unsupportive wife
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me and my wife has decided to go separate ways.
she wants custody of the children and maintenance fees of 2k/mth.
it not the money that matter but the children.
she want to bring back to her country of origin. meaning i dont see my kids anymore. i love my kids too much.
i want fight for custody of children and although the chances of me winning is slim. i lost everything. -
I think you should bring her to see a marriage counsellor. Work on it! Goodluck!
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Well this is sad, family means union and supporting each other..Originally posted by reyes:just wana share my personal sorrows.
my work require me to do regional to support customers and looking for business opportunity.
everytime i received requirement to do overseas, i felt worried and scare that i had to broke the news to her and get nags, complain from her. imagine i had to do it 2-3times mth.
i had good relationship with my daughter. somehow i feel she is not doing enough as a mother. my daughter enjoy my companion more than with her. it is not that she is a disciplianiam but she simply bochap and chap the wrong things. whenever i am in singapore i will play with my daughter and bring her to outing, watch elmo show, barnie show, cartoons and chat with her about anything.
i handle all bills at home. i need to remember when to pay utilities bills, conservation charges, pay her credit card bills ( she pay me when she received her pay which is normally after due date). but most of myfriends is handle by their wife.
she doesnt save, spent every cents of her pay. i try to save around 20-30k a year for my old age and also plan for my children education fees.
my mom bought breakfast every weekend for her. she never bother to wake up to buy any breakfast for me or my mom.
she brought her dog but seldom walk it. now the dog become another of my good pals, which is the only one that bother to wait for me to come home after late work in office.
she only cook less than 10 times for the family in 5 yrs. And seldom offer to pay for dinning out although her pay is quite OK.
that is my version of the story i try to ask myself think on her side.
i told myself, no matter what for the sake of children i will hold this family together.
do any bros have any similar less than happy marriage.
please share if you can.
I really cant believe she cook less then 5 times in 5 years. I mean this is not what a wife should be. Very sorry, she gave me the impression of that she's a very lazy women and take things for granted.. everything seems so easy to her and enjoying your hard earned money... Maybe you should just talk to her bout your money for daughter's education and restrict how much money she can spent ?
Why not sit down with her and talk bout money stuff.. then go to daughters then breakfast then anything u feel not comfortable..at least let her know.. did u ? its ok to be upset and angry with her.. it doesnt mean that u both wil immediately divorce after quarrel..
First , u need to let her know wats bothering you..
U need to tell her u need some support and you're really tired after your work and appreciate anything that she can do at least to lessen your burden..
Just tell her that.. U need to be tougher than she is.. if she nags.. stop her.. not by bad way but in polite way,, if she still doesnt understand.. sometimes..scold is the only way.
i just think you're being too soft hearted to her..
Hope your family will stay and get better..
Remember , communication is the best way -
I'm sorry things had to turn out this way.Originally posted by reyes:me and my wife has decided to go separate ways.
she wants custody of the children and maintenance fees of 2k/mth.
it not the money that matter but the children.
she want to bring back to her country of origin. meaning i dont see my kids anymore. i love my kids too much.
i want fight for custody of children and although the chances of me winning is slim. i lost everything.
Right now, you need to stay calm.
Fighting with her now will only make things worst.
Be cordial. Try to assure her that you will do your best to make sure they are well taken care of.
Do not try to punish your wife. Your children's well being is the utmost importance.
How often will you be given visitation rights ?
Where is her country of origin ? -
I am sorry to hear what happened to you you and your wife. I believe you were sort of expecting that to happen one day (reading from what you had shared so far...)Originally posted by reyes:me and my wife has decided to go separate ways.
she wants custody of the children and maintenance fees of 2k/mth.
it not the money that matter but the children.
she want to bring back to her country of origin. meaning i dont see my kids anymore. i love my kids too much.
i want fight for custody of children and although the chances of me winning is slim. i lost everything.
I think your main focus now is your kids. You have every right to be part of their lives so try your very best to fight for custody of your children (in a very sensitive way ofcourse). Even if they live overseas, try to keep in touch with them as often as possible and make every effort to go and visit them and spend time with them.
Whatever happened between you and your wife, your children do not have to know all the full details. Just continue to show them and give them assurance how much you love them.
Be strong and take care!!! -
Which gf can use so much money of their own bf without thinking how hard u earn the money n they spent it like water flow..Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:Wah, how come your wife having the same character as my girlfriend? I paid off my gf's 10k cc bills last year, guess what? This year, she chalked up another 7k debts on cc bills, and I have to work hard to pay off for her mistakes. But I haven't married, so if she still like that, refuse to change, I have to end my relationship with her, coz cannot tahan lor, drag down my life, those money I could have invested to get me 100k in 15-20 years time, but it's all gone like that, heart pain sia.
Maybe one thing my girlfriend is different from your wife is, I guess your wife chio chio, my gf is ok looking only, I'm not a looks person so doesn't matter much to me.
So glad to know that someone in the same situation with me, except my commitments is much lesser coz I am not married. The saying really true lor, 3 rings in a relationship, engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.
Man, sory to say , i thk ur gf just using u.. not a true love. A true love means understanding how hard u earn and never use the money just for her own purpose. Sory man, ur gf is the materialistic women who just think of herself.. u will regret in future -
this is so sadOriginally posted by reyes:me and my wife has decided to go separate ways.
she wants custody of the children and maintenance fees of 2k/mth.
it not the money that matter but the children.
she want to bring back to her country of origin. meaning i dont see my kids anymore. i love my kids too much.
i want fight for custody of children and although the chances of me winning is slim. i lost everything.
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Wha 2 k no problem for you ya, must be damn rich. I thot only the poor have marriage problem, the rich also have it. If I got 2k everymth, i won't mind divorce and live happily.Originally posted by reyes:me and my wife has decided to go separate ways.
she wants custody of the children and maintenance fees of 2k/mth.
it not the money that matter but the children.
she want to bring back to her country of origin. meaning i dont see my kids anymore. i love my kids too much.
i want fight for custody of children and although the chances of me winning is slim. i lost everything.
U never lost everything, u gain a lesson.