Damn frustrated and confused.
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Originally posted by Zarks:having a smooth relationship is different with being with a jerk..
but can understand la.. its all bout love
COme MSN
Maybe its because we came a long way to be together. Thats why my heart reaches out for this relationship a lot.
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dont worry,,one day u will have this sudden feeling that he is just not right for u..Originally posted by fgfm:
Maybe its because we came a long way to be together. Thats why my heart reaches out for this relationship a lot.
BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH. -
Ur heart needs to take a break from it.Originally posted by fgfm:
Maybe its because we came a long way to be together. Thats why my heart reaches out for this relationship a lot.
BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH.
And reflect...
Short-term pain is better than long-term pain. -
cos we are all human and love is blind.Originally posted by Zarks:Dont know bout that.. i just know if a person loves some1, wouldnt even try to make that special some1 sad at all
realy dun understand why gals like jerk guys
seems like the gals will love them more if their bf is a jerk
weird but its what actually happening in this world -
but still i see many gals with jerk... all really blind lol.. then ended up in bad marriage and divorce... how blind is that lolOriginally posted by Isis:cos we are all human and love is blind. -
Game over...
We kinda talked about it yesterday. And just agreed to forget about one another, although I know clearly that nothing can be forgotten. I feel that he still thinks about this relationship.
But anyway, all in all, I think this relationship cant be salvaged all for the sake of ego. -
sigh...Originally posted by fgfm:Game over...
We kinda talked about it yesterday. And just agreed to forget about one another, although I know clearly that nothing can be forgotten. I feel that he still thinks about this relationship.
But anyway, all in all, I think this relationship cant be salvaged all for the sake of ego.
give it up la.. sometimes when its over its over.. its not like anyone will think of any r/s when they agreed to game over -
Call it self-denial.Originally posted by Zarks:sigh...
give it up la.. sometimes when its over its over.. its not like anyone will think of any r/s when they agreed to game over -
more like you are taking advantage of the situation huh?Originally posted by Zarks:i still stand by TS's side, who bully her again , i kill him
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Originally posted by fgfm:Game over...
We kinda talked about it yesterday. And just agreed to forget about one another, although I know clearly that nothing can be forgotten. I feel that he still thinks about this relationship.
But anyway, all in all, I think this relationship cant be salvaged all for the sake of ego.
Actually many things in love can be salvage if we compromise our ego, but exactly how much compromising on the Ego must be adopted to achieve that desired peace in relationship?
Too much retrograding encourages blatant advantage-taking, while being too obstinate will hurt goodwill in relationship. Perhaps, the issue isn't so much about love, much more than compatibility as a general rule of thumb.
Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life.
Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this... unable to do that - but let us look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow himself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle.
People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love.
A princess will always be a princess until the princess understand the reason NOT to be one.
Similarly, a gamer/clubber will always be a gamer/clubber until circumstance make him realise otherwise.
Incompatibility, coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable.
Cheers -
Love.. love....
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Originally posted by jojobeach:Dear fgfm,
Sounds oh so familiar.
We've all been through this stage girl.
We want our man to give up something of themselves because we don't approve of it.
Unfortunately, this expectation can only be met, ONLY when he sees it deserving.
We've all tried, we nag, we threaten to end the relationship, we give our most disapproving face, we throw our pride away doing the tantrum shit.
In the end, we're labeled the biatch, by his friends, by his families, by him.
You can either blend in , or you take off.
Don't expect him to change. Either you accept his "hobby" or you don't.
This is part of being in a relationship.
You scope your guy out. His likings, his interests, his hobbies, his circle of friends.
Then you put all these info together and you ask yourself.
IS HIS LIFESTYLE compatible with MINE ??
If the answer is no, the search for to find the guy. Starts all over again.
It takes 2 years for you to figure out this is not the right guy.
Be glad it takes ONLY 2.
Others takes more than 2 some less than 2 to find out he/she is not the right one.
I know of a couple who took them 10 years to finally decide they are not meant for each other.
So consider yourself lucky.
Interesting perspective from both...Originally posted by Yunhaier: Actually many things in love can be salvage if we compromise our ego, but exactly how much compromising on the Ego must be adopted to achieve that desired peace in relationship?
