Cheating Girlfriend
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say good bye to her liao.
why the hell you're bothering. -
Impure breed.Originally posted by andrewtvp:my gf has been in her new job for 2 months now. and i suspect she is having an affair and cheating behind my back.
history: we have known each other for 2years+ and have been together for 1yr+. she started in this new job for 2months already and i started noticing that she has sorta been distancing in the things we talk about and in the schedule of her daily life. so for the past 2 months i trusted her and spent time with her as usual. there was a period of 2weeks where i was super busy and couldnt meet up with her, she didnt even call OR sms me unless i initiated it. i felt we were drifting apart.
she had a history of lying to me about things previous, small matters, white lies in her own words.
but yesterday i guessed her email password and managed to get in.
she has been having a private correspondence with a guy in office, chatting over email, 100s a day.
as i started prying deeper.
they had sex on many ocassions. (i recalled and on those days she said she was tired and slept as early as 9pm)
their conversations were explicit. detailed.
he asked her if they were dating. she said yes. (inside i was hurting)
they flirted with each other. courted each other. called each other nick names. stole kisses and groped each other when no colleages were around.
my god i was hurt. and am still hurting so bad.
i felt i needed to confront them. but am afraid of losing this relationship...
how should i go about this??
depressed.distressed.dejected.
the hardest part is to hold a forced smile when i see her. sigh.
we had plans to get married next year. we had so many plans. but she couldnt even resist this simple temptation. while i have been holding on ever SO staunchly to this rs. sigh. he was in the right place. at the right time. i guess that was stronger than the 2years of bond we have built.
many times she said he was just a colleague, one that gives her a lift to work everyday. i cant. cos i live too far. on the other end of the island.
he sends her home everyday too. sometimes they head to the beach afterwork. sometimes they go back to their place. and coincidentally her last sms to me would be "fone low bat, ttyl!".
and the emails on the next day would be full of explicit details. which i shall spare you guys of.
we had promised each other to a monogamous relationship. but now that i cant even believe her words, what is there left?
please help me salvage us...
Stay away from such kinds. -
Break up with her la... She betrayed you.
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i dun mind impureOriginally posted by boka:Impure breed.
Stay away from such kinds.
i mind unfaithful
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should u want to feel good then continue being with her,marry her and one day when your children are grown up,expose your facade.
Tell them that mom was a whore and had affairs.
revenge is like wine.
They sweeten with age. -
she even have sex wif the guy arh? and u still wnana hold on arh? let me ask u , are you a man? BE A MAN LA , break up la , such a wh0re u also wan hold on , wah lao dun throw guys face leh , there are so many other good girls in the world waiting for you to chase them la , why bother about such girl? relationship is a kind of test to find your mr and miss right mah , not exactly your first relationship is your miss right liao mah , keep going and move on la! you can do it. just do it.
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omg she already cheated behide your back... and already had sex with that guy why you still want to hang on? time to break up with her... she is not worth your time any more... BUT b4 you break up with her.. screw her first... get what you did not get... and shoot inside her... when her stomach grow bigger... leave her... let her feel the pain...
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pity..
If you somehow caught them together already..
why still stay ? afraid losing this stupid r/s with your gf dating other guy ?
and how u found out they had sex?
Gosh.. you stupid... if i were u, i 'll just leave her without saying anything..
god damn.. plz grow up.. theres no more love form her to you... dont say love is blind again.. -
Step-by-step guide
1)Import all the e-mail conversations into a thumbdrive.
2)Once you have done that,Be extra nice to her over the next week...send her flowers....sweet sms's...watever that isn't too "over-the-top"
3)Plan a get together...with your friends and her friends and especially her colleagues...invite the "3rd party guy" and be extra nice to him throughout...
4)In the middle of the get-together, tell everyone that you've prepared a special slide show JUST for her...to show how much you love her.
5)Project e-mails onto the wall, and leave the party.
OR along the same lines......
3)Leak all the e-mails via watever intranet system that they use to circulate internal mails at the office.
4)Sit back and watch the show...or.....make a gracefull exit with a smile.
OR for added Ooomph......
