACJC also having a hard time there.
think they only mixes with people who have a similar culture in sec sch eg. RV
and i think discussing about animals with ur frens might be a good start. that is, for the girls who have pets at home and are those kind that will drag u to pet shops to stare at pets whenever u all happen to walk past 1 -
LOL. I'm taking my A levels in a few months time, then it's NS. So cannot go poly, but I do regret coming to JC in the first place. I could have gotten into a good course in poly with my O level grades.Originally posted by Agenda:so you from jc huh?
what i suggest.. transfer to poly next year.. don't choose business or design if you really not sociable.. the other schools should be quite alright -
I think i understand what has happen, the people are the so call the bad ones who do bad things and when they see such a good kid like you thats why they siam.Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:Yes I agree partially with you. But I DO help others. YOu ought to see me, but only I know. In CIP for example, Flag Day, I'd be one of the few who'd stand throughout the required time and ask for donatinos from every passing person. My can would always be the heaviest and fullest among my friends. They would go and catch a movie and dumb like 5 cent coins in it to fill it up. I am doing voluntary CIP, in fact, I did CIP for SPCA during the JUne Holidays cause I love working with animals. It's really sad to see those animals euthanised after 2 weeks. If I had the capability to do so, I would adopt as many pets as my house would allow.
I also agree with you cause I should not have gone from a neighbourhood school to a top 5 JC. The culture is so different. Maybe that's why I canot fit in.
This is only a training phase for you, in real life is worst, people will be nice to you and stab you behind the back.
To be in the top 5 JC is not easy, I would like to say congras to you. Maybe you should focus more on old folks and more hadicap people. I also lost my direction once and by helping them made my life more fullfilling.
No point being friends with your classmates cos they maybe the very ones who will make use of you -
err bro he just suggested only but you are the one who confirm his guess.Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:LOL. First thing, HOW DO YOU KNOW I'M FROM ACJC? I took great pains to keep people from knowing what JC I am inand apparently, you got it out still. Note: I even said top 5 JCs, not the 5th one. so I have no idea how you got it. Anyway, sometimes, my friends and I do talk about pets and rush into any pet shop whenever we pass one. But the thing goes back to the start, these are not true friends, they simply are going into a pet shop not because of me, but because they themselves like pets as well. What I am looking for, is just someone who is willing to OCCASIONALLY give up some of his stuff just to be a friend. Like what I would do for a good friend. I would give my life.
The school must be really bad in order to be name so quickly.
You are looking for someone who is willing to OCCASIONALLY give up some of his stuff just to be a friend in school that is well know for abortions, badstabbing and snobbish people?
Too shocked. Btw if you can find one any normal people inside remember to tell me 4 numbers so i can buy 4D and win first prize. -
haha.
look at the bright side yea?
jc is just a 2-year course.
see? u are already reaching the end of it!
hm seriously, i don't think there's any chances of finding any true friends in jc.
'cause after all, most people are just putting their main focus on A-levels for these 2 years.
the friends whom I'm really close to right now are still my secondary school friends.
my new jc friends and i are on talking terms but not that close to the extent that we will share each other's secrets etc.
just talk about general stuff like school work etc...
kinda boring lah.
but it will be over pretty soon!
and you will be able to start a new phase of life in NS and later, in university!
so yea, don't be so sad lah.
and panadols are definitely not the solution to your problems, alright?
cheer up cheer up! -
You still don't get it , do you?Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:I always give. I dare say it myself. I give my full trust and belief in the people I meet. But I need my friends to talk to. I can't speak to my parents cause we're so distant. My good friends know more of me than my parents do. And what meaningful things are there to do as a student? If I were to see children with no legs, I'd give them cash. ANimals with diseases, I'd gladly pay for their medical services even if it eats a hole in my pocket. I've always wanted to be a vet, but I dont think my current subject combi will allow me to. I dare say I have a compassionate nature that sometimes, I expect returned by other people.
You give them cash ? How much longer can they survive on your megre cash ?
1 day ? Perhaps 2 ?
When fate dealt them such a cruel hand.
Have you asked yourself, WHY don't they just end their life ?
They can simply throw themself into moving traffic. And end their pathetic life, right ? And let someone else clean up the mess they made.
WHY did they continue their cruel life ?
Because they want to LIVE.
Now you, you have all sensory and limps , yes ?
YOu want to end your life because nobody pay attention to YOU ?
Let this be known to you.
The more friends I have, the lonelier I get.
WHY.
Because they will never understand me more than I ever will myself.
Because they can rely on me, but I cannot rely on them.
Because I will be there for them, but they will not always be there for me.
SO. I live for myself.
You expect others to return you in kind too ?
Then my suggestion to you is, DON't EVEN START.
YOu want to be a VET ? What's stopping you ?
