My heart is wounded
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to me, i felt that the girl is more in the wrong. Even though im a girl but still i felt that she is juz being UNREASONABLe... she ask bf go rest, bf go rest dan she kpkb...
but on the other side, some girls like to act " considerate". So by asking u "dear u tired ma, if u tired dan u rest lor" there is 2 ways to explain it..
1. she wan u to feel that she is a awesome girlfriend who spare a tot for u OR
2. something similar happen before and u claims u are tired. So tis time round, she PURPOSELY ask u tired ma??
either wae, deep down her heart, she wan u to company her de. If u sae u are tired but yet insist on going wif her, she will be laffing hard in her heart..
If the above is not true, dan the ONLY reason is she is finding fault wif u...
Afterall there is no rite or wrong in life lah.. its all seperated by a thin line. If u think u are rite dan juz heck her nonsense lor but if u think u realli love her and u cant live w/o her, dan juz be henpeck and gib in bah.. no choice de its all about gib n take...
Morale of all relationship.. there is always 'UP' and NO down. all girls need honey to keep them nourish n going....
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he wants to rest and made the decision to rest and not meet her.Originally posted by Zarks:Its you, stupid head.. u dun have your own decision ar????
Is it u really wan to rest or wan to go with her ?
I dun think you're that tired till u cannot move rite? just go with her la.. you wan be with her , then go , even if she said dun wan u to go..
Let me tell u la.. if you not strong with your own decision, bye-bye to your r/s. Gal dont like a weak guy like you
and then you say he should change his mind.
and lastly you say he should be strong with his decision and not be weak.
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I think you are the stupid head who can't even give advice to people.Originally posted by Zarks:Its you, stupid head.. u dun have your own decision ar????
Is it u really wan to rest or wan to go with her ?
I dun think you're that tired till u cannot move rite? just go with her la.. you wan be with her , then go , even if she said dun wan u to go..
Let me tell u la.. if you not strong with your own decision, bye-bye to your r/s. Gal dont like a weak guy like you
I made my decision to rest at home. This shows that I'm strong with my decision. -
Angelic is right. Guy should do that instead of gal making the initial move.. its a shame to let a gal plans everything..but sometimes must let gal plan if they wan to go shopping .. its give-and-take ba,..Originally posted by angel7030:Disagree! guys should be either in auto or semi auto mode, they must be gentlemen enough to lead us ladies on, it is very bad for ladies to make the initial move to ask this and that, guy should automatically have the sixth sense to initiate and plan outing or dating in our flavor.
But TS, seriously, u dun have heart to go out with her.. what she said is true.. u just talking but no action.. shes disappointed with you when she expect you would say even though you tired, u wanted to accompany her.
PLease buy the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
I personally read it and it shocked me how true it is from a gal
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hmm.. TS, u shoudl have just be strict with your own decision, why whne she asked u to go orchard , u said ok, then she said if your tired, u said ok , u wan to rest? i dont see what u really want actually
ur gf just wan to have you accompany her..
sigh i dont know la..
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instead, you should say you wanted to rest.. by the way you replied, it seems to me like you listening to ur gf's advise blindly and seems a bit blaming your gfOriginally posted by Shark8:I just patched up with my girlfriend for a few days. Yesterday we went out and reached home around midnite. We planned yesterday to go orchard today.
11.35am - Later shall we go orchard?
I replied - Ok
11.57am - U sure you wan to go? If you tired den nvm.
I replied - Ok then. I rest.
6.49pm - Do you wan to buy mooncake with me tmr? If not, i can ask my frens accompany me.
I replied - Why must ask your friends accompany you? I can go with you mah.
7.24pm - Today u dun wan wat
I replied - You asked me to rest today and you didn't state we meet after I rest.
7.27pm - ...Need to rest 1 whole day meh. Always play me out. You can rest all your life. rest whole afternoon not enough meh? U said want to spend time with me but no action. Thats wat u are best at. all talk but no action.
i replied - But u asked me to rest today
7.30pm - You cannot automatic? If you really wanted to spend time with me, you will wan to meet in evening.
