My girlfriend
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You need to learn to dominate your bitch. You are clearly the submissive one in your relationship.
In fact, you are disgracing us men. -
break la...no point staying if shes tired of this relationship...oso not say in the world earth got her this gal lei...dun waste ur time on her la...since she wan give up...
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hmm.. man bgr seriously sucks.
but i noticed that possessiveness is a bad trait to have. =/
i also feel possessive, but must control and remind myself not to be. -
i think is time for you to let go and carry on with your life... don't be foolish to cling on a bgr when there is no more hope for both of you... from what i see you have been giving in to her when there is a fight.sometimes you have to show her who is the man....
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ya. you should start to think positiveOriginally posted by de_middle:possibly inter-twined to being possessive as a result
TS, u should start sorting things out urself too -
Things like this happen when your girlfriend is better than you and you feel insecure about it.
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aiyo..
frm wad i see...
its a matter of
sooner or later.
when a relationship comes into these,
it wont last..
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hey i do experienced this kinda situation and..the best thing..is cool down first..there is nth else u can do if keep on thinking n duno wad to do..
cool down first n talk that out..in a nice tone..maybe? -
Are you still in poly? My advise is to you is just break off and maintain friend first la .Know her more first.There are not one girl in this world there are girls that is better than your girlfriend X100 1,slowly search why so hurry?No girlfriend you will die meh? This is a very realistic world lo.Got money got talk.If you work next time,you need cert to survive.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:After all the perfect girlfriend threads, now we see the other side
I admit to being possessive but she has been taking me for granted. I just called her to tell her I am going to sleep, and she says I don't trust her when she says she is going to call me back. After our BIG fight, she has been talking to me sarcastically and reminding me she cannot devote all her time to me. She is so sarcastic that;when I try to salvage it, I talk a chunk of stuff that we should talk things out, she just answers: Maybe. Everything I say, she just is so sarcastic or irritated. She says she is irritated of me and disgusted that I am so possessive/keep reminding her stuff.
I told her straight, I am possessive, but she takes me for granted. Everytime, I have to throw my ego just to please her, be it my fault or hers. She has been mentioning breaking up and reconsidering the relationship. It hurts me that I am trying to put aside my pride and she just wants me to be at a bad side. She says things like 'so its my fault? It is always my fault!' and I will have to tell her relationships are shared, it is either both or nothing, we share our burden, not pushing the blame.
I want her to know I do love her and I am willing to change. But she insists that we might not work out. She sms-ed me to say she loves me but she is tired of us. What should I do? We have given ourselves time off. But what should I do to salvage the situation? It has been bothering other aspects of my life now. She is my pillar of strength, I don't know what would I do if she is gone!
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ok la. we talked things out. actually i found out the remedy. i told her alrd, as long as we r fine, we can be tgt. i told her not to be so sarcastic anymore.
the remedy is: let her cool down 1st. she is easily irritable, so i should let her cool down. the main thing is, she told me, if i said ok to the break up, she would be stunned. juz that my gf likes to use reverse psychology and i got tricked
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haha... ok la keep cool la... u still got a long long road...Originally posted by sEphIrOth:ok la. we talked things out. actually i found out the remedy. i told her alrd, as long as we r fine, we can be tgt. i told her not to be so sarcastic anymore.
the remedy is: let her cool down 1st. she is easily irritable, so i should let her cool down. the main thing is, she told me, if i said ok to the break up, she would be stunned. juz that my gf likes to use reverse psychology and i got tricked -
Just by what you said here, I think you should leave her. In fact, if you find it difficult to bring up the topic, allow me to do you the favour should you decide on this course of action.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:ok la. we talked things out. actually i found out the remedy. i told her alrd, as long as we r fine, we can be tgt. i told her not to be so sarcastic anymore.
the remedy is: let her cool down 1st. she is easily irritable, so i should let her cool down. the main thing is, she told me, if i said ok to the break up, she would be stunned. juz that my gf likes to use reverse psychology and i got tricked
Women who do not communicate their wishes in a straighforward manner are not ready for permanent and happy and longlasting relationships. Similarly, if you have identified yourself as being possessive but is taking positive steps to clearly identify the areas of problems and dealing with them, then you too should be on guard about where the relationship is headed towards when you find yourself clearly identifying too often and is feeling really tied down trying to deal with the problems. A gf is to make you "happie", serve you coffee or tea when you ask for it, and appease your anger when you get into a fit. In return you swear to protect her with every fibre of your being.
