Wonder why Aunt Agony..
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so many such threads in AA "pertaining" to maybe teenage "bgr"
that's why i browse AA the most once or twice per month nowadays since early this year
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same here.
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Heng I'm not one of those that posts in AA..Originally posted by Phoebie:so many such threads in AA "pertaining" to maybe teenage "bgr"
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It makes one feel less guilty and more victimise in the hope of garnering more sympathy votes if one put the blames on other and make them look bad instead you looking bad
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who say i nv been throu?Originally posted by Cool-gal:no la, u havent tio those jia lat jia lat r/s b4.
but seriously, i have a feeling u will come in one day to relate abt ur sadness..
cos i always believe 'dun pass a remark tat easy'...
*justin timberlake- what goes around, comes around***
i broke with my gf recently, of 4yrs.
but, no pt whinning abt hw good i treat her this and that or how bad she is
the bare fact is that i failed to satify her other requirement and thus, out i goes.
n if i gg 2 post in aa, it's not gg to be above, where i say how good i am or how bad she is.
it's pointless cuz most TS will always think they are right, others are wrong.
like some of the replies here, ppl are defensive and no1 think they themselves are no good. else is those who think themselves are very lousy, both so extreme.
and i wonder, in aa, why they post?
to seek consolence telling them that they are in fact good but other party bad?
to console their ownself? u can oni have a lasting relnship if u know where u did wrong, not where u did right. -
Aiya there will always be a ready supply of ppl posting such topics in AA and you can't do anything abt it. That's the reality.
I understand how you feel about all those ppl whining and blaming their partner but there isn't really much you can do about it.
Instead of complaining about a problem try to find a way around it, who knows it may make u rich
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I am not sure if u have read newspapers or magazines with "Aunt Agony" sections in them.Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
If u have, I am sure u will know that love, relationships too take up a lot of space.
When people write about their love problems, of course they are whining. But the thing is, they do have the right to whine. Because they don't know what went wrong, or what needs to be done. That's why they post here.
There are a million reasons why people break up all the time, and sometimes, it isn't because anyone is wrong. Its all because of wrong timing.
If u don't like what u read in AA, u can always don't go there. Just like I don't like cars, i don't go to the car section. -
so u agree wif TS ah?Originally posted by M©+square:Consider that it is human nature to protect ourselves.
It make sense when men doesn't quite see the fault they have or even if they do see it. It is minimised like what you've mentioned.
The other kind of party will be one who place the blame wholly onto themselves.
Maturity allows a person to take a step back from their situation. Look, think and make move from there.
People in AA (those you're talking about) may need alot of time to have that maturity.
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aiyah, sometimes when u're down, u just need someone to console u and listen to u.
at tat very moment, u feel very lost n down. after some encouraging words, u tend to feel slightly better though it dont help in ur heartbreaking.
tats how human cope with sadness and sorrow.
maybe u dun post here cos u have other way of consoling urself.
to each his own.
soooooooo.....................................
aiyah, since its free, just post la... -
dude
try getting into their shoes
in FACT
if u get into situations like then
COME HERE AND say whats the prob
LETS SEE WHATS UR POST LIKE
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extrinsic needs to grow up abit...
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Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
That's why this forum is top five; I have been lurking in Aunt Agony ever since 2000 and 80% of topics still revolves around BGR, even in the past, therefore I don't think that aspect has change very much.
What I believe is that I don't think it's just Aunt Agony - I think SGF has evolved, as a whole, into its next era already... with the introduction of the next generation into the community.
I believe most old birds will agree with me - the SGF in the past was a much better place to be. Not that it sux now, but it used to be more fun years back.
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I know, when i was still around.Originally posted by Yunhaier: That's why this forum is top five; I have been lurking in Aunt Agony ever since 2000 and 80% of topics still revolves around BGR, even in the past, therefore I don't think that aspect has change very much.
What I believe is that I don't think it's just Aunt Agony - I think SGF has evolved, as a whole, into its next era already... with the introduction of the next generation into the community.
I believe most old birds will agree with me - the SGF in the past was a much better place to be. Not that it sux now, but it used to be more fun years back.