Sigh...Who is in the wrong?
the 2nd one : the "but u asked me to rest today" .. seems like ...you have no decision of your own.. im sorry , dude but the way u replied , to me, seems that way. Is it that she asked you to rest then you rest? or is it yourself wanted to rest?
For green senteces:
Your gal meant you have to have own planning or decision or watever if you wanted to spend time with her like u always said.. but seems shes the one who putting the effort of spending time with you..
Can i ask you if is it only your gal plan all the outings??
Seriously man, shes getting tired of your bullshyt mayb. Im serious, what she sees in you is a man who talk but no action.. its time for you to do some effort.
YOu should have been lucky cuz u got a gal who wanted to spend time with you and telling what she feels instead of keeping quiet -
hmm.. but i cant say its all TS fault..
This gal seems to seek more attention from TS. A bit immature thinking..I can understand that cuz my ex is a bit childish and hunger for my company too. Once i left apartment without telling her cuz she was sleeping but i put a note beside her bed.. she got pissed off with me haha.. but i know at least waht she wants... she just dun like for me to put things like that.. she prefer me to tell her even though shes still sleeping.. yea bit unreasonable.. but she will feel shes not important if i only make a note. hahaa
but all a gal wants is a company. Mayb she's not happy bout something or watever,
Hmmm..
For TS:
a) Be more strict of your decision and dont say something like "But you asked me to take rest". Why dont you say you're tired today cuz of yesterday's midnite outing and will meet her again the nex day or so?
b) U have to prove and give more effort to plan outings with her and must not break your promise.
For the gal:
a) should have understand the situation and dont have to start argue bout this simple thing..She needs TS company but just dont know hwo to tell it directly to TS. Some gals just afraid or dont know how to tell what they are thinking..
Just some understanding would be enough and do not flame or bring past incident to make the flame hotter..
Dont know you both la.. but i can see at least she wants your company and wanted to be wit you. AT least she did some effort.. Im not that lucky
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Sometimes, I don't understand my girlfriend. When she asked me whether I want to go out, I answered I want to go out. Then she ask me whether I'm sure I want to go out and said if you are tired then nvm. I already said I wanted to go out and she still ask me whether I'm sure. I know I may be indecisive sometimes but I don't like her to keep asking.
She said I can rest if I want to when I haven't even tell her I'm tired. So i replied I wanted to rest. Is it wrong to listen to her? Since she said nvm, then I rest. I'm a simple and straightforward minded person. I think that is my weakness. Now this is a hard lesson for me and I can't take a girl's word at face value. She say something and yet mean another thing. Another point, when I give her present, she say its too expensive and I wasted money. When I don't give her present, she complained why I never give her present. I believe that the gift that I wanted to give her is from the heart, so the cost of it doesn't matter. I guessed her thinking is too complicated.
She haven't give me an answer whether to patch back again. I kept asking her for forgiveness and she ignored me. All I wish now that she will come back to me. I have prepared myself for a break up. Sometimes I felt she is trying to make my life difficult. -
girls r like dat de. bud since u like dem . then...
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wakarimasen...!Originally posted by M©+square:The one who uses logic will end up with more losses.
why do you say so? -
logic = reading things at face valueOriginally posted by MooKu:wakarimasen...!
why do you say so?
for example, if you are tired, and your gf tells you to rest instead of going to catch that movie with her, logically you would think that:
a) i'm tired therefore i should rest
b)i have her express approval, all the more i should rest
bad call dude.
wakarimashtaka? -
no la....Originally posted by wului99:sounds experienced
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in love 1+1not equal 2
even my x -gf say u wrong sia -
Nobody's in the wrong..... she's mind-farking you...... Seems like a woman thing leh. Girls are very fond ofg doing these kinda things....
Why har...?
Perhaps some char-bor could kindly enlighten?
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CBOriginally posted by :Nobody's in the wrong..... she's mind-farking you...... Seems like a woman thing leh. Girls are very fond ofg doing these kinda things....
Why har...?
