Bf's past keep bothering Mi!
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My bf has an ex gf for near 5yrs... my bf broke up wif her after 1 and 1/2 yr cos she has a real bad temper and is unreasonable n spoilt. But somehow, i dunno why he wanted a patch up after another 6 mths and they continued for another 3 yr lydat but broke due to the same reason.
I was frustrated lor, how come a ger so worse yet they can be together so long... my bf now only say he was stupid to be with her n waste his time... and that he had no happy memories thru out the 5 yrs. How can tat be? But the ger realli very worse lah... maybe it's true lor.. I always think why she so bad yet my bf wan patch with her n tahan her for so long... I can only think that he loves her alot... then i very jealous and sometimes i mention this n we always buay song each other..
But he never had sex with her, though the ger once requested. my bf reject her. then my bf say the person he loves most is me, and now he hates his ex to the core... but he still cannot tahan mi keep asking him abt his past... at the same time, i canot keep myself from thinking n asking abt his past... i very insecure lah.. we always cold fight coz of this thing only... I very troubled... dunno wad to do... maybe u all have gone thru such thing... can help mi??
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Have you ever considered what your BF thinks?
At least he's honest enough to tell you bout his past, hoping to be sincere and honest and assuring you that he really loves you now. Yet you take what he told you as something to feel insecure about.
Maybe you should try being less paranoid and just take things easy. You know, some things aren't as complicated as you think they are.
Be lucky to love and be loved... -
I've told myself thousands of times not to think... but it's hard... I realli tried very hard and is still trying Sometimes even when i know my asking will lead to him thinking of his ex... i still ask... I thinking if alot of pple will be as curious as i m abt their bf/gf's past.. owing to the reason that they love them too much...Originally posted by Hawaiian Koa:Maybe you should try being less paranoid and just take things easy. You know, some things aren't as complicated as you think they are.
Be lucky to love and be loved...
But I do.. realli do appreciate his honesty towards mi...
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Pardon my frankness, the only reason why someone will stay on for so long is either because of love or an advantage. IF she is really that bad, can't be love right? If for advantage, then either its money or sex. Love can make us blind to believe everything. Just forget about his past but dun leave a chance for u to be his past after he gets what he wants.
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hey girl, can see that u treasure your bf lotz, but now u are in a situation whereby you yourself are hitting your own foot with a stone, or maybe i should say rock...well, some guys/girls are blinded when they are in a relationship...maybe during that time, your bf really loved her but it may be due to other reasons, such as peer pressure, as well..
him and his ex are a thing of the past...dun bother yourself with such things, from what you have said, if you keep hovering over this topic, your bf will get very irritated sooner or later...
since he has rejected her offer to have sex with her, it shows that you have an important place in his heart...at least he did not betray you (but then, there's no way of telling
) ... but i must emphasize, an important aspect in a r/s is trust...
do you know? guys dun really like girls who keep harping over insignificant stuff and over the same topic? if he says something, take it to be that thing...unless one day bump into him with the girl or something, or when he starts neglecting you for no reason, maybe that's the time you should start worrying...
for the time being, i see no reason why you should feel so insecure
feel more confident ya? -
i think you have one hell of a boyfriend most guys ( no offense) wouldn refuse a 'tou huai song bao' girl.. from that u can noe that he noes wat his doing.. it's like guys like that noe how to control.. and not let their lower part take over their heart
his patch up can only tell u how loyal and faithful this guy is.. nothing bad rite
i think u have to stop asking.. cos if it was me i will find it irritating loh. it's the past let it go.. put urself in his shoes and think about it. wat if ur current bf keep claiming u love ur ex more than him and dun believ u even after u reassure him?
u must trust him.. so wat if he loved his ex gf very much? he's suppose to that when they're together wat! now he loves u, that's all that u need to noe wat.. guys dun like girls comparing and becoming inferior and sorts.. gets on their nerves..
u dun realise now u becoming the unreasonable one meh? quarreling over such things is useless loh..
dun be so paranoid.. trust him 
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what i wanna say is...
everybody has a past...since u choosen him n he had make himself clear to u that he only loves u...
then u should trust him n stop thinking of his past.