Your JC combo is not right ? THEN MAKE IT RIGHT IN THE UNI. Stop giving yourself stupid excuses. -
hmm..
i think i'm in the same category as you..
online, i'm normal...just like anybody else..
but in real life..if i didn't get to know the people from online..than i'll find it hard to get to know the person face-to-face for i'm a introvert--due to some unhappines passed when took away my extrovert nature when i was much younger..
since the start of the 1st post til now, you mention that you always ask if u could eat with them etc.. and didn't have them saying good-bye to u etc..
but for them to say those hi-bye stuff, have you even being their frens?
if it's a no, than of course it's normal for them not to say good-bye or simple greetings right?
when you finish eating, than don't leave quietly..make some noise la..or at least stay back t chat with them etc..see what programs they have during recess or lunch break and join them la... -
I think you have to realise having quality friendships surpass having a vast quantity of friendships any day. More importantly, having friendships in vast quantity need not necessarily translate into quality friendships.
As a matter of fact, the picture you painted (about you trying to be nice to accomodate others, etc) hardly augurs well for friendships with a solid foundation to be built. After all, you shouldn't need to try to be somebody or something else to attract friends, should you?
At the end of the day, many of the best friendships in life hardly arise from you consciously going out to solicit them. By that, I am not referring to just friends whom you can hang out with or have a meal/movie with (you might realise this point will become particularly salient as you grow older and eventually step into the workforce). By that, I literally mean those friends who will be there for you when you need them (perhaps, as an example, the following would serve as some qualities which the finest friendships would possess or are capable of withstanding : these people will take you seriously when you call them at 4am for help and would go out of the way to be there for you, friendships that survive stormy rows and arguments; basically, such friendships are those where your friends can live with the differences and your needs rather than the similarities and their needs) and oftentimes, most people - if they were being completely honest - will have very few of such friendships (as a matter of fact, many people I know have no such friends).
I suppose, at this moment, it's just your loneliness getting the better of you and your desire for peer acceptance (which is perfectly understandable) that's pretty much causing the unrest that you're experiencing. As jojobeach has already mentioned (and this is something I concur fully with), an awful lot of people out there (and this is a trend I find especially common amongst women - more so than men, at least) relish and cherish being in the company of their friends, but few would actually find reliable friends whom they could share their darkest secrets with and ultimately, stick together through thick and thin through the various phases of life. At the end of the day, if you're going to have friends just to keep you company for the sake of doing so and ultimately drift apart for whatever reasons (be they work, marriage or other commitments), you're merely getting a companion for a transient phase of your life which is hardly what you would call a true friend, isn't it?
In essence, I don't see how this issue could supercede the importance of your A levels which will undeniably hold a more influential key towards dictating the paths available to you in later life. If I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure a fleeting moment of peer acceptance isn't going to be worth a lifetime's worth of satisfaction and joy. -
Originally posted by walesa:
a very good post..
I think you have to realise having quality friendships surpass having a vast quantity of friendships any day. More importantly, having friendships in vast quantity need not necessarily translate into quality friendships.
As a matter of fact, the picture you painted (about you trying to be nice to accomodate others, etc) hardly augurs well for friendships with a solid foundation to be built. After all, you shouldn't need to try to be somebody or something else to attract friends, should you?
At the end of the day, many of the [b]best friendships in life hardly arise from you consciously going out to solicit them. By that, I am not referring to just friends whom you can hang out with or have a meal/movie with (you might realise this point will become particularly salient as you grow older and eventually step into the workforce). By that, I literally mean those friends who will be there for you when you need them (perhaps, as an example, the following would serve as some qualities which the finest friendships would possess or are capable of withstanding : these people will take you seriously when you call them at 4am for help and would go out of the way to be there for you, friendships that survive stormy rows and arguments; basically, such friendships are those where your friends can live with the differences and your needs rather than the similarities and their needs) and oftentimes, most people - if they were being completely honest - will have very few of such friendships (as a matter of fact, many people I know have no such friends).
I suppose, at this moment, it's just your loneliness getting the better of you and your desire for peer acceptance (which is perfectly understandable) that's pretty much causing the unrest that you're experiencing. As jojobeach has already mentioned (and this is something I concur fully with), an awful lot of people out there (and this is a trend I find especially common amongst women - more so than men, at least) relish and cherish being in the company of their friends, but few would actually find reliable friends whom they could share their darkest secrets with and ultimately, stick together through thick and thin through the various phases of life. At the end of the day, if you're going to have friends just to keep you company for the sake of doing so and ultimately drift apart for whatever reasons (be they work, marriage or other commitments), you're merely getting a companion for a transient phase of your life which is hardly what you would call a true friend, isn't it?