Perhaps some char-bor could kindly enlighten? -
Sometimes after work commitment, I still need to break the codes of her mind is it? I'm already tired as it is. I might as well find someone else.Originally posted by Othello_Red:logic = reading things at face value
for example, if you are tired, and your gf tells you to rest instead of going to catch that movie with her, logically you would think that:
a) i'm tired therefore i should rest
b)i have her express approval, all the more i should rest
bad call dude.
wakarimashtaka? -
learn to understand the female language.
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let me tell u this golden secret.Originally posted by Shark8:I just patched up with my girlfriend for a few days. Yesterday we went out and reached home around midnite. We planned yesterday to go orchard today.
11.35am - Later shall we go orchard?
I replied - Ok
11.57am - U sure you wan to go? If you tired den nvm.
I replied - Ok then. I rest.
6.49pm - Do you wan to buy mooncake with me tmr? If not, i can ask my frens accompany me.
I replied - Why must ask your friends accompany you? I can go with you mah.
7.24pm - Today u dun wan wat
I replied - You asked me to rest today and you didn't state we meet after I rest.
7.27pm - ...Need to rest 1 whole day meh. Always play me out. You can rest all your life. rest whole afternoon not enough meh? U said want to spend time with me but no action. Thats wat u are best at. all talk but no action.
i replied - But u asked me to rest today..
7.30pm - You cannot automatic? If you really wanted to spend time with me, you will wan to meet in evening.
Sigh...Who is in the wrong?
GIRLS say this but does another.
They duno what they want~! -
don't you think guys are equally hard to fathom?Originally posted by browniebaobao:learn to understand the female language. 
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that's being amoeba-brained!Originally posted by Othello_Red:logic = reading things at face value
for example, if you are tired, and your gf tells you to rest instead of going to catch that movie with her, logically you would think that:
a) i'm tired therefore i should rest
b)i have her express approval, all the more i should rest
bad call dude.
wakarimashtaka?
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female dun have any language.Originally posted by browniebaobao:learn to understand the female language.
They only signal they emit are confusion.
Gals have a big secret which they think most guys don't know but obviously i know.
What gals want and what they are attracted to are totally different!
Gals often claim they want caring,concern and family oriented guys but they are attracted to jerks.
Gals cant make up their mind.
It's like us sayin we want to study hard,ace the class but we end up playing and forsaking our studies.
It was very easy for u gals to say we guys dun understand u but now that the secret is out,it's purely about how u gals dun even understand ourselves. -
that is veri subjective horOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Communication Problem. Both of you are wrong. Since you're a guy, you're more wrong! -
u dun have to break it.Originally posted by Shark8:Sometimes after work commitment, I still need to break the codes of her mind is it? I'm already tired as it is. I might as well find someone else.
THere's no code.
They themselve are fickle minded and confused with their thoughts and actions.
Gals can be easily manipulated.
yes they are easily attracted to jerks not because they love bad boys but because gals are ATTRACTED to traits they have which is
-ASSERTIVE
-NOT A PUSH OVER
The only way to have an edge over the jerks is to be a nice guy[I dun mean pushover]and at the same time assertive.
If they whine to get u to do something,dun give in.
Just tell them ur not entertaining whinners.
This way u are a nice guy but at the same time ur showing that ur in control.
Gal wun admit but they love it when guys dominate the play. -
pedohao!!!Originally posted by yiha093:no la.... -
hello, TS also got fault leh.Originally posted by boka:female dun have any language.
They only signal they emit are confusion.
Gals have a big secret which they think most guys don't know but obviously i know.
What gals want and what they are attracted to are totally different!
Gals often claim they want caring,concern and family oriented guys but they are attracted to jerks.
Gals cant make up their mind.
It's like us sayin we want to study hard,ace the class but we end up playing and forsaking our studies.
It was very easy for u gals to say we guys dun understand u but now that the secret is out,it's purely about how u gals dun even understand ourselves.
it's not juz the girl's fault.
why are girls attracted to jerks?
bcos jerks have a way with girls.
but jerks are jerks afterall.