I don't want 'good results'...
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Prestige.
It all boils down to prestige.
I'm more bothered by how other people see my results rather than how good or bad my results will be per se, and how my results have been sliding down fast.
Now, I'm studying not for myself, but to meet the expectations of other people. It's plain meaningless!
That has always been the problem for me. I'm always bothered by how other people see me, whether or not others despise me, whether or not I look like an idiot to others.
But all of these has to stop.
If I myself don't regard my prelims or A'level results as of a major importance to me, why should I allow other people's view of my results be an issue to me?
I live my own life. I lead my own life. Whatever I want to achieve in my own life, whatever I don't want to achieve in my own life, is my own problem.
I don't want to have stunningly good results, because it'll only bring on more stress and expectations in the future. Period. That's my own business and my own decision. Why should I let other people's opinion affect me, let them force me to force myself to study so hard?
Granted, other people, my tutors especially, are entittled to their freedom of speech to comment on my sliding results, to perceive me as complacent, taking things too easy, whatever.
But I am, too, entittled to my freedom of thoughts and beliefs. I have the absolute freedom to reject their indoctrination and go about doing things the way I want to do things.
Why is it that the society, Singaporeans in particular, like to comment so much on what they don't understand and don't know? They, including me of course, are often so quick in passing their judgement on what they think they know. If this world is as straight-forward as they see, Earth would not be spherical (okay, oblate spheroid, whatever)
They don't know what I want. They don't know what's going on in my mind. They do not know a thing...so why should other people's comments and views matter so much to me?
I certainly believe there's more to my life than just results and working towards results. This is not pursue for happiness. This is satisfying one's greed.
The insensate and insatiable jugglenaught we call aspiration (learnt that phrase during GP...cool) is nothing more than a smokescreen for our never-ending obsession for prestige, 'reputation' and glory.
Shallow. Just plain shallow.
If given the chance, I would have said the above content right in the face of my tutors and the 'higher authorities'.
But then, I'll never have the chance. The more elderly people have always assumed they know what we want. They thought that I, like them, want nothing more than 'A's and more 'A's. Alas, they are too caught up with helping us producing results to even think that perhaps, we don't want what they want.
I'm not disregarding the fact that our tutors care for us naturally. But perhaps sometimes, people should not assume that all students should be aiming for 'A's. -
Is this written by you or taken from somewhere else.
This seems like my current situation too, studying seems meaningless now.
All i want to do is make myself happy, enjoy the things i do and not let anyone interfere with it. -
Originally posted by lameimaginator:Prestige.
It all boils down to prestige.
I'm more bothered by how other people see my results rather than how good or bad my results will be per se, and how my results have been sliding down fast.
Now, I'm studying not for myself, but to meet the expectations of other people. It's plain meaningless!
That has always been the problem for me. I'm always bothered by how other people see me, whether or not others despise me, whether or not I look like an idiot to others.
But all of these has to stop.
If I myself don't regard my prelims or A'level results as of a major importance to me, why should I allow other people's view of my results be an issue to me?
I live my own life. I lead my own life. Whatever I want to achieve in my own life, whatever I don't want to achieve in my own life, is my own problem.
I don't want to have stunningly good results, because it'll only bring on more stress and expectations in the future. Period. That's my own business and my own decision. Why should I let other people's opinion affect me, let them force me to force myself to study so hard?
Granted, other people, my tutors especially, are entittled to their freedom of speech to comment on my sliding results, to perceive me as complacent, taking things too easy, whatever.
But I am, too, entittled to my freedom of thoughts and beliefs. I have the absolute freedom to reject their indoctrination and go about doing things the way I want to do things.
Why is it that the society, Singaporeans in particular, like to comment so much on what they don't understand and don't know? They, including me of course, are often so quick in passing their judgement on what they think they know. If this world is as straight-forward as they see, Earth would not be spherical (okay, oblate spheroid, whatever)
They don't know what I want. They don't know what's going on in my mind. They do not know a thing...so why should other people's comments and views matter so much to me?
I certainly believe there's more to my life than just results and working towards results. This is not pursue for happiness. This is satisfying one's greed.
The insensate and insatiable jugglenaught we call aspiration (learnt that phrase during GP...cool) is nothing more than a smokescreen for our never-ending obsession for prestige, 'reputation' and glory.
