Shorter guys dating taller girls
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Probably the easiest way to decide would be to ask yourself...
"Do you also desire to be with him?"
The answer for the above question would be the correct solution for you.
I don't think it will look bad on you if you were to choose to go out with a shorter guy. IF he the shorter guy wouldn't mind a lifetime of ridiculed that he might need to live with in the future, what's stopping you from accepting a guy like him?
Love comes in all types and forms, your love package just happened to come in shorter than the rest that's all.
Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =( -
u know what's the problem? she has a double standard.
because all the while she believed that love should be something deeper than just superficial outward appearance.
which means, if she has a crush with someone whose quality is over her league, and rejected her, she will feel upset because she feels that love should overlook physical aspect.
but the moment someone who's below her league, she reveals her double standardness.
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if 4 u, getting r/s is abt "face/mian zi" then dun get involve wif him... dun waste his time n love n u can continue go dream of ur >180cm manly bf... oh seems like its u who mind the most not the ppl arnd... gd luck...Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =( -
if u really love him.... u wont even care if his shorter than u.Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =(
love is blind. -
why the guy so short? He is such a shorty.
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i think starting its tough, but after awhile you'll get used to it.
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due to short stubby legs?Originally posted by norm:why the guy so short? He is such a shorty. -
do you really love him or are you just feeling guilty for rejecting him?
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It would be nice if you could carry him over the threshold. That's when the lines are crossed. After that, use your imaginations to transcend the boundaries.Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed. -
he is 161cm not 1.61cmOriginally posted by allentyb:
OMG, i can't imagine, if i am 1.61 cm, i would rather kill myself, seriously, just move with the flow, and if god's will it, both of you will be together bah -
don't need to care about the social norm
as long as he love you and really care and concern about you
it is no use dating someone handsome and tall while he treat you like rubbish -
wads holding u bak?
height diff?
i think not. -
If you can't accept it, then don't accept it.
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Its not love... its pity for the short boy who tries so hard to have a hot sex
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Huh, they said shorter guys got short short and smaller lower part, if you dunOriginally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =(
mind, you can go ahead, but dun regret hor.
And also as a gal myself, i will prefer a guy higher than me, manly with broad chest and strong arms to embrace me. It make me feels secure and warm in the arms of my love.....dunno when this macho prince will appear. -
he's not tall, but prob is not that he's not tall..Originally posted by norm:why the guy so short? He is such a shorty.
prob is TS is too tall.
161 for me is juz nice ba.
so the problem lies with the TS. -
take jap' real live example as a reference, densha okoto.
the guy is also 160+ and the girl's 170+. they even have totally different social circles, u should be thanking that the both of u clicked v well.
if the guy doesnt mind, what for u'll mind? he's taking much more social prejudice and pressure than you.
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TS is not TOO tallOriginally posted by browniebaobao:he's not tall, but prob is not that he's not tall..
prob is TS is too tall.
161 for me is juz nice ba.
so the problem lies with the TS.
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Originally posted by angel7030:Huh, they said shorter guys got short short and smaller lower part, if you dun
mind, you can go ahead, but dun regret hor.
How do you know short guy got short short lower part?
And also as a gal myself, i will prefer a guy higher than me, manly with broad chest and strong arms to embrace me. It make me feels secure and warm in the arms of my love.....dunno when this macho prince will appear.
All women are insecure. Why don't you get a gorilla? Big, strong, hairy, chest-thumping, sure big one too! -
Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =(
The course to true love is never easy.
If you reckon that you can't transcend people's definition of 'societal norm' - then chances are, you won't be able to because your personal belief is apt towards the expectation of others.
What you really need is to know yourself and what you want - that will suffice. The rest is extraneous.
Why gives so much damn about others? When your happiness is all you need to consider?
I remembered when I was so much younger (I always classify that as my mortal days), people were passing comments of 'prediction', of how long I would last in my relationship and all sorts of nonsense and allegation, in which it did cut down me and left me bleeding.
And I have bleed so much, decapitated and scorn like a crippled fool - it was as if I was thrown into a murky pool, with alien tenticles pulling me down, and my helpless drowning acts like a sadistic variety show, entertaining those fuckers.
