Dunno wat happened..
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Originally posted by Douglas1985:Stop calling man Jerks! Not all are jerks, if u met a jerk or are with a jerk, then u can only blame yourself for being such a jerk to fall for a jerk. Damn this is so jerky
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It depends on both parties...they hv to put in effort.
Last time my ex-bf need to concentrate on his exams n we didnt meet for 1 mth. But we did tok on pone. Aft that he started to call me lesser n lesser...i still waited for him n my feelins didnt fade coz i know his exams r impt.
i've waited patiently everyday....
Who noes in the end, he wanted to break coz his feeling for mi had faded....
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sometimes life is so unfair rite? you give your all, wait, be understanding, but in the end nothing turns out rightOriginally posted by FoRsAkEn:It depends on both parties...they hv to put in effort.
Last time my ex-bf need to concentrate on his exams n we didnt meet for 1 mth. But we did tok on pone. Aft that he started to call me lesser n lesser...i still waited for him n my feelins didnt fade coz i know his exams r impt.
i've waited patiently everyday....
Who noes in the end, he wanted to break coz his feeling for mi had faded.... i noe that feeling.. i've gone through that so many times.. -
life IS INDEED UNFAIR....Originally posted by puppylove:sometimes life is so unfair rite? you give your all, wait, be understanding, but in the end nothing turns out right i noe that feeling.. i've gone through that so many times..
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yar lor....i agreed.Originally posted by puppylove:sometimes life is so unfair rite? you give your all, wait, be understanding, but in the end nothing turns out right i noe that feeling.. i've gone through that so many times..
i nv lose my temper to him b4 even when he is in the wrong..gave him lots of freedom n trust...
end up being dumped....
Aft we broke off sometime, he can tell me that i treated him too gd. Hence, he took me for granted n so broke off with me.
He said until like its all my fault n caused the break up...
Anyway, i got a better guy now n he is more appreciative of how i treat him....
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good for you
people.. hai~
when you treat them well they take you for granted, when you treat them badly they say you're not good enough,
when you care about them they say you long winded, when you dun care about them they say you neglect them,
when you spend alot of time with them they say you sticky, when you dun spend time with them they say you dun have time for them,
when you ask questions they say you busybody, when you dun ask they say dun you dun care about their problems,
when you tell them your problems they brush them aside, when you dun tell them your problems they say you dun trust them,
when you give them freedom their feelings fade but when you hold on to tight they will try to run away,
when they want to leave you you fight back your tears and let them go, try to forget them and live life again..
then when someday you finally got over them, finally able to live your life again, they will come back and say they were wrong, that you were the one they really truely loved: and the whole thing starts all over again -
this is lifecycle......
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correct on that. actually i've already mentioned that to her and she knows that it makes me think twice about our relationship but still she keeps doing it yet she apologizes for it. it's like slapping someone in the face then says "i'm sorry i will not do that again", then slaps you again. i'm confused on what to do. i love her for one but i don't think i can keep up with such a relationship like this forever. i will talk to her when it is time. thanks yang!Originally posted by yang79:Perhaps you should talk to your galfriend Andy_1973. If she does not know you feel this way, it might not even cross her mind that it's vexing you so much.
On the other hand ... if she knows yet refuses to do anything about it .... I suggest you dump her frumpy ass. 10 mins of her time is definitely not too much to ask!
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i think this is one difference between man and woman. it seems we are not so vocal with our feelings. if i became so vocal about my feelings then she responds by saying i'm not understanding. very ironic. what have i gotten myself into? anyways i hope i can iron out this mess.Originally posted by puppylove:I did make an effort to still spend time with him though, hmm.. guess sometimes things just dun go the way they should.. ironically, why i became so hardworking was becos of him, cos i also wanna work towards our family in the future but then again, we drifted becos of that..
Aniwae, if your girlfriend is neglecting you, maybe you should talk to her before wanting to end the relationship cos i think my ex didn do that, that's why the breakup was like hangin in the air... sometimes also mus see whether her job allows her to have time to msg you, if her job has some irritating boss watching over her all the time to make sure she does her job well, she can't msg you rite? so it isn't really her fault also... it's best to talk it out first, get some mutual agreement, plan something, don just let go of a relationship like that, one has to try first before giving up wat -
But as long as u really like the person, u sure wun mind do a lot of things for her wat...