Shallow. Just plain shallow.
If given the chance, I would have said the above content right in the face of my tutors and the 'higher authorities'.
But then, I'll never have the chance. The more elderly people have always assumed they know what we want. They thought that I, like them, want nothing more than 'A's and more 'A's. Alas, they are too caught up with helping us producing results to even think that perhaps, we don't want what they want.
I'm not disregarding the fact that our tutors care for us naturally. But perhaps sometimes, people should not assume that all students should be aiming for 'A's.
If you do not know what you want in life - basically having strong conviction or goals, then your goals will be determined by the what people think your goals are and they will attempt to conform you.
The 'Self' Component in each individual life is paramount to our self actualization.
Only you know yourself best.
Others merely think what's the best for you.
But others ain't you.
Cheers -
Don't let others control u
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Not prestige my dear boy.
For you, it may be meaningless.
You may believe that you can survive on bread and water.
Sure, it has been proven to be viable.
People from impoverished countries survive on one meal every other day.
They wash and drink untreated water, they eat food dug from landfills.
For your parents, it is about ensuring your survival in this competitive world.
Will they die in peace if they know you are unable to support yourself ?
For your tutors, you are their track records.
You are their products.
If you fare badly, it reflects badly on them.
Your life, your way.
Good for you.
Frankly, why would others care ?
You decide how you want to live your life.
You wanna stay at the lower rung of the income level, go ahead.
But the question is, can you accept to live this way ?
Can you stand not having what others have ?
Will you whine and complain about how the opposite gender looks down on you, because you have NOTHING ? -
x2..Originally posted by jojobeach:Not prestige my dear boy.
For you, it may be meaningless.
You may believe that you can survive on bread and water.
Sure, it has been proven to be viable.
People from impoverished countries survive on one meal every other day.
They wash and drink untreated water, they eat food dug from landfills.
For your parents, it is about ensuring your survival in this competitive world.
Will they die in peace if they know you are unable to support yourself ?
For your tutors, you are their track records.
You are their products.
If you fare badly, it reflects badly on them.
Your life, your way.
Good for you.
Frankly, why would others care ?
You decide how you want to live your life.
You wanna stay at the lower rung of the income level, go ahead.
But the question is, can you accept to live this way ?
Can you stand not having what others have ?
Will you whine and complain about how the opposite gender looks down on you, because you have NOTHING ?
i agree with wad jojobeach said.. the one who u name as 'higher autorities' and the tuition teacher, they care about u.. they want u to have a bright future.. u don't want to end up with a low income at the end of the day in singapore.. singapore is a very compatitive country.. you won't survive if you don't have the required cert.. actually, this goes to most of the countries in the world now.. people jus care about you ok.. why do u have to make such a big fuss? i can see that you are stress with your projects and all the school work shit..
u must really consider what will happen in the future if you don't study well now and get good results.. i have nothing to say if you are a genius.. if you are not, do you want to dissapoint all the people who have high hopes on you? and do you want yourself to look back into your past in maybe 10 years time and said,"i should have done better.. i should have listen to them.." because you are jobless and struggling to support yourself?
and if u fail your A levels, u end up in poly or you may choose not to continue schooling.. don't you think it's a waste of time and money? you spent 2years in jc and then end up with nothing but a F for your subjects.. even if u continue schooling in poly, don't you think it's a waste of time and money also? u have to spent another 3years and another $4000++ in schooling while all your other friends happily enjoy their time and proceed to uni.. if it's your choice to fail, i have nothing to say.. -
very chim. bud stay happy . results no use. lol
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tt time psle i tot i do not bad le...252.. den my mum still scold say y not better.tt time i damn sadOriginally posted by lameimaginator:Prestige.
It all boils down to prestige.
I'm more bothered by how other people see my results rather than how good or bad my results will be per se, and how my results have been sliding down fast.
Now, I'm studying not for myself, but to meet the expectations of other people. It's plain meaningless!
That has always been the problem for me. I'm always bothered by how other people see me, whether or not others despise me, whether or not I look like an idiot to others.
But all of these has to stop.
If I myself don't regard my prelims or A'level results as of a major importance to me, why should I allow other people's view of my results be an issue to me?
