I really cannot comprehend her
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This is the first woman i truly felt for at my age. Although this is not my first time having an infatuation on a woman, it was the first time i felt that i truly liked someone.
I never had experience with this kind of things, and now i am a little confused.
There's this girl whom i met in SIM. We are doing the same BA and currently is in the same class for 3 semester straight already.
At first i didnt notice her, until i she needed help with her work and i happened to be the one nearest to her. Our chats started gradually, and its usually online chatting at first. From just normal friendly chats to teasing each other and playing yahoo games together. We can spend up to 4/5 hours playing games during weekend nights, and although sometimes minimal conversation was exchanged, i liked the company.
One thing i really could not comprehend was, our person to person interaction was rather not "normal".
She would not look into my eyes when we speak. Sometime when she past by me, she would give me a quick glance and then walk away. When we have conversations, she would always end it with, "OK...." "whatever...." etc etc...
I gave her flowers before, she sms-ed me immediately and told me she love it and even took pictures of it and showed me on msn. I bought her gifts when i saw some small nice items which i felt she might like and she liked those too.
She would sms me things like "Hey i am bored..." and things as such.
Even though we are in the same room, we would not speak to each other sometimes.
I am a very quiet person and i could say i am pretty introverted. I dont know if she finds it weird because, sometimes when i was sitting at the cafeteria alone, when she walks past with one of her good friend in sch, both of them would say "Hi" to me, but laugh as though i've got something stuck on my face or something is wrong with me.
Recently i just found out that a guy in class for a crush on her too.
Coz once when i was walking with her to the train station (which is real seldom), she say her friend and her friend mention the guy's name and gave a cheeky smile.
The guy always sits near to her and chats alot with her.
Alright i've got to admit, that guy is a really extroverted guy and strikes up conversation very easily.
I felt that i've lost, or i would soon.
I want to go further and would be willing to open myself up more and do things like that, but i just cant comprehend her...
Hope the people here can give their views... thanks -
strike and u have a chance of winning.
Give up and u have no chance of winning.
Just do it - Nike. -
this guy is the catalyst which would speed up your decision. go for it if you feel threatened by this guy's presence. lose her and you only have yourself to blame.
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it is like.... the girl can communicate, talk and laughs better with the other guy... buy why seems like, a little of avoiding me..
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Cannot comprehend .. i thought her aweness.. her beauty..
Look her in the eyes are tell her that even Helen of Troy.. pales in comparison to her.
its time to pour it out and say all cheesy lines.. do things all guys will think that is 'gay'.. but who cares.. in the end u get the girl you WANT. =P
Time to get close to her n sabo the guy. Whoever is close enough n gets her trust will win the game! -
Since u have feeling for her:
Then i prepare a plot for u for free this time:
Since u gave her small gift before, then this time round also give her gift but with a small card attached to it.
First thing is the gift must be cute, not those Heart-shaped kind of gift. There is a likelihood u may freak out her before u get to confess.
The small card should contains something romantic like:
"I hope this is not the last gift that i am going to give you"
"But rather the first gift of our anniversary"
If she cannot get it = u are rejected
If she smile, smile at u = Good for u
Strike the iron when it is hot
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yeah.......Are actions like that weird?
talk alot on msn but in person.. minimal.. -
can u play guitar? i composed a song for you to use.
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Well don't sleep with other guys... that doesn't usually help... just ask her on a date, get her alone so you can talk properly, let her get to know you and be nice & yourself and hopefully the rest'll come... if it doesn't, well, fuck em, shit happens.Originally posted by BadzMaro:its time to pour it out and say all cheesy lines.. do things all guys will think that is 'gay'.. but who cares.. in the end u get the girl you WANT. =P -
LOL don't say 'gay' things like that Helen of Troy bullshit! Just ask her out to dinner and work your way from there. If you have trouble doing it face to face then call her or something. Using cheesy lines is one of the quickest ways to lose a girl.Originally posted by BadzMaro:Cannot comprehend .. i thought her aweness.. her beauty..
Look her in the eyes are tell her that even Helen of Troy.. pales in comparison to her.
its time to pour it out and say all cheesy lines.. do things all guys will think that is 'gay'.. but who cares.. in the end u get the girl you WANT. =P
Time to get close to her n sabo the guy. Whoever is close enough n gets her trust will win the game! -
i've asked her out once before, but she said she got something on... i will try again, try to make up something so she can't really say no...
