What to do?
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i think i seriously need help.. since break up with my boyfriend.. just can't seem to get him out of my head, go everywhere also think of him.. i just can't stop myself loh
like i noe i should move on, forget him, that like there are so many fishes in the sea but i just can't seem to stop thinkin about him 
feel very lost, cos this is the first time i am feeling this way, and i dunno how to handle it
and i'm also very angry with myself 
but again, just feel as though he is THE ONE and there's no one else that can take his place again 
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everybody will experienced tis...
it takes time to heal and forget him... i managed to...
how fast you can get over dat person... varies with each individual
move on...
*jia you* *jia you* -
maybe u can try keeping urself busy lor...so dat u wun have the time to think of him??
time will heal everything,just depends on urself,c if u r willing to let time heal them all
Gd Luck!
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According to what you type - which mostly express feelings deep inside of you, has mention zero about what has gone wrong. I deduced that its another common classic break-up over nothing much. You are 17 this year - prime age of searching, sourcing and experiencing what people called love. I have to tell you something - this is natural and its all part of a cycle called life.Originally posted by puppylove:i think i seriously need help.. since break up with my boyfriend.. just can't seem to get him out of my head, go everywhere also think of him.. i just can't stop myself loh like i noe i should move on, forget him, that like there are so many fishes in the sea but i just can't seem to stop thinkin about him
feel very lost, cos this is the first time i am feeling this way, and i dunno how to handle it and i'm also very angry with myself but again, just feel as though he is THE ONE and there's no one else that can take his place again what to do? i cannot take it anymore..
You can't stop thinking of him, you cry, you feeling lost is because of the fact that you 'lost' something important to you. Anyone losing things that meant alot to them will feel that way too. Imagine you lost your handphone - it creates similiar effect, except maybe you won't cry, because HP is a materialistic item, while love works the emotional ways.
You said you dunno how to handle it; this is due to the fact that TILL NOW and ONLY TILL NOW, this guy happens to be the *best* among all your exes and guys. You said you are angry with yourself? Why? Because you feel that you haven't done enough for this relation? Because you never try to solve whichever problem there is? Because you never treat him *better*? My guessing list goes on... you know it better.
You are unable to accept it because it happened too fast and you are neither mentally nor emotionally prepared. Weep all you want today, but after today tell yourself - even though we may not be together, and since nobody can take his place: he shall remain good memories which I will treasure deeply. You have to move on - because i can bet with you he will NOT be feeling what you are feeling now. Maybe he will be a little down, etc, but definitely not as dramatic as you. So why shed wasted tears on a past relation?
You need time - take this opportunity to recuperate and calm down. Because you needed all that time to do so and remember the LAST thing to do is to get yourself entangled with another relation without sufficient break. You will have the strength to go through... trust me and most importantly - yourself.
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u juz need time...like for me (also juz broken off) i also felt as if the whole world has stopped...but the sad thing is NO, life goes on...juz have to try ur best to endure it thru? like wat im doing now...juz tell urself tt the day will come when u r completely over it...in the case of thinking of he is the ONE, i also encountered tt feelings...maybe while trying to recover, change urself 4 the better? while keeping in contact? coz u never know...breaking up now might not mean that it is forever a full stop...juz let time do the jobOriginally posted by puppylove:i think i seriously need help.. since break up with my boyfriend.. just can't seem to get him out of my head, go everywhere also think of him.. i just can't stop myself loh like i noe i should move on, forget him, that like there are so many fishes in the sea but i just can't seem to stop thinkin about him
feel very lost, cos this is the first time i am feeling this way, and i dunno how to handle it and i'm also very angry with myself but again, just feel as though he is THE ONE and there's no one else that can take his place again what to do? i cannot take it anymore.. -
*APPLAUSE*Originally posted by hopy:u juz need time...like for me (also juz broken off) i also felt as if the whole world has stopped...but the sad thing is NO, life goes on...juz have to try ur best to endure it thru? like wat im doing now...juz tell urself tt the day will come when u r completely over it...in the case of thinking of he is the ONE, i also encountered tt feelings...maybe while trying to recover, change urself 4 the better? while keeping in contact? coz u never know...breaking up now might not mean that it is forever a full stop...juz let time do the job
U r doing Great
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tyty 1stly i wanna thank blahx3 hahaha...well...but i think i still haven't fully recover yet...as both of us still has unsettled feelings towards each other...but to him he seems to be able to get on in life w/ tt feeling bothering him leh....i still CMI hai....juz keep telling myself i need time...Originally posted by reallieRAW:*APPLAUSE*
U r doing Great That's the Spirit man -
hang out with more frends.... for me i feel it helps
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hi girl... i'm also in the same boat as u, my bf just broke off with me and i was damn devastated... what u going thru now, i also... i know it hard but hai life still have to go on... remember u cry u made urself suffered, but he wun know cos i guess he is enjoying life... i also cried a lot and kept thinking of him but he is not lo. he now is like damn enjoyed life and he even tell me that he now enjoy outing w frens than outing w meOriginally posted by puppylove:i think i seriously need help.. since break up with my boyfriend.. just can't seem to get him out of my head, go everywhere also think of him.. i just can't stop myself loh like i noe i should move on, forget him, that like there are so many fishes in the sea but i just can't seem to stop thinkin about him
feel very lost, cos this is the first time i am feeling this way, and i dunno how to handle it and i'm also very angry with myself but again, just feel as though he is THE ONE and there's no one else that can take his place again what to do? i cannot take it anymore..