I live my own life. I lead my own life. Whatever I want to achieve in my own life, whatever I don't want to achieve in my own life, is my own problem.
I don't want to have stunningly good results, because it'll only bring on more stress and expectations in the future. Period. That's my own business and my own decision. Why should I let other people's opinion affect me, let them force me to force myself to study so hard?
Granted, other people, my tutors especially, are entittled to their freedom of speech to comment on my sliding results, to perceive me as complacent, taking things too easy, whatever.
But I am, too, entittled to my freedom of thoughts and beliefs. I have the absolute freedom to reject their indoctrination and go about doing things the way I want to do things.
Why is it that the society, Singaporeans in particular, like to comment so much on what they don't understand and don't know? They, including me of course, are often so quick in passing their judgement on what they think they know. If this world is as straight-forward as they see, Earth would not be spherical (okay, oblate spheroid, whatever)
They don't know what I want. They don't know what's going on in my mind. They do not know a thing...so why should other people's comments and views matter so much to me?
I certainly believe there's more to my life than just results and working towards results. This is not pursue for happiness. This is satisfying one's greed.
The insensate and insatiable jugglenaught we call aspiration (learnt that phrase during GP...cool) is nothing more than a smokescreen for our never-ending obsession for prestige, 'reputation' and glory.
Shallow. Just plain shallow.
If given the chance, I would have said the above content right in the face of my tutors and the 'higher authorities'.
But then, I'll never have the chance. The more elderly people have always assumed they know what we want. They thought that I, like them, want nothing more than 'A's and more 'A's. Alas, they are too caught up with helping us producing results to even think that perhaps, we don't want what they want.
I'm not disregarding the fact that our tutors care for us naturally. But perhaps sometimes, people should not assume that all students should be aiming for 'A's. -
wtf 252Originally posted by brokenluv:tt time psle i tot i do not bad le...252.. den my mum still scold say y not better.tt time i damn sad -
why not think this way.
get good result and at the same time do something you enjoy. -
wow so longgg !!!
k la.. watever u say, i support u la.. im lazy to read that long , sory -
I thought you have choice:
You can choose not to study and do badly, which will eventually affect you in future even if you do not realize it now. It will be too late to repent.
OR
You can choose to work hard and be rewarded (even if you do not see the reward now, but it is definitely there).
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So... good grades are not everything.
What's your dream? Have you mapped out your route after completing 'A' levels?
Your results are quite crappy now is it? You don't have to respond to this, but do ask yourself if it is because your results are crappy that you're telling yourself grades are of no major importance. Don't lie to yourself.
If scoring well was a walk in the park for you, would you still say grades are of no major importance?
Before you worry about the stress and expectations that come with excellence, worry about whether you can pull your grades up. It's like worrying about whether the press will hound you for an interview when you come in first in the marathon when you don't even have the stamina to complete the marathon.
Good grades are more than pretty alphabets on a piece of paper. They open up opportunities and widen the choices you are eligible for. Can you imagine next year you decide you want to be a vet, but your grades are just not good enough for you to be accepted for the course?
Ah just curious... were you one of the top few students back in primary/secondary school? -
Dude, I can empathize with your situation.
Are you one those overachievers or do you have them as peers or close friends?
Sometimes you study for your own sake. No one but you yourself can motivate thyself to get the grades.
People do view you through a tinted pair of glasses sometimes especially where results are concerned. My results are not really top-tiered but sufficient enough for my tutors to be concerned when I got 77% for chemistry.
To you, all I can offer you is to ask you to block out what others say. You study for what you want, for yourself. Everyone has the right to choose his/her own path. Others may judge your choice, criticise your results but ultimately it all boils down to you.
Ask yourself what you want and just heck care what the naysayers/critics say. You know yourself best. If in doubt, do not hesitate to seek advice from others but always know how to differentiate the useful advice from the seemingly-useful-but-in-reality-useless ones.
Chart your own course. Like you, I am an A level student. Does it matter what others say? I nearly burst out laughing at the look on my tutor's face when I told her I was not going to apply for overseas university. Yes, people do expect you to achieve certain things but who cares man? You achieve what you want, not what others want.
Sometimes I look at all the straight As and outstanding peers that I have. Of course I do admire them for having the ability to achieve what they have achieved thus far. I won't bother comparing myself with them because ultimately, my aim in life is different from theirs'.
