Need advice on wooing a stranger..
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If u got no balls, Ask her if she wants to eat fishball mee with u or not?.Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:got her contact, and she seldom use her msn,
what shall i do? and we rarely cross path though we've seen each other before
if sms her too much later she might feel pestered and...
i don't know her well enough to start calling her.
what to do?
its been years since i was in a relationship. now like wanna press the button to sms her also need to unleash some huge chakra... no balls already man...
if sms her, what to sms? damn lost..
any experts?
do you think i should call her? or just give up and wait for another easier target ?
i know i should just call and talk to her, after that, at least i know, at least i know
or just anyhow whack anything i can think of and sms her?
damn, really, i wont bother to start chasing girls if not for the fact that we age everyday = get uglier... (i'm in the early 20s btw) -
Just be sincere.. dun be a fake.
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Pook pok pok pok, haha didnt regret seeking advice in this forum...
and.. .omg omg... its reaching night time, i usually will sms her at night cos some1 said something about consistency while wooing/getting to know girls(is this good?), but what to sms tonight?
do u think i should ask if she's attached although i know that she isn't? mayb like "are you attached cos it's not very nice to be smsing someone who is attached."
or just some simple sms like hows your day bla bla?
or what? -
'im bored. wanna chat?'
casual. then take it from there if it works -
Own a Porsche and try to attract her attention with it
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haha i thought i'm the only one!Originally posted by de_middle:Hi TS, have u gotten over this inferiority syndrome
I used to be exactly like u & thus R/S gone up in flames....self hallucination
U really need to feel more self-worth before embarking on another R/S...or it'll just end in the same fate as the last one.
Best of luck
nowadays i feel that time is passing by faster and faster, i began to feel that life is really, it is really damn short and that i should just do whatever i feel like doing, but definitely not without a plan.
i seldom talk to my parents much, and was usually rude to her, but somehow deep inside, i just feel very thankful for all that she has done for me, i want to be successful and earn lots of money so that she can enjoy her life and stop worrying about me.
btw there's this girl which was my classmate... i know she likes me, i've considered her before but i don't think she's suitable for me, thus i've been like full of sarcasm and insults whenever she chat with me. just don't want her to get the wrong idea and im not into having girls as close friend. is that allright?
and... i guess i've gotten over the inferiority syndrome else i wont bother to get to know a stranger. i guess? -
Have few rounds of sms to know her better.
Ask her out and plan yr outing well. Cannot be too simple but not extravagazant(not boring and predictable). Try to make yr outing last late if possible so that u can send her back home. Let her has a good impression of u
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May I highlight something very important here.Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:i seldom talk to my parents much, and was usually rude to her, but somehow deep inside, i just feel very thankful for all that she has done for me, i want to be successful and earn lots of money so that she can enjoy her life and stop worrying about me.
btw there's this girl which was my classmate... i know she likes me, i've considered her before but i don't think she's suitable for me, thus i've been like full of sarcasm and insults whenever she chat with me. just don't want her to get the wrong idea and im not into having girls as close friend. is that allright?
and... i guess i've gotten over the inferiority syndrome else i wont bother to get to know a stranger. i guess?
When a girl goes out with you. ( Including when she is your g/f, so don't think you can slack off once she slept with you)
She will observe how you treat the people around you.
That includes your parents, your friends, the people who provide you services e.g salespeople, waiters/waitresses etc.
When you say you are rude to your mom, I suppose you are one who has problem expressing your feelings.
A girl will get really concern if she sees you being rude to your own parent.
Because she will take it that this how you will eventually treat your loved ones, including herself in the future.
So, you better start treating your parents nicer from now on. You don't want to have to pretend you are nicer to them after you get yourself a girlfriend.
To reject a girl or keep her at bay. You don't need to be rude or sarcastic.
Singapore is very small, you wouldn't know who she knows.
One day if you find a nice girl, who knows if the girls you are being rude to is her friend. And girls will tell their girlfriends if you are a jerk or not.
So, NO, being insulting and sarcastic is not the right thing to do. -
Thanks for highlighting that out, its been a long time since i was rude to her, i'm nicer to her now as i can see that life is really short, in a blink of an eye, i can see that she's ageing(spelt correctly?) and i am getting older.Originally posted by jojobeach:May I highlight something very important here.
When a girl goes out with you. ( Including when she is your g/f, so don't think you can slack off once she slept with you)
She will observe how you treat the people around you.
That includes your parents, your friends, the people who provide you services e.g salespeople, waiters/waitresses etc.
When you say you are rude to your mom, I suppose you are one who has problem expressing your feelings.
A girl will get really concern if she sees you being rude to your own parent.
Because she will take it that this how you will eventually treat your loved ones, including herself in the future.
So, you better start treating your parents nicer from now on. You don't want to have to pretend you are nicer to them after you get yourself a girlfriend.
To reject a girl or keep her at bay. You don't need to be rude or sarcastic.
Singapore is very small, you wouldn't know who she knows.
One day if you find a nice girl, who knows if the girls you are being rude to is her friend. And girls will tell their girlfriends if you are a jerk or not.