In essence, I don't see how this issue could supercede the importance of your A levels which will undeniably hold a more influential key towards dictating the paths available to you in later life. If I were in your shoes, I'm pretty sure a fleeting moment of peer acceptance isn't going to be worth a lifetime's worth of satisfaction and joy.[/b]
but there's a part which i agree to only a certain extent..
the more friends you have, the better, because it helps in the long run..
example if there's a retrenchment wave in Singapore...(or whole asian) does having a few quality frens helps u in finding a job easily or when u have more friends easier?
having more friends means that we can help one another in times whereby there's really a need to work together..
but at normal times, just having a few good frens who will be able to lend u a shoulder or listening you when you need one..
that's what i learnt over the years.. -
Please take time and read what I have to say to you (PlsDunBanMe)
Hmmm... maybe you should see it in another view. It could be possible that they have already formed a clique and decided to disinclude you from their clique. All they do is talk to on another, have fun with one another and go out with one another... often without you in the picture, despite efforts trying to be grouped along with them...Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:Basically, I cannot seem to bond with my class. For example, I would try to socialise with the others by sitting at their table for lunch break, but, all they ever do is talk among themselves while I eat. A lot of times, I finsh eating in silence then walk away, I dont even think they noticed. It makes me feel invisible so I stopped sitting with them after a while. Then now, they still dont notice whenever I'm gone. I'm not demanding attention or anything, I just want to be part of a group that bonds together. I mean, the rest of them are fine, so it is confirmed that something is wrong with me. Is it my appearance? or my attitude? I try to be nice a lot of times.
Don't worry bro... It happened to me in Secondary School before... Maybe they feel that you are "too good" or the otherwise to be in their group, so they purposely ignore you though you were just sitting beside them and trying to penetrate into their clique. Sometimes, they disinclude you because you are "too good" for them... because you are being too nice in school, they feel that you are a hypocrite when you are not, and does not want you to join their clique and ruin their bonding. Most of the time, cliques reject those interested from joining is because they feel that they are "way too good" for you... they look down on you and shun you...
They are obviously ignoring you, my suggestion is not to join their clique. Don't waste your efforts, brother! If you are really that nice in school, I suggest you reaching out to the unloved ones in your school - those that are lonely and all by themselves... (other than those whom are hated for something bad they have done.) they truly need a friend! These are the ones who are potential candidates to be your friend for life... Do not call them nerds or anything bad about them, cause they are the ones who truly treasure a friendship and cherishes it. All you need to do is take the first step and be friends with them... thereby having your very own group of friends.
Sorry to break it to you bro... But she does not seem to like you as much as she likes 'the other guy'. She likes that guy... and makes an effort to cause him to sit beside her than letting you sit next to her... You try to get to know her better but she is trying to know that guy better, obviously she is interested in that guy...Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:For example: this girl in my class, with whom I have a similar timetable to, I want to get to know her as a friend. Then I try to sit beside her in class. This is how she treats me: When she wants something, she is very nice, smiles and all. But when she doesn't need anything from me, she is PMS and ^%@!&y. But when another guy, also a friend that share the similar timetable comes in, she'd ask me to move away from her so that the guy can sit beside her. Like today, I went in class with that guy friend, she looked at him, only at him, and said "You can sit beside me" That really hurt me a lot, but I try to be nice and I just move away.
I know and understand the pain that youare going through right now, being silently rejected because your beloved has chosen someone else besides you... I gone through the same situation as you... She does not deserve your love, so don't shower her with your love too much since she is not even receiving, do not waste your time and energy thinking about her or approaching her... You are a nice guy, such a girl with such a bad attitude is not worth chasing for... I am sure there are better girls out there...
My suggestion is to put this matter at the back of your head, do not think too much about it. Try to sit at a place that is away from her and a place that you cannot see her and concentrate in the lecture... Do not waste your years in JC away... Girls prefer guys who are smarter... Do your best academically and outshine the other guy, prove to others that you are not only a nice guy, but you are someone smart in intellect too!
Wow... we really have a lot in common... Well, you have to take things easy and not think too much... you are in JC so that you can study hard and go to University! I know that it is very frustrating that no matter what you do, your actions are hardly being noticed and people do not often 'open themselves up' to you... It is not wrong being serious or nice... but it is certainly wrong trying to be fun or trying to be someone that you are not - people can detect that you are being very superficial and consider you mad. Be yourself. Be true to your personality... If you feel that people reject you because you are serious, so be it! They are missing out how nice a friend you really are...Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:That is only once example from a person. as for the class, they wont notice me when I'm gone. Not even a 'Bye!' Class activities, I am the last one to know and conversations, I have to always initiate and not be the one who gets talked to. Instead I'll be the one doing the talking to someone else just in order to seem more sociable. Honestly, I am jealous of how my other guy friends get attention from the other people. Maybe it's because they think I'm a very serious person, but I try to be a fun person and they think I've gone "mad".
