What shld i do now?
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since she is available then go for it.. of course u dun jz walk up to her n say without any actiions prior... jz go date her out n know her more b4 commit.. tink its her looks rather than u reali know her...Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:Few months back, I developed a fondness for someone I shldnt have. Before she is already happily attached. Its been few mths since I started to have feelings for her. i didnt tell her in the begining its because of my inferiority complex. Her boyfriend is my good friend.
Its been a very long time since I had those feelings. Is it love or is it just infatuation? Or isit just that I need someone to hug me and put her arms arnd my neck and whispered 'I love u' in my ear to make me feel loved.make me feel wanted?? Am I really ready for a relationship with her?? I myself donÂ’t even know the answer to these qns.
I love her for who she is, not wad she can give me. I donÂ’t care bout her past. When I look in her glistening eyes, i can see a tint of sadness among the happiness in her beyond the happiness is a little girl lost and suffering the constant torture of trying to balance bf, studies and parents itÂ’s a very important year for her this yr. I love her bright and cheerful character. I think of her everyday. I would be happy even if she just called or msg me. But I am very afraid to make my feelings known to her, cause my past experiences keep haunting me the fear and the agony of rejection again is really to much for me to take furthermore my already plummeting confidence in myself keeps hindering me. Many people like her, I donÂ’t think I will even stand a chance if i confess to her, yea who would like to be seen with a fat and ugly bf
But now she and her boyfriend just broke up. The feelings i have for her is still there. Its been 8 months since i liked her. I tried to bury myself in my work to distract my thoughts but it doesnt work. What shld i do? Should i just wait for her to get over her ex and confess or shld i just keep those feelings to myself.
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Goodlooking guys have an advantage but that advantage can only last that long.
If u are lucky,hope that she have come across tons of SAME boring GOODLOOKING GUYS and it become easy for u if u have the great persoanlity and charms[charms is not look,it's personality]
Just like sharkfin and birdnest are good but hving them EVERYDAY makes u wanna go for something different[meepok acorss the road would be good,beanpast in my neighbouring bakery is good too]
Humans are the same. -
Two choices :Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:Few months back, I developed a fondness for someone I shldnt have. Before she is already happily attached. Its been few mths since I started to have feelings for her. i didnt tell her in the begining its because of my inferiority complex. Her boyfriend is my good friend.
Its been a very long time since I had those feelings. Is it love or is it just infatuation? Or isit just that I need someone to hug me and put her arms arnd my neck and whispered 'I love u' in my ear to make me feel loved.make me feel wanted?? Am I really ready for a relationship with her?? I myself donÂ’t even know the answer to these qns.
I love her for who she is, not wad she can give me. I donÂ’t care bout her past. When I look in her glistening eyes, i can see a tint of sadness among the happiness in her beyond the happiness is a little girl lost and suffering the constant torture of trying to balance bf, studies and parents itÂ’s a very important year for her this yr. I love her bright and cheerful character. I think of her everyday. I would be happy even if she just called or msg me. But I am very afraid to make my feelings known to her, cause my past experiences keep haunting me the fear and the agony of rejection again is really to much for me to take furthermore my already plummeting confidence in myself keeps hindering me. Many people like her, I donÂ’t think I will even stand a chance if i confess to her, yea who would like to be seen with a fat and ugly bf
But now she and her boyfriend just broke up. The feelings i have for her is still there. Its been 8 months since i liked her. I tried to bury myself in my work to distract my thoughts but it doesnt work. What shld i do? Should i just wait for her to get over her ex and confess or shld i just keep those feelings to myself.
I am at a loss.
1) Be a man and confess that you like her later. After she slowly recover from her break up.
2) Or just forget about it. Lament and regret for the rest of your life.
Your choice
Ps: Learn not be attached to the outcome and just do it! -
Someone is always somebody's ex...
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just a curious question
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after doing so much i bet he would have found someone even better!!!Originally posted by Uncertain:U fat and ugly hor... what can i say? I am below average looking (in my opinion) and a bit fat (but got quite a muscular build)... i got rejected 4 times consecutively (i think sgforum frequent visitors know like de_middle).
My advice to u:
Make sure u like her in the first place... do some soul searching...
If u really like her, then KEEP IN CONTACT WITH HER. Never confess NOW...
U think u fat... then go exercise. Got $$$ go slimming centre.
U think u ugly... go skin centre c can help a not (Unless your face deformed.. then i have nothing to say). At the very least, look decent.
Next earn a lot of $$$, go upgrade yourself and have a good career....
Once all these is done, then u are really to confess... if kena rejected is ok at least u improve on ur look... Better look and Earning power give urself more doors to r/s.