5)Remember to send a copy of the "explicit" e-mails to all family members concerned... -
Good move.. stop contacting her and see how... perhaps u can flirt her good friend.. that friend somehow still got heart to tell u the truth instead of keeping quiet and u know nothing. Worth considering her good friendOriginally posted by BadzMaro:
.......... my gf has been cheating on me for the last few months also. I knew, but i dont blame her. Just seeing how and where this thing goes. I wait until she come break up with me. It was her good friend that told me about 2 months ago.
I think most likely ur gf is banging the guy.
BUT, dont simply trust any friend if they tell this kind of thing.. sometimes they just want you and your gf to split... so listen and observe too -
Originally posted by Clandestine:Step-by-step guide
1)Import all the e-mail conversations into a thumbdrive.
2)Once you have done that,Be extra nice to her over the next week...send her flowers....sweet sms's...watever that isn't too "over-the-top"
3)Plan a get together...with your friends and her friends and especially her colleagues...invite the "3rd party guy" and be extra nice to him throughout...
4)In the middle of the get-together, tell everyone that you've prepared a special slide show JUST for her...to show how much you love her.
5)Project e-mails onto the wall, and leave the party.
OR along the same lines......
3)Leak all the e-mails via watever intranet system that they use to circulate internal mails at the office.
4)Sit back and watch the show...or.....make a gracefull exit with a smile.
OR for added Ooomph......
5)Remember to send a copy of the "explicit" e-mails to all family members concerned...
this is so much like drama -
I have not read the other replies but I feel that you should talk to her calmly.Originally posted by andrewtvp:
i dunno.... cos i love her too much?
i spoke with a few close friends. the guys told me to dump her.
there was a girl whom said something
"..that if you love her, you shouldnt even consider breaking up.."
im confused on what i should do. could he be a fling? sigh... i am confused. i dont know what to believe.
:'(
Ask her what is going on and tell her you are aware what is going on. Ask her what does she want. Does she love you? If she says yes, then ask her why is she hurting you if she does.
Ask her if she still wants to carry on with the relationship and that despite her cheating on you, you are still willing to give the relationship another chance if she is willing to salvage it and work with you and not see the guy again.
I know it is difficult if he is a colleague. Maybe get her to change her jobs if possible to start afresh.
Listen to her point of view. Talk calmly like adults. Maybe let her know if you were to switch roles, it is likely that she will never forgive you.
I think it is really up to you and the both of you will really need to work hard on the relationship to salvage it and to ensure this won't happen again.
If she can't promise you that she will put in the effort to make things right and not repeat her mistake, I suggest that you move on with your life.
Also you need to confirm if she had sex with him
And if she did, can you live with it? If not, move on
The above is if you want to give the relationship another chance.
But if she is a habitual liar to you I think it is really quite difficult. The relationship has already been built on lies... Hard to continue -
whats so confused bout this thing?Originally posted by andrewtvp: i dunno.... cos i love her too much?
i spoke with a few close friends. the guys told me to dump her.
there was a girl whom said something
"..that if you love her, you shouldnt even consider breaking up.."
im confused on what i should do. could he be a fling? sigh... i am confused. i dont know what to believe.
:'(
a) Do you still wan to be together with some1 u love when that gal no longer loves u ?
b) bcuz of so called love, so u wan to stay and pretend nothing happened and shes happily over there laughing at how idiot are you ?
those 2 above .. which one ? very hard to decide?
and man, that gal seems like an idiot to tell u not to break up when u already got the proof.. how funny.. -
Friend i tell u...after all those i see and look... i tell you this thing
break la....
hold on 4 wat?your gf is being screwed by someone else leh...so u wan to marry her?
wat if u 2 married liao... then u can confirm that she faithful to u ma?
who noes....u go work she screwing with another guy....by then?
u still call this love ah??! wake up ur F ucking idea la!!think bout ur future la....one flower only....so many flowers out there....who noes get a better one? then u will regret sticking ur heart to one... -
if your story is true, den why hold on? she's just a b!tch. the fact that she have s3x with other guy is totally absurb. leave her man, u should tink about how u going to break up with her making her feel that she dun deserve u and not tinking about holding on
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Why u wanted to hang on this r/s? Only one thing to do. Abandon ship!!!Originally posted by andrewtvp:my gf has been in her new job for 2 months now. and i suspect she is having an affair and cheating behind my back.
