Sob sob.

• Isis

  2 Nov 07, 18:52

  Originally posted by Lin Yu:

  he's probably a father cat with kittens in toll. live and let go

  Maybe it is living happily
  
  Don't think too much lah
• SBS3625D

  2 Nov 07, 19:38

  I think it's best to get over it, though it's tough.
  
  We are behind you!
• Aaron8209

  2 Nov 07, 19:59

  
• MooKu

  2 Nov 07, 20:00

  I'm not trying to be drama-mama here or be draggy, but I can't shake off the feeling that it's my fault. The facts all point to me... I neglected the cat, I didn't always allow it into the house. Its bed was a basket in the backyard, when it rains or anything it could've been scared but I didn't give it enough comfort... The guilt is eating into me. How to just move on..
  
  I'm usually ok lar, but everytime I think of this I just turn gloomy.
• the Bear

  2 Nov 07, 20:02

  poor you.. there there..
  
  but really, cats have a wanderlust in them.. they're happy enough by themselves as cats are solitary by nature... you gave him comfort when he needed...
  
  and.. how? slowly.. slowly...
  
  

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I'm not trying to be drama-mama here or be draggy, but I can't shake off the feeling that it's my fault. The facts all point to me... I neglected the cat, I didn't always allow it into the house. Its bed was a basket in the backyard, when it rains or anything it could've been scared but I didn't give it enough comfort... The guilt is eating into me. How to just move on..
  
  I'm usually ok lar, but everytime I think of this I just turn gloomy.

• MooKu

  2 Nov 07, 20:21

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  poor you.. there there..
  
  but really, cats have a wanderlust in them.. they're happy enough by themselves as cats are solitary by nature... you gave him comfort when he needed...
  
  and.. how? slowly.. slowly...
  
  

  Thanks bear...
  
  Thanks all...
  
  blaaah I'll try to deal with it.
• the Bear

  2 Nov 07, 20:23

  
  
  slowly slowly
  
  

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  Thanks bear...
  
  Thanks all...
  
  blaaah I'll try to deal with it.

• Isis

  2 Nov 07, 20:38

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I'm not trying to be drama-mama here or be draggy, but I can't shake off the feeling that it's my fault. The facts all point to me... I neglected the cat, I didn't always allow it into the house. Its bed was a basket in the backyard, when it rains or anything it could've been scared but I didn't give it enough comfort... The guilt is eating into me. How to just move on..
  
  I'm usually ok lar, but everytime I think of this I just turn gloomy.

  You deserve to be free.. cos u love urself.. no ?
• AndrewPKYap

  2 Nov 07, 20:39

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I had this cat.
  
  He disappeared over a year ago. But I can't get over it. I always believe he's still alive somewhere, but I just can't find him.
  
  I loved him sooo much. He was the best pet I ever had. Cuddly cuddly, silly but brave. So many stray cats have come and gone in my backyard, but I just completely stopped being able to feel any sense of attachment to any of them.
  
  It's already been a year plus, but I still end up in tears every time I think of him. And I feel extremely guilty about it, because if I didn't 'fall sick' last year, if I didn't neglect him for a few days, he would probably be still around. What if he's alive but has become a skinny, starving cat (he used to weigh 5kg)?
  
  If he would come back home, I wouldn't mind giving up 50 years of my life.
  
  I miss my cat so much and my heart aches so much. What should I do?

  You should get a dog...
• anhydrouscoppersulphate

  2 Nov 07, 21:07

  the cat merely chosed a different path to go. sometimes to love is to let go, which i think most can't do.
• hisoka

  2 Nov 07, 21:12

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I had this cat.
  
  He disappeared over a year ago. But I can't get over it. I always believe he's still alive somewhere, but I just can't find him.
  
  I loved him sooo much. He was the best pet I ever had. Cuddly cuddly, silly but brave. So many stray cats have come and gone in my backyard, but I just completely stopped being able to feel any sense of attachment to any of them.
  
  It's already been a year plus, but I still end up in tears every time I think of him. And I feel extremely guilty about it, because if I didn't 'fall sick' last year, if I didn't neglect him for a few days, he would probably be still around. What if he's alive but has become a skinny, starving cat (he used to weigh 5kg)?
  
