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where can i purchase this book?Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:I think you do not understand the book in the first place. The reader must be able to digest the contents, else he will be making himself a bastard. I am currently reading this and prior b4 this, i read other versions by other authors.
I have a fellow friend who mis-interpreted the contents and I have to guide him on the right way to get things right. -
You can get the book from Kinokuniya, Takashimaya.
But I am afraid that the contents is too hard for you to understand.
I am trying to digest the contents also as some of the meanings are quite misleading if you only just browse thru.
The teachings of this mindset is like having the thick skin like Liu Bei and ruthless like Cao Cao. The current author has mentioned in the book that she doesn't really want the reader to practice the "art" but to protect themselves from aggressive people.
using it as a shield rather than a sword. -
all my life i've been fat. since birth i've been cursed with this curse. been made fun since i was young, always the biggest one and always picked on. fighting back always landed me in trouble, nobody would speak to me. i put on a fake smile to my family as i don't want them to know what my life is. alone for most of my life, mingling with others is nothing but a distant dream.
my size is a herediatary-related one, dieting and exercising has not helped much.every night when i go to sleep, i only pray that my life would be much better.i've never had the luxury of buying clothes at a normal shop, i have to go to 'special' shops. i want to be a normal person, live a normal life. i don't want to pant everytime i climb the stairs, i don't want people to give me weird looks in the trains/buses. my dream and goal is to to lead a simple and normal life, yet fate is cruel. i don't drink or smoke yet life isn't really fair.
i'm sorry i bothered anyone with my whining, i just needed to let someone know what is it like to be, me.
i'm just a man, with a will to survive. -
You are lacking self-confidence due to your physical being.Originally posted by fatone:all my life i've been fat. since birth i've been cursed with this curse. been made fun since i was young, always the biggest one and always picked on. fighting back always landed me in trouble, nobody would speak to me. i put on a fake smile to my family as i don't want them to know what my life is. alone for most of my life, mingling with others is nothing but a distant dream.
my size is a herediatary-related one, dieting and exercising has not helped much.every night when i go to sleep, i only pray that my life would be much better.i've never had the luxury of buying clothes at a normal shop, i have to go to 'special' shops. i want to be a normal person, live a normal life. i don't want to pant everytime i climb the stairs, i don't want people to give me weird looks in the trains/buses. my dream and goal is to to lead a simple and normal life, yet fate is cruel. i don't drink or smoke yet life isn't really fair.
i'm sorry i bothered anyone with my whining, i just needed to let someone know what is it like to be, me.
i'm just a man, with a will to survive.
though as per what you mentioned, itz hereditary, exercise and good meal will help.
You can check out the pumping iron forums to get the experts to guide you on weight lost, they should be able to chip in a few suggestion.
I do not really recommend dieting as in my past MLM business of health products and thru some books, when you refrain from certain nutrients, your body will somehow or what produce this nutrients by itself and it produced more than required.
Let this be your goal and you will definitely achieve what you want.
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you won't know what it's like till you walk a mile in my shoes.Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:You are lacking self-confidence due to your physical being.
though as per what you mentioned, itz hereditary, exercise and good meal will help.
You can check out the pumping iron forums to get the experts to guide you on weight lost, they should be able to chip in a few suggestion.
I do not really recommend dieting as in my past MLM business of health products and thru some books, when you refrain from certain nutrients, your body will somehow or what produce this nutrients by itself and it produced more than required.
Let this be your goal and you will definitely achieve what you want. -
I have friends who are obese and they are in better shape now.Originally posted by fatone:you won't know what it's like till you walk a mile in my shoes.
Itz all in your willpower, on how much you want this to happen.
Weather too hot, maybe tomorrow then run, do not give yourself excuses anymore. Do it, make it happen to fulfill your dreams.
You are who you are, other than NS, no one can force you to do what you do not wanna do. -
Write so well, yet so lousy at expressing yourself to her..
If you bo ji to approach her, then what makes you think you have the "ji" to be with her....
In another word, no girls will like to be with a "seedless" guy, especially someone who can't even express his feelings to her (Expect her to be a mind-reader? Or expect her to ask for your hand?)
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fellow brother, talk is cheap. living my life for 18 years and i know what's it like when i speak to a girl. it will go fine for minutes before excuses comes in and bam!, she's gone just like that. it's not the first time and neither will it be the last time. have you ever spared a moment to think how will someone like me feel when he goes into a sports retail store and sees his favourite club's soccer jersey yet he knows he can only buy it to hang it in his room? have you ever been laughed at, made fun of and made to be the fool? during P.E lessons have any of your teachers/classmates made you look like a clown? i have, i've been through this since primary school till i was 16.Originally posted by dcx:Write so well, yet so lousy at expressing yourself to her..