So, NO, being insulting and sarcastic is not the right thing to do.
as for the being insulting and sarcastic that part, i guess u r right.
btw, the girl im interested to know has finally show signs that she's uninterested about me being interested in her. each time i wanna chat with her, its either a gdnight message i received from her or a 'I'm tired gd night" message i receive from her recently!
the problem is we haven even know each other yet, mayb her first impression of me sux, and i guess my first move was a mistake, not getting the number directly from her.
i really dont believe in the persevering crap else i'd just go after a model and persevere till the end of time.
is this the end? do i give up too easily? next target? or try a little harder?
do u think i should just give it a shot and call her, at most she'd just hang the phone, or do u already know shes gonna hang up the phone?
mayb i should find another target while still keeping in contact with this girl? sigh.. but i really like this gal, the way she smile and her sweet voice, the way she chat, i guess thats it!
ya start with nothing, end with nothing. just experienced gain, but time wasted. -
To persevere or not, really depends on how high a success rate you think you have with this girl.Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:btw, the girl im interested to know has finally show signs that she's uninterested about me being interested in her. each time i wanna chat with her, its either a gdnight message i received from her or a 'I'm tired gd night" message i receive from her recently!
the problem is we haven even know each other yet, mayb her first impression of me sux, and i guess my first move was a mistake, not getting the number directly from her.
i really dont believe in the persevering crap else i'd just go after a model and persevere till the end of time.
is this the end? do i give up too easily? next target? or try a little harder?
do u think i should just give it a shot and call her, at most she'd just hang the phone, or do u already know shes gonna hang up the phone?
mayb i should find another target while still keeping in contact with this girl? sigh.. but i really like this gal, the way she smile and her sweet voice, the way she chat, i guess thats it!
ya start with nothing, end with nothing. just experienced gain, but time wasted.
If she has shown you, that you are not the one.
Persevering will only leads to being outright pesky.
There is nothing wrong giving up the chase when you have done what you need to do, to establish your standing in her heart.
If the only way for you to move on , is to have her hang the phone on you. Then I suggest, you call her and see how it turns out.
Most time, we need a closure of some sort, to let go of hope.
But bear in mind that, even if she didn't drop you rudely, it does not means she is giving you a chance.
Yes, it is true.
Your sincerity has been dashed when you got her number indirectly.
You could have at least pretend to not know her number yet and get it from her directly.
Personally, I get guys whom I hardly knows calls me on my mobile.
When I found out who is the person who leaked my number without my permission, I give em a stern warning.
It is very spooky to have some guy call me and try to get fresh. Know what I mean ?
Who knows, if perhaps a prankster scribbled my name and contact on a door in a male toilet ?
Something that says " for a good fiak.. call this...". Sounds familiar ?
So take it as a lesson learned.
Please don't harbor any hope for this girl while trying to get another target.
Let's be fair to one another.
Surely, you wouldn't want a girl to accept you while hoping for another guy to accept her. Would you ? -
thanks jojobeach for taking the time to reply.
u r right about this part "It is very spooky to have some guy call me and try to get fresh. Know what I mean ? "
so i guess i wont call her after all.
i guess i'll wait and see if there's a chance for me to bump into her, if there is then i'll guess i'll try and do it all over again.
if there isn't i guess i'm back to my normal life again.
but not to worry, i cant possibly remain a bachelor forever right?
so i guess i'll be back, be it agony or glory!
and yea, you're damn right it hurts to know that the girl u fancy do no show any sign of interest.
i'm not used to losing, i study last minute and scraped through all my exams, i play games and sports well, i guess i just need more experience in this area
for now back to reality, back to my pc, back to my games, till i find another target. -
Hopefully she plays maple story, then you can install a copy and play wif her.Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:got her contact, and she seldom use her msn,
what shall i do? and we rarely cross path though we've seen each other before
if sms her too much later she might feel pestered and...
i don't know her well enough to start calling her.
what to do?
its been years since i was in a relationship. now like wanna press the button to sms her also need to unleash some huge chakra... no balls already man...
if sms her, what to sms? damn lost..
any experts?
do you think i should call her? or just give up and wait for another easier target ?
i know i should just call and talk to her, after that, at least i know, at least i know
or just anyhow whack anything i can think of and sms her?
damn, really, i wont bother to start chasing girls if not for the fact that we age everyday = get uglier... (i'm in the early 20s btw) -
pook pok pok pok
hey hey! guess what.. i didnt give up on her, haha
i managed to ask her to hang out with me, she of course didnt agree to it right away, i said some stuffs to her and she said ok!
but we have not yet fix a date and time... and i've not even planned where to go.
what to do? how to make it feels not weird and all that.
any tips from the pros? -
Congrats !Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:pook pok pok pok
hey hey! guess what.. i didnt give up on her, haha
i managed to ask her to hang out with me, she of course didnt agree to it right away, i said some stuffs to her and she said ok!
but we have not yet fix a date and time... and i've not even planned where to go.
what to do? how to make it feels not weird and all that.
any tips from the pros?
Don't forget to share your success stories for those in need of the hows here.
If you don't want to feel weird.
The best place to avoids are those that leaves a lot of quiet moments for you to wreck both your brains to come up with a conversation.
Look out for expos, exhibits, public presentations of some kind.
Places both of you can explore/experience, so that you can have topics to discuss about during/after the visit.
Most important, have FUN ! -
Uncle, u late 20s liao still dun know how to woo gals meh? U suppose to be the pro mah, ok let me tell you,Originally posted by BeeBopRocky:pook pok pok pok
hey hey! guess what.. i didnt give up on her, haha
i managed to ask her to hang out with me, she of course didnt agree to it right away, i said some stuffs to her and she said ok!
but we have not yet fix a date and time... and i've not even planned where to go.
what to do? how to make it feels not weird and all that.
any tips from the pros?
Dun be taken for a ride ya, sometime we gals will agree to everything just to keep the conversation sharp and get off the line, later when the dating arrive, we will give excuses here and there to evade the man/boy we dun like.
Be realistic, if gal like a boy, she will automatically agree without condition and even plan for the dating. -
i guess this depends on the stage of wooing... lol...Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:Remember, don't praise the girl at all, when you starts feeding up her ego, you're going to look like a wuss, and girls dun like wussy.