girlfriend problem
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ur mum dun let u go? or u no $$$? or u stuck in camp?Originally posted by PeriodMan:but i cannot go due to personal reasons. she goes with her frens. i trust her girlfrens and herself, but i dont know whether there will be cases of people trying to take advantage of her. -
I ever like a girl who loves to go pub a lot. Almost every week will go one.
But i still like her though i dun like girl who pubs. Y? Cos i love her so i will give her space.
Ultimately, it is up to ur trust in her. If u don't trust her or u catch her eating up her promise, then i think u should leave the r/s. Hopefully, this is not the case. Remember TRUST is important in a r/s. -
i do trust her, i do not trust the environment.
she is very faithful but what if someone does something against her will,whether intoxicated or with malicious intent? things are unexpectable.
sometimes i worry for her too much, but she already agreed not to go, what if she is influenced by her frens?
i jus fear for her safety, and to be honest, dont wanna wear the green hat too. -
Dude.
If she really wants to go, she might agree to stop going because she loves you now. But as time passes, she might start to feel slightly resentful that she has to give up something she really likes. It'll result in negative undercurrents in your relationship.
Personally, I see your POV and would not like my gf to go clubbing. And just happens that the girls I've liked including my current gf all are not the clubbing kind... -
Originally posted by PeriodMan:i do trust her, i do not trust the environment.
she is very faithful but what if someone does something against her will,whether intoxicated or with malicious intent? things are unexpectable.
sometimes i worry for her too much, but she already agreed not to go, what if she is influenced by her frens?
i jus fear for her safety, and to be honest, dont wanna wear the green hat too.
And when I rearrange your words; it simply means you don't trust her.
It's so passe, blatant and overused - the notion of 'safety' as a facade for insecurity.
If you truly care about her safety, you will go along and not insisting on 'guiding' her from afar.
*** If your woman wants to cheat; she can even cheat you even if she only goes to the library.
It's not the environment - it's always the person.
Why blame the variable if the constant is screwed in the first place?
Cheers -
just let her go lor
if u trust her nuttin will happen -
It is not abt trust anot. It is abt the places she go...Originally posted by Uncertain:I ever like a girl who loves to go pub a lot. Almost every week will go one.
But i still like her though i dun like girl who pubs. Y? Cos i love her so i will give her space.
Ultimately, it is up to ur trust in her. If u don't trust her or u catch her eating up her promise, then i think u should leave the r/s. Hopefully, this is not the case. Remember TRUST is important in a r/s.
If u let yr gf go library and she kena rape. I bet u will not blame her.
If u let her go clubbing and she kena rape. U might be angry but right in yr heart,U also have some percentage of thinking like ' See! Told u liao don't go that kind of complicated places,now kena rape liao...'
Pub and those dicso area are complicated. U don't know how many wolf are inside waiting for their prey. I have a few NS friend who specialise go pub to raba gals when dancing. Some gal drunk liao,immediately a wolf pack went up and hands everywhere.. Last timeI go and around 2am,these kind of scenes are common.
Worst is they drug yr gal. Bring her to some hotel and that's it...... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
somehow i mentioned i cannot go due to my personal reasons. And when I rearrange your words; it simply means you don't trust her.
It's so passe, blatant and overused - [b]the notion of 'safety' as a facade for insecurity.
If you truly care about her safety, you will go along and not insisting on 'guiding' her from afar.
*** If your woman wants to cheat; she can even cheat you even if she only goes to the library.
It's not the environment - it's always the person.
Why blame the variable if the constant is screwed in the first place?
Cheers[/b]
the environment plays a part. whats the chances of being hit upon by older men when ur in orchard road and ur in geylang? geylang would definitely be higher,way much higher. am i right to say that? -
PeriodMan,
You're a control freak. That's what you are.
You knew she was a clubber before you went into this relationship.
Do you really think you now have the power to change her lifestyle?
If she hasn't outgrow this part of her life.
You will only push her away more if you keep up with this kind of insecurity and possessiveness.
You are not her father, so stop behaving like one.
She has a brain, she survived so long without you before.
You can only tell her you are not happy with her clubbing.
It is up to her to decide if you are worth the change of lifestyle.
Why do you refuse to go with her ?
And yet, you whine and moan about it, claiming you want to protect her ?
What rubbish.
This relationship will not last. I'll bet on it. -
Keep thinking this and that...
u darn paranoia..
Later go siao how? -
You want to keep her locked up in a cage ?Originally posted by PeriodMan:somehow i mentioned i cannot go due to my personal reasons.
the environment plays a part. whats the chances of being hit upon by older men when ur in orchard road and ur in geylang? geylang would definitely be higher,way much higher. am i right to say that?