Too much retrograding encourages blatant advantage-taking, while being too obstinate will hurt goodwill in relationship. Perhaps, the issue isn't so much about love, much more than compatibility as a general rule of thumb.
Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life.
Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this... unable to do that - but that's look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow himself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle.
People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love.
A princess will always be a princess until the princess understand the reason NOT to be one.
Similarly, a gamer/clubber will always be a gamer/clubber until circumstance make him realise otherwise.
Incompatibility, coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable.
Cheers -
A story of mine.
Well... My situation was quite alike yours... Broke and patch. A couple of times...
Still... You and me... We both are too young to understand what is real love... Break is inevitable.
A little childish quarrel may lead to break, and a little tingling feeling of missing the other party will make a patch.
Me and her was the same... Blindly following our feelings... Not even understanding that is the feeling we feel now called love or simply like...
We hold on to our relationship for 3 years...
Number of things happen. Also a number of tough situation we went through...
One of our best solution for quarrels is to sit down and talk about it...
Try to understand each other more...
We both know that we may not be our lifetime partner... But still hold on to our relationship tightly at first...
Soon... After a period of time... We realised that it wasn't love but just normal friendship.
Anyway, just to tell you that, love isn't easy to understand...
And you won't know that you love or just a like...
Don't be sad. Cheer up!
We all will understand what is love one day.
Life still goes on...
saw your profile... same year of birth as me...
having N or O this year?
study hard! -
popikachu...
u know what..
i always thought u are older than 25 yr old and is a working adult.. -
Sounds like he could be with you out of habit. He's obviously just not that "into" you anymore.. he already made it clear. If my bf pulled that party sh*t on me, I'd break up with him too. Why? Because it means he's embarrassed to have me in front of his friends, he doesn't trust I can have fun without bugging him, he doesn't respect me enough, and he probably also wants to flirt with other girls.
Don't let your emotion cloud your judgement. It's not wrong to expect your bf to act like one. This boy is a waste of your time. Smells like he just wants to use your TLC for as long as he needs to find another girl. -
after 3 years and only normal friendshipOriginally posted by popikachu:A story of mine.
Well... My situation was quite alike yours... Broke and patch. A couple of times...
Still... You and me... We both are too young to understand what is real love... Break is inevitable.
A little childish quarrel may lead to break, and a little tingling feeling of missing the other party will make a patch.
Me and her was the same... Blindly following our feelings... Not even understanding that is the feeling we feel now called love or simply like...
We hold on to our relationship for 3 years...
Number of things happen. Also a number of tough situation we went through...
One of our best solution for quarrels is to sit down and talk about it...
Try to understand each other more...
We both know that we may not be our lifetime partner... But still hold on to our relationship tightly at first...
Soon... After a period of time... We realised that it wasn't love but just normal friendship.
Anyway, just to tell you that, love isn't easy to understand...
And you won't know that you love or just a like...
Don't be sad. Cheer up!
We all will understand what is love one day.
Life still goes on...
saw your profile... same year of birth as me...
having N or O this year?
study hard!
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better luck next time round
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I really dont know how true is your inference of him. But he told me that he wished I could go to the party with him. And that he even told all his friends about it.Originally posted by spinsugar:Sounds like he could be with you out of habit. He's obviously just not that "into" you anymore.. he already made it clear. If my bf pulled that party sh*t on me, I'd break up with him too. Why? Because it means he's embarrassed to have me in front of his friends, he doesn't trust I can have fun without bugging him, he doesn't respect me enough, and he probably also wants to flirt with other girls.
Don't let your emotion cloud your judgement. It's not wrong to expect your bf to act like one. This boy is a waste of your time. Smells like he just wants to use your TLC for as long as he needs to find another girl.
And...He's not the kind who go for pretty faces and slim bodies. Not the kind who would flirt with other girls. Not the kind who whistles at any girl down the street, calling her chiobu. Not the kind who would ask pretty girls for numbers. He's just not that kind. Those are major turn offs and I am glad he isnt. Thats also one reason why I try to hold on to this relationship. I know this is quite the opposite of my action that day. My harsh decision. -
Thanks for taking the time off to write such a sensible and logical comment.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Actually many things in love can be salvage if we compromise our ego, but exactly how much compromising on the Ego must be adopted to achieve that desired peace in relationship?
