Stuck life
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Zarks (above-mentioned) is right.
Perhaps you folks should learn a thing or two from him - posting straight-in-the-face advice, rather than nonsensical unrelating picking-on-one-another-threads.
People counselling me; it could be 1000th times; & yet one is still in a circle. I am still in this circle, hence am hoping for that someone/someday/something.
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Look, my fren, if you want to change something , change the way u think ..Originally posted by dont know much:Zarks (above-mentioned) is right.
Perhaps you folks should learn a thing or two from him - posting straight-in-the-face advice, rather than nonsensical unrelating picking-on-one-another-threads.
People counselling me; it could be 1000th times; & yet one is still in a circle. I am still in this circle, hence am hoping for that someone/someday/something.
Anyway, talk to me.(if we may)
Dont always think you're useless, no value.. this pessimistic attitude will bring you to failure , believe me.. If you think this way everyday, u are getting more and more hopeless bout yourself.
When you change the way you think, then you can start to change your attitude.. maybe you're a bit lazy now or easily get tired and need a whole day rest, why dont change your attitude and do or search some info how to improve life.. just search.. some day u will get wat you want..
You know, it is not that easy to think how to change myself.. i dont think this thing by myself, i did some reading on the net, observe all great ppl perhaps your superior or chairman on how they behave and think...
then i learn something frm them.. it is not their IQ that makes it matter,
Its the way they think, the way they do instead of talking,, and neverending think outside the box and most important thing.. never give up till the last..
Try and do your own research on some big important man that you know.. learn how they think. learn how they behave..
Anyway one thing im proud of you is that, u want to change. Tats y u seeking a good advise in here or mayb a good oppurtunity.
A good start, my fren..
.. and dont say yourself worthless or no value.. bcuz the reason of what you are now, is all bcuz of yourself.. blaming yourself will be a terrible attack to your confidence.. i thk you know how much confidence you have rite now..
The more you attack yourself , the more its goin to hurt..
Mindset first,, then attitude... and dont even think of resting till u really get wat you want.. cuz if you always delay , like i used to do.. it will take months, then years.. trust me.. i did that. It was my low determination that time, that is why im taking everything so slow
I can still see some of your replies here still stating of your mediocre life and no value ? just dun do it again..
Always ask yourself question;
a) What
b) How
c) When
d) Who
Keep asking yourself , this will make u see clearly of wat u wan to do
Mayb if its hard for you at 1st, u can try do some planning on a paper with a dateline..
Mayb today u can start off by looking all full time job in the paper.. the nex day is different then again..
do some planning, it wil help u acquire the planning skills and you can see clearly with your own plan..
and dont forget any of your frens.. ask ALL of them if they knw any job and inform them to tell u immidiately if theres any vacancy job. If they see you're so determine, im sure they will help you. -
"am hoping that someone/someday/something"Originally posted by dont know much:Zarks (above-mentioned) is right.
Perhaps you folks should learn a thing or two from him - posting straight-in-the-face advice, rather than nonsensical unrelating picking-on-one-another-threads.
People counselling me; it could be 1000th times; & yet one is still in a circle. I am still in this circle, hence am hoping for that someone/someday/something.
Anyway, talk to me.(if we may)
Dont hope.. Hope dont search for you but you search for hope..quit the thinking of always hoping.. You want a full time job.. go and get your a s s of your chair and look for it.. Cuz personally i dont think anyone can help you find a job here.. some mayb singaporeans. some are not..
Remember this everyday,
"You make things happen, not things happened because you want it to happen"
Take your time to learn, it will not be an easy journey like everyone else think.
You will know what you are able to do... perhaps one day you are better than anyone of us here.. Anything is possible.. never think that its not possible to be better than us..
Mindset , buddy ! MINDSET -
Typing here is making my heart burning with fire ..
I hope you feel the same, buddy.
Change now.. not tomorrow.. Now..
I moved on after facing the kind of problems like u do now..
I hope you too..
All the best...Fill your heart with the fire to change yourself.. For now, just ignore what ppl might say about you, you show them one day...
One suggestion, do you have any skills that you can give a tutorial to students?
Be a tutor can earn lots of money . Home tutorial is the best... Cuz im doin it now along with my full time job as a researcher and another part time job business.. -
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Go be a property agent.Originally posted by dont know much:If not, this mediocre life will carry on. (Till death)
May inspiration come.
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Been there, my darling.
Once you are in it, you'd better know yourself well enough, know what you are doing. If not, you are basically losing time & money.