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Don't lie about it just ask her out and if she says she's busy ask her if she's free on a different day or ask her when she's able to go out.Originally posted by Desemi1981:i've asked her out once before, but she said she got something on... i will try again, try to make up something so she can't really say no... -
you better act fast. i think she hinting you by mentioning the guy?
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Ok... so that is how it is... thanks alot...the other guy is a headache...Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:Don't lie about it just ask her out and if she says she's busy ask her if she's free on a different day or ask her when she's able to go out. -
Agree with Jondizzle! Work yr way in dinner with her. Have a good meal with great ambience. After that have a nice troll to somewhere nice and quiet to have some heart to heart chat. Some casual talk also can. Try to make it late, get the opportunity and die die escort her til doorstep!Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:LOL don't say 'gay' things like that Helen of Troy bullshit! Just ask her out to dinner and work your way from there. If you have trouble doing it face to face then call her or something. Using cheesy lines is one of the quickest ways to lose a girl.
Plan yr venue of dinner well, it is the first real intention of u dating her. Give her a fresh and special feeling. First impression counts,must do yr best wo.. -
If you still can't get her to go out with you you really have to start interacting with her in person. You're going to have to sooner or later and sooner is always better.Originally posted by Desemi1981:Ok... so that is how it is... thanks alot...the other guy is a headache... -
Seriously.. she will laugh one.. or stunned. Depends on girls also la.. but i would think that , its a nice way to get the conversation going on. Start it with a laughter to ease the mood and tension if there is any tension la. U know , then slow worm ur way in.Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:LOL don't say 'gay' things like that Helen of Troy bullshit! Just ask her out to dinner and work your way from there. If you have trouble doing it face to face then call her or something. Using cheesy lines is one of the quickest ways to lose a girl.
Eh trust me.. its like crying guys get the chicks . U guys can laugh and say its so gay.. but girls get touched n give them a second chance. Eh i know lots of cases like this. I mean personally i have never cried for a girl.. or cried to be taken back... but just telling u it works.
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lol u sure? coz i have friends who've tried it. the girl acted sincere but later said to her friends something along the lines of "omg u wouldn't believe what he said to me.......hahahah i mean wtf thats so lame"Originally posted by BadzMaro:Seriously.. she will laugh one.. or stunned. Depends on girls also la.. but i would think that , its a nice way to get the conversation going on. Start it with a laughter to ease the mood and tension if there is any tension la. U know , then slow worm ur way in.
Eh trust me.. its like crying guys get the chicks . U guys can laugh and say its so gay.. but girls get touched n give them a second chance. Eh i know lots of cases like this. I mean personally i have never cried for a girl.. or cried to be taken back... but just telling u it works.
I guess it depends on the execution and the girl but I think it's better to play it safe. -
BA? Business Adminstration from RMIT ah? SIM? Now sem 5 liao right? Exam coming soon, jia you ah.Originally posted by Desemi1981:This is the first woman i truly felt for at my age. Although this is not my first time having an infatuation on a woman, it was the first time i felt that i truly liked someone.
I never had experience with this kind of things, and now i am a little confused.
There's this girl whom i met in SIM. We are doing the same BA and currently is in the same class for 3 semester straight already.
At first i didnt notice her, until i she needed help with her work and i happened to be the one nearest to her. Our chats started gradually, and its usually online chatting at first. From just normal friendly chats to teasing each other and playing yahoo games together. We can spend up to 4/5 hours playing games during weekend nights, and although sometimes minimal conversation was exchanged, i liked the company.
One thing i really could not comprehend was, our person to person interaction was rather not "normal".
She would not look into my eyes when we speak. Sometime when she past by me, she would give me a quick glance and then walk away. When we have conversations, she would always end it with, "OK...." "whatever...." etc etc...
I gave her flowers before, she sms-ed me immediately and told me she love it and even took pictures of it and showed me on msn. I bought her gifts when i saw some small nice items which i felt she might like and she liked those too.
She would sms me things like "Hey i am bored..." and things as such.
Even though we are in the same room, we would not speak to each other sometimes.
I am a very quiet person and i could say i am pretty introverted. I dont know if she finds it weird because, sometimes when i was sitting at the cafeteria alone, when she walks past with one of her good friend in sch, both of them would say "Hi" to me, but laugh as though i've got something stuck on my face or something is wrong with me.
