Why it is so hard to let go ?

• iaintmad

  2 Sep 07, 23:23

  Originally posted by binarynwitz:

  I know how that feels. And it kind of suck, to be honest.
  
  But then, why do you feel heart-pain, when you think of her?
  
  Instead of letting the separation overshadow the happiness, the joy and the love you two once shared, why not remember only the happy ones? Whether you choose to be happy or sad, life still goes on.
  
  Remember the happy memories, and not let the separation cloud them, for they are once the best of your life. Why not let it stay that way?

  this in turn, would only make him more sad
  I'm going through it too.
  Mei3 Li4 De4 Hui2 Yi4 Dou1 Shi4 Tong4 Ku3 de4
  
  Sometimes you just gotta let shit go and say to "hell with it" and move on
• Zarks

  3 Sep 07, 08:42

  Originally posted by PkO:

  My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
  
  But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
  
  I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
  
  And i still think about her after this 6 months.
  
  Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
  
  I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
  
  Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.

  let it go la.. move on life la... when its over, its over,, i know u cant help it but is over lready la.. get over her and move... r u a man ?
• de_middle

  3 Sep 07, 08:55

  Originally posted by PkO:

  My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
  
  But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
  
  I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
  
  And i still think about her after this 6 months.
  
  Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
  
  I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
  
  Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.

  from what u have written, i duuno head or tail so i'd say since ur love 4 her is so strong......go back & give it another shot.
• PkO

  3 Sep 07, 19:41

  I still love her but i don't think she knows the depth of it.
  
  Quoted Yunhaier :: Love isn't about an individual. It's about two people.
  I will be happy when she is happy. I don't want to hurt her anymore by begging her to return to me.
  
  I can only weep for it has become a Broken relationship..
  
  There good part of my life belongs to the past and the past does not exist anymore; only resides in my memory.
  
• january

  3 Sep 07, 21:34

  some people are the can-let-go type
  some people are not
  
  if u can see the point, you will be able to let go of it, whether it is relationship or other things.
• Zarks

  4 Sep 07, 08:55

  TO all xiou ppl,
  
  Grow up, move on,
  
  No point thinking of something u cant get back..
  
  I wonder wheres your brain?
  
  I experienced this b4. yea stil have feeling to that gal for 6 months.. then i realised. There's no point thinking.. so now i stop thinking bout her.. filled my time with positive things to do instead of thinking that gal
  
  Hey, im a man, A man cant afford to do these kind of things but to move on and focus on career.. wat kind of man are you all ?
  
  Grow up man..
• Sakuraflower

  4 Sep 07, 11:33

  think abt her also not use... cannot be together....
  
  then dun think... let go...
  
  if not go look at other gal and maybe the next one is coming ur way...
  
  it is hard to let go.... but why bother urself with so much things... let ur mind rest!!!
  
  let the past go and become memory...
  
• boka

  4 Sep 07, 11:43

  Originally posted by PkO:

  I still love her but i don't think she knows the depth of it.
  
  Quoted Yunhaier :: Love isn't about an individual. It's about two people.
  I will be happy when she is happy. I don't want to hurt her anymore by begging her to return to me.
  
  I can only weep for it has become a Broken relationship..
  
  There good part of my life belongs to the past and the past does not exist anymore; only resides in my memory.
  

  She doesn't have to know the depth of it.
  Reality is she is not attracted to u anymore.
  Attraction comes first before anything else.
  
  We all hear people saying "i love u for who u are"
  Sounds convincing but behind every couples,this statement is not true.
  
  U only love someone after being attracted to them.
  Because if it's not the attraction then ANYONE who fits the bill would be chosen.
  But this is not the case.
  
  Move on,be a man!
• PkO

  4 Sep 07, 14:22

  I'm still feeling the Anguish..And yes, i have realized i have been living in the past for the past few months. There are so many good things out there for me but i just want only her, but i can't have her.. and why my heart desire for her only.
  
