i wanna know if this is true about guys...
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Read this off a blog. Guys especially, do give me your precious opinions.
A lot of guys mentioned that there are good guys out there and they are often overlooked. Though that may be true, I think it's partially because good guys just don't go after things they like/want. They "respect" the person and hope that the person is attracted to them for who they are and then miraculously, something will happen between the two. I know how it is... I've been there and even now, things are still like that for me. I'm just not someone who aggressively pursues because I want a girl to like me for me.
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Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:
Define the good guys the blogger is talking abt.. This is too generalised.
Read this off a blog. Guys especially, do give me your precious opinions.
A lot of guys mentioned that there are good guys out there and they are often overlooked. Though that may be true, I think it's partially because good guys just don't go after things they like/want. They "respect" the person and hope that the person is attracted to them for who they are and then miraculously, something will happen between the two. I know how it is... I've been there and even now, things are still like that for me. I'm just not someone who aggressively pursues because I want a girl to like me for me.
Ppl have to have a goal in life, what the blogger is talk that this good guy has a wish of waiting to be picked up but not a goal to pursue what he want.
Very hard to find pro-active girl who tell u they like you unless you are a hot commodity, like rich, handsome and caring bachelor?
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so i reckon u are not the shy type of guy?
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Depends, for me, i just think, "i know my place....
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i am shy..Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:so i reckon u are not the shy type of guy?
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well more like scared of rejection so dun dare to pursue aggressively aka not confident in himself
that is the major reason why gals dun like such guys as it shows the guy does not have much courage.It is the nice guy's problem not the gal's problem that the nice guy is overlooked
haha at least that is the case with me for a long time and is something i am still trying to get rid off. One thing i have learnt is that,if you like a gal,the one thing you have to definately do is take the initiative to pursue it and definately need to let the gal know if you even want to have a chance with her.
Passive= gal sure will most likely never notice it or even if notice it but see that you do nothing much on it = sure to see you as having no balls.If that is the case,it is only the guy himself to be blamed.The guy is most likely not a nice guy, more likely just a coward who dare not pursue what he like,then complain when someone else more courageous come into the picture and get the gal.Myself a real example having gone thru this b4. -
Quite true. Also, sometimes girls want the guy to actively show interest.
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Then do guys want girls to show some signs or something? How do guys interpret signs from girls? What would be the most obvious yet subtle signs to show?
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not true.
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meh. depends what your priorities are... i don't lack in courage or passion, but i never tried to 'get the girl aggresively' so to speak. sure i spent a lot of time single but i've ended up with a girl who is so much better than any of those i ever had a crush on they couldn't touch her with the great wall of china. patience is a virtue.Originally posted by GenX:well more like scared of rejection so dun dare to pursue aggressively aka not confident in himself
that is the major reason why gals dun like such guys as it shows the guy does not have much courage.It is the nice guy's problem not the gal's problem that the nice guy is overlooked
haha at least that is the case with me for a long time and is something i am still trying to get rid off. One thing i have learnt is that,if you like a gal,the one thing you have to definately do is take the initiative to pursue it and definately need to let the gal know if you even want to have a chance with her.
Passive= gal sure will most likely never notice it or even if notice it but see that you do nothing much on it = sure to see you as having no balls.If that is the case,it is only the guy himself to be blamed.The guy is most likely not a nice guy, more likely just a coward who dare not pursue what he like,then complain when someone else more courageous come into the picture and get the gal.Myself a real example having gone thru this b4. -
well,what you say can also be true but it is a personal choice that patience will at the end of the day win over the situation.There should be a limit to the amount of patience as waiting too long might just also result in nothing happening in the end.But well good for you that in the end,you ended up with a girl who is much better.Originally posted by Jezmeister:meh. depends what your priorities are... i don't lack in courage or passion, but i never tried to 'get the girl aggresively' so to speak. sure i spent a lot of time single but i've ended up with a girl who is so much better than any of those i ever had a crush on they couldn't touch her with the great wall of china. patience is a virtue. -
True..... Very true!
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ambiguous. hmmmm...
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i must say i'm one of those guys.
It has to do with the personality problem..
i want to change very much but find it hard to change...quite sux though. -
What defines good, what defines bad?
I don't think I'm bad. Does that make me good?