In my previous school, I am also like you... not popular in school, silently rejected by my beloved, very hard to make friends despite how nice I am... but I stand by my principles and be the person I truly am! Only when you show the world your true self, despite how serious, how quiet or how nice you are... the world will know that you are not trying to be someone else or being a hypocrite, they will then slowly accept you... After I decided to be true to myself, only then did I start receiving more and more friends who remain true to me until now... Those cliques even the ones I see now, may seem to be very strong in their bonding but they end up going their separate ways as time comes and goes... Do not be too sad over the matter...
Please do not! I say... DO NOT do anything foolish!Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:I mean, it's nice to feel loved by someone else and feel that you play a part in this community. I mean, everyone else in that community seems to get along fine. It must be just me and I'm already having some problems with this. I think I'm cracking under it. I've considered taking 30 panadols after someone I wanted in a relationship rejected me. Also, i have been saying and hearing these voices of both myself and other people. Sometimes, I'd even have conversations with the voices as though they were real people. I don't want to see a doctor cause what would the rest of the class think of me when they know I'm mentally unstable? Help me please. I'm desperate. I've bought the panadol already. You are not being responsible to yourself, your friends and family members if you decide to take your life! Spare your family members and friends from any unnecessary misery! Spare yourself and redeem yourself! Don't let your emotions rule you! Don't behave like this! You are a Man! In life, every one of us face challenges and trials at every intersection in life! What may seem bad now, may turn for the better in future... You have to will yourself to go through this challenge in order to be a better person when you grow up...
STAY STRONG! Life's Lessons may seem very tough and tiresome, but they help shape you today to be a stronger and better person tomorrow... Can't you see? Please do not gobble up 30 panadols at one go... this world is really losing too many good guys already and it cannot afford to lose you! You are not mentally unstable... you are just very depressed and desperate! So I am here to help you, please send your requests to my Mailbox and I will render my time to try and help you out in your situation...
Be true to yourself. Do not do anyhing foolish! Send me a message to my Mailbox when you need my help... before you decide to take your life, you must ask my permission first! Hope you come to your senses.
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few things u can do, but i will only tell u 1,
form a clique or ur own, reach out!
surely theres sum1 who is also like u?
cmon, u have to cre8 happiness? 
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The truth of the matter is, most people will hardly ever have more than a few close friends. While it's easy for many to call just about everyone they're remotely connected with a "friend", it's not hard to understand these friendships vary in degrees of strength.Originally posted by the_fallen:a very good post..
but there's a part which i agree to only a certain extent..
the more friends you have, the better, because it helps in the long run..
example if there's a retrenchment wave in Singapore...(or whole asian) does having a few quality frens helps u in finding a job easily or when u have more friends easier?
having more friends means that we can help one another in times whereby there's really a need to work together..
but at normal times, just having a few good frens who will be able to lend u a shoulder or listening you when you need one..
that's what i learnt over the years..
After all, I'm not talking about acquaintances who might be of use to you at some point later on in life (which is the point you seem to be addressing) - as a matter of fact, I doubt you'd count everyone who recommends you a job (or benefits you in some way directly or otherwise) a close friend, do you? I certainly do not believe everyone who recommends you a job would be patient enough to be there for you when you need them. More importantly, I don't see how quantity will ever supercede quality friendships for how exactly do you keep in touch and spend quality time with 1000 friends as opposed to someone who only has 2-3 close friends?
Nevertheless, I think the chap who started this thread should realise ultimately, you shouldn't need to be somebody else to befriend someone. -
In my opinion, u should concentrate on your studies first. A Levels are really important to your future and career prospects.Originally posted by PlsDunBanMe:LOL. I'm taking my A levels in a few months time, then it's NS. So cannot go poly, but I do regret coming to JC in the first place. I could have gotten into a good course in poly with my O level grades.
Another thing will be try or at least make a conscious effort and talk or say it to your parents be it Dad or Mum abt this problem that you have whoever u are more comfortable to. I believe that they will take their time out, sit down on the table and listen to your problems patiently. They can provide you with advices to tackle with this issue especially A Levels are around the corner. Tell them what you want or anything that they can do for you. I am certainly sure that they will be willing to assist you to tide over this ordeal.
If not, u can confide your problems to one of your siblings. Saying out your problems will definitely make you feel better.
Besides, when you go or NS later after your A levels, you can meet up with more frenz which perhaps one of them can be your close frenzs. Who knows? In NS especially in BMT, we have to do things together. One for All, All for One. When there is a problem with the platoon performance, everyone will make a conscious effort to enhance it. Pkus there are also some activities which tests your ability to lead, teamwork and cooperation of the team during BMT.
Next thing will be dun let the emotions control you. Ultimately, you have the control of your emotions. A half filled cup can be viewed as half empty or half full. Cheer Up and Be happy.