  And how to move on? When i keep feel this overwhelming feeling for her and i keep still thinking about her? I already erase all her contacts.. i want to forget about her
  
  but i still think of her an on and off.
• nanren4ever

  4 Sep 07, 22:15

  Originally posted by PkO:

  My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
  
  But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
  
  I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
  
  And i still think about her after this 6 months.
  
  Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
  
  I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
  
  Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.

  You can't bear to let go of the former relationship because you had given ur all in the relationship once.
  
  It is normal to think that you can never let go. Till now sometimes, I still find it hard to forgive myself for treating my 1st gf badly, even though it had been more than 10 years.
  
  But the thing is, people do move on. So while u are griefing over here, she has probably moved on in life, and get on with it.
  
  So, shouldn't u too?
  
  Everything takes time, no one is asking u to forget her at once. There will be one day when u will look back at the relationship u once had, and smiled. That's when u know u had let it go.
• PkO

  6 Sep 07, 03:28

  I think there comes to a breaking point... when you have enough of everything and letting go becomes easier.
  
  I'm waiting to be fixed again. But I'm ok now.
  
  Thank everyone for the advice.
  
  I can't take back the words that i have spoken to you when i am angry.
  I can't take back many things but all of us make mistakes.
  I could only wish you will be happy without me.
  
  
• qlqq9

  6 Sep 07, 13:06

  Originally posted by PkO:

  I think there comes to a breaking point... when you have enough of everything and letting go becomes easier.
  
  I'm waiting to be fixed again. But I'm ok now.
  
  Thank everyone for the advice.
  
  I can't take back the words that i have spoken to you when i am angry.
  I can't take back many things but all of us make mistakes.
  I could only wish you will be happy without me.
  
  

  You will feel better as the days, months and years go by. Treat that as an episode in your life. In life, we have to go through different episodes at different time. Cheers.
• iceFatboy

  6 Sep 07, 13:31

  no point crying over spill milk..
  Re-gather your strength...
  
  sky fall down, take it as your blanket.
  
  
• angel7030

  6 Sep 07, 15:53

  Originally posted by PkO:

  My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
  
  But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
  
  I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
  
  And i still think about her after this 6 months.
  
  Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
  
  I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
  
  Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.

  I understand, when it is hard, it difficult to let go, so dun touch it for a while and it will soften itself ya. Cool.
  
  Another lame man
• PkO

  8 Sep 07, 08:38

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  I understand, when it is hard, it difficult to let go, so dun touch it for a while and it will soften itself ya. Cool.
  
  Another lame man

  wtf
• iaintmad

  10 Sep 07, 01:54

  A few quote for you to ponder over, mate
  
  
  Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back, don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't, be glad it grew in yours
  
  it feels like my whole life has been full of losses. but more than ever i am so happy with the way i am too. ive learned so much about myself and am glad i can honestly say i respect myself. every loss we face is a moment we have survived. and everyday i feel like a stronger person because of those misfortunes.
  
  i dont know how i did it or how i will for the rest of my life. but without losses, i wouldnt know who i am right now. its a beautiful thing!
  
  losing everything helps you find yourself.
  
  A little pain should be worth a lifetime of happiness ,right?
  
  Anger is natural. Grief is appropriate. Healing is mandatory. Restoration is possible.
  
  Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead, that is where your future lies
  
  Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed.
  
  Don't be dismayed at good-byes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.
  
  He who cannot endure the bad will not live to see the good.
  
  Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
  
  you'll learn more from your accident than anything that you could ever learn in school.
  
  Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle
  
  What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
  
  Watching you walk out of my life, doesn't make me bitter or cynical about love. It only makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along
  
  It's hard to lose someone you love, to finally have to say goodbye. You try to be strong but the pain keeps holding on and all that you can do is cry. Deep within your heart you know it's time to move on, when the fairytale that you once knew is gone
  
• kiss_my (_i_)

  10 Sep 07, 09:45

  Originally posted by PkO:

  My rational mind keeps telling me to forget her .. to let her go ..
  
  But deep inside me, my heart is hurting like hell.
  
  I TRULY care for her.. it is that feeling that you have lost something dear that is unbearable; it is eating me up.
  
