Wondering if she like me or just making use of me ? help

• Zarks

  29 Oct 07, 08:57

  oh i got 2 opinions here
  
  1) she felt insecure if nobody accompany her back home cuz shes alone so since she can trust u, she can depend on u to feel secure
  
  2) she might be liking u and take this advantage to get near u.. other than that, does she call u or sms u just to chat?
  
  Why dont u ask her out one day and spend some time with her.. do these every week.. then if all weeks in a month shes always avaiable for u. then u got high chance to be her bf
  
  but if u dun like her, then just accompany her back home from school or watever just for her safety sake.. other than that. dont be so close and give her wrong idea
• de_middle

  29 Oct 07, 13:15

  Originally posted by bill89:

  I see . But i not sure if i should let her know that i like her too .
  Although i know that her parent are strict as she has to be home everyday by 6pm even though she 18 . but i am alright with that .
  
  too scare to take the first step as have been too many failure

  dun let failures stop u if ur desire is to find love
• bill89

  29 Oct 07, 22:33

  thanks for the advice , i think i know what to do , just make her my good frenz . Just scare i wont be good enough for her , as she too pretty for me
  
  And furthermore , she having her A level next year . and i should let her concentrate on her study first . Just sending her to school and pick her up when she think that either she late for sch or is late into the night . ( to be a gentleman and be a good buddy )
• jojobeach

  30 Oct 07, 02:57

  bill89,
  
  It is time you take something back from her.
  
  Next time she "make use" of you again, hold her hand when you have the chance to.
  If she pulls it away, and refuse to let you get close to her, then you know she is just making use of you.
  
  Since she is making use of you, why would you need to keep such a friend.
  This kind of friendship you still value for what ?
  
  Unless you are afraid she accepts your advances.
  
  So, you really have nothing to lose here.
  
  
• Darkness_hacker99

  30 Oct 07, 05:39

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  bill89,
  
  It is time you take something back from her.
  
  Next time she "make use" of you again, hold her hand when you have the chance to.
  If she pulls it away, and refuse to let you get close to her, then you know she is just making use of you.
  
  Since she is making use of you, why would you need to keep such a friend.
  This kind of friendship you still value for what ?
  
  Unless you are afraid she accepts your advances.
  
  So, you really have nothing to lose here.
  
  

  
  
  If out of no where people hold your hand, the first reaction is to retract lah.
• jojobeach

  30 Oct 07, 06:02

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  
  
  If out of no where people hold your hand, the first reaction is to retract lah.

  Hmmm excuse me, are you the one with a vagina?
  
  
• bill89

  30 Oct 07, 18:55

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  bill89,
  
  It is time you take something back from her.
  
  Next time she "make use" of you again, hold her hand when you have the chance to.
  If she pulls it away, and refuse to let you get close to her, then you know she is just making use of you.
  
  Since she is making use of you, why would you need to keep such a friend.
  This kind of friendship you still value for what ?
  
  Unless you are afraid she accepts your advances.
  
  So, you really have nothing to lose here.
  
  

  i am too shy to do such things ....
• Uncertain

  30 Oct 07, 19:44

  Originally posted by bill89:

  I see . But i not sure if i should let her know that i like her too .
  Although i know that her parent are strict as she has to be home everyday by 6pm even though she 18 . but i am alright with that .
  
  too scare to take the first step as have been too many failure

  Hard to say, seriously.
  
  She could be just enjoying ur company -- like those very good friend, maybe u are just her another sister. Who knows?
  
  But then, if u really enjoy the company then i think u should confess, at most fail another time lor... will heartache but trust me... time will ease the pain...
  
  If she accept u gd. Ur wish fulfilled. Hope this is the case.
  
  If not, u dun need to be bothered by her anymore. Hope so ar
• Darkness_hacker99

  30 Oct 07, 20:05

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  Hmmm excuse me, are you the one with a vagina?
  
  

  I am the one with pen|s
• wonderamazement

  30 Oct 07, 20:06

  How find her first?
• Sakuraflower

  31 Oct 07, 00:32

  
  
  Do u like her?
  Ask her .
• jojobeach

  31 Oct 07, 01:01

  Originally posted by bill89:

  i am too shy to do such things ....

  Then are you too shy to say "NO" to her ?
  
  What is it you are not satisfied with?
  
  Since you happily do things for her, what is it you want ?
  
  Friends can say no to doing things for each other without hurting the other's feelings.
  
  
• FBI

  31 Oct 07, 01:02

  making use of u.
  
  
• queen0ftiara

  31 Oct 07, 03:21

  erhhh, yah. Better tell her how u feel. in a nice way of cos
• bill89

  31 Oct 07, 13:55

  by the way : how to say it in a nice way .
  
  anyway she sms me yesterday , and ask me for my msn and added me .
• de_middle

  31 Oct 07, 14:04

  Originally posted by bill89:

  thanks for the advice , i think i know what to do , just make her my good frenz . Just scare i wont be good enough for her , as she too pretty for me
  
  And furthermore , she having her A level next year . and i should let her concentrate on her study first . Just sending her to school and pick her up when she think that either she late for sch or is late into the night . ( to be a gentleman and be a good buddy )

  u had better boost up ur self esteem 1st.....if you think so lowly of urself, its better not to start a R/S.
• lololololx2

  2 Nov 07, 22:06

  i say ditch her.
  
  we're in an age of independent females already anyway, even if she does like you, she has no right to leech off you like that.
  
  there are so many better girls out there ^^
• Jet81

  2 Nov 07, 23:36

  Hey, since you have done so many things for her... to know if she really likes you is simple.. get her to do things for you too.. like many sandwich for breakfast to eat together.. Now.. if she really takes the effort to make sandwich for you in the morning such that she can eat it together with you, then probably she really likes you.. or even love you.
  
  Many of time, female will reciprocriate to your request if they really like you inside their heart. Of cos, you may not think that it is a good idea.
  
  Just a two cent view.
• lololololx2

  3 Nov 07, 16:49

  Originally posted by Jet81:

  Hey, since you have done so many things for her... to know if she really likes you is simple.. get her to do things for you too.. like many sandwich for breakfast to eat together.. Now.. if she really takes the effort to make sandwich for you in the morning such that she can eat it together with you, then probably she really likes you.. or even love you.
  
  Many of time, female will reciprocriate to your request if they really like you inside their heart. Of cos, you may not think that it is a good idea.
  
  Just a two cent view.

  actually, that's a very good idea! now, why didn't i think of that? haha.
  
  bill89, you should try his suggestion!
• bill89

  3 Nov 07, 19:29

  Thanks for the idea , i will try it