Just feel the need to let this out..
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hahaha that was funny.. the stupid thing is i don't hate him that much yet.. not over it yet maybe.. i think all my friends wanna slap me when i said that heh..Originally posted by boredtulan:
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true in a sense.. it depends on the people ba.. i seldom click with girls lol.. tho i have close gal pals.. took a one week break from uni.. when i was with him, i guess i put in too much.. so i kinda isolate from everyone but him? stupid stupid stupid..Originally posted by Zarks:My 6th sense telling me you are a person who talks much 1 to 1 but talks less in a group and little shy in group. Just go out with more groups often and u'll get better... everything nees practice no matter how easy it seems
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Your ex is a bastard!People want a girlfriend also cannot have.
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its normal when u in love de la... no matter how ppl treat u bad, sometimes bcuz of love , u dun really hate that guy,, BUT.. over means over.. and he did his mistake..
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haha and here i think that love is about feeling.. of cos must be rational too.. quite interesting how one of my greatest comfort comes from talking to his ex.. or make that ex exOriginally posted by Zarks:its normal when u in love de la... no matter how ppl treat u bad, sometimes bcuz of love , u dun really hate that guy,, BUT.. over means over.. and he did his mistake..
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hey gal, it's sad when ppl drift apart after so long, but sometimes that's what happens,Originally posted by tinuviel07:haha and here i think that love is about feeling.. of cos must be rational too.. quite interesting how one of my greatest comfort comes from talking to his ex.. or make that ex ex
whether you hate him or not, try to not think abt that too much, take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship then move on to rebuilding your life, call out old friends, make some new ones.... slowly you'll realise that u think of him and the past less and less... -
Well, SGX dudeOriginally posted by sgx088:I will testify as to the integrity of Zarks character as well
Anyway, I found myself in a similar position as you did very recently. However, I have already let go - what you're holding on to are memories; just like I did. Because it was so sudden and unexpected, you're just holding on to the last immediate impression of your partner - memories.
I am still sad you know, when I think about all the memories - but I have let go completely; I don't harbour any more feelings for her because I have come to terms with the fact she has changed, and she is no longer the person I knew or loved, and most importantly, she will never go back to being that way. Of course I came to these conclusions not blindly, but after finding out alot of hidden things from her friends. Even if she does want to come back to me, I doubt I could get over my insecurity of her just abandoning me like that - I'm human too you know.
Also, I definitely do not blame myself anymore; after talking with alot of mutual friends (that is friends of my ex), I realise I was not at fault although I initially thought it was (and especially the way she played it out - that it was my fault). Just like starting a relationship, the demise of one takes two hands to clap - regardless what your ex said or did, it's not JUST your fault. In any case, no point playing the blame game when the past cannot be brought back. What is important is that you move on too.
To be honest, the best way to move on is to let yourself know how in demand you are. I've been hitting on girl after girl - I mean, not leading anywhere but the favourable responses makes me feel much better in that I realise that my ex is not the only good girl out there, and I can definitely find better.
Again, no doubt the memories will come back to haunt you as it still does me - that's only because the break up was so fast, sudden and unexpected - it's only natural you cling on to your last impression of your ex; or at least the lasting one.
The best that I can do, as many of the other forumers have done for me, as a stranger hiding behind a moniker, is to offer you comfort whenever you feel down or when the memories come back. You will feel alot better just typing and seeking reassurance from others. I know what it's like not being able to turn to anyone else; so don't be ashamed to turn to us - there's nothing to be embarassed about because we're all strangers hiding behind a nickname.
All the best
the only way to get your ex back is to make sure you are as rich as Warren Buffet. Then it may be very possible to get her back. Whether or not she really loves you because of you wealth is another thing though.
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It is not a matter of dun have gf, it matter of too choosy, some guys realli lack of passion for love, do not know how to treat a gal and also alway think of sex before love in an ungentlemen way.Originally posted by assfer:Your ex is a bastard!People want a girlfriend also cannot have. -
dont woli la... im still hereOriginally posted by angel7030:It is not a matter of dun have gf, it matter of too choosy, some guys realli lack of passion for love, do not know how to treat a gal and also alway think of sex before love in an ungentlemen way. -
OopsOriginally posted by Zarks:dont woli la... im still here
bf here liao..sori, I keep quiet and be guai guai. -
yah some guys or most guys are just on a different frequency compared to girls wrt love..Originally posted by angel7030:It is not a matter of dun have gf, it matter of too choosy, some guys realli lack of passion for love, do not know how to treat a gal and also alway think of sex before love in an ungentlemen way. -
TS, you have juz met 1 type of guy. There are still alot of fishes in the sea. Take your time to find the breed that really suits you (in the right, healthy manner of coz).
It is never easy for a girl to forget the hurt inflicted by someone she once loved so much. It is all about the mentality, how you psycho yourself to get over him..
PS: Did I mention that fishing is fun?
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hahah yeah.. i wanna go fishing.. but no timeOriginally posted by Nata|ie:TS, you have juz met 1 type of guy. There are still alot of fishes in the sea. Take your time to find the breed that really suits you (in the right, healthy manner of coz).
It is never easy for a girl to forget the hurt inflicted by someone she once loved so much. It is all about the mentality, how you psycho yourself to get over him..
PS: Did I mention that fishing is fun?
and uni.. ahem.. a bit no good fish..