My heart is wounded
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Originally posted by browniebaobao:hello, TS also got fault leh.
it's not juz the girl's fault.
why are girls attracted to jerks?
bcos jerks have a way with girls.
but jerks are jerks afterall.
BBBOriginally posted by boka:u dun have to break it.
THere's no code.
They themselve are fickle minded and confused with their thoughts and actions.
Gals can be easily manipulated.
yes they are easily attracted to jerks not because they love bad boys but because gals are ATTRACTED to traits they have which is
-ASSERTIVE
-NOT A PUSH OVER
The only way to have an edge over the jerks is to be a nice guy[I dun mean pushover]and at the same time assertive.
If they whine to get u to do something,dun give in.
Just tell them ur not entertaining whinners.
This way u are a nice guy but at the same time ur showing that ur in control.
Gal wun admit but they love it when guys dominate the play.
ur answer
btw my stand is tat TS wrong 2
yay, i learn how to double quote
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so how is he wrong?Originally posted by browniebaobao:hello, TS also got fault leh.
it's not juz the girl's fault.
why are girls attracted to jerks?
bcos jerks have a way with girls.
but jerks are jerks afterall.
No gal language pls. -
TS dont noe how to handle xmm
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morale of the story;
"girls: can't live with them can't live without them"
because guys are ruled by our second, albeit dominant, head. -
This is the culprit of all communication breakdown. The cause of weak foundation.Originally posted by browniebaobao:learn to understand the female language.
My earlier statement is not meant to offend or cause personal attacks. My apologies if anyone is hurt. -
11.57am - U sure you wan to go? If you tired den nvm.Originally posted by Shark8:11.57am - U sure you wan to go? If you tired den nvm.
6.49pm - Do you wan to buy mooncake with me tmr? If not, i can ask my frens accompany me.
7.24pm - Today u dun wan wat
THIS IS A TRICK QUESTION .
Just answer: Yes I want to go with you.
6.49pm - Do you wan to buy mooncake with me tmr? If not, i can ask my frens accompany me.
THIS IS ALSO A TRICK QUESTION.
Just answer : Yes I want to go buy mooncake with you.
7.24pm - Today u dun wan wat
THIS IS ANOTHER TRICK STATEMENT.
Just answer : If you want me to, I'd be happy to.
If you had answered accordingly to the above, you'd have gotten yourself 50 score points. AND avoided an argument.
Your girl is testing your sincerity.
I think she is having doubts about your commitment in this relationship. -
That is why the answers are alwasy depend on you.. if you really wan to go, then go for it, even she ask u to rest. If you dont like her keep asking, just simply said, im a man with my wordOriginally posted by Shark8:Sometimes, I don't understand my girlfriend. When she asked me whether I want to go out, I answered I want to go out. Then she ask me whether I'm sure I want to go out and said if you are tired then nvm. I already said I wanted to go out and she still ask me whether I'm sure. I know I may be indecisive sometimes but I don't like her to keep asking.
She said I can rest if I want to when I haven't even tell her I'm tired. So i replied I wanted to rest. Is it wrong to listen to her? Since she said nvm, then I rest. I'm a simple and straightforward minded person. I think that is my weakness. Now this is a hard lesson for me and I can't take a girl's word at face value. She say something and yet mean another thing. Another point, when I give her present, she say its too expensive and I wasted money. When I don't give her present, she complained why I never give her present. I believe that the gift that I wanted to give her is from the heart, so the cost of it doesn't matter. I guessed her thinking is too complicated.
She haven't give me an answer whether to patch back again. I kept asking her for forgiveness and she ignored me. All I wish now that she will come back to me. I have prepared myself for a break up. Sometimes I felt she is trying to make my life difficult.
YOU should be lucky at least your gf still think for your money you need to spent for the gift.. some gal dont even bother you know.. I guess mayb she was right.. i dun think she is the kind of gal who fancies expensive things.. why dont one day u try to make a gift yourself instead of buying it,, she only look for your sincerity not how expensive the gift
U should try to alwasy talk to her even if she doesnt want to. but u have be really sincere bout it and i think you shoud say something like you cant live happily without having her in life. U should also admit your weakness and seek to her that u will change it but you must keep that promise..
"All I wish now that she will come back to me."
Tell that to her..What a gal needs is someone who can understand them and be there for them... she doesnt actually making your life difficult but instead shes actually showing you what is your weakness.. sometimes normal friend wont even bother to tell your weakness
YOu got a good gf, my fren.. she might b a little pampered gal but will you even like her if shes being too serious ?