Guy likes pretty girls
Girl also like handsome guys
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how many chicks have you laid? doun't come here and talk c0ck!! what 1st meeting, 2nd and so on..Originally posted by boka:What others hve posted are bullshyt no matter how convincing it sounds to u.
It's bullsyt.
The secret to a better chance is to let yor PERSONALITY SHINE during this time.
Say if she is pretty,then she will probaly have tons of guys who go gaga over her and desperate to be her toy boy.
She is probaly sick and tired of guys who display such attitude.
And if u think your chance to being with her is to be one of these guys then u are so wrong.
If u are to become like guys whom she previously rejected then your probaly going to join her list of "rejected"
Why?
Because gals know when a guy is desperate,they can sense it and as pretty like she is,she know and have come across tons of guy like this who are all the same and she knows that she can reject guys like these all she wants
However,when a pretty gal come across a guy who is inifferent to her and not acting liek the usual guy,she will question herself and start asking herself questions like "why isn't he looking at me like the other guys","is he gay"?
THat is what the same feelign which they feel when u constantly think of a gal u like[what she is doing,what does she likes...etc]
Of course pls dress well and have a GOOD SENSE OR HUMOR IN A COCKY WAY.[this is VERY important]
Eg:when u guys exit from the movie late at night,dun offer to send her home until your 4th meeting.
even until your 4th meeting,offer your kindness to send her home but say it like this "It's late and i would like to send u home but i don't do charity so u gotta earn it[get her to treat u lunch/dinner or supper ON ANOTHER DAY]
This create another opportunity for u.
If she say she can go home herself,be firm and do not let her look thro your dissapointment,end it with a cocky line "dun attract any molestor"
The main thing is to NEVER EVER make yurself look desperate to the gal.
Humour in a cocky way is a GOD ingrident to making gals do the job of wanting to meet u up.
Good luck.
Be fun and relax,just enjoy. -
If u think the convention way of NICE GUY works then your a total loser who keeps repeating failure methods.Originally posted by Saltiga:how many chicks have you laid? doun't come here and talk c0ck!! what 1st meeting, 2nd and so on..
If u make your feeligns or advances known too EARLY then your at a losing end.
Once the gal knows your intrest in her,she'll act all high and that puts her in a control. -
I have this feeling to most gal that i know and most of them got bf already... so im pretty sure its only infatutation.. haiyo,, u let love thing be a problem in your life.. sigh...Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:Few months back, I developed a fondness for someone I shldnt have. Before she is already happily attached. Its been few mths since I started to have feelings for her. i didnt tell her in the begining its because of my inferiority complex. Her boyfriend is my good friend.
Its been a very long time since I had those feelings. Is it love or is it just infatuation? Or isit just that I need someone to hug me and put her arms arnd my neck and whispered 'I love u' in my ear to make me feel loved.make me feel wanted?? Am I really ready for a relationship with her?? I myself donÂ’t even know the answer to these qns.
I love her for who she is, not wad she can give me. I donÂ’t care bout her past. When I look in her glistening eyes, i can see a tint of sadness among the happiness in her beyond the happiness is a little girl lost and suffering the constant torture of trying to balance bf, studies and parents itÂ’s a very important year for her this yr. I love her bright and cheerful character. I think of her everyday. I would be happy even if she just called or msg me. But I am very afraid to make my feelings known to her, cause my past experiences keep haunting me the fear and the agony of rejection again is really to much for me to take furthermore my already plummeting confidence in myself keeps hindering me. Many people like her, I donÂ’t think I will even stand a chance if i confess to her, yea who would like to be seen with a fat and ugly bf
But now she and her boyfriend just broke up. The feelings i have for her is still there. Its been 8 months since i liked her. I tried to bury myself in my work to distract my thoughts but it doesnt work. What shld i do? Should i just wait for her to get over her ex and confess or shld i just keep those feelings to myself.
I am at a loss. -
jia you horOriginally posted by Uncertain:so so ba... but in accountancy just transferred
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looks are the first thing people see.Originally posted by snowstar:From what i know most girls dun really go for looks. Its the confidence, character, persoanlity and chemistry that we go for. I know there are some black sheep that go for money. -
she and her bf.Originally posted by Guardx:just a curious question
Why did she break up with her bf?
always quarrel.
then both of them very stubbon.
wnt give in.
she is sick of quarreling with him liao.
for 8 mth.
they can like quarrel for like 5 days in a row. -
FYI love is not the only prob is my life.Originally posted by Zarks:I have this feeling to most gal that i know and most of them got bf already... so im pretty sure its only infatutation.. haiyo,, u let love thing be a problem in your life.. sigh...
i have other probs too.
but love is one of the major reason y i am having other probs.
i dont think its inflatuation.
cos its been going on for very long. -
Thanks to all.
who replied to my thread.
but she and her bf patch up.
so i guess i will just have to wait longer. -
ya.Originally posted by caleb_chiang:Someone is always somebody's ex...