Remember an application of Hess' Law in life (ok sorry but I am just tempted to quote this from my teacher). It doesn't matter what you go through. People judge you on what you achieve at the end of the day.
These are stressful times. Just block out the critics and naysayers if you know very well what you are doing.
I wish you well. PSLE results, O level results, test results, just chunk them aside. They are just merely the scenery on your journey towards a destination. Nothing should distract you from reaching that destination.
P.S. You can PM me if you need an outlet to vent your stress and frustration. After all everyone has to go through such a period of time. -
Okay, there're several remarks i want to reply to. but since i'm still below 20 post (yes, I'm a clone. i dun want my sch to noe who i am), i'll have to reply all in this single post...but sadly, i think someone here already know who i am... ...
Firstly, my results now is not that good, but it's not crappy either. For the mid-year exams, I got into the honor roll. I was ranked 15 out of the entire school of 800 cohort. I got 3 B (history chemistry physics) and 2 D (math chinese...but to hell wif chinese, it doesn't affect uni admission)
So granted, I did not get straight As. Still, crappy results? I don't think so. (just being honest and unhumble)
Secondly, I am seriously (and really seriously) considering going to poly after my A'level, REGARDLESS of how well or bad I may do. I seriously considered applying for poly after my O'levels, but because JC is more 'prestigious' and people perceive it to be for the 'elites', I went in.
I wanted to drop out of JC after my J1 promos, but the teacher counsellor advised me not to because my results wasn't too bad. Note, I'm not blaming anyone. It's my own decision after all to stay on and move on to J2.
Third, I don't know about the future. But at least I'm sure now that my results does not bother me at this point of time, except for the fact that I have people's expectations to meet.
The fact that I chose JC because it's more 'prestigious' further proves the fact that I am someone who is very concerned about how other people look at me.
Which is why ever since I got into the honor roll, I find myself wanting to get better and better results. Not because I want a good future or even anything close to that. I don't even want to enter uni. I just study so hard because I want more of this 'prestige' and I want people to think that I'm good.
But the problem is that I find myself more and more lost. I'm studying for the wrong reasons. And I really do not find a good and valid reason on why I should keep on studying.
For a short period of time after my mid-year exam, I mug like never before. I wake up at 6a.m, sleep at 2a.m, just to study. And even though I'm really tired, I forced my butt to continue sitting on the chair, forced my eyes on my lecture notes. But recently, I realised that I have no reason to mug so hard at all. In fact, do I even want good results? No!
And so, even though the prelims is coming (day after tomorrow) and we have two weeks of study break...I hardly touched my book at all.
That is what I meant by 'sliding results'. Needless to say, my prelim results is going to be a far cry from my mid-year results. I'm sure my tutors and principal is going to make a lot of comment about this. Which is why I tell myself I should not be bothered by what other people think of me.
They can say I'm complacent. They can even say I'm proud (just because I nvr study). There's no reason for me to care.
Lastly, yes, the first post is written by me, and yes, it is also taken from somewhere else. I copied and paste it from my blog (hence the tone) -
Before I say anything, I must say that your results are rather decent-looking to me. In fact, many people in my JC struggle to even get those grades, but that's besides the point anyway.
Seems like you are feeling lost as to why you decided to pursue JC education. Right now, you are torn between studying for a practical reason (honour, prestige etc) vs studying for an idealistic reason (gaining knowledge, improvement of oneself). This feeling is perhaps understandable given the current stress levels that you are facing. I know the stress because I am going through the same period of time as you.
You will have to view JC life like a 2.4km/long distance run. Right now, you are nearing your last lap. However, at this juncture, you start to wonder to yourself, why did you bother to start running in the first place? Why even bother putting yourself through the pain and anguish? What are you trying to run for? The honour of a NAPFA gold? The fastest timing? To shut those pesky PE teachers up (ok my PE teachers are good people but there are some pesky one)? To be fit and keep a healthy lifestyle? Why not just drop out of the run and cut short the agony? It's exactly the same, no matter whether it's a run or JC life.
You are merely getting disillusioned as things do not start to seem that favourable or enticing as they used to be. It is perfectly normal and perfectly understandable. Yet, I must caution you against letting such things distract you from something which you used to working so hard towards. Just like a run, you are now on your penultimate lap with only the last lap to go.
