Can you run out of love for someone?
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[quote]Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
U probably are a virgin.
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Ya, me fromt de state of Virginia. -
good one, sweetheart. -
Yo, u too honey, be cool boy, its a pouring friday nite, grab someone to keep warm and be nice to her ok.Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
good one, sweetheart.
What goes around, come around ya.
Have a nice weekend. -
Yes, one can run out of love for someone when they give out too much and receive nothing in return. You are worn out.
Your gf was taking you for granted and didn't appreciate you and your effort. She has bleed you dry until you are at the point of no return.
If you know deep down you are not that in love with your gf anymore make a clean break don't drag on. By dragging on is giving her false hope that she might have a chance to save this relationship. And I think seriously deep down you know she is not really suitable for you. Break it completely or else your short-term agony of now will turn into big agony in the future should you get into another forumner situation 'Frustrated' where the wife kept threatening to divorce when a quarrel erupted. DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU!!! -
mm ? i guess you're tired out already .
why not just separate .
if you still love each other , you'll get together again .
if not , spare each other the heartache and just end it off sooner .
i guess after some time your feelings will tell you whether you really love her .
that's when you start missing her agter the separation .
when you start thinking of the times together .
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Othello_Red,Originally posted by Othello_Red:I'm really just wondering if that's possible. Cuz I dunno if that's what's happening to me.
Basically I've been with my gf for almost 2yrs now. At the start of the r/s I threw everything in, but got hurt v badly by her. We used to quarrel almost everyday and it didn't help that I'm studying overseas. I tried to keep giving in, but it seemed then that the more I give in, the more she takes. And whenever we quarrel, she'd always want a break up and I'd have to fight very hard to win her back. After awhile, I guess I just gave up subconciously.
Problem is that, now she realised her mistakes and is trying hard to treat me better. But I just don't love her as much anymore. Worse, I feel the love slipping away. She's a nice girl, but I just can't bring myself to throw everything into the r/s again. Basically, now, I dun care as much, but she's really doing all she can to keep the r/s up and really doesn't want a break up. I'm really afraid that I might just have run out of love for her.
Guess I just wanna hear ur views on this.
Your love for her is gone, YES, you realised it. That is why you are doubtful about continuing the relationship now.
The relationship is broken, it is kapoot.
Yes, Jerry Mcguire was right.
Be fair to yourself, be fair to her.
You know jolly well, you can never love her as much as before.
Don't lie to yourself if you think you still can.
She will one day, get frustrated, and she will be angry you strung her along. -
lucky kid. At Least she is willing to change. You dont know how fucking lucky you are.
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when u feel v heartbroken and tired of giving and giving.. yet the other party dun seem to appreciate.. eventually u will not want to love him/her le.. bcos it's too much to bear.
but i'll still be in misery. lol.. -
yea i know what you mean but the girl is willing to change. Some people you give give give then you tell them that maybe you do not feel appreciated, they wont care de. they wont do anything to change it. they put their friends infront of their boyfriend. i am one of the unfortunate few. You are LUCKY to have such a nice girlfriend. CHERISH HER. If not you will regret it.
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some is very 1 sided, such relationship normally doesn't end nicely.... unless the other party learns to appreciate the effort.Originally posted by browniebaobao:when u feel v heartbroken and tired of giving and giving.. yet the other party dun seem to appreciate.. eventually u will not want to love him/her le.. bcos it's too much to bear.
but i'll still be in misery. lol.. -
HOLD ON!!!!!
she might be slowly making it up t you alr.
u know...sometimes pple run away to see if anyone cares to follow, hence the way she treated u in the past. -
Who is Jerry Mcguire, is it Tom and Jerry Cousin??Originally posted by jojobeach:Othello_Red,
Your love for her is gone, YES, you realised it. That is why you are doubtful about continuing the relationship now.
The relationship is broken, it is kapoot.
Yes, Jerry Mcguire was right.
Be fair to yourself, be fair to her.
You know jolly well, you can never love her as much as before.
Don't lie to yourself if you think you still can.
She will one day, get frustrated, and she will be angry you strung her along. -
Originally posted by iaintmad:
No holding on lah, either you start moving or go for someone else.
[b]HOLD ON!!!!!
she might be slowly making it up t you alr.
u know...sometimes pple run away to see if anyone cares to follow, hence the way she treated u in the past.[/b] -
Originally posted by Othello_Red:I'm really just wondering if that's possible. Cuz I dunno if that's what's happening to me.
Basically I've been with my gf for almost 2yrs now. At the start of the r/s I threw everything in, but got hurt v badly by her. We used to quarrel almost everyday and it didn't help that I'm studying overseas. I tried to keep giving in, but it seemed then that the more I give in, the more she takes. And whenever we quarrel, she'd always want a break up and I'd have to fight very hard to win her back. After awhile, I guess I just gave up subconciously.
Problem is that, now she realised her mistakes and is trying hard to treat me better. But I just don't love her as much anymore. Worse, I feel the love slipping away. She's a nice girl, but I just can't bring myself to throw everything into the r/s again. Basically, now, I dun care as much, but she's really doing all she can to keep the r/s up and really doesn't want a break up. I'm really afraid that I might just have run out of love for her.
Guess I just wanna hear ur views on this.
Have you gamble and lost heavily before?
When that happens, chances are, your mind wouldn't think of winning, but rather, you would be trying to 'break even' from your losses by betting more or stretching yourself to the maximum 'credit limit' you can handle.
Of course, more often than not, our luck is already bad enough to begin with (which is why we are losing) and as we gamble further, we lose even more... until we are left with no choice but to cease.
But there are times when we see ourselves recuperating from our debts... strangely.