Men are everywhere. Orchard road or geylang, it doesn't matter.
If she is a decent girl, men old or young will hit on her in MRT, Shopping centers, hawker centers, anywhere she can be approached.
It is up to her to discern who she wants.
And she chose you, so stop being a diak head and ruin your relationship. -
Yeh diakhead.. u think u OWN the girl ?
she isn't a commodity in the first place.
She is ur girlfriend and she deserves a life.
What will u feel if ur gf do the same thing to u..
Give her the freedom that she deserves.
Make her happy, not satisfying ur own insecurity, selfish diakhead.
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And stop telling her you don't want her to go because it is for her own safety.
If your girl is not a retard, she will KNOW it's bull shiate you are spouting.
Tell her the truth, that you are jealous when men looks at her, that you are afraid other men will steal her away from you, that you have a huge inferiority complex. -
if you catch your gf in club playing with guys, buy saturated sulphuric acid in bottle, walk into the pub and throw the bottles on those guys (not the girl).
that way, you're saving your gf and cleaning up society.
sizzle......sizzle....... -
sosososososossososossosososoooo
to sum it all up, by all of ur guys post
Let ur Gf go,but in moderation
OR
let her go clubbing, just help her from afar
OR
break.
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what personal reasonsOriginally posted by PeriodMan:but i cannot go due to personal reasons. she goes with her frens. i trust her girlfrens and herself, but i dont know whether there will be cases of people trying to take advantage of her.
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if he go to pub, then he cannot wank.
if at home, he can. -
why do you call yourself "PeriodMan" "Period" sounds like menstruation/menstruating.Originally posted by PeriodMan:I have a girlfriend i do not want to go clubbing. She wants to go clubbing even though I have been emphasizing the dangers to her.
She told me she would not go anymore for my sake. What if one day she gets influenced by her peers? Should I let her go?
And what should I do since I am a little paranoid? Just let her go clubbing even though I do not like it?
Thank you.
No wonder you have gf problems. Be a man and let her live her own life.... -
Originally posted by PeriodMan:
She already agreed not to go, but u are scared she is influenced by her friends?
i do trust her, i do not trust the environment.
she is very faithful but what if someone does something against her will,whether intoxicated or with malicious intent? things are unexpectable.
[b]sometimes i worry for her too much, but she already agreed not to go, what if she is influenced by her frens?
i jus fear for her safety, and to be honest, dont wanna wear the green hat too.[/b]
isn't that not trusting?
if she has given u her word, that should be final.
if u say u really trust her, then TRUST HER TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF!
as i mentioned, if u really worried, when she goes, go and pick her up and send her home. -
that is true.Originally posted by PeriodMan:somehow i mentioned i cannot go due to my personal reasons.
the environment plays a part. whats the chances of being hit upon by older men when ur in orchard road and ur in geylang? geylang would definitely be higher,way much higher. am i right to say that?
but what is the chances of her responding positively to such "hits" in orchard road, and in geylang.
these chances are the same.
if she is faithful, she won't cheat no matter where she is.
If she's not faithful, she'll cheat no matter where she is.
Besides, if it's REALLY her safety you are concern with, She's going there with her FRIENDS!!! not ALONE!! -
let the gal live her life of her own... ur not anyone to control her..
btw.. wat reason??
no $$. mother dun let??
or wat??
reason important or gf important?? -
You need to learn to trust her more...
She's an adult and I think she is fully capable of protecting herself
And if her love for you is strong, no matter what the temptation is, it will not sway her
And temptation does not exist just in clubs, it can be found everywhere... -
I am just like u in the past , she promised not to go , we been together for 3 yrs + yet she still cheated behind my back , after we broke up once in a conversation she told me she went out to club 4-5 times without me knowing , wats the point , if someone will change no matter wat they oso will change , she feel like going with her frens jus let her go and enjoy herself lo , if u afraid she might kana tackle by other guys , even in the lift she cant resist the urge when yandao approach her ma , right ?
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I believe you must have know her during your clubbing session? Or in a sense that before you know her, you should have known her interest in clubbing.Originally posted by PeriodMan:I have a girlfriend i do not want to go clubbing. She wants to go clubbing even though I have been emphasizing the dangers to her.
She told me she would not go anymore for my sake. What if one day she gets influenced by her peers? Should I let her go?
And what should I do since I am a little paranoid? Just let her go clubbing even though I do not like it?
Thank you.
Clubbing is good in release some stress and hv a fun time, but be moderate, I go about twice a month with bf, no issue, we enjoyed it with company of other frens and clubmates too. -
There's absolutely nothing wrong with clubbing it's perfectly safe. Her friends will look out for her so there's no need to worry.