Damn frustrated and confused.
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Agree...Sigh..Originally posted by jojobeach:Are there really such types ?.. LOL.. you mean you havn't met one yet ?
Any form of obsessiveness is BAD.
But the true deal breaker are gamers. WHY ?
Physical games like tennies or fitness, you cannot do those for 24 hours, NON-stop, you'd die first. Besides, those are healthy, makes the body STRONG... yah.. we like strong.... (ahem).
Now, gaming, it's a whole new story.
I know of people who practically plant themselves on their bed for 3 days, and have the PC attached to the side.
Only getting up to the restroom, if they have a choice, they'd probably put a potty under their butts. They eat, sleep and stayed awake infront of the PC.
WHAT FOR ?.. to get to LEVEL 80, or they lose their honor.
Now, don't get me wrong, girls don't hate games, they probably grew up with one anyway. But it's the obsession that just kills any romance in a relationship.
Besides, it's just natural women instinct to avoid such men.
Imagine, this
Wife : Hun, can you change the baby's diaper please ?
Hub : Eh ? Why, that's why diapers are for, I'm fighting the KING now hun.
Wife: Hun, can you pick up the kids ? I need to do grocery run.
Hub: Eh ? I need to go home straight after work, my clansmen are waiting for me to start the clash of the TITANs with another basty clans.
Wife: Hun, will you give me a back rub ?
Hub: Eh ? My fingers are aching today hun. How a about I use my feet ?
See . Really, hardcore gamer guys should just get themselves a virtual girlfriend. And the world will be at peace. -
cos novelty maOriginally posted by fgfm:He wasnt like that when I met him...Argh. Wasnt that 'obsessed'. He even tried giving it up for me...Stopped for like 2 weeks-3 weeks but went back again. Then he used to play it like once/twice a week or something? Now its EVERYDAY. Oh man.
now see true colours...
like i said feel relieved now,
u not like the wife in jojobeach's post. -
cant forget about him luh >.<Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:cos novelty ma
now see true colours...
like i said feel relieved now,
u not like the wife in jojobeach's post. -
eat more chocolatesOriginally posted by fgfm:cant forget about him luh >.< -
haha. hmm.. i used to be a gamer, but kinda grew out of it. so no idea how it feels to be obsessed with it
but regardless about it. you were rather princessy la. it wouldn't work in most relationship, whether your bf is a gamer or not.
you still need to work on your independence and not be so sticky. taxi here taxi there.
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Dont. Ever. Try.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:haha. hmm.. i used to be a gamer, but kinda grew out of it. so no idea how it feels to be obsessed with it
but regardless about it. you were rather princessy la. it wouldn't work in most relationship, whether your bf is a gamer or not.
you still need to work on your independence and not be so sticky. taxi here taxi there.
As I said...I know I was being kinda princessy. But its all accumulated anger. It wasnt the first time he overslept. And moreover, if he did replied my msg the night before, I wouldnt be THAT angry. -
haha. nah.. i mean.. i'm really not interested in games, too lazy. so i don't think will happen la.Originally posted by fgfm:Dont. Ever. Try.
As I said...I know I was being kinda princessy. But its all accumulated anger. It wasnt the first time he overslept. And moreover, if he did replied my msg the night before, I wouldnt be THAT angry.
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yeah. i also think there's really nothing very wrong with most of her demands.Originally posted by BenBenDeZhu:i find that most faults lies with the guy, i see nth wrong with the most of her 'demands' maybe its me? 
the bf can dun reply to her sms for such a long time? what if she met an accident or what then, her closest and the person she needs most, her bf, becomes uncontactable?
i mean, however busy he is, doesnt take much to type 'sorry very bz now contact u again later'
and wait under void deck for 2 hrs? ouch
boys and girls, can a r/s truly survive if one party puts the r/s as a second priority?
for example, for me, its depressing to think that my gf would readily give me up if she were to choose between me and her hobbies (which is priority 1). can it really work out? -
Hmmmmmmmmmm. If only my ex was like you. Lol...Sigh.Originally posted by FailureOfTheNation:yeah. i also think there's really nothing very wrong with most of her demands.
the bf can dun reply to her sms for such a long time? what if she met an accident or what then, her closest and the person she needs most, her bf, becomes uncontactable?
i mean, however busy he is, doesnt take much to type 'sorry very bz now contact u again later'
and wait under void deck for 2 hrs? ouch
boys and girls, can a r/s truly survive if one party puts the r/s as a second priority?
for example, for me, its depressing to think that my gf would readily give me up if she were to choose between me and her hobbies (which is priority 1). can it really work out? -
fgfm,Originally posted by fgfm:Hmmmmmmmmmm. If only my ex was like you. Lol...Sigh.
Wouldn't it be better to think this
"Hmmmmmm, IF only my next bf is like you" -
I agree that any form of obsession is bad for the relationship, e.g. gaming, football, and that a guy should put his gf as one of the top priorities.Originally posted by fgfm:He wasnt like that when I met him...Argh. Wasnt that 'obsessed'. He even tried giving it up for me...Stopped for like 2 weeks-3 weeks but went back again. Then he used to play it like once/twice a week or something? Now its EVERYDAY. Oh man.
