'I only think of you as a friend'
-
For 1)I'm not ugly ba... at least nobody say i'm...Average lookingOriginally posted by Short Ninja:I only think of you as a friend- How many reasons can you think of when someone says it.
1) You too ugly to be my lover
2) Using you as a back up sex object
3) I am telling you this because I oreddy know I got no chance with you
4) You are underaged and besides we are related
5) When you damn tulan with that person
6) I dont even know your first name
7) so you wont follow me everywhere and sms me every 30 seconds
Too shy to be seen with you anywhere
9) I wont be inviting you to my wedding
10) Talk to me only when your dog dont even want to listen to your problems
2)=.= we're not kids but we're not having sex, dun think she is oso
3)why no chance? She's available, so am i, unless she likes someone else
which is possble
4)we're of same age, we're related as good friends
5)you wouldn't be friend with someone you're tulan with for over 1 year ba
6) =.=
7)I'm not a stalker... maybe can stop sms her so muchwhy too shy? I'm not a monster
9)Hope i'll be at her wedding, and not sitted down there
10)Dun keep dogs
Haha she initate conversation to me le... but only school work...
guess she dun wan to talk about it oso -
Human & Social BiologyOriginally posted by dragoncloud:Haha she initate conversation to me le... but only school work... guess she dun wan to talk about it oso 
-
Think i know her well enough to say that she wouldn't avoid me.Originally posted by CannyOng:So if she reallys avoid u and give up this friendship, will u regret yr decision?
And i wouldn't regret my decision Even if she give up this friendship, i wouldn't -
wow, I truly admire your guts man! at least, you took the courage to confess your feelings and at least, you know what she sees you as. As long as she doesn't see you as an enemy, it's still fine.Originally posted by dragoncloud:Hey, I just got rejected by the gal i like for the past year
First try in my life and got rejected. My closest female friend in fact. But i'm not that sad, just a ok got rejected feeling, maybe cause i expected this le. I've hidden the fact that i like her and she alway got hint me that we're only friends but i decided to be honest. Called her on the phone and told her and she rejected me Maybe that is a good thing that she's honest and now I can stop thinking so much Studying to forget about this, since exam coming le... 
But i'm worry that our friendship will not be like b4. How should I handle this now? How to face her? How to make this less awkard?
Gals, will you still be good friends with guys you reject?
Hope my experience will not discourage anyone here from being honest about your feelings
just continue to be yourself and talk with her like normal friends. -
good. must be mentally prepared.Originally posted by dragoncloud:Think i know her well enough to say that she wouldn't avoid me.
And i wouldn't regret my decision Even if she give up this friendship, i wouldn't -
Not problem with continuing being friendsOriginally posted by pokkagreentea:wow, I truly admire your guts man! at least, you took the courage to confess your feelings and at least, you know what she sees you as. As long as she doesn't see you as an enemy, it's still fine.
just continue to be yourself and talk with her like normal friends.
BUT
Anyone have any idea how to change her perception of me being JUST a friend to her?
How to change my position in her life and begin from new angle?
I'm not giving up here.... But NS next year... she go uni... get to know hunks, me still hunk in training A bit no hope sia -
You are just like me! The girl that I like treats me like a good friend and nothing else! But I'm going to make something happen between us no matter what. So I suggest you don't give up so soon ya?
-
Sad to say,in today's world,u gotta be good looking (Average looking isn't enough),rich and of course,the feeling.
-
which jc u from?
-
Originally posted by AMEN567889:which jc u from?
Stranger on the internet I'm not telling you Originally posted by Lovelorn?:You are just like me! The girl that I like treats me like a good friend and nothing else! But I'm going to make something happen between us no matter what. So I suggest you don't give up so soon ya? Then lets both Jia you together...After exam... -
Sad to say,u have not met the right gal and sad to say again. very good looking and filthy rich will not gurantee the gal u want to be!Originally posted by Patrik:Sad to say,in today's world,u gotta be good looking (Average looking isn't enough),rich and of course,the feeling.
-
Since u want to continue the courtship. Do u know her area of interest? Maybe u can start working on tht area...Originally posted by dragoncloud:Not problem with continuing being friends
BUT
Anyone have any idea how to change her perception of me being JUST a friend to her?
How to change my position in her life and begin from new angle?
I'm not giving up here.... But NS next year... she go uni... get to know hunks, me still hunk in training A bit no hope sia -
Hmm... Actually having almost the same problem as TS nor...
Sometimes the girl likes you,but due to some reason,she really cant be with u...
For my case,my relationship with the girl in question,spanned 5 years...She knows how i feel for her since the first year already,but due to some bad decision making by both parties we never got together...
Now she's available again,and we have always been real close,i hold her at the waist,we go drinking to get drunk together and she trusts me to never bully or mistreat her...but we still cant get together because she cant forget the ex-bf (btw,i was the reason that they met in the first place somemore),she even ask me if she shd get back with him...HA~~HA...
What i am actually trying to say is that,dun think of the worst case scenarios everytime...(of course u shdn't be too optimistic lah)
Rejecting you does not mean she does not like you,if she really doesn't like you at all,you wudn't even be buddies...She admits dat she likes me too,just dat i feel for her 10 times more,sometimes,she really cant accept you at the point of time,she has something else other than u on her mind...Or she just likes being single...