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Wow aren't you a troubled kid..Originally posted by sEphIrOth:I have health problems too. High blood pressure, knee problem, sexual disorders. I am not ashamed because I feel I have such problems but I want to solve them, yet my family does not want to acknowledge some problems. The sexual problem makes me feel inferior as my male ego is damaged. Other ailments leave me thinking when will I die. I feel that so many problems at the age of 19, it is very disheartening.
Health problems
Psychological problems
Sexual disorder
=> What exactly?!? Micro-penis, cannot errect, cannot ejaculate or what??
Then what are you doing with a girlfriend then? Don't pollute the gene pool with your defective genes!!
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= Penis damaged??Originally posted by sEphIrOth:male ego is damaged -
What you said
i care about our relationship. sometimes i admit i m possessive but i m cutting down on it.
So here's how you "cut down" on itjust now, i called her again to say im gonna sleep, before that, she said she will call me back after she does her stuff(usually 5mins) so 10mins later i called her
Sorry ... What have you done for her again??i have given everything, she gives lesser
You have done nothing.
what should i do now? i wan her to understand my plight and how i m keeping the flames alive but she ruins it and claims she is giving more than me? i wait for her to get home, i remind her to take health supplements, i m awake for her
You gave a list of superficial things you've done that require minimal effort and expect sympathy for your "plight"?
Why can't you make a real effort for once?
Make a real effort to listen and you will hear her screaming for help.
Make a real effort to cut down on your possesiveness.
All she's asking for is one thing.
But I know you can't give her that.
It's all about you.
"What I want. How I feel. What she must do to make ME feel better"
You don't have the capacity to love her.
You are too selfish to make any real effort. -
find someone else, you deserve better.
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oh! i'm remember you're that kid who keeps complaining about your family being strict and you want everything in the world but is unwilling to work for it. break up do her and yourself a favour. -
Yea, OP is a loser.
GTFO MY INTERWEBB! -
ur gf really dont understand.. sigh. break up la plz...
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x2Originally posted by Quinsy:honestly, i think there's other guys going after her and she might have a crush on them or is starting to think there's bigger fishes out there to catch and no longer cherishes this relationship as much as she used to.
Those are usually the symptoms of a dying relationship. -
i realised what is wrong.
when ppl r angry, they spout nonsense. she told me she was tired of us n everything, but she was angry at tt time. she admitted to me. she told me she wanted this to work out. so we have worked things out. she admits she takes me for granted sometimes and is willing to see things from my side.
yet again, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
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she was angry at you?
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maybe u can give her hint wat u wan her call u lor...like u say all ...dear.baby.honey.darling.laopo..baobei...
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when she is angry, anything comes out, so i shouldnt think too much about what she said in the 1st place.
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Firstly, as a guy, you should be HER pillar of strength-compromising all the time is a definite DON'T. It shows that she is unable to rely on you 100%, and that's disconcerting for a girl. However, sometimes, you should, because a relationship is based on give and take-but as a guy, you should learn that it's alright to say no (at times), and stand by whatever it is you believe is right.
And secondly, if you keep feeling that you have to change, what's the point? Loving someone means accepting everything that they are, isn't it?? -
Mind games and emotional blackmail are just the only things that them sluts nowadays are good at. Never fall for their little tricks. If they neither respect you as an honest, principled man who has done no harm to society nor appreciate your goodwill, tell them to get the fuck out of your life, and take their precious little toyboys with them.
We, as free men, will not perish without these disrespectful sluts, and our existence in this world does not need to be validated by others.