Wondering if she like me or just making use of me ? help
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I not sure where to start from .
Ok . She use to be in the same secondary school as me , though different class , but i use to be from badminton team and she use to be from table tennis . And our training day are the same and we often disturb each other . Sometime we even walk home together .
After secondary school , She study in MI , and i get into Poly . After which we rarely contact each other much .
Suddenly , this year , she like keep asking me to meet up for breakfast before school start .
Sometime , when late in the night , she will just call me to ask to go down bus stop to fetch her home as she stay quite close to me .
Then sometime , is like she will suddenly call me ask if i want to have lunch with her or if i free to find her cause she meeting her frenz like 3-4hr later .
Recently , i just gotten my driving license , then is like she sometime ask me if i free , can i fetch her to school .
So i was like kinda confused . Not sure if she like me or if she is just trying to make use of me . Cause one of her close frenz was like trying to hint to me why nowaday nv talk to her when i merely didnt sms her for 1week due to over-exhausted from meeting after meeting in school ...
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she sounds bored..
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Hmmmmmmz haha if her friend can know about it maybe she discusses about you with them.. soo might be more than just using you ba. Maybe be more trusting and don't think about "making use"?Originally posted by bill89:I not sure where to start from .
Ok . She use to be in the same secondary school as me , though different class , but i use to be from badminton team and she use to be from table tennis . And our training day are the same and we often disturb each other . Sometime we even walk home together .
After secondary school , She study in MI , and i get into Poly . After which we rarely contact each other much .
Suddenly , this year , she like keep asking me to meet up for breakfast before school start .
Sometime , when late in the night , she will just call me to ask to go down bus stop to fetch her home as she stay quite close to me .
Then sometime , is like she will suddenly call me ask if i want to have lunch with her or if i free to find her cause she meeting her frenz like 3-4hr later .
Recently , i just gotten my driving license , then is like she sometime ask me if i free , can i fetch her to school .
So i was like kinda confused . Not sure if she like me or if she is just trying to make use of me . Cause one of her close frenz was like trying to hint to me why nowaday nv talk to her when i merely didnt sms her for 1week due to over-exhausted from meeting after meeting in school ...
Hope your can help me out . Thanks . -
I see . But i not sure if i should let her know that i like her too .
Although i know that her parent are strict as she has to be home everyday by 6pm even though she 18 . but i am alright with that .
too scare to take the first step as have been too many failure -
quite hard to tell leh....could be:
- she is bored and wants your company
- she likes you and wants to see you hence finding excuses to meet you
when you meet up for meals, do you pay for her share all the time?
when you are with her, does she enjoys your company? does she look damn happy to see you? does she call you to chit-chat other than going out? -
Oh haha you didn't mention you like her too.Originally posted by bill89:I see . But i not sure if i should let her know that i like her too .
Although i know that her parent are strict as she has to be home everyday by 6pm even though she 18 . but i am alright with that .
too scare to take the first step as have been too many failure
Oh but anyway pretty soon you should be able to see if she's making use of you or not... If you start to feel she's just leeching off you and your resources and meeting her is a drag that should be a signal ba.
But if she does like you then she has already taken the first few obvious steps le -
from the info uve given can onli say both r possible loh. since both of u live near each other, its quite convenient to juz ask if ur free to fetch anot mah. moreover u 2 haf been frens in the same sch b4, naturally shes closer to u abit bah. it might b she likes u but its possible that she treats u as a good fren loh. btw, dun say until make use la, sometimes its juz askin if ur free anot loh, she oso din force u rite? could u tell us any other incidents that happen that might make the situation more possible towards one side?
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erm not really sure also ... but i really doubt so cause , we rarely chat on phone nor sms ... and normally sms is her who started to talk to me ... 90% of the time is she ask me out ... accompany her go anyplace ... so i not really sure ... But i really scare to lose such a frenz as we know that if i confess to her , what happen if she take me just as normal frenz , she might end up avoiding me .
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So u do like her to a certain extent right?