history: we have known each other for 2years+ and have been together for 1yr+. she started in this new job for 2months already and i started noticing that she has sorta been distancing in the things we talk about and in the schedule of her daily life. so for the past 2 months i trusted her and spent time with her as usual. there was a period of 2weeks where i was super busy and couldnt meet up with her, she didnt even call OR sms me unless i initiated it. i felt we were drifting apart.
she had a history of lying to me about things previous, small matters, white lies in her own words.
but yesterday i guessed her email password and managed to get in.
she has been having a private correspondence with a guy in office, chatting over email, 100s a day.
as i started prying deeper.
they had sex on many ocassions. (i recalled and on those days she said she was tired and slept as early as 9pm)
their conversations were explicit. detailed.
he asked her if they were dating. she said yes. (inside i was hurting)
they flirted with each other. courted each other. called each other nick names. stole kisses and groped each other when no colleages were around.
my god i was hurt. and am still hurting so bad.
i felt i needed to confront them. but am afraid of losing this relationship...
how should i go about this??
depressed.distressed.dejected.
the hardest part is to hold a forced smile when i see her. sigh.
we had plans to get married next year. we had so many plans. but she couldnt even resist this simple temptation. while i have been holding on ever SO staunchly to this rs. sigh. he was in the right place. at the right time. i guess that was stronger than the 2years of bond we have built.
many times she said he was just a colleague, one that gives her a lift to work everyday. i cant. cos i live too far. on the other end of the island.
he sends her home everyday too. sometimes they head to the beach afterwork. sometimes they go back to their place. and coincidentally her last sms to me would be "fone low bat, ttyl!".
and the emails on the next day would be full of explicit details. which i shall spare you guys of.
we had promised each other to a monogamous relationship. but now that i cant even believe her words, what is there left?
please help me salvage us... -
why you so bad hack into gf's account?
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I give you the best solution. 1st, give her a lot of empty promises. After that, have sex with her. Take pictures and videos of the whole sex things. Dump her after that, told her that you are getting bored with the relationship and having enough fun already. Go to www.laksa.org and upload the pictures and videos as revenge. Just remember to censor your face only.
You don't have to feel guilty, she cheats you in the worst possible way, you can do that also. Let this slut learn the lesson of a lifetime.
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you have just been pwned by your own girlfriend -
There's NOTHING to salvage!
I agree with the rest of the forumites here....
but just to point out one detail.
Hacking into her email, and going through her private mails. That I frown upon.
If u had suspected, you should confront her outright, I know she may deny, but doing what u did, that's wrong too -
ya lor dont later get charged for that. not worth it
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it is just a fling, true.. after this guy, she will move on to the next. it will be endless. leave her! do not give in to her. it will only make her feel that she is indispensible and will hurt you time and again. do not even think one day she will come back to you. i think she treats you as an reserve. she still wants fun now. she is so selfish. she thinks that she still has value outside, thus the flirting. if one day she found herself no value(nobody flirts with her, but i doubt that, cos guys are always guys), then she will come back to you.
do not even think that marriage can bind her to you. it only make her think you do not dare to leave her, and thus result more serious damages. think of these.. if you should really get married, and she initiated breakup, and you beg her to stay, this is one good story she can show off to her friends and her fllings!!
sorry if i think too far ahead. but anything can happen. so just let your heart pain for a while, rather than make things irreversible in the future. since she doesnt care about you now, what makes you think she will care about your feeling in the future?? -
Are u kidding?? Ur gf having sex v friend?? and more than 1 time?? If tat is really the case.. Leave her ASAP.. Oh wait.. b4 u leave
Give her 1 tight slap
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The verdict is out....
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if he nvr hack inside, he wouldn't have noe abt all those things and duno tat she had ben betrying him lo... The first time i felt so angry over post in SgF..Originally posted by HyuugaNeji:why you so bad hack into gf's account?