  If he would come back home, I wouldn't mind giving up 50 years of my life.
  
  I miss my cat so much and my heart aches so much. What should I do?

  *pat pat*
  
  don't think so much ok?
• anhydrouscoppersulphate

  2 Nov 07, 21:13

  Originally posted by hisoka:

  *pat pat*
  
  don't think so much ok?

  i smell wolf
• lololololx2

  2 Nov 07, 21:26

  poor thing..
  
  hm, funny lol (not haha funny). my cat's the one that's all horny, i think.
  
  i know how you feel because my cats and dog have gone missing for a few days at a time several times before, and i have cried myself to sleep wondering if i would get my everypurpose-buddies back. (thankfully, they have always returned, even if they come back a bit bruised, dirty or ill) animals tend to make us smile in a way other humans can't, because we to pretend they really understand us.(since they can't speak), and those that are not so emotionally attached to others cannot understand why a pet means so much.
  
  i'm sorry for your loss, but you should make space in your heart for another pet or something(and don't feel guilty about "replacing" him, because you're not)-you'll be benefiting another homeless cat! i have heard torture stories, and these cats really, really do need homes. :/
  
  anyway, have a few good nights of crying (preferably while listening to sad music), eat some bens&jerry/haagen daz (no cheap ones, they don't have the same effect) ice cream right out of the carton... all those girl stuff. lol. i don't know what guys do, but the girl traditions have been passed down for so long and are really damned effective.
  
  take care.
• constancebay

  2 Nov 07, 21:47

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I had this cat.
  
  He disappeared over a year ago. But I can't get over it. I always believe he's still alive somewhere, but I just can't find him.
  
  I loved him sooo much. He was the best pet I ever had. Cuddly cuddly, silly but brave. So many stray cats have come and gone in my backyard, but I just completely stopped being able to feel any sense of attachment to any of them.
  
  It's already been a year plus, but I still end up in tears every time I think of him. And I feel extremely guilty about it, because if I didn't 'fall sick' last year, if I didn't neglect him for a few days, he would probably be still around. What if he's alive but has become a skinny, starving cat (he used to weigh 5kg)?
  
  If he would come back home, I wouldn't mind giving up 50 years of my life.
  
  I miss my cat so much and my heart aches so much. What should I do?

  Can I be your cat?
  
  
• Barbarianben

  2 Nov 07, 22:01

  To those who like cats and loves to misplace them:
  
  Advice: grow catnip in a pot. Your cat will never run away.
  
  Ps; Most likely you cat is caught by culling management and *snip*.
• fairlady_xoxo

  2 Nov 07, 23:20

  Ah ma! =( don't be sad ba....
  
  I think just having him in your memory is good le....at least...you still had a period of time in your life that you were with him...=)
• browniebaobao

  2 Nov 07, 23:21

  one yr is v long.
  
  dun think will be able to find him back le.
  
  even tho if u see him, u might not be able to recognize him.
  
  juz remember him in ur heart.
  
  brownie stays in my heart forever. i still have her picture in my wallet.
  
  i believe she's leading a happy life at Rainbow Bridge.
• caleb_chiang

  3 Nov 07, 02:03

  TS, how many 50 years you have to spare?
• Yunhaier

  3 Nov 07, 09:19

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  I had this cat.
  
  He disappeared over a year ago. But I can't get over it. I always believe he's still alive somewhere, but I just can't find him.
  
  I loved him sooo much. He was the best pet I ever had. Cuddly cuddly, silly but brave. So many stray cats have come and gone in my backyard, but I just completely stopped being able to feel any sense of attachment to any of them.
  
  It's already been a year plus, but I still end up in tears every time I think of him. And I feel extremely guilty about it, because if I didn't 'fall sick' last year, if I didn't neglect him for a few days, he would probably be still around. What if he's alive but has become a skinny, starving cat (he used to weigh 5kg)?
  
  If he would come back home, I wouldn't mind giving up 50 years of my life.
  
  I miss my cat so much and my heart aches so much. What should I do?

  Well, you already did what you could by saving it 3 years ago. I don't think it's because you fell sick and things happened - it appeared more like your bonds with this cat has ended naturally.
  
  /me pat pat Mookie.
  
  Cheers