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I know, i know, the only chick he laid was Kentucky Fried Chick.Originally posted by Saltiga:how many chicks have you laid? doun't come here and talk c0ck!! what 1st meeting, 2nd and so on.. -
Ya, wait for durian to drop ya.Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:Thanks to all.
who replied to my thread.
but she and her bf patch up.
so i guess i will just have to wait longer. -
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ya.Originally posted by angel7030:Ya, wait for durian to drop ya.
i will.
thanks for ur comments.
i deeply appreciate u taking ur time to post that comment.
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Haiz... if u can look for other girl, spare yourself the agony...Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:ya.
i will.
thanks for ur comments.
i deeply appreciate u taking ur time to post that comment.
i am so touch.
Friend's gf better dun touch, unless u dun want this friend...
Somemore the girl like your friend not you, otherwise she won't patch up..
U stand no chance... this is the cruel fact... just accept it and move on
Go upgrade yourself.. may ur destined one meet u one day...
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Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:Thanks to all.
who replied to my thread.
but she and her bf patch up.
so i guess i will just have to wait longer.
When she is attached - You did nothing.
When she has broken up - You did nothing.
When she has patched back - You still decided upon nothing.
And I can tell you that eventually you will still do nothing.
Or when you have decided to do something - it's probably too late to bring about any effect.
*** I don't see how an aimless wait could elevate you to the next level, especially when it isn't calculated.
In love, waiting is often 'abused' as a convenient excuse by people to dwell in a melancholic one-sided love affair that will amount to nothing at the end of the day. You felt that you had to wait in the 'queue' or the 'right timing' before miracle might happen, but I can tell you that fate, unlike Pizza Hut, hardly deliver your request right to your door step.
Without viable strategy; it's either you know about your failure now, or you halt the revelation on a later date. But surely, it's just delaying the inevitable.
Miracles, very often, are only screen in movies. Reality are usually very much harsh.
I remembered a few occasions when I spoke to my jie meis and they did lament about how seemingly impossible for guys to remain platonic with them. Pretty much above-average looking, all of them explained that whenever the situation is such that she gets emotionally close to a guy, he will end up falling in love with her.
That's why I always believe that most guys cannot handle pretty girls. Either sex gets in the way or they end up screwing what they begin with.
*** If you are not planning to do anything other just waiting, you are seriously better off looking for greener pasture elsewhere.
This is not about being logical, but rather - more about being enlightened. If your esteem cannot handle rejection, failures and all sort of negativity that fear has corrupted your mindset, then forget about love altogether. Albeit love bestow great strength, simultaneously, it will revealed our vulnerability. In love, you cannot desire great strength and reject showing your vulnerability - it's impossible.
It's not about what you should do; it's about what you want to do.
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My dear angelic is really pretty ler...she only telling jokes here.. dun mind her la..Originally posted by Uncertain:u pretty arh.... stop joking please... u think u are pretty
People may not think likewise... at least for me u are not pretty. Y? u should encourage TS to upgrade himself instead of being who he is. And who say ugly people must find ugly partners?
Who say pretty girl must be hard to please... if u got the charm and all she will be all urs but in return u must be good to her too... i bet for the exception..
ugly for me is ok as long as i look decent and with power and money, i doubt i will never meet a pretty girl who loves me... -
lol i still think its infatuation.. ok tell me , what did you both do together ? meet everday? share everything? treat u on bday ?Originally posted by Nobunaga Oda:FYI love is not the only prob is my life.
i have other probs too.
but love is one of the major reason y i am having other probs.
i dont think its inflatuation.
cos its been going on for very long.
Cmon... some gals treated me better than their bf.. but still its very normal as a friend.. jsut think that gal as a guy,, your best guy friends.. she will still do the same too.
i dont know you la but i still think its the biggest problem in your life cuz u just dun know how to give up and hoping for something useless and wont be happening.. -
just give up man,, you dont seem to see the reality yet.
Having a "never-give-up" attitude is good but its always depends and you must know when to give up.. sigh...
if you insist to stay, then do watever u want. but hope you dont fall too deep for her , if not you will hurt more if u know the reality -
it depends on u lor..
to me.. if the guy i like is in despair due to a lost love, i will leave him alone, coz i dun wana take advantage of the situation...bcos to me, it's something despicable.