Gf bullied at work...
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Hey guys.. my ger is 6 mths into her job at some company. She has this female colleague , let's call her Miss A, who keep badmouthing about her in the office... Both of them are working in the same dept. She purposely taught my ger the wrong way of doing some stuff and my ger has to bear responsibility for the mistakes.. my ger has been very upset over this matter.. My ger told me that everyone in the office dun like A alot.. yet her contract still get renewed..
Is there any way I can get back at Miss A? -
Yuan yuan xiang bao he shi liao...
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Best is to tell your gf to quiz, when the boss ask y not expose Miss A.
C what your boss do. -
report to the Miss A's boss
back up with evidence like emails (tts why JFL says cc and bcc very impt) -
Reflect the incident to your superiors, but you must have the right intentions.
That is not to get back at her, but to let the superiors know and help you do your job better.
If no change, escalate. These kind of incident are normal in the work place, your gf will learn over time so honestly, you shouldn't help your gf too much. -
my ger's gonna tell her boss (they share the same one) on monday.. only pity is dat she dun have any evidence like emails.. cos Miss A taught her verbally.. so i'm afraid she won't have a strong case against her. A few weeks back, my ger requested to transfer to other dept. The management promised her come next Jan.. so should my ger stay put or just leave if they dun do anything bout the incident?
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this is called the "real world."
ask ur gf to learn how to do pre-emp this kind of stuff. -
put drugs in that bitch's bag and call the police
kidding -
god gave you, a guy, one large rod that can be extended at will, to teach folks like Ms. A a lesson and give her babies against her will.
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you're a sick guy nikar... very sick.
however god did give women handbags and not for carrying lipstick around... handbags at dawn!!!
or if you lack a sense of adventure... just get her to tell the boss lol -
usually new staff will kena the same thing wan la..
i also kena before...
juz ren lor..
in the business world, we juz have to be alert and learn to protect ourselves.
always let her senior review her work, then let manager/boss review before submission. -
No point telling the boss. If everyone in the dept hates her, do you think the boss does not know??? The boss is either a blur fcuk, can't be bothered or no balls. Either of which would not help even if you bring it up to your boss. If Ms A's contract gets renewed, it says a lot. She has backing....... If you are new and others esp your boss have yet to know you better, it reflects badly on your inter personal skills to complain now.Originally posted by lem0nade:Hey guys.. my ger is 6 mths into her job at some company. She has this female colleague , let's call her Miss A, who keep badmouthing about her in the office... Both of them are working in the same dept. She purposely taught my ger the wrong way of doing some stuff and my ger has to bear responsibility for the mistakes.. my ger has been very upset over this matter.. My ger told me that everyone in the office dun like A alot.. yet her contract still get renewed..
Is there any way I can get back at Miss A?
Just bear with it. More over you have asked to be transferred to another dept, do you think the current boss would be bothered with your problems? If you complain now, you also risk your current boss/Ms A badmouthing you in the new dept, just to cover their asses. -
Isnt this work politics. Can't be helped. Always happens. The best she can do is learn some work ethics and defend herself. But that requires her to stay in the job continue to learn cuz where ever else she goes, it will still happen.
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rape her
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Walau just because your gf said somebody bully her in the new company you straight away assume it is so and want to take revenge on her behalf?Originally posted by lem0nade:Hey guys.. my ger is 6 mths into her job at some company. She has this female colleague , let's call her Miss A, who keep badmouthing about her in the office... Both of them are working in the same dept. She purposely taught my ger the wrong way of doing some stuff and my ger has to bear responsibility for the mistakes.. my ger has been very upset over this matter.. My ger told me that everyone in the office dun like A alot.. yet her contract still get renewed..
Is there any way I can get back at Miss A?
First thing first hor, how old is she? Must be a gina or a weakling that don't know how to fend for herself that need the 'macho' bf to shelter her. How long are you going to shelter her? All her life? Eventually one of these days you will get tired of trying to shelter and protect her or maybe you 'go' earlier than her then who is going to protect and shelter her?
Second thing hor, are you working in her company to SEE it really happen? She cannot bluff meh just to get your attention. Or it was all in her mind that people are bullying her. Or maybe your gf tried to bully the old staffs but failed miserably.