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Yea, i believe that too.. can i ask how many times you say you love her everyday ? HOw many times you call her a day just to check if shes alrite?\\Originally posted by jojobeach:11.57am - U sure you wan to go? If you tired den nvm.
THIS IS A TRICK QUESTION .
Just answer: Yes I want to go with you.
6.49pm - Do you wan to buy mooncake with me tmr? If not, i can ask my frens accompany me.
THIS IS ALSO A TRICK QUESTION.
Just answer : Yes I want to go buy mooncake with you.
7.24pm - Today u dun wan wat
THIS IS ANOTHER TRICK STATEMENT.
Just answer : If you want me to, I'd be happy to.
If you had answered accordingly to the above, you'd have gotten yourself 50 score points. AND avoided an argument.
Your girl is testing your sincerity.
I think she is having doubts about your commitment in this relationship.
I think she's scared of your commitment in this r/s. She might have doubts that you dont really love her. She might think you make no effort for this r/s. And that she think she's already getting a bit tired for all this..
I thk you can still save it.. But you really need to prove how much you love her..She needs to know it from your heart. You can go to her house , kneeling to her if you really love her.. i wont mind doing that if i really love a gal.. it is not how ppl think bout you kneeling.. its bout how u wan to prove how much u willing to do that just for her.. but if u cant ignore what ppl think of u kneeling, then i think you should know that you dont really love her at all...
I just wan to advice one thing..
YOu can do anything you want to do,,
but hopefully you will have no regret doing it..
Never try to think of the outcome, cuz watever it will be, will be. You just have to do what you have to do, got it ? -
girls... when ask you to rest it out of 'showing' concern one.
They like to say the opposite. Want say dont want.. dont want say up to u. always try to make u the bad guy.
Anyway, its a senseless arguement. Just let her go with her friends -
We always smsed each other reporting our whereabouts and the tasks that we are currently doing. I do tell her that I miss her every now and then. And I admit that I didn't say 'I love you' to her frequently. Don't you think that if the 3 words is said too often, it will lose it's magic and give the impression to her that I say it for the sake of saying it (insincerity) ?
Well, yesterday, she sent me a text message and asked me out to hunt for mooncakes and present. We went to eat dinner and window shop a while. We didn't hold hands and sometimes she will sort of hold my arm when trying to explain something. Conversations kept going throughout the meeting with additions of laughter in between. But it's more of a friend - friend situation right now. -
so u still interested or not
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No, its proven that by the way you always say the 3 words.. ( no need to say it 24 times a day la) everyday can make a diff.. usually by the end of day or conversation..no need to say seriously also.. just a simple.. "Love ya~"Originally posted by Shark8:We always smsed each other reporting our whereabouts and the tasks that we are currently doing. I do tell her that I miss her every now and then. And I admit that I didn't say 'I love you' to her frequently. Don't you think that if the 3 words is said too often, it will lose it's magic and give the impression to her that I say it for the sake of saying it (insincerity) ?
Well, yesterday, she sent me a text message and asked me out to hunt for mooncakes and present. We went to eat dinner and window shop a while. We didn't hold hands and sometimes she will sort of hold my arm when trying to explain something. Conversations kept going throughout the meeting with additions of laughter in between. But it's more of a friend - friend situation right now.
U think it might b friend - to -friend situation now but i thk by the way she still go out with you , that means not a normal friend to friend.. she never initiated to hold your hands, why dont u hold her hand first .. wei, u still need to wait for her to hold your hand arr?
u dun have to ask,, just hold her hand and walk like nothing happened..
or mayb u can try this.. when shes explaining something, just listen watever she wan to say, then watch her face.. then u touch her face gently and just simply say you never think how cute you are previously.. then just say, you cant smile without having her around you cuz its her that make you feel happy and alive.. say that straight into her eyes ! -
Man , u know what.. whenever i see my ex-gf, my heart always melted and i always smile... do you ?
Wei, u think my ex-gf never tested me b4 ar ?
last time i like her so much u know.. but shes like treating me very normal. by then when i said i love her, she also said she love me too ahahahaha..
Gal always like to test any guy ok? its their natural ability to know how or what guy will do to undertand them.. its normal to any gals....The reason why shes not holding your hand perhaps wanted you to hold her hand instead of she started it 1st.. but i suggest u do ur own research.. im sure u n her got some sweet memory where u both laugh together.. find the memory and talk it out with her... followed by that.. u say u really miss her and wanted her back... simple as that...
erm try this also.. your taller than her rite? so everytime you both need to separate to go back home, just get near her.. kiss her chin.. "Love Ya.." then bye... sweet
.. i bet your gf will like it and mayb will say "Huai Ren !" -
sms for wat? call la... so kiam siap is it ? 5 mins talk also enough ma.. no need to talk 1 hour ., Just a simple Hi, wat u doin, everything find? THen if you got some prob.. unhappy or watever just tell.. then love ya. then bye. see u again .. simple 5 mins lolOriginally posted by Shark8:We always smsed each other reporting our whereabouts and the tasks that we are currently doing. I do tell her that I miss her every now and then. And I admit that I didn't say 'I love you' to her frequently. Don't you think that if the 3 words is said too often, it will lose it's magic and give the impression to her that I say it for the sake of saying it (insincerity) ?
