if u n ur gf r getting married soon
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letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren -
have you ever discussed this topic with her during your courtship?Originally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren
do you want to have kids? -
Don worry, just make love with her.. then it will be unexpected and unavoided.Originally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren
She doesnt like kids doesnt mean she don wan to have any kids also ma...
U can always tell her how its like to have own baby then sooner she will think bout it too
FOr body shape.. aiya.. after give birth, can still slim down wat... nowadays so many treatment n pills ler.. u thk like guy need to go gym ar?
Persuade her lor .. -
i am looking for girls who dun want to have kids
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Its her body, she gets to decide.
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all settle liow then say. just marry and fark her raw. sure get preggyOriginally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren -
she says dun wan kids is based on current thinking..5yrs down the rd things will change n she might be the one asking for a bb..
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Do you personally want kidsOriginally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren
It does not mean your parents expect grandchildren you have to produce for them to play with
Anyway soon it will boil down to Kids vs Time vs $$$
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I got this reply from my friend
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Tell her its ok.
She can be ur wife.
But can choose not to be e mother of ur children...
I am sure many other ladies wont mind helpin u wif dat........
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I was like
but who agrees with him? -
waa..u should ask b4 u propose. Ask her what if u want to have kids?
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That is the most childish advise I have ever heardOriginally posted by Guardx:I got this reply from my friend
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Tell her its ok.
She can be ur wife.
But can choose not to be e mother of ur children...
I am sure many other ladies wont mind helpin u wif dat........
"
I was like
but who agrees with him?
Seriously, find out what is her actual concern about having children
As long as you can provide the answer to her fears she is less likely to be so against children and also her bioclock might tick and she will want kids on her own -
intention on whether to have kids shld have been agreed upon much earlier. are there parents out there who'll still expect grandchildrenOriginally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren
then how come birth rate still so low -
good idea.Originally posted by Guardx:I got this reply from my friend
"
Tell her its ok.
She can be ur wife.
But can choose not to be e mother of ur children...
I am sure many other ladies wont mind helpin u wif dat........
"
I was like
but who agrees with him?
adopt lor -
after marriage jus do it loh
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Just share a story with you...
My parents didnt want to get any child at first... But, they accidentally get a child... In the late 20s... Well that's still not me yet as my parents aborted it.
After they past their 30s, they got another one, which is me... They have been together since 16 years old... and finally decide to have me at their age of 32... Then another one after 4 years...
So what i want to say is that, people might chance their thinking after a period of time. Just hope that the period of time isn't that long.
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no kids also good lah. anyway so what you going to do if she really don't want kids?
go find another one who wants to produce babies? will you be able to do it? and how good the relationship gooing to be? chances are you are better stuck with the present happy and good one and hope to change the midn later -
mindset will change de..
i think every woman will want to bear a child for the one she loves. -
u say ok now, nxt time she will wan to have, if not adopt lor if she scared giving birth, if not then nevermind lor
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they aborted the wrong oneOriginally posted by popikachu:Just share a story with you...
My parents didnt want to get any child at first... But, they accidentally get a child... In the late 20s... Well that's still not me yet as my parents aborted it.
After they past their 30s, they got another one, which is me... They have been together since 16 years old... and finally decide to have me at their age of 32... Then another one after 4 years...
So what i want to say is that, people might chance their thinking after a period of time. Just hope that the period of time isn't that long. 
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Edit: typo
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like?Originally posted by selfobliged:waa..u should ask b4 u propose. Ask her what if u want to have kids?
Propose with the following statement ah?
"Would you want to be the mother of my children and let me be the father of your children" -
i thought such important issues should have been discussed since the couple has been together for a while already and they have decided to share their lives...Originally posted by eagle:like?
Propose with the following statement ah?
"Would you want to be the mother of my children and let me be the father of your children" -
sounds like old ppl thinking... 4 me i no prb wif tat... wat my parents wan got nothing to do wif who i wan as my partner..Originally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren -
The main question is.Originally posted by Guardx:letz say if u pak tor for some time liao n ur gf tell u maybe itz time u n her get married ... n u oso feel dat since both of u r of so-called marriagable age so itz probably about time liao.
the wedding date oredi set ... wedding dinner book oredi ... photo shoot oso done ... juz a couple of mths to ur big day ... ~
if at this point she suddenly tell u she dun intend to hv kids after marriage for reasons ranging from dun like kids to not wanting to get out of shape etc etc ... ~
will u still go ahead n marry her ... esp when u noe ur parents r expecting grandchildren
DO YOU WANT KIDS ?
Money is nothing compared to a life long regrets. -
LOLLOL!!!Originally posted by LyonK:they aborted the wrong one
dun so bad...
anyway, hey, u are still nt too "old" right? go enjoy being with each other first. it is u n her's decision to hav kids, nt being pressured by ur parents. i dun really hearp ple having kids straightaway after getting married. she will wan to hav kids in the future one.