How should i be feeling?
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Don't really know if this is an agony. Well, let me share what i have in my heart.
Three weeks ago, i went to the gym. While working out, i saw this girl. She somehow attracts me. Might be a crush, maybe not. We were looking at each other. I did not make the first move to talk to her.
So i just left the gym. The following week, the same day, Wednesday.
I stepped into the gym, i saw her running at the treadmill. I felt my heartbeat race faster, so i told myself "okay, since this is the second time i saw her, might as well talk so i won't miss the chance and regret."
I was working out, she was doing cardio. I feel like she's giving me a lot of chances to approach her. But i am shy, don't know how to approach. I don't deny the fact that i had approached girls before, i wasn't rejected and end up being friends. I told my gym buddy that the girl is cute, he told me, "want me to help you talk to her?" I said 'No, shy lah". So we left the gym.
I feel like hitting myself? Two chances and i don't cherish them.
I believe in the saying "if there's fate, we will see each other again?"
So ytd, i went to the gym again. Once i stepped in, i looked around.
HA! THERE SHE WAS! I am happy lah, wanna burst out smiling.
Okay so this is it i told myself. I start working out, when i was taking a break, cooling down. I asked my girl - friend[a sec sch schmate ] to help me approach her. she did and it was up to me to take the initiative. As usual, we were looking at each other. She was giving me signs like " come talk to me " I am not joking here, i wasn't wearing pants with zips, neither was exposing my underwear.
Everything was set up nicely, my friends were like, "what are you waiting for?
she is there waiting for you"
I clean up, i went to the lobby where she is. She was reading magazines with her friend. She treats me like i'm invisible. Okay, i felt like maybe she's shy too.
So i went out of the gym and waited for her to come out.
40 mins passed, i stood there like an idiot. She finally came out, she took a bathe. She exited, she saw me.
She just left with her friend. I tried to catch up. She walked even faster.
I got into my car, i drove to where she was, stopped right in front of her. I opened the door, i said hi. She stand there and walk off? I was like WTF?
I mustered my courage to say hi. I mean like if i wasted chances while in the gym, i made up outside? Why must she like just left without saying anything?
Why give me signs to go over and you just left?
I felt i was played man. Feeling confused.
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You might have been thinking too much
I don't want to burst your bubble, but actually I felt that she might have been interested in you but by opening your door, she might have felt offended because she could have thought you treated her like a cheap fcuk. You know, like guys picking up girls @ club for ONS
that kind of thing, i can say, you did the right thing at the wrong time -
No, what i meant was i opened my door to step out to talk to her.
No as in open the passenger's door for her to step in. If i made the first move in the gym, i won't be posting this today.
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it's still the wrong thing to do
because it's like, she felt you might just talk and then invite her to your car then you know what happens after that in tv dramas?
maybe you can make-up the next time in your next gym visit? -
Yeah, i didn't consider that. Thanks man. But what i feel is maybe she might be thinking that why didn't i go talk to her. Keep waiting and waiting like i'm putting on air? A chinese phrase [ Bai Jia Zi?] I leave the car out the next time i go to the gym. But its awkward for me to talk to her after this right.
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Well, I used to think that I should let fate and destiny handle everything and always pray for miracles to happen. But now, I know that everything happens only when you do something to make it happen.
So the next time you see her, Pluck up all your guts and go over and say hi. Maybe you could apologise to her about the other day and asked if she felt offended or anything. -
Think i'll do that. Its like a week for me to see her. I don't dare to approach at first cause i am afraid that she'll think that i'm a desperate guy, picking up girls as and when. Dilemma
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Hey, what is wrong about going up and talk to a gal, i was approached many times by guys in the public and most just happily make frens out of it, Please lah, what is there to be shame, shy or scare about, we gal won't eat you up ya. We also respect and admire guys who are more open and not those teeny weeny shy type.
I believed the gal did not noticed you or thought that you were saying hi to somebody instead of her. Once a guy also approached me and say hello, i completely ignored him, because I was thinking of something that I did not noticed him. The next day, in the same bus stop, he again approached me and said hello, and asked "did you note my greeting to you yesterday", I was glad he came forward so that I have a chance to apologise to him about my ignorant. From then on, we become frens, and guess what, i introduce him to my sexy gf too and they are getting engage very soon.