TS, Some of the guys here mentioned about your manipulative princessy attitude, and I would like to say that's a relationship killer too...
Perhaps there is something in the relationship between you and him that he felt tired about (relationships with tantrum-prone girls are very tiring), so much that he went back to gaming again...
Perhaps you should ask him what he doesn't like about the relationship too, instead of just telling him what you don't like about the relationship (e.g. gaming too often)
Here, well-meaning pple like jojobeach may say "Oh my, what do you need such a guy for?", but I feel that nobody's perfect (it's tough to find the other perfect jigsaw piece), and sometimes we need to work on our relationship (very much like planting a bonsai)...
People do change, only when they feel sufficiently understood and hence motivated to.
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A side comment about gaming...
I'm worried that a whole new generation of guys/girls grow up, playing too much computer games... Already many schoolgoing teenagers are playing too much, and ignoring traditional recreational activities like sports, reading, board games..
Computer games are unlikely to go away, because there are even university level modules about them and it's a big source of revenue.
One reason why too many teenagers and even adults play them, is because they can escape into a fantasy world they have control over. This, I fear, would diminish their survival and social skills in the real world. It also creates a feeling of apathy to the real world.
I have been a gamer years ago. It wasn't so popular then, I just played to kill time in my idle NS years, and sometimes the real world seemed so surreal after when you emerged briefly from the game. -
aiyah break lah.
It's obvious you 2 are too young for this.
1 is a princess while the other just wants to party and play.
A simple guess of age would be that both of you are > 20 or even 18. -
I used to be a crazy gamer where 12-17 hour gaming sessions with friends are normal.
Got a gf, talked and quarreled abit over it, grew a brain and played less.
Went to NS, brain grewed more, played even lesser.
Now working, games have since become just a small part of life, don't really play unless i'm into the mood.
It takes maturity and communication between 2 to handle a RS. My gf used to hate me playing games too, but now she accepts that it's a simple way for me to have fun and interact with my RL buddies. -
heh heh, grew a brain.Originally posted by Sagara:I used to be a crazy gamer where 12-17 hour gaming sessions with friends are normal.
Got a gf, talked and quarreled abit over it, grew a brain and played less.
Went to NS, brain grewed more, played even lesser.
Now working, games have since become just a small part of life, don't really play unless i'm into the mood.
It takes maturity and communication between 2 to handle a RS. My gf used to hate me playing games too, but now she accepts that it's a simple way for me to have fun and interact with my RL buddies.
but i agree la. as you grow older, the appeal for games just die off. i just can't be bothered you know? i rather go out, read a book, watch a flick etc. -
yea but when your close RL buddies are all unattached and play the same MMO, it's damn hard...Originally posted by dumbdumb!:heh heh, grew a brain.
but i agree la. as you grow older, the appeal for games just die off. i just can't be bothered you know? i rather go out, read a book, watch a flick etc.
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Thanks for your advice. But even there's no maturity in us/me, there's still feelings =.= Its not as easy as saying "aiyah break lah".Originally posted by Sagara:aiyah break lah.
It's obvious you 2 are too young for this.
1 is a princess while the other just wants to party and play.
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I kind of explained to him before. And he was said something about playing games even when he's old or something. As in thirties? Baaaaaaah. Annoying.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:heh heh, grew a brain.
but i agree la. as you grow older, the appeal for games just die off. i just can't be bothered you know? i rather go out, read a book, watch a flick etc. -
pity, i dont thk that guy really like u la... mayb just play around with youOriginally posted by fgfm:I kind of explained to him before. And he was said something about playing games even when he's old or something. As in thirties? Baaaaaaah. Annoying.
Dear, i still think you're ok, i in fact have met some gals worst than you..
LIttle attention seeking is alwasy alrite one.. gal ma...plus, if you dont even do things like demanding things , if i were your ex, i would have done it without u need to tell me what to do
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i still stand by TS's side, who bully her again , i kill him
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Originally posted by Zarks:i still stand by TS's side, who bully her again , i kill him
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Hmmmmmmm? Even if he didnt really like me, he wouldnt have stucked with me for 2 years right? Lol. And moreover, we patched after we broke up before. My inference might be wrong tho.Originally posted by Zarks:pity, i dont thk that guy really like u la... mayb just play around with you
Dear, i still think you're ok, i in fact have met some gals worst than you..
LIttle attention seeking is alwasy alrite one.. gal ma...plus, if you dont even do things like demanding things , if i were your ex, i would have done it without u need to tell me what to do -
Dont know bout that.. i just know if a person loves some1, wouldnt even try to make that special some1 sad at all
realy dun understand why gals like jerk guys
seems like the gals will love them more if their bf is a jerk
weird but its what actually happening in this world -
But...Its impossible to have a relationship moving smoothly what. There are bound to be up and downs ma..All in all, I am loving a jerk. Lol. Somehow I agree... =/Originally posted by Zarks:Dont know bout that.. i just know if a person loves some1, wouldnt even try to make that special some1 sad at all
realy dun understand why gals like jerk guys
seems like the gals will love them more if their bf is a jerk
weird but its what actually happening in this world -
having a smooth relationship is different with being with a jerk..
but can understand la.. its all bout love
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