breakup, need advice from ladies
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get use of it..Originally posted by hardbrokenguy:true...i think back..she has never admit to people i am her bf when we go out..she just uses me to solve her lonely times and her needs/desires. when i am with her, i always have the feeling like it wont last long that kind of feeling. anyway to all brothers and sisters, thank you for your advice. i shall stop drinking beers to drown my sorrow again tonight.
u will still suffering future.. -
lesson, never help any gal too much.. u just need to know what type of that gal is bfore u sacrifice everything ,dude
gals are hard to trust anyways, if they think they can gain benefit from u, then they sure will stick to u, once they feel u useless, they fly away.. -
That is the power of our love to you.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):ya meh...
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hardbrokenguy,
She has paid you back for the kindness you showered her, what else do you want from her ?
Just because you helped her get out of the pits does not mean she owes her whole life to you.
Before she becomes cold, did you tell her you love her and would like to be someone special to her ? Or are you just enjoying her intimacy without second thoughts of commitments ?
If you have not set the relationship in stone, how can you blame her for moving on ?
Man, a woman will not wait for you forever.
Another million dollar question for you, are you a married man ?
Yes it does matter, because love can be blind, ONLY at the initial phase. -
Originally posted by hardbrokenguy:I know of a lady online since last year. when she was unemployed, i always help her financially, buy meals for her. I helped her look for a job. Fetch her for interviews. We got intimate many times. But months goes by, i felt that our relationship is getting colder. From many things to say becomes little things to say when we meet. One day I went on a company trip. When i came back 3 weeks later, the whole world changed. She decided to avoid my calls, sms.and emails. i AM NOT USED TO IT. i HAVE GROWN SO ATTACHED to her by now. I got to know that she got to noe several guys on line. She only keep contacting those she deem well to do. can afford her fine dinners, shopping, overseas holidays. In my heart, I felt heartbrokened, betrayed. She told me its all over. Her heart is numb for me. She only regards me as ordinary fren. I fell into depression. I cant sleep, cant concentrade in work. Everynite I drowned myself in cans of beers to forget everything.
My question is can a lady change her love for a person once she lost interest in a person. Or do you think she will go for me again? What advice can u give for a poor brother here...sobs!
Somehow, you perceived this as a woman as a lady who once had interest in you; but from the way I look at this, this wasn't even present right from the start.
Being intimate doesn't suggest anything seriously - to kiss a fool may be stupid, but to let a kiss fool you is worse.
Therefore, for her to leave a man she never had feelings for - why not? In fact, she didn't leave you; she just decided not to remain in contact. You see, you can't go 'out' if you are technically not even 'in' right in the beginning, so how can you claim that she has left you?
Also, who are you to her, may I ask?
Nobody actually - an online friend at best.
Why used the word 'betrayed'? You do not even have the status to condemn that charge to her, other than being fooled into thinking that she is into you. Looking at different perspective, your kindness is pretty much a facade too - expecting something just because you are 'nice'?
i AM NOT USED TO IT. i HAVE GROWN SO ATTACHED to her by now
What's this? Just because you are not used to it and just because you have invested time and money into her, she has to like what? Marry you? Or have sex?
*** I am not trying to hurl stones at someone who has just fallen; I am letting you visualise the backstage process in your blind pursuit. In fact, this love is narcissistic; you are almost like in love with yourself because everything materialised as a mirage - surreal and nothing substantial.
You were thinking along this plot: met a girl on the internet, she was in bad shape and you, the prince, came over and saved the damsel in distress. Got closer and a great love fostered.
Everything in which you reckoned, ended up flipping into the real chapter of the story you never knew it existed.
Her plot were much simpler - met a gullible guy, suck what I need from him, dump him before it becomes too much trouble and NEXT!
And you claimed to be heartbroken over such a woman?
Should you slap yourself awake? Or should you suffer more and let your cosmic lesson do the teaching?
Cheers -
I say dump her. Obviously her heart was not and is not with you.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:Another million dollar question for you, are you a married man ?
Yes it does matter, because love can be blind, ONLY at the initial phase.
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Put it bluntly to you, just treat it as a transaction, u pay her for all the intimate moment together. maybe that what she feel.
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Some points from gal view made here r valid, though a man like me was once like u , being a kid who know nuts about gal. Sometime we need to ask ourself r we not giving the person whom we love a much needed confirmation that we r the rite guy who will be with her forever .It's more than having sex, or should I say sex is nothing nowadays. They lack of the security that they need which u din give, money is 1 of them. Dun be too narrow about a gals' though, most of the time they meant good to u.
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Well, she's a regular little slut, isn't she?
Mate, it's as simple as you paid money, she gave sex, like the whore that she is. Done deal. -
It is not that you cannot "play" with a ger like that... but that is all you do with gers like that... you have some fun with them and then both sides say good bye... when they are tired of each other...Originally posted by hardbrokenguy:I know of a lady online since last year. when she was unemployed, i always help her financially, buy meals for her. I helped her look for a job. Fetch her for interviews. We got intimate many times. But months goes by, i felt that our relationship is getting colder. From many things to say becomes little things to say when we meet. One day I went on a company trip. When i came back 3 weeks later, the whole world changed. She decided to avoid my calls, sms.and emails. i AM NOT USED TO IT. i HAVE GROWN SO ATTACHED to her by now. I got to know that she got to noe several guys on line. She only keep contacting those she deem well to do. can afford her fine dinners, shopping, overseas holidays. In my heart, I felt heartbrokened, betrayed. She told me its all over. Her heart is numb for me. She only regards me as ordinary fren. I fell into depression. I cant sleep, cant concentrade in work. Everynite I drowned myself in cans of beers to forget everything.
My question is can a lady change her love for a person once she lost interest in a person. Or do you think she will go for me again? What advice can u give for a poor brother here...sobs! -
get away from her as fast as you can lol.
and realise that there are several other single females who might not mind being with you who are probably less of golddiggers.