Cheers
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one relationship? thats all?Originally posted by extrinsic:who say i nv been throu?
i broke with my gf recently, of 4yrs.
but, no pt whinning abt hw good i treat her this and that or how bad she is
the bare fact is that i failed to satify her other requirement and thus, out i goes.
n if i gg 2 post in aa, it's not gg to be above, where i say how good i am or how bad she is.
it's pointless cuz most TS will always think they are right, others are wrong.
like some of the replies here, ppl are defensive and no1 think they themselves are no good. else is those who think themselves are very lousy, both so extreme.
and i wonder, in aa, why they post?
to seek consolence telling them that they are in fact good but other party bad?
to console their ownself? u can oni have a lasting relnship if u know where u did wrong, not where u did right.
4 years?
try more and you will learn more
people post cos they are unsure what they did is wrong or rite. They wish to heard from others whether is the correct thing or not. Sadly some listern and change, most never..
In AA is just advice or views from others which you will not heard in the real world. Out there is just a fake world where you only hear good fake stuffs.
my question for you is, what is right?
what is the really the right way to do things?
Ask around and there are many views.
"u can oni have a lasting relnship if u know where u did wrong, not where u did right."
nice words but in real life, how many is willingly to change?
knowing a fault is easy, how many really change the ways?
Action speaks louder than words.
Why crap so much but do nothing? -
i always look at myself before thinking whether it is unfair due to external factors. maybe some people do analyse themselves first?
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Everyone ciao liao... leaving me alone.Originally posted by M©+square:I know, when i was still around.
Cheers
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80% about love, BGR
90% blame the other party
100000x bad/good
You got stats on advice given:
Patch up
Dump her/him
Woo her/him
You are a klutsk
You did the right thingy
Blame aside, it is the advice given that counts.
The issues that are understood better.
Bad dicisions/choices that are avoided.
so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their not not seeing the whole picture and complaining. -
Come share share leh..I'm only here for a year..come tell me why last time better and why now not so nice anymore?Originally posted by Yunhaier: That's why this forum is top five; I have been lurking in Aunt Agony ever since 2000 and 80% of topics still revolves around BGR, even in the past, therefore I don't think that aspect has change very much.
What I believe is that I don't think it's just Aunt Agony - I think SGF has evolved, as a whole, into its next era already... with the introduction of the next generation into the community.
I believe most old birds will agree with me - the SGF in the past was a much better place to be. Not that it sux now, but it used to be more fun years back.
Cheers
Because of the clones? Because of the XDDs and XMMs? They and their lame stuffs? -
Originally posted by M©+square:same here.
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piss off man. their life their problem. ever heard of tat?Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel. -
Cheese goes well with whine.
There are many factors in a break up. One should not generalise. -
wow ur in agony .. wow !
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TS, even if AA is a place for whiners, let it be ya. I am also a whiner what! I dare to admit cos AA is the place that makes me recover from my wound. Without AA, i think i wouldn't have learned so much about r/s and how ladies think.Originally posted by extrinsic:Took a look at Aunt Agony and wonders why 80% are abt love, bgr.
and so so so surprised that 90% ARE BLAMING the other party for their breakup or quarrel.
If the other party choose to leave you, it's simple, you are not good enough or you did something wrong. But in nearly all post, it seems like their own "good" side is magnified 100000 mil times.
and the other party "bad" side is magnified 100000 mil times also.
(and please lor, if you say urself so good, why wld the other party leave? backside itchy ar?)
seems like aunt agony had envolved into a whinners place.
just feel the need to let all out whenever i see so many threads saying their other party not good, and he/she himself/herself so good, like angel.
It is HUMAN NATURE TO overstate ur problem and understate others' problem. Everywhere is like that to be frank, in politics, in r/s, in friendship, in jobs etc....
Love, by itself, has no right or wrong answer. U can never justify who is more at fault than others, simply because this is the price u need to pay for going into a r/s. Love is sweet and bitter and there are many factors that govern the success of a r/s... don't be so simple-minded to call people whinner because u never how much effort one has placed in to a r/s and ended up failing. -
i guess, people post threads here, to feel better.
some seek advices, some seek comfort.
some are lost and don't know what to do.
while some are heartbroken and need others to console.
not everyone has a friend to console him/her 24/7 you get me?
apparently for your case TS, you probaly are seeking for comfort. in hope that people share the same view as you. but apparently nobody here is standing on your side from what i can see. perhaps closest to you would be those on a neutral basis.
and sometimes it feels good to have people who are standing on the same side with you. and sometimes its also good to hear opinions from 3rd party's POV and especially from someone who doesn't know you at all so that there's minimal biasness. people who side you here don't side you because you're their friend but they side with you because they kinda agree with what you're thinking. -
It's sort of a support group when people are feeling down or need some advice.