Recently i just found out that a guy in class for a crush on her too.
Coz once when i was walking with her to the train station (which is real seldom), she say her friend and her friend mention the guy's name and gave a cheeky smile.
The guy always sits near to her and chats alot with her.
Alright i've got to admit, that guy is a really extroverted guy and strikes up conversation very easily.
I felt that i've lost, or i would soon.
I want to go further and would be willing to open myself up more and do things like that, but i just cant comprehend her...
Hope the people here can give their views... thanks
Anyway, just to inform u, its normal nowadays about what u termed "abnormal" in terms of person to person interaction. There's this gal I like, we can chat everything and anything under the sun on MSN. But when come to class time, we both can don't speak to each other for hours. Blame it on technology la. It allows people 2 communicate easier online but retard our human-to-human interaction.
From what I see, u are soon falling into her category of "friends" if u don't admit to her how u feel. Girls can sms anyone and tell them "I'm bored". Not necessarily to people they like ONLY. And judging from her friend's reaction towards u, i dare say she and her friends suspect that u like her already. If she never hint u anything to indicate that she don't like u, then u stand a chance.
You have not even gone to war yet, and all u can say is u think u are going to lose? Then indeed u are gonna lose. Because the fact is, it has nothing to do with being introvert or extrovert, its all about sincerity towards the girl. If u make the girl feel ur sincerity, feel that u really love her, ur character/personality would not be the main factor anymore. Don't let this thing drag on. Tell her how u feel, and see how it goes. Get an answer so that both of u can move on. If u having exam soon, then wait until after exam k? Gd luck!! -
Let TS try to make her dream gal developed some feeling for him first... Early confession or at the wrong time will the kill the joy of courtship. Once confess they is no turning back!Originally posted by nanren4ever:BA? Business Adminstration from RMIT ah? SIM? Now sem 5 liao right? Exam coming soon, jia you ah.
Anyway, just to inform u, its normal nowadays about what u termed "abnormal" in terms of person to person interaction. There's this gal I like, we can chat everything and anything under the sun on MSN. But when come to class time, we both can don't speak to each other for hours. Blame it on technology la. It allows people 2 communicate easier online but retard our human-to-human interaction.
From what I see, u are soon falling into her category of "friends" if u don't admit to her how u feel. Girls can sms anyone and tell them "I'm bored". Not necessarily to people they like ONLY. And judging from her friend's reaction towards u, i dare say she and her friends suspect that u like her already. If she never hint u anything to indicate that she don't like u, then u stand a chance.
You have not even gone to war yet, and all u can say is u think u are going to lose? Then indeed u are gonna lose. Because the fact is, it has nothing to do with being introvert or extrovert, its all about sincerity towards the girl. If u make the girl feel ur sincerity, feel that u really love her, ur character/personality would not be the main factor anymore. Don't let this thing drag on. Tell her how u feel, and see how it goes. Get an answer so that both of u can move on. If u having exam soon, then wait until after exam k? Gd luck!!
TS,u just cannot continue the usual normal routine with her anymore. U need to take action since a guy is hot on yr heeds. U need to take yr friendship with her to a next higher lvl. But at te same time, don't flung yr exam... -
I think she is a little interested in you but she is not ready to commit. Too bad lor, you just have to wait and see...Originally posted by Desemi1981:Hope the people here can give their views... thanks
some guys will, if she gives them half a chance, like what she is giving you, will seduce her and she ends up in bed with them and then whether she likes it or not, she will be stuck with them.
so if I were you, I will move very fast (as fast as possible, not desperately fast) since you say you like her a lot. -
My view: Just a friend
Online and RL are totally different
due to the lack of
face-to-face factor
do it.
or
4get it
ajiytou
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if u like her then give ur best... improve ur social skills... date her out more... dun talk so much online... if u cant impress/strike chemistry wif her face2face u sure lose... u wan it, go get it...
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Pls forget her...she is just patronising you, like many girls out there. And by the way, do move on to another girl.Originally posted by Desemi1981:i've asked her out once before, but she said she got something on... i will try again, try to make up something so she can't really say no...
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agree.Originally posted by dokono:Pls forget her...she is just patronising you, like many girls out there.
doko