wah u imagine how i felt when he said that... so i decided to make myself happy as well... i know if now ask u not to think of him is difficult so i suggest u now try to find thing do keep urself occupied
all these takes time... so mean while find thing to do like go out w frens, go work, go ah ma hse visit her... just anything that will make u bz at the moment.. i'm sure in no time u will slowly forget him... time will heal everything... always remember, he might be enjoying himself at the moment but u are thinking of him.. not worth... k? take care....... -
hope everyone going through the same things as me can somehow find someone that was meant for you meanwhile, let's all hang on, and make our lives whole again.. jiayou!
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Dun be sad...tink when ur next fate come, u will more cherish it and hav a better relationship !Originally posted by puppylove:hope everyone going through the same things as me can somehow find someone that was meant for you meanwhile, let's all hang on, and make our lives whole again.. jiayou!
Givache -
jia you to those who had just broke up w their bf/gf
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wah so many unker and auntee agony here..
every failed reln can result in only one good thing: that we learn. we learn from the mistakes we made, we learn from choosing a person unwisely, we learn about ourselves and how we react in different situations, wat we dislike, wat makes us tick, wat makes us cry.
We learn how to love, and we learn also, to cherish love when we find it again. notice i said WHEN and not IF.
so when we get into the next reln, it'll be better, becos we know better. of course we're still not perfect.. so if we're lucky we find someone that clicks with our imperfect but very improved self, or we go on searching again, if we're not so lucky.
never forget to learn. -
Jia you?Originally posted by nicoleger:jia you to those who had just broke up w their bf/gf -
Originally posted by xavier1979:Jia you? " I think she meant in getting on with Life and getting over the unhappy things....?
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hmmm...seems like guys always say such things...my ex also say tt he enjoy more when going out w/ his frds then me....Originally posted by nicoleger:hi girl... i'm also in the same boat as u, my bf just broke off with me and i was damn devastated... what u going thru now, i also... i know it hard but hai life still have to go on... remember u cry u made urself suffered, but he wun know cos i guess he is enjoying life... i also cried a lot and kept thinking of him but he is not lo. he now is like damn enjoyed life and he even tell me that he now enjoy outing w frens than outing w me
wah u imagine how i felt when he said that... so i decided to make myself happy as well... i know if now ask u not to think of him is difficult so i suggest u now try to find thing do keep urself occupied
all these takes time... so mean while find thing to do like go out w frens, go work, go ah ma hse visit her... just anything that will make u bz at the moment.. i'm sure in no time u will slowly forget him... time will heal everything... always remember, he might be enjoying himself at the moment but u are thinking of him.. not worth... k? take care....... -
Sinead O connor - Nothing compares to you
It's been seven hours and fifteen days
Since you took your love away
I go out every night and sleep all day
Since you took your love away
Since you been gone I can do whatever I want
I can see whomever I choose
I can eat my dinner in a fancy restaurant
But nothing ...
I said nothing can take away these blues,
'Cause nothing compares ...
Nothing compares to you
It's been so lonely without you here
Like a bird without a song
Nothing can stop these lonely tears from falling
Tell me baby where did I go wrong?
I could put my arms around every boy I see
But they'd only remind me of you
went to the doctor guess what he told me
Guess what he told me?
He said, girl, you better have fun
No matter what you do
But he's a fool ...
'Cause nothing compares ...
Nothing compares to you ...
All the flowers that you planted, mama
In the back yard
All died when you went away
I know that living with you baby was sometimes hard
But I'm willing to give it another try
'Cause nothing compares ...
Nothing compares to you ... -
yeh.. that was wat i meanOriginally posted by Devil1976: " I think she meant in getting on with Life and getting over the unhappy things....? 
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Ya i agree lor.. time is everything and time will heal everything.... meantime just keep yrself busy so that time can pass faster.. for me... i just keep posting here
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well girl be patient w yourself... let the nature takes it course...
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yeah.. guess i just have to slowly go through this myself.. hurts really bad though so many words to say yet none is to be heard..
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There is a special somebody for each one of us. True love is hard to find. Hope you will get over the distracting ones really soon.
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yeah.. but i still think that special someone is him, he's no distraction, he's the one for me. i dunno whether i should stop thinking that way, cos hu noes, it might be true.Originally posted by Elementals:There is a special somebody for each one of us. True love is hard to find. Hope you will get over the distracting ones really soon. -
but i guess its becoz u juz broke off tts y u think in tt way...let time do the talking...like wat i am feeling now....Originally posted by puppylove:yeah.. but i still think that special someone is him, he's no distraction, he's the one for me. i dunno whether i should stop thinking that way, cos hu noes, it might be true. -
hang out more with other guy frens...it will neutralise the love for yur old bf.