Too much retrograding encourages blatant advantage-taking, while being too obstinate will hurt goodwill in relationship. Perhaps, the issue isn't so much about love, much more than compatibility as a general rule of thumb.
Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life.
Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this... unable to do that - but that's look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow himself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle.
People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love.
A princess will always be a princess until the princess understand the reason NOT to be one.
Similarly, a gamer/clubber will always be a gamer/clubber until circumstance make him realise otherwise.
Incompatibility, coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable.
Cheers -
Many ppl think i dont smoke cuz i told them i dont and they never see me smokeOriginally posted by fgfm:I really dont know how true is your inference of him. But he told me that he wished I could go to the party with him. And that he even told all his friends about it.
And...He's not the kind who go for pretty faces and slim bodies. Not the kind who would flirt with other girls. Not the kind who whistles at any girl down the street, calling her chiobu. Not the kind who would ask pretty girls for numbers. He's just not that kind. Those are major turn offs and I am glad he isnt. Thats also one reason why I try to hold on to this relationship. I know this is quite the opposite of my action that day. My harsh decision.
But i do smoke..
Sometimes you dont really know how true can a person be unless u understand their lies.. and today's ppl that you know might not be the same person as you know yesterday..
Things can change pretty fast.. Best of luck -
We shared a lot. I've been to his place a couple of times, I know how he treats his family members. He knows mine. Gah, I really dont know. I understand that I am being kind of stubborn over here but sigh...If only someone can understand how I am feeling.Originally posted by Zarks:Many ppl think i dont smoke cuz i told them i dont and they never see me smoke
But i do smoke..
Sometimes you dont really know how true can a person be unless u understand their lies.. and today's ppl that you know might not be the same person as you know yesterday..
Things can change pretty fast.. Best of luck
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Well...Originally posted by Isis:popikachu...
u know what..
i always thought u are older than 25 yr old and is a working adult..
I can get into my childish side in other forum -
lol... so its pretty much ,
like wrong place wrong time and wearing the wrong shirt.
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apa?Originally posted by BadzMaro:lol... so its pretty much ,
like wrong place wrong time and wearing the wrong shirt. -
oops.. sorry i was referring to Yunhair's post. Forgot to quote. Sometimes after reading few days i tend to lose track. And instead of quote.. i just reply.Originally posted by fgfm:apa?
Anyways..
Different ppl different habits due to the environment and friends.
Seriously.. alot of you thinks that drinking , clubbing , snooker , gambling , street racing.are bad habits. I mean o.k.. fair enough , they are not exactly very good habits. But i dont think that they are that bad a habit. Unless u are talking about addiction to it. Small gamble , small drinks.. should be acceptable right ?
anyways... you women are hard to understand. Maybe we men are as hard to understand as to why we do what we do. Sometimes its not so simple , i admit.. any form of addiction is bad. But until it is proven that they are addicted to it , addicted as in... will DIE.. or go on a fit because of not getting any... then maybe should talk it out. And compromising will always work. Guys will say thier fellow brothers getting pusssy whipped.. but in the end we all understand. At least he came out to have a drink with us.. even if it means he needs to go home early too. once in a while , if some occasion , just let him out.. or be with him till late.
It just depends on the crowd and people he is with. Supportive of him and the decision or not they like you as a gf to him. And as a gf , you should get to know his close brothers. Because they are the ones that influence him. N when u guys quarrel.. know that these guys are the ones he will be b|tching to and downing his sorrows in beer with. Unless his brothers are like real fuked up ppl .. if he is blind to not see.. well.. just let him be. he will get into some deep sh|t and come crawling back telling u, you are right.
understanding of each other and the people around them is important. with that , you can get a better understanding and work your way from there to solve those little little issues. in the end , if one side dont compromise , it just wont work. If he is just being a son of a b|tch.. and an @ss and jerk.. just dump his @ss. I am sure he has those things u like about him.. or else you wont be with him in the first place. but if it starts to turn ugly... all those things u like about him all gone.. then.. drop him.