why do people quarrel?
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recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh... -
that is a given... how you handle that fact is what is important...
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being the most complex of creatures
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this is the fruit of "sin", when we do not acknowledge God, and want to be the god themselves. It is selfishness, self-centered thought and action, the idea of we know better than others others should listen to us. It is in everyone since they were born, every individual will have desire to exercise their will. The difference is only on the level, some can be very selfish and egoist, while some who have self-control will be more understanding and tolerant.Originally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh... -
Many question here in this forum regarding human problem can be found in yr bazhi, it's just that many ppl cannot accept it and keep making the same mistake without knowing they r wrong and being ignorant to others though. I call it self conflict and lack of wisdom.
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all living creatures on earth fight and quarrel. It is part of nature.Originally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh... -
Quarrel is better than fighting liao.
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You are human, so you are stupid too lol
its normal to quarrel la.. cmon. -
yes, animals often fight to their death in competition for food, mate, territory.Originally posted by Isis:Quarrel is better than fighting liao. -
i think its best explanied by psychology and ego, instead of 'sin' theory and stuff.
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normal i know but we have to learn to settle difference by amicable resolution. Its a learned skill though and is difficult to perfect well.Originally posted by Zarks:You are human, so you are stupid too lol
its normal to quarrel la.. cmon. -
Why do people love and get married? C'mon, go out and see the world. Don't just stay at home reading stuffs and delude yourself that you know everything. As the process prolong, your mind will get really cramped up with useless doubts like this, and you will get really uncomfortable. K this thread really is meant to help you but nevertheless, LOLOLOL @ YOUOriginally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh... -
hmmm... you're question is quite odd (like asking why is orchard called orchard)Originally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh...
its like asking why we feel, hurt or show affection. we just do.
saying we're stupid and violent is narrow and an over-generalisation of the entire human race.
of course, one can analyze the biological workings of expression of emotions and hate - but upon answering that question (which would take a whole book), nobody would realise the redundancy of that answer in proportion of the quality of what you're actually trying to find out. -
Because thinkings clash.
When words don't work, punches and kicks do.
Peaceful demo > Violent Demo
Peaceful talks > Wars -
Else we would not be named humans...Originally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh...
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mayi jie jie always brings things straight to the point.Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Because thinkings clash.
When words don't work, punches and kicks do.
Peaceful demo > Violent Demo
Peaceful talks > Wars -
"Every war is the result of a difference in opinion." - JC Denton, from the PC Game Deus Ex.
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You think sin is a "theory" ?Originally posted by january:i think its best explanied by psychology and ego, instead of 'sin' theory and stuff.
This is why human fails to understand the real truth. -
We are all born to make mistakes, and in the process of correcting our mistakes, we created alots of opinons and egos that can be violating to each others that in term creates hatre, jealousy, no see eyes to eyes and all those unwanted emotions. That is where quarrel begins.Originally posted by january:recently my family quarrel over marriage preparation stuff.
just wondering, why do human beings quarrel and hate?
humans are quite stupid and violent leh...
We should therefore adopt an adverse act by understanding that the quarrelling objectives is to get things right. So, next time, if someone start to quarrel in your family, ask them to lower their volume, sit down discuss the problem, consult each other rather than confront each other, negotiate a solution rather than being stubborn to proclaim each other rights. So instead of quarrelling, we consult, negotiate and finally attain a solution that all wins.
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fundamentally quarrel happen bcos each individual want his / her own ways only
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You should see the board he's moderator of. You'll understand then.Originally posted by KuraKura:You think sin is a "theory" ?
This is why human fails to understand the real truth. -
hmm...
What do you mean by the real truth? Do you know then? Since we humans fail to understand it. -
There's no real truth in my opinion. It's rather, a matter of perspective. And this matter of perspective often stems from the person's character itself.Originally posted by Martinwolf:hmm...
What do you mean by the real truth? Do you know then? Since we humans fail to understand it. -
Pple quarrel when they're undergoing some sort of pressure within and
their blood are close to boiling pt like a volcano. It just needs a nudge to
trigger the explosion. The thing is they don't even know they're easily controlled by it.
What pple need to do is to realise and regularly release this internal pressure
before their temper controls them.
They don't need medicine or drugs. Just soothing music, massages, relaxation and perhaps sex will do.
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Why people quarrel ?
We blame it on our nature but it is also within our control to prevent quarrel and to solve the problem in a peaceful manner IF we want to.
These are some of the ways:
It is important to regard others' point of viewpoint with utmost respect and try to understand where they are coming from, even if we do not agree with them. When we are sincere with others and don't simply dismiss their viewpoint because it differs from our own or seems unimportant in our eyes, relationships could have a better chance of flourishing into something positive and trusting, and everything just seems to fall into place. Respecting others is also about respecting yourself.
If we are sympathetic, we will not be quick to blame others or be so stubborn in asserting our own opinion. Many potential arguements will not come to fruition. If each family member maintains his own rigid viewpoint without considering the other's feelings, an argument escalates that could have easily been avoided.
Many arguments and fights are also started by unkind utterance that could have easily remained unspoken or been replaced with gentle words. Unkind words are sparked when we are not playing attention. Careless words can destroy relationships. If we use kind and gentle words, things will turn out to be better.
Another way is to treat this marriage discussion like a business negotiation and not to get personally with it.