It's really a bad case of right person at the wrong time...So TS shdn't be sad,if u give up,dun regret.But if u dun,know that it cud go on for very long and be unfruitful...But the most important thing is,Never ever blame anyone,including yourself,for the outcome,cause u chose the path urself...No one forced u...did they? -
Originally posted by tianxibi:Hmm... Actually having almost the same problem as TS nor...
Sometimes the girl likes you,but due to some reason,she really cant be with u...
For my case,my relationship with the girl in question,spanned 5 years...She knows how i feel for her since the first year already,but due to some bad decision making by both parties we never got together...
Now she's available again,and we have always been real close,i hold her at the waist,we go drinking to get drunk together and she trusts me to never bully or mistreat her...but we still cant get together because she cant forget the ex-bf (btw,i was the reason that they met in the first place somemore),she even ask me if she shd get back with him...HA~~HA...
What i am actually trying to say is that,dun think of the worst case scenarios everytime...(of course u shdn't be too optimistic lah)
Rejecting you does not mean she does not like you,if she really doesn't like you at all,you wudn't even be buddies...She admits dat she likes me too,just dat i feel for her 10 times more,sometimes,she really cant accept you at the point of time,she has something else other than u on her mind...Or she just likes being single...
It's really a bad case of right person at the wrong time...So TS shdn't be sad,if u give up,dun regret.But if u dun,know that it cud go on for very long and be unfruitful...But the most important thing is,Never ever blame anyone,including yourself,for the outcome,cause u chose the path urself...No one forced u...did they? Seems like you've been through a lot worse...Haiz -
DragonCloud,
I hate to be a wet blanket here.
But honestly, don't you think it's a better idea to win her over after you are done with your NS ?
Let's be realistic, NS is not a good time to be in any bf/gf relationship.
If you dream about a girl patiently and lovingly waiting for your ROD. You are being too much of a romantic. Those cases does happen, but very rarely.
Starting a relationship prior to your NS is just checking yourself into heartbreak hotel.
A relationship with a female is A LOT of effort.
By the time you are done with BMT, you won't have much left to give her.
So why not just remain friends, and if she is still available after you ROD.
THEN go after her , and may the force be with you. -
Jojobeach advise is good.. Pls heed the adviseOriginally posted by jojobeach:DragonCloud,
I hate to be a wet blanket here.
But honestly, don't you think it's a better idea to win her over after you are done with your NS ?
Let's be realistic, NS is not a good time to be in any bf/gf relationship.
If you dream about a girl patiently and lovingly waiting for your ROD. You are being too much of a romantic. Those cases does happen, but very rarely.
Starting a relationship prior to your NS is just checking yourself into heartbreak hotel.
A relationship with a female is A LOT of effort.
By the time you are done with BMT, you won't have much left to give her.
So why not just remain friends, and if she is still available after you ROD.
THEN go after her , and may the force be with you. -
yea rite. lol ns is something like 2 full years... i guess
-
yah ... doesn't matter if it is 2 years or 5 years.Originally posted by oOprinceOo:yea rite. lol ns is something like 2 full years... i guess
How long since you hit puberty ?
Well, you didn't die without a gf during those years did you ?
So why it became such a life or death issue all of a sudden ? -
I got rejected by a girl back in my JC days. But now after quite a while, the girl who rejected me talks to me again but we are just friends now. Exchange a bit of concern here and there so as to maintain the friendship.Originally posted by dragoncloud:Hey, I just got rejected by the gal i like for the past year First try in my life and got rejected. My closest female friend in fact. But i'm not that sad, just a ok got rejected feeling, maybe cause i expected this le. I've hidden the fact that i like her and she alway got hint me that we're only friends but i decided to be honest. Called her on the phone and told her and she rejected me Maybe that is a good thing that she's honest and now I can stop thinking so much Studying to forget about this, since exam coming le...
But i'm worry that our friendship will not be like b4. How should I handle this now? How to face her? How to make this less awkard?
Gals, will you still be good friends with guys you reject?
Hope my experience will not discourage anyone here from being honest about your feelings
Therefore, friendship doesn't really ends upon confession. It really ends upon your reluctance to continue the friendship. -
Its not a problem of gf or not...Originally posted by jojobeach:yah ... doesn't matter if it is 2 years or 5 years.
How long since you hit puberty ?
Well, you didn't die without a gf during those years did you ?
So why it became such a life or death issue all of a sudden ? just realized that my school life is ending soon... might not hav much time to see her in future...
Just wan her to know how i feel... not asking her to be my gf(now) since exam period...just wanna know how she feel about me...
So she only think of me as a friend -
its the feeling ba..
-
People say " THe most torturing moment is that when you sit beside the one you love but you know you cant have them"
Lets cry together T_T -
Youth is power sia...
There is always alot for a youth to explore...
She may think of u as a friend for now...
But no1 can predict the future...
Even, if she agreed to be with u , u may feel tat she is not the one after a few years...
Life is like tat... when it will come, it will come... when it comes, just accept it... And because of the above sentence, life is always favourable for youth like u...
At least, tat is wat I always tell myself.... -
Just be normal lor. Gals changes their mind very fast. Currently she must be concentrating on her studies and do not want to talk about relationship.