*** You might reckon that you have run out of love for someone, but in reality, you have reached your break-even point. So much so that right now, your inner self is asking if you should continue your gamble because you can now opt to exit safely, since clarify has returned to you.
It's very much an innate fear; asking you to accept her whole heartedly once again with more 'investments'. This is a blatant reminder of the pain you went through previously. Most people are fine with not winning or scoring victories, for as long as they can avoid disappointments and failures.
Once you have cleared your spiritual debts (via a karmic relationship); through our higher consciousness, there's often little meaning to remain anymore and we feel the need to 'graduate' from our circumstances. Graduation doesn't necessary means departure - it could also mean shedding the old skin of your relationship by breathing a new life and renew the entire structure of your love.
Your always have the freewill to decide the outcome of your relationship. Currently, imho, to break up is as viable as to give her one last chance.
It's your call my friend.
Cheers -
I know that the onus is on me now.
I guess I'll have to make a decision sometime and resolve this.
Thanks for your help guys. -
talk to her abt it......Originally posted by Othello_Red:I know that the onus is on me now.
I guess I'll have to make a decision sometime and resolve this.
Thanks for your help guys. -
damn i need sum 1 to hug on these cool days
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IF you feel that you don't love her anymore and your love for her is fading away, tell her.Originally posted by Othello_Red:I'm really just wondering if that's possible. Cuz I dunno if that's what's happening to me.
Basically I've been with my gf for almost 2yrs now. At the start of the r/s I threw everything in, but got hurt v badly by her. We used to quarrel almost everyday and it didn't help that I'm studying overseas. I tried to keep giving in, but it seemed then that the more I give in, the more she takes. And whenever we quarrel, she'd always want a break up and I'd have to fight very hard to win her back. After awhile, I guess I just gave up subconciously.
Problem is that, now she realised her mistakes and is trying hard to treat me better. But I just don't love her as much anymore. Worse, I feel the love slipping away. She's a nice girl, but I just can't bring myself to throw everything into the r/s again. Basically, now, I dun care as much, but she's really doing all she can to keep the r/s up and really doesn't want a break up. I'm really afraid that I might just have run out of love for her.
Guess I just wanna hear ur views on this.
IF you feel that you still love her a fair bit whenever you think of living your life without her, tell her.
IF you feel that she might be using you as a temporary buffer before she finds another guy whom she likes, tell her.
IF you feel that you cannot imagine a future together with her in it, tell her.
IF you feel that she's trying to love you and not really loving you and you feel dumb and stupid just living your relationship this way everyday, tell her.
IF you feel that you're trying to appreciate her efforts to salvage this relationship and you feel trapped by her, tell her.
If you feel you're unable to leave this relationship even though you know that you want to leave this relationship but for GOD knows reasons...you can't do so, tell her.
Whatever you feel, whether it is the truth or your own illusions or your imaginations....believed in what you feel cos they are derived from all your five senses + your brain....and those feelings cannot be wronged. You need to tell her the truth about what you're experiencing and feeling and troubling you.
Just tell her, cos whatever happens...you still get to keep a piece of yourself even if the whole situation shatters.
Good Luck...and it's true that you can run out of love for someone, cos mine just did and I realised that I'm not good enough to love and Love is going to kill me eventually if I do not accept my destiny. -
everyone deserves a second chance
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i suggest that u be fair to her. more drastic things may happen if this goes on & more serious hurt will result.Originally posted by Othello_Red:That's the problem, I don't know.
I kind of remember this part of the Jerry Maguire movie, "She loves you, if you don't love her, you've got to be fair to her, you've got to tell her."
I mean, do u think I should hang on just because she wants me to and hope that things will improve, or should I just let go? I just wanna be sure that if it does come to a split, I don't regret the decision.
best of luck
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My pity fren,
At least u n her been together for 2 years.. me only 5 months...
And i got tired too giving too much... and seems she's more to infatuation to me than pure love.. shes broke up with me cuz she need to futher her studies overseas..
i know she might be practical bout possibility of LD r/s but i trust myself n her can still love each other . but she doesnt thk so... i guess i really love her but she dont feel the same to me..
At least your gf is trying her best now.. she is aware of situation whn you did your best.. she now appreciate it .. if she really wan to change.. why dun u give her a chance... your feeling of not caring her anymore is probably ur already tired of giving too much and now u dun expect anything from her again . Its normal..
Dun break 1st.. just give her a chance... later your love to her will bloom again.. Just think back how much u love her that time, and now she realised she cant live without you,, i think she noticed how different u treated her now, so she realised that shes been taking thigns for granted and treated you bad...
Think bout this.. if she really dont love you, u both would have break up..
Just like my condition.. 5 months of giving nothing..and shes like treating me a stranger .. firstly , very sweeet, then treated me like a stranger... sigh only me know this feeling
IM worse than you, why dun give some chance to her and see how things go..
At least this proves that she loves you too instead of infatuation ? her action speaks louder isnt it?
but my advice just observe how things go 1st..
Mayb she needs your money ? mayb she just need company instead of love? -
Let me hug u if your a galOriginally posted by vice_edge:damn i need sum 1 to hug on these cool days
Let me punch you if your a guy -
i always love your answers...Originally posted by angel7030:No holding on lah, either you start moving or go for someone else. -
There is long-distance call,Originally posted by rainee:there is a distance between them, how to have sex
There is long-distance love,
Why not long-distance sex? -
Originally posted by angel7030:
You are bull-shitting! Those from state of Virginia has vagina. Only those from Virgin Island are really virgin.
[quote]Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
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U probably are a virgin. [/quote
Ya, me fromt de state of Virginia.[/b]