  And i still think about her after this 6 months.
  
  Is it so hard to say good bye and let go?
  
  I'm willing to bear it what i feel. I'm not going to tell her that i still miss her cos' i want her to be happy..
  
  Don't ask me what happened cos i really don't feel like saying it.

  me too
  
  when i look at moon, i will think of her, when i look at star i will think of her,
  when i eat kuey diao i will think of her, when i eat pizza i will thin kof her,
  when i going to sleep i wil lthin kof her.. just cannot get her out frm my mind wtf
• ispyyy

  10 Sep 07, 09:51

  think... have to bite yr lips to go thru it lor...
  
• iaintmad

  12 Sep 07, 00:41

  You were her only girl
  The most precious thing in her world
  And I know it makes you cry
  That you never got to say goodbye
  
  You were just running out of time
  To say what was on your mind
  You never wanted her to leave
  And mom I know it makes you grief
  
  But why don't you celebrate the moments that you shared yeah
  'Cuz now she's watching over you
  It's true
  And you know it too
  
  [CHORUS]
  Just let her go...
  If you can't take the pain
  Of a broken heart
  Just let her go...
  
  I know it feels as though hope is gone
  And it hurts to think of moving on
  But she'd never want to see you sad
  Even though I know this hurts so bad
  
  Devoted a life to you
  And helped raise the grandson too
  And now I hope you realize
  That I'll always be there by your side
  
  But why don't we celebrate the moments that we shared yeah
  'Cuz now she's watching over you
  It's true
  And you know it too
  
  [CHORUS]
  
  You never knew how much she tried to fight it
  And when you needed her around she'd be there
  But you can reassure yourself that she's at ease
  And that's why it's time for you
  To...
  
  [CHORUS]
  
  If you can't take the pain
  Of a broken heart
  Just let her go... (just let her go, let her go)
  
  If you can't take the pain
  Of a broken heart
  Just let her go... (just let her go, let her)
  
  If you can't take the pain
  
  Let Her GO- craig david
• binarynwitz

  12 Sep 07, 03:07

  Originally posted by PkO:

  I think there comes to a breaking point... when you have enough of everything and letting go becomes easier.
  
  I'm waiting to be fixed again. But I'm ok now.
  
  Thank everyone for the advice.
  
  I can't take back the words that i have spoken to you when i am angry.
  I can't take back many things but all of us make mistakes.
  I could only wish you will be happy without me.
  
  

  Stop lamenting your loss now.
  
  You are the only person who can fix yourself. It is not difficult, if you tell yourself you can do it.
  
  When a door closes, another one opens.
• allentyb

  12 Sep 07, 03:13

  because you know, you can't f u c k her anymore
• AndrewPKYap

  12 Sep 07, 06:20

  Originally posted by allentyb:

  because you know, you can't f u c k her anymore

  it does not matter what the reason is...
  
  the point is "how to" stop feeling so bad?
  
  One way is to ignore it and continue to live your life as best as you can (while having the sadness with you)
  
  Edited to add: "until it goes away..."
  
• iaintmad

  12 Sep 07, 14:23

  Originally posted by binarynwitz:

  Stop lamenting your loss now.
  
  You are the only person who can fix yourself. It is not difficult, if you tell yourself you can do it.
  
  When a door closes, another one opens.

  more often then not, we look at the closed door, hoping it'd open again.
  not realising that another has already opened for us
  
  hey!
  look around you
  your next very special someone might be around you already!
• iaintmad

  12 Sep 07, 14:45

  when something's over, it's over. it can never start again. when it's broken you can never put back the pieces. life is not the way you want it to be. when you know that someone's hurting you so much, just stop. we know that it hurts a lot, but you must learn to let go things. don't push yourself too hard. coz we all know, that in every ending, there's such a thing that we call the beginning..
• toll123

  16 Sep 07, 18:57

  we are not machines, it is impossible for us to move on and forget a girl at one go......
  
  and of course, if we can forget a girl at one go, it would be much better......