If you bo ji to approach her, then what makes you think you have the "ji" to be with her....
In another word, no girls will like to be with a "seedless" guy, especially someone who can't even express his feelings to her (Expect her to be a mind-reader? Or expect her to ask for your hand?)
In simple, don't be a "gu niang"
have you gone through the thought of hesitating to sit on a chair in fear of it breaking and making a fool out of yourself infront your fellow peers? i doubt so, with your reply.
it will take an earth angel to create a miracle for me. -
Try to spell "Impossible"Originally posted by fatone:fellow brother, talk is cheap. living my life for 18 years and i know what's it like when i speak to a girl. it will go fine for minutes before excuses comes in and bam!, she's gone just like that. it's not the first time and neither will it be the last time. have you ever spared a moment to think how will someone like me feel when he goes into a sports retail store and sees his favourite club's soccer jersey yet he knows he can only buy it to hang it in his room? have you ever been laughed at, made fun of and made to be the fool? during P.E lessons have any of your teachers/classmates made you look like a clown? i have, i've been through this since primary school till i was 16.
have you gone through the thought of hesitating to sit on a chair in fear of it breaking and making a fool out of yourself infront your fellow peers? i doubt so, with your reply.
it will take an earth angel to create a miracle for me. -
Resistant to change is a killer.. if you still think pessimistically, no advice will go into your head.
Only you can create miracles for yourself, do not expect others to do it for you. This life is your own. Sincerely, i hope the army will help you, train hard and enjoy, then you will be able to enjoy fruits of your labour.
That's all i wanna say.
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i bow my head in humble gratitude.Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:Resistant to change is a killer.. if you still think pessimistically, no advice will go into your head.
Only you can create miracles for yourself, do not expect others to do it for you. This life is your own. Sincerely, i hope the army will help you, train hard and enjoy, then you will be able to enjoy fruits of your labour.
That's all i wanna say. -
You will never know if you never try so why not give yourself a chance by proceed on?
Anyway you will never know what will happens in the future and your future lies with your hands
If you persists (but not disturbing), you will get a chance to win her heart.
And also, do stop all those following thing as it is very disturbing
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i have stopped it already.Originally posted by toll123:You will never know if you never try so why not give yourself a chance by proceed on?
Anyway you will never know what will happens in the future and your future lies with your hands If you persists (but not disturbing), you will get a chance to win her heart.
And also, do stop all those following thing as it is very disturbing -
Glad to hear thatOriginally posted by fatone:i have stopped it already.
Anyway another piece of advice, being rejected once doesn't means that you will be rejected forever....... -
Originally posted by fatone:
Since you wanna be with her ... u do so much things for her... yet you dun wanna her to know... getting yourself so miserable .. what you want????
there's a girl i am fond of at work, we're both 18. she's very close with her guy friend who i'm just hi-bye friends with. they're from the same sec school and now same poly. both stay same place also. the dude always goes out with her, i go out to lunch with her less than once a week. i feel extremely jealous and heart broken at the same time as she obviously treats him much better than even though i always wake up early to get her fav coffee from a place i don't want to disclose, every morning, period. [b]i always give reasons like i accidently bought 2 cups or i was near the shop. sometimes i leave a cake and coffee on her table and the guy will claim to buy it. the guy obviously treats her like normal normal and even ask her to carry his bag sometimes. yes, i am not as good looking as him, he is average looking while i'm below average. i make it a point to make sure her desk is free from papers and stuffs when she comes to work, and always try to put a small teddy bear or rose on her table and act like coming in late so she won't suspect it's me. this goes on and on for the whole hols, and hols is ending soon. i fear we might not cross paths again, it'll be too much for me to take. every other day, i'd wear a jacket and follow them as they always leave work together. they always go down to vivo or cine, it makes me feel extremely insecure. i can safely presume they're not together yet but i don't know how long. i've camped under her block for days to see who she goes back with and the guy sends her back once in awhile. sleepless nights over my insecurities, i'm turning nuts. sometimes i think im crazy, am i just wasting my time? is there anyway out? i fear if i confess, being rejected is something i don't think i can handle.
please help me out, fellow brothers and sisters.
i try to fool myself thinking that i'm happy and she will not be with him, but to avail.
it feels like a laundry room.[/b]
Chang Tong Bu Ru Duan Tong....
Be a man... face it.!!! Tell her waht you have done and your feeling...!!! -
read first please, thanks.Originally posted by finrise:Since you wanna be with her ... u do so much things for her... yet you dun wanna her to know... getting yourself so miserable .. what you want????
Chang Tong Bu Ru Duan Tong....
Be a man... face it.!!! Tell her waht you have done and your feeling...!!!