In either of those two scenarios hor, you have no right to interfere. You can only lend a listening ear and maybe advice. Worse come to worst ask her resign and look for new job if she cannot win in office politics. YOU are only an outsider. What right have you to 'kaypoh' what is happening in her company? Beat the woman up for bullying your gf? So you think you become your gf hero? And you sound like a 'gina' oso'. Grow up and learn to be more mature in thinking! Act macho niah but brainless
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Anything that Miss A tells your gf, get yr gf to email to her that this is what she said and cc the bossOriginally posted by lem0nade:my ger's gonna tell her boss (they share the same one) on monday.. only pity is dat she dun have any evidence like emails.. cos Miss A taught her verbally.. so i'm afraid she won't have a strong case against her. A few weeks back, my ger requested to transfer to other dept. The management promised her come next Jan.. so should my ger stay put or just leave if they dun do anything bout the incident?
No choice but to work this way with ppl like that -
I think you should work on helping your girlfriend to get over emotionally with Miss A first. What can u do honestly.. Go join her companies and play with the politics ? Don't you think it is a waste of time and energy of your life to "play" with Miss A. What goes around comes around.Originally posted by lem0nade:Hey guys.. my ger is 6 mths into her job at some company. She has this female colleague , let's call her Miss A, who keep badmouthing about her in the office... Both of them are working in the same dept. She purposely taught my ger the wrong way of doing some stuff and my ger has to bear responsibility for the mistakes.. my ger has been very upset over this matter.. My ger told me that everyone in the office dun like A alot.. yet her contract still get renewed..
Is there any way I can get back at Miss A? -
Yeah! justin timberlake, what goes around, comes around...Originally posted by Isis:I think you should work on helping your girlfriend to get over emotionally with Miss A first. What can u do honestly.. Go join her companies and play with the politics ? Don't you think it is a waste of time and energy of your life to "play" with Miss A. What goes around comes around.
Yes, it part and parcel of working life, ask your gf to take it, eat it, digest it, and learnt from it. Tell her, welcome to working life, everywhere she goes, in whatever organisation she join in, there is alway a MR or MISS A around to mess around ya. And sooner or later, once she get used to it, she herself may become Miss A unconciously ya.
She met Miss A only, next she may meet Miss B. -
let her deal with it herself.....trying to act hero & coming here to ask for help
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Ya i agree, sometimes it reflects alot more on the one complaining rather than the one being complained. The other collegues don't like Ms A as well, but they did not complain, so ur gf is doing the dirty job for them.Originally posted by golani_bde:No point telling the boss. If everyone in the dept hates her, do you think the boss does not know??? The boss is either a blur fcuk, can't be bothered or no balls. Either of which would not help even if you bring it up to your boss. If Ms A's contract gets renewed, it says a lot. She has backing....... If you are new and others esp your boss have yet to know you better, it reflects badly on your inter personal skills to complain now.
Just bear with it. More over you have asked to be transferred to another dept, do you think the current boss would be bothered with your problems? If you complain now, you also risk your current boss/Ms A badmouthing you in the new dept, just to cover their asses. -
burn the house!!!
Beat the mother!!! [/img] -
start collecting evidence..
then either yr gf can be super bittccch, and blackmail Miss A, or be super ssss, and report to the supervisor... -
If yr GF intends to stay long in the company, have to start to learn to defend herself.
Sometimes, people just get dragged into office politics.
Suggestion, if your GF gets scolding from another person for a mistake that was wrongly taught by Ms A, get your GF to write and e-mail to Ms A wif cc to concerned parties asking Ms A why she taught your GF to do it the wrong way.
But if Ms A got strong backing from the person who always extends her contract, that person must be getting honey from Ms A lor. -
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yea... its real life here. and i think ur gf's arent the only ones. even me gets it too.Originally posted by lem0nade:Hey guys.. my ger is 6 mths into her job at some company. She has this female colleague , let's call her Miss A, who keep badmouthing about her in the office... Both of them are working in the same dept. She purposely taught my ger the wrong way of doing some stuff and my ger has to bear responsibility for the mistakes.. my ger has been very upset over this matter.. My ger told me that everyone in the office dun like A alot.. yet her contract still get renewed..
Is there any way I can get back at Miss A?
maybe she should do some thinking if she does things which attracts too much attention? or piss ppl off?
she needs to learn to play the game of politics
from my experience, females tend to be more asking for politics than male
we are simple ppl