money problem in bgr
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Good, I'm happy for you.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:thank you. it seems like very good advice which i will follow. we cleared it up. i promised her to work during my break, and she told me she wont mind that i do not have enough for now.
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pls refer to my postins in "chio bu in job agency". tank cute.
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eh Hello Kitty....i broke up with BBB liao.
can chase you? -
your parents dun wan u to work? wtf
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oh you are recovering from surgery, instead of showing concern, she's talking about money? where's the supposed love? are you an money-producing machine to her?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
I don't deny that money is important but at this time when you are recovering? Hello ?
Sometimes I feel guys give in too much. You have to tell her how you feel. But let her know tactfully.
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err, who earns more who pay
or dutch since u cannot afford it now, maybe later 
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Originally posted by sEphIrOth:i know money hurt relationships, but at the end of the day, the success of a serious relationship will be about money. i have to admit somehow now she is more successful than me.
however, my parents forbid me to work, for who knows what god damn reason.
i have no choice but to scrimp and save to make ends meet with her. to do this, i stopped going out with my frens and started bringing bread to school for lunch.
i just wan some advice on what to do next. whether to go dutch? or to talk things out with her? as we are not really on good terms as before.
very sad situation......
after married, more problems ( $$$$) to come...
look like she's more concern abt how much u can make & how well u can support her.....rather then how much she will treasure tis relationship...
sorry for my comment!! jus my view!! -
in my view...
ur not realli ready for r/s because of ue current stats..
think abt when ur too free study go home..see want u to get jobs...
when u study end start work everyday...
leaves home at 7am for school and reach home after 11pm after work,
she MAY say u do not care for her as u do not spent time wif her anymore..
so u cant move forward nor backward...So consider with care...
Bring a gal to a coffee shop, if she eat wif u...she will be a good gf..
if she demand for a restantant, forget it...
just my 2 cent thought....
JoJo... dun shoot me..>.< -
your gf is either short-sighted or that she knows you're not too talented in your studies.....if you can do well in the studies, then work your butts off and get top grades, after ns, further your studies and get a good job...that's your responsibility....
no point working at some fast food joint just to finance your dates....think long term....your parents do not want you to work so that you can focus on studies, do well and have a good future, your girlfriend wants you to work so that you can pay for the next outing....your choice... -
LOL.. don't worry , I wun shoot you. Me very civilized woman.Originally posted by gforce199:in my view...
ur not realli ready for r/s because of ue current stats..
think abt when ur too free study go home..see want u to get jobs...
when u study end start work everyday...
leaves home at 7am for school and reach home after 11pm after work,
she MAY say u do not care for her as u do not spent time wif her anymore..
so u cant move forward nor backward...So consider with care...
Bring a gal to a coffee shop, if she eat wif u...she will be a good gf..
if she demand for a restantant, forget it...
just my 2 cent thought....
JoJo... dun shoot me..>.<
I prefer to spear you and stick it in the center of a traffic round about.
Don't be a wet blanket, can ?
Yes you are correct, you bring a gal to coffee shop on your first date, she will always remain your good girl friend. Nothing more than friend forever. Get the drift ? -
just let her know of your plans - of working when you recovered.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
It is good to work and be independent , but one must recovered and finish study first. -
huh?Originally posted by Nikar2:eh Hello Kitty....i broke up with BBB liao.
can chase you?
who is bbb?
n who... r u...? -
(Hello kitty)
BBB = Brownie BaoBao
huh? who is bbb? n who... r u...?
Nikar = BBB's ex-hubby
last few weeks, we officially ended our marriage of 5 months because we cannot click.
i see you're very interesting in your posts here mah, got character....
even if u 36-year old A-cup fattie, i also don't care, die-die must chase you.
but i'll take it slow lah. -
well, u can go work. but do those kind that don requires u to walk ard, lk data entry or something along that line. ((:
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we got through it already. i decided to work when i am well, in the mean time, she is going through a simple life with me. so i guess everything will be alright, hopefully.
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The key point here is security.
Every girl wants to feel that she at least has a future with the partner she is with. And this is the cruel reality (and not because she is materialistic, materialistic means she wants to buy those designer clothes, asked you to pay for the meals all the time, etc), in order to get security and have a future, certain amount of money must be there in the bank at the end of the day.
She is urging you to work because she doesn't want to be stuck with someone who will rely on her for financial support the rest of her life. -
don't have to go to expensive place for meal
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Originally posted by sEphIrOth:we got through it already. i decided to work when i am well, in the mean time, she is going through a simple life with me. so i guess everything will be alright, hopefully.
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Do u know what are u taking abt? This guy is still studying. He is still in poly. I bet he has not gone thru NS yet. If she sp badly need the security u mention. Might as well she get a 25-30 yrs old guy who has a career and enough financial abilities.Originally posted by rainee:The key point here is security.
Every girl wants to feel that she at least has a future with the partner she is with. And this is the cruel reality (and not because she is materialistic, materialistic means she wants to buy those designer clothes, asked you to pay for the meals all the time, etc), in order to get security and have a future, certain amount of money must be there in the bank at the end of the day.
She is urging you to work because she doesn't want to be stuck with someone who will rely on her for financial support the rest of her life.
Looks like a 18-20 yrs old guy who wanted to fully concentrated on his studies and dependant on parent's financially is on fault or wrong?? If she is not comfortable with TS of his present status. She shall consider this r/s in the first place....
It is absolutely understandable from a understanding gal of a 18-21yrs old poly guy financial stand. Basically,he is still a student and he is still very young.. Yr expectation cannot be put to that extreme! -
based on experience, talk n words dun mean anything lor... dun give her any promises just tell her to give you some time... just update her on ur injury once in a while.
if she's not understanding enough, no need to tell her so much then.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you! -
lend me your gf ba.
when u graduate le, i return to you.
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Yes I know. She tells me she would accept the situation. I told her I would get a job as soon as possible. She understands it. I would thank all of you for your concern and advice. I personally would not let go of this relationship because she does not seem materialistic but may pressurize me sometimes, though not often.
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Maybe she is presurred by other people such as her friends, who have richer boyfriends?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:Yes I know. She tells me she would accept the situation. I told her I would get a job as soon as possible. She understands it. I would thank all of you for your concern and advice. I personally would not let go of this relationship because she does not seem materialistic but may pressurize me sometimes, though not often. -
who cares?Originally posted by stellazio:Maybe she is presurred by other people such as her friends, who have richer boyfriends?
rich or poor, u love him, he love u... that's all lor...
argh!!!!!!!!!!