Originally posted by Parkjisung:
I am just like u in the past , she promised not to go , we been together for 3 yrs + yet she still cheated behind my back , after we broke up once in a conversation she told me she went out to club 4-5 times without me knowing , wats the point , if someone will change no matter wat they oso will change , she feel like going with her frens jus let her go and enjoy herself lo , if u afraid she might kana tackle by other guys , even in the lift she cant resist the urge when yandao approach her ma , right ?
Same problem in the past like you.
Gals ask you to trust them in the end betray you behind your back.
Realise that most gals who club are the same no matter what they say.
The only solution I have found is to have standby backups in case your relationship fails. Why put all your love on a person when the person got a high chance of cheating?
She can go to club to know guys as "friends" so can you right ?
You can know gals as "friends " too.
I introduce this method to my friends and they found to be very helpfull when the person who so call "promise to love them but end up sleeping around"
Let me show it an example on how it works.
She says she stopped clubbing but she went behind your back. You used the time to know other better gals as friends. If one day your friends saw your gf dancing around with guys and kissing them. Is time to switch asap, look around for another better gal and go out with her more often. In time cut your contact with the cheating gf. If she finds out then break lor, since she is the one who cheats first away. This method protects you from becoming a fool.
P.S. If a gal ever dances and flirts with guys in front of you and use the excuse of saying that is normal and force you to accept it or leave her. Dump her using the above method. Is proven to be very useful.