No matter what reason you study for, be it idealistic or pragmatic, most importantly you should not give up what you have achieved thus far. It doesn't matter whether you study for the honour, prestige, to shut people up, to please your parents or simply to increase your knowledge.
It doesn't matter.
Right now, you should be less concerned with the 'why' in your study and instead you should concentrate on tackling the 'how' in your study. Get your last lap over and done with and wonder "what was it all for?" after your A levels.
Seriously, your mid-year exam results are decent and some students will pay to have that kind of grades. Just whip yourself one last time and finish the whole thing. Perhaps, a few years on, you will be congratulating yourself for not having distracted yourself with your disillusion and neglecting what you have achieved up to that point.
Just grit your teeth through these last 2 months. It will be worth it, no matter what reason.
Cheer up and stop getting so stressed.
And most importantly, good luck for your prelims and As. -
Face it, it is the fact that how the system function. True, there are talents that do not need good results to survive in this world but the rest will need them to persue higher salary jobs and even their dreams as in becoming a doctor, etc...
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i see...gd luck with ur problems yeah
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If there is any comfort, just want to let you guys know that I am almost a poly dropout but now I do my own business and I definitely earn more than having a job, and I'm only 27. Last time people may dispise people like me, coz I slack in school, skip lessons, even my lecturer dun like me, but i would like to know how they think of me now if they know that i am earning more than them. It isn't about them, it's about you and whether you believe in yourself.
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it reflects 65% just like what my mum said. well she's in the field of insurance agents and had seen alot of these school dropout-to-sucess cases ; eg property agents,stock earnings also etc etc..) i was likeOriginally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:If there is any comfort, just want to let you guys know that I am almost a poly dropout but now I do my own business and I definitely earn more than having a job, and I'm only 27. Last time people may dispise people like me, coz I slack in school, skip lessons, even my lecturer dun like me, but i would like to know how they think of me now if they know that i am earning more than them. It isn't about them, it's about you and whether you believe in yourself.
quite different from what usual parents would say..
she emphasis on education is important but it isnt the only option to achieve glorious financial status.. -
ya
but sg ppl veri kiasu
they think cert= confm got job...
thats y they wan their child get cert lol -
Your mom is right.Originally posted by amusing_dick:it reflects 65% just like what my mum said. well she's in the field of insurance agents and had seen alot of these school dropout-to-sucess cases ; eg property agents,stock earnings also etc etc..) i was like
quite different from what usual parents would say..
she emphasis on education is important but it isnt the only option to achieve glorious financial status..
And other parents are also right.
There are success stories.
And there are also lots of failures.
Many have tried, some made it, most don't. -
lameimaginator,
What is it you want to be, after you graduate ?
Shouldn't you be studying for the course/path that will lead you to your goal ?
Do you want to be a doctor ?
Do you want to be a street sweeper ?
Do you want to be a social worker ?
Do you want to be a chemist ?
Do you want to be a engineer in IT/Construction/Design ?
Do you want to be a taxi driver ?
Decide on your destination.
Find out how to get there.
Keep your sight on the finish line.
Get your ass on it.
Note:
There's no such thing as prestige for being a top notch student.
Prestige only comes AFTER you have gained recognition for your contribution to society. -
In the end, TS, its all about yourself.
You are right, you need not live for others, u live for urself.
It may be true that there are many success cases out there where he/she doesn't have much education, but yet succeed.
But quite frankly, are these people the majority?
Do you have some gifts or talent that others don't have?
This society is realistic, my friend. It is a result-based society. If you can strike out on your own and be a big boss, own a MNC and be a millionaire by 30 without needing to do well, then congrats.
But if u think u can't, then why are u seemingly risking throwing away your future?
I may be flamed for saying all these, but the thing is, how do u now DO reflect on you overall, whatever u like it or not. -
next time i dropout u recruit me can ? lolOriginally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:If there is any comfort, just want to let you guys know that I am almost a poly dropout but now I do my own business and I definitely earn more than having a job, and I'm only 27. Last time people may dispise people like me, coz I slack in school, skip lessons, even my lecturer dun like me, but i would like to know how they think of me now if they know that i am earning more than them. It isn't about them, it's about you and whether you believe in yourself.