Or rather, I believe it applies to everything; if you don't know yourself/what you are doing ... you are basically living under someone's direction/control. -
Pal, what is your defination of success?? Its very vague you know?? Some still lament when they earn 20K per mth due to stress. Others enjoy life even when they are average salaried workers...Originally posted by dont know much:It's only when one'd achieved something.. that makes one truly happy. I termed it miracle.
For gentlemen are supposed to bring home the beacon.
I'm able for any stuff & believe there's much more things which I am not aware of.
Not afraid of anything, but a mediocre life- one that is timid, useless, of no value.
Not afraid of death. Although it can be an end to everything, I won't choose it. Until death chooses me.
Speak to me (if you allow).
Make use of me (if you need manpower).
you need to change your perception... but neverthelest, there's always self improvement courses to increase your competitive advantage in the market. Instead of waiting for the big break, be proactive to MAKE this big break a reality!!
Gd luck.. cheers -
Come watch this video. Hoping it can inspire you.
http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=darthjesus000&p=r -
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it depends how you define " the big break" or successful.
i feel the same way when i was a regular in the SAF. a NCO that seem to be taking command from junior officer all the time. i ORD, get a job and after few years of hard work i got a job that i realy like. i still dont get my 5 digit salary but it not my concern, i doing regional work, get to travel extensively, widen my general knowledge , experience different cultural. it did somehow changes how i define success. try going to places in china such as " guang Xi", "shan Xi"," he nan"," he Bei" province or even nearer places such as rural vietnam, thailand, indonesia. you will feel life isnt so bad with what you have now.
i got a car, HDB flats, kids, a dog. i am not well to do but i dont have to worry about money everyday coz i dont spent much on myself and i try to save as much as possible.
dont be so pessimistic, dont be like typical singaporeans that judge a person success by the car they drive, house they live and clothes they wear.
u could be equally impressive if you have a good general knowledge.
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Originally posted by dont know much:
You have dreams. At a certain point in our life, everything is clear and every things seem possible. We are not afraid to dream and to yearn for everything that we would like to see happen in their life. But as time passess, a mysterious force being to convince us that it will be impossible to realize our dream. What is this force? It is a force that appears to be negative but in actually fact shows you to realize your dream. why? cos it prepares your spirit and your will. It drives you to look for more.
My life is stagnant. Stuck somewhere. Not moving. Not improving. No growth. Unlike Singapore's 6-7%.
Doing ad-hoc jobs that allow me to support myself. Simple routine life. A life that limits. A life that worries. A life that's mediocre.
Am always hoping for [b]that big break-
that fills up my time fruitfully,
doing what I love to do,
able to treat my loved ones generously,
own a home of my own(even a 2-room HDB is good enough),
car of my own,
a significant other whom I can take care of.
For now, I'm a sheltered mummy's boy. Like an ordinary small character. Like someone of no value. Powerless.
I hate it when folks ask me the same old questions," what are you doing? How much do you earn now? "
You could've been there, done that.
Or rather you're reaching there..
Care to inspire me
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So my friend, any plans of reaching there dreams of yours? -
i GUESS YOU'RE IN THE ARTS OR MEDIA LINE. Maybe advertising. There's hope in SG, but maybe you should look overseas.
If you want money, learn to invest. Not stocks, but maybe other investments. -
Actually, I am not sure what you really want. Seems like you wanted something big from the way you discribe. What break you referring to? To different people it means different thing. There are many people out there who don't even get any break at all and living till their old age, like my father. What has he achieved? nothing, after his retirement, he went into what he loved doing so, run a sport business with his retirment funds. Guess what, one of his partner chicken out and he got all his captial stuck in Thailand plant.. then lost every thing. Imagine at his age... Now he is just happy selling free lance on his own, where one of his former partner is offerring good commissions because of his contacts. He still needs to eat in his old age,
My brother, in his early 40s, got his diploma, Advance diploma, then borrow $$ went UK study and came back (late 20s then). What happen now, initially could not even get a job during the best time of SG, because he was too fussy... always complain being taken advantage of, low pay because his friend are getting higher, only few yrs experience but thought he was well to command better pay, work on several jobs for weeks if not months, looking for his so call ideal job, good pay, interesting work, etc... never come. After some 15 yrs, now ended up being a tution teacher.. whatever he is teaching, I don't know. Pay, I don't know too, but obviously not very high either according to my father. slightly higher than his last job as an raw engineer. Worse, my father has to even take care of house work and his makan too... what a shame? He doesn't contribute to the family at all.... waiting for my father to feed him when he is home.