U cannot rewrite history....u juz gotten accpt it
Its either take it or lose him...
u choose....
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wat is it u want? can u handle the truth if he bares all?
dun put urself in a lose-lose situation, which is, u feel like shit if he doesn't tell u and u ALSO feel like shit if he tells u....
wat is it u really want? say u had supernatural powers and can get him to do anything... wat would it be?
no need to tell us the answer... just think about ur answer and see if it's rational and justified. -
Thanks for all advice~
Juz realise dat I'm a rather stoopid ger huh? Anyway, I treasure all the advice.. Wat i need is determination not to mention abt his past n let it affect my r/s.. Hopefully hopefully.. Cos I saw someone say I will become the unreasonable wan(juz like his ex) now... which is the last thing i'll ever wan to be... -
Ger ar, I only want u to know that I luv u very much and will luv u with all my heart...Originally posted by zh3nzh3n:Thanks for all advice~
Juz realise dat I'm a rather stoopid ger huh? Anyway, I treasure all the advice.. Wat i need is determination not to mention abt his past n let it affect my r/s.. Hopefully hopefully.. Cos I saw someone say I will become the unreasonable wan(juz like his ex) now... which is the last thing i'll ever wan to be...
-=zOng + zh3n = LoV3=- -
Originally posted by zongzong:Ger ar, I only want u to know that I luv u very much and will luv u with all my heart...
-=zOng + zh3n = LoV3=-
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Boi ar.. so surprised u came in n post also... hehee Love u too~ I don wan be notti ger liao ok?Originally posted by zongzong:Ger ar, I only want u to know that I luv u very much and will luv u with all my heart...
-=zOng + zh3n = LoV3=- -
wah lau eh... sibeh GUA~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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even my popcorns stopped popping liow..... -
zongzong?
LAMER~!!! Why copy my name? -
i dunno who copy wad but would u pass me the god damn blanket?!?!?!Originally posted by WinBoi84:zongzong?
LAMER~!!! Why copy my name? 
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*WinBoi84 pass jOhO a blacket*Originally posted by jOhO:i dunno who copy wad but would u pass me the god damn blanket?!?!?!
And now I wan your popcorn in return...
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*jOhO grabs blanket and hide under*Originally posted by WinBoi84:*WinBoi84 pass jOhO a blacket*
And now I wan your popcorn in return...
here take the keys to the shore.. u can help urself.. i too cold to move!! -
Originally posted by WinBoi84:zongzong?
LAMER~!!! Why copy my name? 
Ur name zongzong
But he also zongzong leh
so many alike names out there... -
Originally posted by WinBoi84:zongzong?
LAMER~!!! Why copy my name?
Ur name zongzong
But he also zongzong leh
so many alike names out there... -
paiseh hor...Originally posted by jOhO:wah lau eh... sibeh GUA~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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even my popcorns stopped popping liow..... 
mai ar neh lah... cos i shocked ma..
hmm ask someone to give u warmth ok? keke paiseh once again.. -
Me is Zhong...Originally posted by zh3nzh3n:
Ur name zongzong
But he also zongzong leh
so many alike names out there... -
So many "Uncle Agony"s... No nid for me to add somemore...
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the person that can gimme warmth exudes that from within my heart.Originally posted by zh3nzh3n:paiseh hor...
mai ar neh lah... cos i shocked ma..
hmm ask someone to give u warmth ok? keke paiseh once again..
if the heart is warm, being physically frozen is impossible... -
i canot keep myself from thinking n asking abt his past... i very insecure lah[/b]
hi, you HAVE to stop yourself from thinking this way (please try)(very hard) or it will affect your relationship with your bf.
Trust me, i was like you too. I even have nightmares very often at night that my bf and that gal have sex and i often caught them on the bed and i will run out of the room and cry and yet my bf doesnt' care about chasing after me and to console me.
It affected me so much that i didn't want to talk to my bf after the nightmare. I will cry whenever i awoke from the nightmare. -
One piece of ADVICE.... Don't waste your breath in this situation....Originally posted by xavier1979:So many "Uncle Agony"s... No nid for me to add somemore...