Good, I'm happy for you.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:thank you. it seems like very good advice which i will follow. we cleared it up. i promised her to work during my break, and she told me she wont mind that i do not have enough for now.![]()
oh you are recovering from surgery, instead of showing concern, she's talking about money? where's the supposed love? are you an money-producing machine to her?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Originally posted by sEphIrOth:i know money hurt relationships, but at the end of the day, the success of a serious relationship will be about money. i have to admit somehow now she is more successful than me.
however, my parents forbid me to work, for who knows what god damn reason.
i have no choice but to scrimp and save to make ends meet with her. to do this, i stopped going out with my frens and started bringing bread to school for lunch.
i just wan some advice on what to do next. whether to go dutch? or to talk things out with her? as we are not really on good terms as before.
LOL.. don't worry , I wun shoot you. Me very civilized woman.Originally posted by gforce199:in my view...
ur not realli ready for r/s because of ue current stats..
think abt when ur too free study go home..see want u to get jobs...
when u study end start work everyday...
leaves home at 7am for school and reach home after 11pm after work,
she MAY say u do not care for her as u do not spent time wif her anymore..
so u cant move forward nor backward...So consider with care...
Bring a gal to a coffee shop, if she eat wif u...she will be a good gf..
if she demand for a restantant, forget it...
just my 2 cent thought....
JoJo... dun shoot me..>.<
just let her know of your plans - of working when you recovered.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
huh?Originally posted by Nikar2:eh Hello Kitty....i broke up with BBB liao.
can chase you?
BBB = Brownie BaoBao
huh? who is bbb? n who... r u...?
Originally posted by sEphIrOth:we got through it already. i decided to work when i am well, in the mean time, she is going through a simple life with me. so i guess everything will be alright, hopefully.
Do u know what are u taking abt? This guy is still studying. He is still in poly. I bet he has not gone thru NS yet. If she sp badly need the security u mention. Might as well she get a 25-30 yrs old guy who has a career and enough financial abilities.Originally posted by rainee:The key point here is security.
Every girl wants to feel that she at least has a future with the partner she is with. And this is the cruel reality (and not because she is materialistic, materialistic means she wants to buy those designer clothes, asked you to pay for the meals all the time, etc), in order to get security and have a future, certain amount of money must be there in the bank at the end of the day.
She is urging you to work because she doesn't want to be stuck with someone who will rely on her for financial support the rest of her life.
Originally posted by sEphIrOth:We are currently in poly, she is having her attachment, working with a pay well enough to support herself. I am studying 5 days a week, recently recovering from a surgery.
She wants me to work and be independent. I hope she understands that I have had the surgery done and will find time for work when I totally recover.
But the main problem being the current situation. I cannot work and can only survive on pocket money. Not much, saving 20 dollars a week.As compared to her, she gets tips frequently to add to her basic pay.
What should I do? Sometimes, we go dutch, sometimes I pay, so does she.
Should I tell her we should go dutch from now on? Or what other alternatives are there to solve this? She used to tell me I should work hard in future to support her, but I am afraid the current situation makes me unable to give her a sense of financial security.
Do give me some advice. It will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Maybe she is presurred by other people such as her friends, who have richer boyfriends?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:Yes I know. She tells me she would accept the situation. I told her I would get a job as soon as possible. She understands it. I would thank all of you for your concern and advice. I personally would not let go of this relationship because she does not seem materialistic but may pressurize me sometimes, though not often.![]()
who cares?Originally posted by stellazio:Maybe she is presurred by other people such as her friends, who have richer boyfriends?