Go straight and talk to her, I guarantee she will talk to you, if not, she must be a damn proud gal, no use going after her, even if you manage to get her, you will suffer. -
I stopped my car right in front of her? I stepped out to her side. Maybe what you said is right. I'll be more confident. Thanks angel.
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Originally posted by angel7030:Hey, what is wrong about going up and talk to a gal, i was approached many times by guys in the public and most just happily make frens out of it, Please lah, what is there to be shame, shy or scare about, we gal won't eat you up ya. We also respect and admire guys who are more open and not those teeny weeny shy type.
I believed the gal did not noticed you or thought that you were saying hi to somebody instead of her. Once a guy also approached me and say hello, i completely ignored him, because I was thinking of something that I did not noticed him. The next day, in the same bus stop, he again approached me and said hello, and asked "did you note my greeting to you yesterday", I was glad he came forward so that I have a chance to apologise to him about my ignorant. From then on, we become frens, and guess what, i introduce him to my sexy gf too and they are getting engage very soon.
Go straight and talk to her, I guarantee she will talk to you, if not, she must be a damn proud gal, no use going after her, even if you manage to get her, you will suffer.
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Uhh? Why are you ?
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nothing
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I feel so so much better after saying/typing this out! :-)
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some girls love to play that game...trust me
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Playing hard to get? This shows she ain't easy? Ha, ha.
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I think there will be a fourth time that u and her will meet again. Treat this "mishap" as an opportunity to start a conversation with her.
Just go up and talk to her:" hi, I am sorry for the incident last time. Actually, i just wanna make friend with u that time, do u mind being my friend?"
-- Look at her sincerely and smile a bit.
If she @#$ you, then at least u know u have tried. -
Yeah, hopefully there's a fourth time. Clearing the misunderstandings will be good. Thanks for all the replies =)
Sincerity and confidence shall be the key! -
Hey guys and girls, I have sth i wanna ask. Okay, lets say i see her again. Should i explain my actions the other day? Like why i never approach her while in the gym?
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Who say got car and money sure can get the gal u want? LOL..
Those who standby that are pure loser in love!
Back to TS topic. U drive car and approach her might be a bit intimidating...
I scare she will not go back to the gym again... -
seriously thinking too much..
jus forget abt her -
y make someone a priority in yr life when they r only options in yr life? nvr get too personal with women.
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Why should you explain? I don't see you doing anything wrong like you setting fire on her hair or something to that kind of degree.Originally posted by MidnightK:Hey guys and girls, I have sth i wanna ask. Okay, lets say i see her again. Should i explain my actions the other day? Like why i never approach her while in the gym?
Don't be so weak as to apologise to a woman for something small like that. Remember, you are a man. A man is not supposed to be intimidated by a woman. Just a woman only. There are tons of beautiful women out there.
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Don't try to explain. Such act of u only shows that u are thinking too much... never make yourself look stupid in front of the girl u like.Originally posted by MidnightK:Hey guys and girls, I have sth i wanna ask. Okay, lets say i see her again. Should i explain my actions the other day? Like why i never approach her while in the gym?
Just use my method:"hi, i am sry that i have scared u but i just wanna befriend with u. Do u mind being my friend?"
Use the words wisely, one mistake can make a world of difference. Gd luck. Stay cool and calm when approaching her. -
It is an investment. Apologise to her is just a stepping stone to spark a friendship which may turns out to be a BRG. Who knows?Originally posted by dokono:Why should you explain? I don't see you doing anything wrong like you setting fire on her hair or something to that kind of degree.
Don't be so weak as to apologise to a woman for something small like that. Remember, you are a man. A man is not supposed to be intimidated by a woman. Just a woman only. There are tons of beautiful women out there.
doko -
I won't do that sort of thing as to apologise unless it's really my fault. Based on the situation, it's a really small matter. There's no need for apologies I feel. This makes you look weak.Originally posted by Uncertain:It is an investment. Apologise to her is just a stepping stone to spark a friendship which may turns out to be a BRG. Who knows?
And don't look so far as to imagine it as a BGR. As if the girl cares? Take things one step at a time. It will put pressure on him. Just enjoy the moment.
doko