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x2. gals are the more passive type. if the guy doesnt do anything to make him stand out from the rest of the guys, he will forever be in the shadow, unnoticed, no matter how good you are. its like you have a good product to sell but you just put it on the shelf waiting for people to come and look at it. how many people will know about the good product if you dont do advertising for it?Originally posted by GenX:well more like scared of rejection so dun dare to pursue aggressively aka not confident in himself
that is the major reason why gals dun like such guys as it shows the guy does not have much courage.It is the nice guy's problem not the gal's problem that the nice guy is overlooked
haha at least that is the case with me for a long time and is something i am still trying to get rid off. One thing i have learnt is that,if you like a gal,the one thing you have to definately do is take the initiative to pursue it and definately need to let the gal know if you even want to have a chance with her.
Passive= gal sure will most likely never notice it or even if notice it but see that you do nothing much on it = sure to see you as having no balls.If that is the case,it is only the guy himself to be blamed.The guy is most likely not a nice guy, more likely just a coward who dare not pursue what he like,then complain when someone else more courageous come into the picture and get the gal.Myself a real example having gone thru this b4. -
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I Disagree with that blog statement.
Its too convenient for an explanation of the why's of why ''good'' guys don't get the girls. -
Everyone will try to sell themself including gals, dating game is not by talking only, sometime heard gal say they like bad guy, guy too good gal also scare, cos they scare u easily hook another gal.
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Hmm my thinking is also kinda similar...guess that's y i dun give a s-hit about love FOR NOW...rather worry more bout my future and how it's gonna turn out depending on my current efforts to attain it...i guess i'm happy being amongst frens...gals & guys alike...Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:Read this off a blog. Guys especially, do give me your precious opinions.
I mean if the gal doesn't like me then so be it la...i'm not sum dog to carry on pursuing u...especially if yur the reason for the problems in a relationship...
If u behave like a gal...i'll adore u...u wanna be b-itchy then jolly well fark off...i dun give a damn how pretty u might be...
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agree half half to the statement loh, as ppl haf said, how u define good guys?i tink in many contexts ppl refer good guys as those ppl who r nerdy or guai n so dun reali go after girls. well at times if they dun go aft what they want, then the girls wun knw abt them n may not even take notice of them. it wuld b their fault then.
i muz admit that there r ppl who r absolutely shy abt it n totally jittery abt talkin to a girl they like. moreover the absolute fear of rejection comes more to them since they r mostly considered 'nerdy' n 'uncool', while most guys whom girls notice first r the 'cool' ppl.
however, its not all 'good guys' who r like that.
1. some girls do notice guys for their talents other than juz being suave or fit. though the numbers r lesser while at a young age.
2. good guys in other contexts can mean juz being nice n considerate for their mate. those shld b able to get girls as long as they go for it as what most girls want is to feel loved(material comfort n biasness aside).
3. bad guys dun usually last in a r/s unless the girl doesnt think logically(which i agree that at many times is so, though it doesnt always apply to GIRLS ONLI)
4. repecting someone doesnt mean u dun go try. u can try to get that girl first, tell her how u feel abt her(dun haf to b too romantic abt this part otherwise the girl might b frightened off). it doesnt mean that u THINK or ASSUME that the girl wun like u therefore u juz give up n say u RESPECT her. thats juz being assumptious. -
not true..
girls also got like that.
it's not abt the gender..
but whether the person is a passive party. -
A lot of guys mentioned that there are good guys out there and they are often overlooked.
Agree. And, I can say there is very severe communication problems between men and women who are introvert. Both groups are very suitable for each other but they will never meet because of their quiet and shy nature.Though that may be true, I think it's partially because good guys just don't go after things they like/want.
Disagree. Most men (good/bad) will always go after what they like/want unless they feel that there is not point going after it anymore. In most cases, there are many obstacles
internal factors and external factors) from getting what they want, thus they might give up before they actually try to get it.They "respect" the person and hope that the person is attracted to them for who they are and then miraculously, something will happen between the two.
Whether something will happen or not will depends on each other actions.I know how it is... I've been there and even now, things are still like that for me. I'm just not someone who aggressively pursues because I want a girl to like me for me.
It is just a matter of self-understanding. I always find we that humans are rather silly in some ways. For example, most of us spend many years in school learning this and learning that, but what all of us really should/must learn is the understanding of self, something which is extremely important to each of us, but we always overlook.
As long as you have doubt about -> whether what you want is really what you wanted, you will never aggressive pursues it.
So in my opinion, the best thing to do when in such situation is to gradually increase your knowledge, thus decreasing your doubts. -
who says we guys dun pursue things we want in our life?
and we just wanna be ourself not because we want some1 to like us of who we are but THAT is what we are !! -
yah lor, everyone just continue play waiting game
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wait wait wait wait
good for health and patience.