Wonder why Aunt Agony..
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Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel. -
Aunt Agony is not the only place for losers n whinners.
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they should combine aunt agony with whinehouse
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how about posting this in aa and see wad they have to say?
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ur now whining in cc.
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lol yeah.Originally posted by oOprinceOo:ur now whining in cc. -
Go whinehouse lo...
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tat is the difference between a rational and emotional statement...
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Well, aren't you whinning now? Everybody needs a place to whine and vent their anger and frustration..Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
Don't tell me you have never whined before in your ENTIRE life..because you ARE whinning now..
So if you are whinning now, you don't go and accuse others of whinning..
And who ask you read their threads? When you see the thread is about love and bgr, DON'T READ LOR! Nobody is pointing a gun at your forehead at poink blank and ask you to read it..you can choose not to.. -
yup, i'm whining now, as i mention in my post mah
just felt the need to let this out.
cuz i felt whinners (mostly) wont achieve anything
to solve a prob, start looking from urself first, instead of others.
dun forget that whenever u r pointing ur finger at others, three other fingers are pointing at urself.
ya, and i hardly look at aa forum, cuz the purpose of aa forum is long lost. -
Hell right you are..when you whine, you feel like letting this out..so other people who whine wants to let it out too! So why can't they?Originally posted by extrinsic:yup, i'm whining now, as i mention in my post mah
just felt the need to let this out.
cuz i felt whinners (mostly) wont achieve anything
to solve a prob, start looking from urself first, instead of others.
dun forget that whenever u r pointing ur finger at others, three other fingers are pointing at urself.
ya, and i hardly look at aa forum, cuz the purpose of aa forum is long lost.
And when you say whinners won't achieve anything, you saying yourself ba? -
one day, i foresee TS will do the same..
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This is a place for them to release some of the pended up anger,sadness,agony,sorrow in them.
Whats wrong with that?
Are u trying to say that they are trying to act pitiful here? -
Cool!!!!Originally posted by Cool-gal:one day, i foresee TS will do the same..
Today off ah? -
when a relationship fail, everyone will start blaming n picking fault at the other party instead of two parties at fault. this is common behaviour.
they want to whine out, let them be as this is only they feel good themselves. compare to other problems like "which sch should i go to", "my classmates dislike me", etc.
some problems can be solve by oneself, instead of whining to others. -
*sigh*..Originally posted by alleggerita:Hell right you are..when you whine, you feel like letting this out..so other people who whine wants to let it out too! So why can't they?
And when you say whinners won't achieve anything, you saying yourself ba?
yes, as long as i still whine here, i dun tink i wld achieve big. sad to say.
and perheps, i guess i'm more irritated, not becuz they whine, is because they blame ANYONE other than themselves for any problem they face in life/bgr.
i guess i have to blame myself for this thread also, i sldnt have look at aa
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Yes..maybe you really shouldn't have visited AA..Originally posted by extrinsic:*sigh*..
yes, as long as i still whine here, i dun tink i wld achieve big. sad to say.
and perheps, i guess i'm more irritated, not becuz they whine, is because they blame ANYONE other than themselves for any problem they face in life/bgr.
i guess i have to blame myself for this thread also, i sldnt have look at aa
And honestly, sometimes when they blame the other party for the break up, it is not without reasons and it is not totally unreasonable..sometimes it's the guy/girl unfaithful first..so you mean it's wrong to blame someone of being unfaithful? Unfaithfulness is a rightful thing to do? -
its very natural to feel defensive about yourself when you're hurt.Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
and ppl split up not just due to whether you're good to them or not.
i've seen cases where the girl left because the guy's too nice, and she don't find him thrilling. lol in fact she asked him why he don't scold her etc.
there are reasons like religious differences, character differences, one is outgoing the other prefers to stay at home,
alot of reasons la..
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all event comes with a reason.Originally posted by alleggerita:Yes..maybe you really shouldn't have visited AA..
And honestly, sometimes when they blame the other party for the break up, it is not without reasons and it is not totally unreasonable..sometimes it's the guy/girl unfaithful first..so you mean it's wrong to blame someone of being unfaithful? Unfaithfulness is a rightful thing to do?
if the other is unfaithful, r u sure it's the other party fault?
cldnt it be u neglected her/his needs?
or u have been giving all things that U FEEL she/he need, but not what SHE/HE needs?
and yes, there can be downright simple case where the other party is very clearly at fault, but from the amt of threads aa forum has daily, it's too much.
anyway, no right or wrong answer, my views are just that, often and too often, the threads are based on a single party pov.
and most ppl tend to beautify their own profile/personality, with or without their own knowing. -
Consider that it is human nature to protect ourselves.
It make sense when men doesn't quite see the fault they have or even if they do see it. It is minimised like what you've mentioned.
The other kind of party will be one who place the blame wholly onto themselves.
Maturity allows a person to take a step back from their situation. Look, think and make move from there.
People in AA (those you're talking about) may need alot of time to have that maturity. -
Huh! what? Like me, woei!! I never whine about love ya, the matter is got no bf how to love???Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
Frankly, who will say himself/herself no good??? -
yes!!Originally posted by Patrik:Cool!!!!
Today off ah?
daniel wu, i like u..
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no la, u havent tio those jia lat jia lat r/s b4.Originally posted by extrinsic:*sigh*..
yes, as long as i still whine here, i dun tink i wld achieve big. sad to say.
and perheps, i guess i'm more irritated, not becuz they whine, is because they blame ANYONE other than themselves for any problem they face in life/bgr.
i guess i have to blame myself for this thread also, i sldnt have look at aa
but seriously, i have a feeling u will come in one day to relate abt ur sadness..
cos i always believe 'dun pass a remark tat easy'...
*justin timberlake- what goes around, comes around*** -
hmm do you think it would be better if both parties look after the other party's interest? so that you won't be too busy with trying to protect your interest to care for the other party?