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hmm... then is her fault liao loh.. she must at least make an effort wat. "yi ge ba zhang pai bu xiang" if she doesn put in the effort in keeping up the relationship, then it is pointless holding on loh
if the problem keeps on goin even after talking to her, then better it's to leave her liao loh... but must sort out things first loh, dun leave it hanging -
hmm... then is her fault liao loh.. she must at least make an effort wat. "yi ge ba zhang pai bu xiang" if she doesn put in the effort in keeping up the relationship, then it is pointless holding on loh
if the problem keeps on goin even after talking to her, then better it's to leave her liao loh... but must sort out things first loh, dun leave it hanging -
love can only grow if both parties are willing to do certain things for each other.. cannot alway one give one take one loh..Originally posted by RebeL:But as long as u really like the person, u sure wun mind do a lot of things for her wat... -
distance.Originally posted by puppylove:as for Soon Keong, wat did you do when u and ur gf drifted during promos?
we do not really hav much time seeing eachother both becoz of the distance we are apart from and the exam she is preparing for.
relationships are liddat, once we losen abit, the other party may thought we are ignoring them =( -
What kinda promotions are you working on...? Is it that important...? What line are you currently in...? What kinda exams are you taking...?Originally posted by puppylove:I did make an effort to still spend time with him though, hmm.. guess sometimes things just dun go the way they should.. ironically, why i became so hardworking was becos of him, cos i also wanna work towards our family in the future but then again, we drifted becos of that..
Aniwae, if your girlfriend is neglecting you, maybe you should talk to her before wanting to end the relationship cos i think my ex didn do that, that's why the breakup was like hangin in the air... sometimes also mus see whether her job allows her to have time to msg you, if her job has some irritating boss watching over her all the time to make sure she does her job well, she can't msg you rite? so it isn't really her fault also... it's best to talk it out first, get some mutual agreement, plan something, don just let go of a relationship like that, one has to try first before giving up wat -
i was preparin for my promotional exams, for JC1 to promote to JC2.. it's important, not nice to retain loh.
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I see... Yup... An important thing in Life....Originally posted by puppylove:i was preparin for my promotional exams, for JC1 to promote to JC2.. it's important, not nice to retain loh.
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hai~ he rejected me.. say the problem not with me, but is with his feelings.. feel so sad leh.. even though pass quite long liao, why always i hen xin zhen yi fu chu.. come out still like that.. it's as though those that put in all their heart to love someone will end up heartbroken.. hao ren nan dang ah..
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3 words : FORGET HIM lah.Originally posted by puppylove:hai~ he rejected me.. say the problem not with me, but is with his feelings.. feel so sad leh.. even though pass quite long liao, why always i hen xin zhen yi fu chu.. come out still like that.. it's as though those that put in all their heart to love someone will end up heartbroken.. hao ren nan dang ah.. -
if it was so EASY, i also no need advice liao rite
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I never say it would be easy.Originally posted by puppylove:if it was so EASY, i also no need advice liao rite
Slowly lah, there are lotsa other interesting people out there waiting for you to meet. -
yeah baby yeah....Originally posted by xavier1979:I never say it would be easy.
Slowly lah, there are lotsa other interesting people out there waiting for you to meet. -
haha.. hope so
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time will heal you as time itself tested the love between u 2..
think from the positive side, u r still lucky, in a sense.
it's better u take the bitter pill now n recover early rather than u 2 get married later then he say.. "i'm confused?"
love is not abt feeling.. love is abt commitment!
feeling is as easy as u r happy today and glommy tomorrow.
ask urself: what do u like abt him? n what if all u like from him are gone? will u still "love" him?
guess that he left u becoz of his feeling had changed tells that ur relship is not strong enuf. everybody needs attention, but everybody also needs to go on his/her life. dun blame urself too much, look at the bright side, u know more abt a man's character which lead u to be a wiser person in ur next love life... -
Guess the best thing to do now is to wait and c hows ur academic results and at the same time wait for opportunities to get him back if u do love him alot.
He is the type of man who needs love all the time instead of u giving ur fullest love at one go. If you give your best in one shot, u yourslef would also be tired and thats not gd for a relationship. Keep in contact with him consistantly, thats e impt part.
Though i agree that exams more impt, to maintain a healthy relationship during exams is to acc him when he is free or in need of u mayb once a week, find a few gd solid hours together. Rest of the time, keep him in contact thru sms and few short phone calls to show that you care. Send cards (online) if u can afford some little time during rest or when u can come online to post these msgs. They might help...
Else, as adviced as others b4 me, forget him if he does not deserve ur love. Let nature takes its course...