Why it is so hard to let go ?
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My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it. -
how old are u n ur partner?
how long did u two's relationship last? -
Three years, i'm 23 and she is 21
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moving on is nv easy but u still gotta tell urself life still goes on... 1st gf?
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life is beautiful.
u probably will hav 3 quarter more of a century to live.~ -
What happened?
Anyway, if can patch back, then patch back.. If cannot, then just have to bear with it and perhaps there feeling of loss will be diluted by passage of time.
mmm, anyway, can still be friend after that.. so not a total loss
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Yeah. Just think what help/damage will it do if you told her.
Dun put her in a spot by tellingb her that. But then again, She may not feel anything.
In any case, it's very normal to have this kinda of feeling welling up. Just take a few long breaths, pause for a moment and let the feeling & memory fade away. -
Almost 2 years went by, since she departed from my life. I still miss her and keep her in my prayers.
Letting go is not easy but it is also the most valuable lesson one can learn in life. Letting go is not to forget that it once exist, but to let the gratitude conquer the loss.
Most of us, at one point of time or another... regret for what we've done or failed to do, and wish that we were wiser... But we can't win back lost time
Let the memory serve as a lesson to prepare you for more knocks ahead, don't let it hold you back
Good luck. -
dun worry,
" Time " will heal anytink la.. -
Originally posted by PkO:My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.
It's hard to let go because you never did let go in the first place - even if you think you did.
Time doesn't really heal wounds - what time does is to coerce you in resigning fate and get used to your situation.
Recovery is by choice and quiet reflection, often spurred from personal enlightenment.
Sometimes, I find it incredible when people realised that their other half wants out and they will find all sorts of ways and methods to retain them.
Why do anyone wants to 'force' other person to be in a relationship?
Would that actually change anything permanent and not relative by nature?
Placing you as the 'me first' perspective will always work against you from moving on, that's because Love don't really give much damn about an individual alone. If the sum isn't two, then the entire model of love will corrupt, turning the equation into error.
Therefore, your depression is self generated.
Let me quote you a likely scenario: here you are crying over spilled milk and there she revelling in her new life.
Continue to hold onto nothingness and continue to be melancholy?
Your choice.
Cheers -
Learn to let go...
No choice... -
same feeling i got here..dam hurt..bt wat to do...
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Just tell her what you feel without thinking about gaining anything in return.Originally posted by PkO:My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.
By keeping it in your heart, you are torturing yourself. You think she cares ?
doko -
usually it takes about 1 year.
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may the force be with you.Originally posted by PkO:My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it. -
Thank.. there was one of the best piece of advice i heard.Originally posted by Yunhaier: It's hard to let go because you never did let go in the first place - even if you think you did.
Time doesn't really heal wounds - what time does is to coerce you in resigning fate and get used to your situation.
Recovery is by choice and quiet reflection, often spurred from personal enlightenment.
Sometimes, I find it incredible when people realised that their other half wants out and they will find all sorts of ways and methods to retain them.
Why do anyone wants to 'force' other person to be in a relationship?
Would that actually change anything permanent and not relative by nature?
Placing you as the 'me first' perspective will always work against you from moving on, that's because Love don't really give much damn about an individual alone. If the sum isn't two, then the entire model of love will corrupt, turning the equation into error.
Therefore, your depression is self generated.
Let me quote you a likely scenario: here you are crying over spilled milk and there she revelling in her new life.
Continue to hold onto nothingness and continue to be melancholy?
Your choice.
Cheers -
cos human have feelings....
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When I read the first sentence, it reminded me about my two threads in the past. Same content, same usage of words. Weird seeing them again, but by a different person.Originally posted by PkO:My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.
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You haven't let go, because you're still thinking about her. Time does not heal wounds, it only fades the pain. The only way to pick yourself up, is to get up on your own. No one can help you, if you want to stay down.
Yes, you may think that it is worth it, but it isn't. Why hold on to the past?
The past do not exist. What we perceive as the past, is merely things which our brain recorded.
Don't be sad because you've lost her. Be happy because you know you're one step closer to finding the other half of you. -
u need more time..
we are human with emotions..
just let it be..
when it need to go, it will go..
dun force it when its beyond ur control.. -
Sometimes leaving her maybe a good thing. If u really like or love her. Giving her the best solution and make her happy are the top prioritiesOriginally posted by PkO:My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
And i still think about her after this 6 months.
Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it. -
Originally posted by binarynwitz:
It is the heart-pain that is tearing me apart when i think of her ..
When I read the first sentence, it reminded me about my two threads in the past. Same content, same usage of words. Weird seeing them again, but by a different person.
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You haven't let go, because you're still thinking about her. Time does not heal wounds, it only fades the pain. The only way to pick yourself up, is to get up on your own. No one can help you, if you want to stay down.
Yes, you may think that it is worth it, but it isn't. Why hold on to the past?
[b]The past do not exist. What we perceive as the past, is merely things which our brain recorded.
Don't be sad because you've lost her. Be happy because you know you're one step closer to finding the other half of you.[/b]
All good things have to come to an end. I can't force lost love. -
Can tell you are reluctant to let her go. Well, take heart, you need healing and healing is a process. It took me years to get over my ex though I initiated the break up and he was reluctant to let me go.Originally posted by PkO:It is the heart-pain that is tearing me apart when i think of her ..
All good things have to come to an end. I can't force lost love. -
same as u situation pkO... for me its been about 10-11 months already... i still cant let go. it's really hard even though i know and i keep telling myself to forget about it..i know yr pain..
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Time will heal, really, but you must be willing to gradually let go.Originally posted by icyboiz:same as u situation pkO... for me its been about 10-11 months already... i still cant let go. it's really hard even though i know and i keep telling myself to forget about it..i know yr pain.. -
I know how that feels. And it kind of suck, to be honest.Originally posted by PkO:It is the heart-pain that is tearing me apart when i think of her ..
All good things have to come to an end. I can't force lost love.
But then, why do you feel heart-pain, when you think of her?
Instead of letting the separation overshadow the happiness, the joy and the love you two once shared, why not remember only the happy ones? Whether you choose to be happy or sad, life still goes on.
Remember the happy memories, and not let the separation cloud them, for they are once the best of your life. Why not let it stay that way?