I have died once... to karma and also, narrowly missed permanent death.
Now that I have revived, I stood tall and proud with my vampiric pride - I threw back every single claims, predictions and whatever fuckshit nonsense right down into their throat, where it first came from and shatter with my own hands, via actual proof, with regards to those shallow norms that they live their ideals with, thinking that they represent God and that their views will have any binding impact on me.
Seriously, what the fuck is Norm? Is Norm more powerful than Love?
You can either believe in Love or Norm.
Where will your loyalty lies?
Cheers -
Remember , Outer Beauty is just a skin / shell
Inner Beauty is wad i look into -
too tall for that guy.Originally posted by Ferret:TS is not TOO tall
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Thats some pretty dramatic sh|t man..Originally posted by Yunhaier: The course to true love is never easy.
If you reckon that you can't transcend people's definition of 'societal norm' - then chances are, you won't be able to because your personal belief is apt towards the expectation of others.
What you really need is to know yourself and what you want - that will suffice. The rest is extraneous.
Why gives so much damn about others? When your happiness is all you need to consider?
I remembered when I was so much younger (I always classify that as my mortal days), people were passing comments of 'prediction', of how long I would last in my relationship and all sorts of nonsense and allegation, in which it did cut down me and left me bleeding.
And I have bleed so much, decapitated and scorn like a crippled fool - it was as if I was thrown into a murky pool, with alien tenticles pulling me down, and my helpless drowning acts like a sadistic variety show, entertaining those fuckers.
I have died once... to karma and also, narrowly missed permanent death.
Now that I have revived, I stood tall and proud with my vampiric pride - I threw back every single claims, predictions and whatever fuckshit nonsense right down into their throat, where it first came from and shatter with my own hands, via actual proof, with regards to those shallow norms that they live their ideals with, thinking that they represent God and that their views will have any binding impact on me.
Seriously, what the fuck is Norm? Is Norm more powerful than Love?
You can either believe in Love or Norm.
Where will your loyalty lies?
Cheers and whats with the vampires... he he -
are u my GF ?Originally posted by mood_inn:I know they say that love trascends all boundaries. I used to believe it too, until my male best friend confessed that he likes me!
I am 173cm, while he is 12cm shorter than me. He is also of a smaller build than me. We were very good friends for 2 years, and we can click really well together. But I've never thought that the lines will ever be crossed.
He's really a great guy, and he has done a lot to win my heart. I can say I'm quite touched by his sincerity but I'm not sure yet if I really like him as a boyfriend. The main deterrent is actually the height issue. =S
There were many times when we went out that people mistook him for my younger brother when he is actually a few years older than me. He had absolutely no problem with our height difference, and I respect him for his courage. But I'm not sure about myself.. I didn't tell him that height was a problem because I'm afraid it might hurt him.
Perhaps we're socialized that guys should be taller and bigger than girls in a relationship. How can I garner the courage to break through societal norms? Am I being very superficial here? =( how come u talk like her! But then again.. mine is 175 and i am 171.. 
Anyways la.. i know what u mean and how u feel at times. But like many people say here if u allow peoples opinions to affect your own judgement when things like love , then in the future you will never be your true self and always bounded by the limits of others and forever.... be down there. The bottom pile of things that are yet to come. -
Put yourself into his shoes. If u are the guy, do u have the courage to confess? DO U HAVE THE COURAGE TO PURSUE UR LOVE?
Normally, short guys tend to be more inferior, especially those below 170cm in height. (Dun flame me, I am also below 170cm). As they feel that they are below average or rather they feel that they are looking weird.
Ok my point is ur guy friend NEEDS A LOT OF COURAGE AND PRIDE to confess to u. Agree? The fact that he confess shows that he is sincere about the r/s and he is willing to endure all the unforeseen hurting comments (namely u find him short) that maybe coming from u.
What's matters now is WHETHER u like him a not, u want to give him the chance a not. If u despise him for his height, then don't regret ur choice. It is hard to find someone u truly love. It is even harder for u to find someone who truly love u.
Make the right choice. Physical beauty never lasted but Inner beauty does.