I had seen the mess in his room.. to me its not fit for human... so smelly too. So what has he achieved? He seems rather promising initially when he completed his Polytechnic and was working and I had enjoy talking to him as we were from the similar industry. But now, pathetic...
Not many people will get the break. I got mine few times, but only managed to catch one and ended up with a scholarship, but then upon my return, what happen? Its totally opposite of what I expected and what I was doing then, I must agreed I had a very promising career, not that I asked for, I was never ambitious type, but my work brought me fame, lifted my porfolio... but the tide has changed, I even got head hunted but my bond tied me down. The company was willing to pay, but not my bond. Even before I left for study, I almost got my break had it not for being psycho by my boss into signing the bond for study. All these comes to nothing after I came back, with the financial crisis in full swing and my work was leading me no where. All I can say, I lost all I gain and I am just like any ordinary folks, can be disposed off for whatever they want me to do. I have excepted it as I no long has any bullet up my sleeves that I can command any value, quiting.. my industry has moved on and many has relocated in China... where am I now..... I can't even get the same package as I am now, and given my pay, there's no way I can get any job less in adminstration, but who dare employ me without the relevant experience to command workers?
Be patient and contented with what you have, for many may not even be where you are. Not trying to console you, but its reality. If your break really comes, be it, my so call break came in my mid 30s (my scholarship), but only gave me fasle hope as I return after my study... what BREAK? only think I gain is a piece of "toilet" paper which comes with a slightly better pay than before... job satisfaction? interesting work? Something I find rather stressful to cope initially which I didn't even realised... only much later.... learning to except that life for me....
You say break, I have always been agressive, knowlegdgable in my field and practical orientated, hands on person when I work, but no one ever gave me any break, even my idle classmate got better break than I do.... and he admited its a waste of my talent... . just your luck.... -
I always tell my friend
Preparation(hard work) + opportunity = Success
What kind of preparation and what kind of success u define depends on individual. Important is u must have the things u need(e.g knowledge), so when opprtunity comes, success will just come in ur way.
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hi TS,
perhaps you can spend some more time reading books and about ego.
Its about understanding what is human ego and also learn methods to improve your situations. you also got to understand that things are not always within our control. someone may be successful and earn alot but they still can die. like leslie chun the actor.
Therefore, even if u did not manage to be successful in career, you still should have a positive self esteem. However, you just do what you can to excel and earn more money. If u manage to do it, that is good but remain humble. If you did not, be contend and be patient in trying on.
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Last afternoon (hours ago), 1 aunt called. I picked up the phone. Then we chatted casually.
"... What are you doing? ... "
"I'm helping ... blah blah ... "
"Then how? "
I paused for a while, before giving a logical answer,"continue working loh."
Hmm. This is what I'd meant. People around me expect me to be someone, or rather to have something. I expect myself to be so too. -
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Are u gonna just whine and forever be a loser or what ?
If not you better do something about it.
People expect much from you ,expect u to be something and u too expect yourself to be someone and doing something. Hell that is what most peoples expectation from another person , especially relatives and family.
Now that u noticed u got a suck @ss life , ego problems , pessimistic views... and those are OBVIOUSLY drowning yourself in it ,denying yourself the opportunities, maybe try being optimistic , change of attitude and mindset.
You cant expect to be a doctor if u dont study medicine . Cant expect to sit at the position when u did not sweat for it , carry ppls balls or whatever u do to be up there .
To me , the big breaks are opportunities seized at the right moment and the right time. U able to take advantage of that situation! It is always around, whether or not u see it , or even have the requirements and the skill and knowledge to seize it. They comes in all forms. And your attitude the outcome. Prove your worth when there is opportunity for you to shine more then others. So while u are unable to grasp them now , u have to increase your worth , increase your knowledge , experience and if u want it.. u gotta go out there and do whatever it is to grab it.Sometimes opportunities are there , but i just aint got what it takes to do grab on to it.
Opportunities that i managed to get and people say why and how , they couldve gotten it . but its too late.. i was able to see it and make use of it , while they were stupid enough to allow me to take it. Simple. I am up here now and they are down there forever feeling that i grabbed that piece of pie.. when they themselves shouldve realised that it was thier own fault n inability to see it.
Seriously.. i dont see why u guys cannot just go out and grab what is yours. U just gotta do whatever it takes. All those ppl out there.. who are stupid enough are just stepping stones to my greatness.
There are so many things i want to do and can do , but there are many things i want but i cant get them because of lack of knowledge and requirements. But i am only 1 person with 2 hands and a brain.So unless u meet the minimum requirements , u aint gonna get it. Unless its given to u free and dropped on your lap.