She never did force you, so i think u better quit thinking of her in terms of making use of u
And if she does not initiate contact at all by smsing you or asking u out, would u bother to keep in touch with her at all
If one day she stop initiating contact with you, would u still think about her? Would u still care enough to start to want to initiate contact?
I think asking yourself these questions is far more effective than wondering whether she is making use of you. For therein lies your answer... -
Just your friend.
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the question really is, do you like her?
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the problem is i dont want to contact her is because i want to try to forget her ...
but when ever she try to contact me , my heart itchy again ... -
Haha then why do you still say you like her? Why you wanna forget?Originally posted by bill89:the problem is i dont want to contact her is because i want to try to forget her ...
but when ever she try to contact me , my heart itchy again ...
Think it really is more important to sort yourself out first coz you sound like a complicated person... which is why probably why you got such issues now that a girl is taking initiatives to go out with you. -
Ok . Thanks for the help . Now i know the one that have problem is me .
cause sometime whenever i message her , she always too busy or she reply with 1 or 2 words only .. so sometime i dont really know how to talk to her
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Haha..realli ar? But since you all got so much opportunities to go out together sure can talk properly de mah... Anyway the best thing you can do for now just enjoy her company as a friend. Then ask yourself whether you really wanna be close to her and maybe you can also see whether she wants to be more than just friends right?Originally posted by bill89:Ok . Thanks for the help . Now i know the one that have problem is me .
cause sometime whenever i message her , she always too busy or she reply with 1 or 2 words only .. so sometime i dont really know how to talk to her 
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i just afraid that i dont have enough time for her only . Cause i have to many things happening in school ... as i am the main committee of my school Union...
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hey! wake up wake up.... there is no difference!Originally posted by bill89:I not sure where to start from .
Ok . She use to be in the same secondary school as me , though different class , but i use to be from badminton team and she use to be from table tennis . And our training day are the same and we often disturb each other . Sometime we even walk home together .
After secondary school , She study in MI , and i get into Poly . After which we rarely contact each other much .
Suddenly , this year , she like keep asking me to meet up for breakfast before school start .
Sometime , when late in the night , she will just call me to ask to go down bus stop to fetch her home as she stay quite close to me .
Then sometime , is like she will suddenly call me ask if i want to have lunch with her or if i free to find her cause she meeting her frenz like 3-4hr later .
Recently , i just gotten my driving license , then is like she sometime ask me if i free , can i fetch her to school .
So i was like kinda confused . Not sure if she like me or if she is just trying to make use of me . Cause one of her close frenz was like trying to hint to me why nowaday nv talk to her when i merely didnt sms her for 1week due to over-exhausted from meeting after meeting in school ...
Hope your can help me out . Thanks .
Love is making use of each other
Love is to satisfy each others' needs.
Love is give... yes give....
and take... yes take.... -
i think she likes you.
and if she doesn't, she's quite mean to leech off you.
tell her you like her! -
i think that alone gives us the answerOriginally posted by bill89:Ok . Thanks for the help . Now i know the one that have problem is me .
cause sometime whenever i message her , she always too busy or she reply with 1 or 2 words only .. so sometime i dont really know how to talk to her
ya..?
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she is just making use of your time to fill her boredom and your free ride to school/shopping.
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true, i agree. if you think she is making use of you, then stop contacting her. She never force you to do those "making use of you" stuffs. but 1 thing for sure, if you think this way, your life will be miserable. Cause your guess too much.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:hey! wake up wake up.... there is no difference!
Love is making use of each other
Love is to satisfy each others' needs.
Love is give... yes give....
and take... yes take.... -
right, imagine all kinds of things and take it as the truth....
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just look at the title:
Wondering if she like me or just making use of me ? help
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Like zack2084 said: "She never force you to do those "making use of you" stuffs." -
aiya be more organise la.Originally posted by bill89:i just afraid that i dont have enough time for her only . Cause i have to many things happening in school ... as i am the main committee of my school Union...
dont tell me that u dont even have a few mins now and then to talk to her.. to ask how is her day..
if u really like a person, no matter how short the time is u will find the time and effort to go and find hows her day.
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Don't friends also make use of one another?