Well, yesterday, she sent me a text message and asked me out to hunt for mooncakes and present. We went to eat dinner and window shop a while. We didn't hold hands and sometimes she will sort of hold my arm when trying to explain something. Conversations kept going throughout the meeting with additions of laughter in between. But it's more of a friend - friend situation right now. -
actualy no one can teach u anything,, it really depends on you to be alert and be understanding of what your gf really wanted..
Most of the time, gal just wan the guy to only listen... sometimes u dun have to try to solve her prob.. let her talk out all her probs , u just listen.. enough. She will appreciate it. Your gf really is a good one ok,, sometimes gal dun like to plan or try to think where to go out dating.. at least your gf plan to go somewhere for dating together.. she spend her time to be with you, you should really appreciate this gal or you will regret one day... She did her part ,, how bout you ? Try put more effort to be together if possible.
Having a gf means u need to study how ur gf thinks.. its not bcuz you both love each other and thats it ended up being a couple
After be couple, then you have to maintain it, at this level , u need to be understanding and tolerance and patience is needed.. but of course.. you sometimes have to think for yourself too.. you need some personal space alone so does she -
Tired lecturing liou...
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No point arguing la coz you will only get a confused look on your face.Originally posted by boka:so how is he wrong?
No gal language pls.
Just understand them as they are. And don't think so much about girls. A lot of guys put themselves into the trap of getting tested by the girls. What about the guys? When are you strong enough to fight back to test them back?
doko -
Hm not really, guys just need to be themself and strict with any decision made by them.. to test a gal is kinda simple, depends on type of gals..Originally posted by dokono:No point arguing la coz you will only get a confused look on your face.
Just understand them as they are. And don't think so much about girls. A lot of guys put themselves into the trap of getting tested by the girls. What about the guys? When are you strong enough to fight back to test them back?
doko -
then why do I see so many guys complain? Oh I forgot: guys are not supposed to test girls haha...guys are supposed to bow to them like maids even if they behave like spoiled brats.Originally posted by Zarks:Hm not really, guys just need to be themself and strict with any decision made by them.. to test a gal is kinda simple, depends on type of gals..
doko -
Hm, even if they behave like spoiled brats, guy shouldnt bow to them too.. its against guy's dignityOriginally posted by dokono:then why do I see so many guys complain? Oh I forgot: guys are not supposed to test girls haha...guys are supposed to bow to them like maids even if they behave like spoiled brats.
doko -
I did tried to hold her hand first and pretend nothing happened. But after 5 secs, she pulled her hand away and pretend to search and see her hp. lol Then I guessed she don't want to hold my hand and I didn't do it again.
This is my first GF and we have been together for 5 years. So I don't have an ex before. Yes, I'm taller than her. lol. I guess for now no kissing until things have settled down.
Sometimes she is busy working with experiments, so there is no time for calls. She will msg me in between when the time permits. -
hm at least she still go out with u alone and still talk to each other rite? mayb shud give her some time. try to plan to go dating with her la..be patience .. this thing better slow slow dun forceOriginally posted by Shark8:I did tried to hold her hand first and pretend nothing happened. But after 5 secs, she pulled her hand away and pretend to search and see her hp. lol Then I guessed she don't want to hold my hand and I didn't do it again.
This is my first GF and we have been together for 5 years. So I don't have an ex before. Yes, I'm taller than her. lol. I guess for now no kissing until things have settled down.
Sometimes she is busy working with experiments, so there is no time for calls. She will msg me in between when the time permits. -
first love and 5 years.. lucky you. me only 5 months..
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hm, i dont know wat went wrong with my ex also.. she needed to go overseas to study and we both broke up bcuz of that.. bfore broke up, shes treating me like a stranger. Sigh i do not know if she really love me or just puppy love.. but i still call her thru hp to overseas just to chat with her hehe
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Lol, I knew her when I was in polytechnic. Then I go NS, she waited for me and now we are working young adults. Well, she is a good girl and I realised now how much she meant to me and how much effort she had put in since the day we started this relationship. I will treasure and cherish her.