Is this betrayal?
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i dont know. could it be?Originally posted by SpeedStar:Maybe its just a causal remark bah? -
he admitted to saying that, dun he? (honesty) unless he deny, is another case.Originally posted by petti:Yes, this is a small matter. But must we wait untill we catch a man red-handed in bed with another woman then we start making noise, concluding that he has cheated?
u have been hearing too much gers' comment here. ur bf cld b just joking or he's just being sacrastic to that ah pui.
if his "all-the-while" behaviour are good, i dunno why such a small comment hurts in the first place.
i cannot see the reason why honesty (or sacrastism) hurts.
anyway, choice is urs, he (maybe) deserve some1 who dont doubt him also. -
he did not apologise?Originally posted by petti:yes, this is the first time that such incident happens. no, he did not apologise, he just gave excuse like "do you honestly think that plump girl is sexier......." to which i walked away.
mmmmmm, he reli has the potential..
i think u did the right thing by walking away, let him feel like a fool instead of trying to make u like a fool.
i hate guy who flirts thru words and actions.
sux.
u shd have rebuked then why did he make tat comment since he finds her plump n not sexy?
if he can say tat to a plump gal, wad abt those slimmer n better looking gal??
oh my..
why do some guys behave this way?? -
Doubting? Excuse me, there is no doubt. He said that. He admitted it. Anyway, there is probably not much room not to admit it, is there. We could always walk up to that storekeeper to 'confront' her if he insists that he is being framed, couldnt we?Originally posted by extrinsic:he admitted to saying that, dun he? (honesty) unless he deny, is another case.
u have been hearing too much gers' comment here. ur bf cld b just joking or he's just being sacrastic to that ah pui.
if his "all-the-while" behaviour are good, i dunno why such a small comment hurts in the first place.
i cannot see the reason why honesty (or sacrastism) hurts.
anyway, choice is urs, he (maybe) deserve some1 who dont doubt him also.
I asked him, would you accept if i tell another man, infront of you, he is cuter than you, can you accept it? he couldnt.
Okay, maybe i had heard too much of women's comments. So where are the men giving comments? Or is there no other remotely reasonable defence to this other than the one by speedster? -
petti, seems you don't know him well enough. Looks like you are confused.
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i feel tat TS deserves someone who is more trusting as well.Originally posted by extrinsic:i cannot see the reason why honesty (or sacrastism) hurts.
anyway, choice is urs, he (maybe) deserve some1 who dont doubt him also.
this is called hiao cui hiao lan. -
Yes, i am confused. And disappointed. Looks like you can never know one person enough.Originally posted by qlqq9:petti, seems you don't know him well enough. Looks like you are confused.
Honestly, how could a person have such audacity to pass such remarks right infront of his/her gf/bf? Where is decent respect?
I am really disappointed. -
6 months & already this is happening
u better decide properly whether to continue on anot
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I guess this is true only if u trust him. Anything that we say cannot go against him cos we do not know him.Originally posted by petti:i dont know. could it be?
But one interesting thing I notice is those who advice u that ur bf got problem....are mostly woman. Maybe they are right bcos they have similar experience bah. As a guy, I will say its harmless unless he is showing "more" concern with other gal constantly. -
I agree with you. To me, if my boyfriend is so proud of me then he will not make such comments. Just play by ear and see and observe him, put him on probation. Don't commit so much on your part. Do you people have any mutual friends that you can check with on his character and his past romance? Sometimes if you meet friends or those around who are mature in handling BGR and know the ins and outs of the person they can help you understand the person better.Originally posted by petti:Yes, i am confused. And disappointed. Looks like you can never know one person enough.
Honestly, how could a person have such audacity to pass such remarks right infront of his/her gf/bf? Where is decent respect?
I am really disappointed. -
my (ex) gf asked me, between her and lin xin ru,who more nice..
i said lin xin ru..
between her and lin xi lei, who more sexy, i said the latter also...
little wonder she left me.. *sigh*
but, words aside, if u really feel he not truthful to u, then just dis-contd lo. but when u calm down more, u tink back, u wld feel it's stupid to judge a person by maybe a mere casual remark. -
is there a way she can find out if the boyfriend is showing more concern to the other gal constantly?Originally posted by SpeedStar:I guess this is true only if u trust him. Anything that we say cannot go against him cos we do not know him.
But one interesting thing I notice is those who advice u that ur bf got problem....are mostly woman. Maybe they are right bcos they have similar experience bah. As a guy, I will say its harmless unless he is showing "more" concern with other gal constantly. -
Yes, i got to know him via mutual friends. They all vouched that he is a faithful guy. Well..... sighOriginally posted by qlqq9:I agree with you. To me, if my boyfriend is so proud of me then he will not make such comments. Just play by ear and see and observe him, put him on probation. Don't commit so much on your part. Do you people have any mutual friends that you can check with on his character and his past romance? Sometimes if you meet friends or those around who are mature in handling BGR and know the ins and outs of the person they can help you understand the person better. -
oh please, that is lin xin ru you are talking about. If jessica alba is around, i really dont mind him telling her and even me that she is sexier than me! i will personally tell her she is sexier than me. You know the difference between appreciating beauty and flirting btw?Originally posted by extrinsic:my (ex) gf asked me, between her and lin xin ru,who more nice..
i said lin xin ru..
between her and lin xi lei, who more sexy, i said the latter also...
little wonder she left me.. *sigh* -
Then there may be a certain truth that he is a faithful guy. JUst continue to watch if he goes round flirting with gals without your knowledge. I believe sometimes our gut feelings can serve as a good guide. Probably, you may want to consider to treat him as he is and see how far this relationship will bring you to. But this does not mean closing one eye when you ever sense something wrong.Originally posted by petti:Yes, i got to know him via mutual friends. They all vouched that he is a faithful guy. Well..... sigh -
sometimes their bestmate might not know them tat well either.Originally posted by qlqq9:I agree with you. To me, if my boyfriend is so proud of me then he will not make such comments. Just play by ear and see and observe him, put him on probation. Don't commit so much on your part. Do you people have any mutual friends that you can check with on his character and his past romance? Sometimes if you meet friends or those around who are mature in handling BGR and know the ins and outs of the person they can help you understand the person better.
i ever had a bf who seems trustable to me, only after our amicable breakup, he told me wad he did. i was quite shock n angry but wad can i do.
he even told me tat he never tell anyone.
conclusion: not to trust ur guy 100% even if he seems trustable. always allow tat little doubtful thoughts. u never noe, reli. some ple can hide it well, real well. a great liar, i applause.
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x2.Originally posted by qlqq9:Then there may be a certain truth that he is a faithful guy. JUst continue to watch if he goes round flirting with gals without your knowledge. I believe sometimes our gut feelings can serve as a good guide. Probably, you may want to consider to treat him as he is and see how far this relationship will bring you to. But this does not mean closing one eye when you ever sense something wrong. -
ohh..that is a joke in the first plc.Originally posted by petti:oh please, that is lin xin ru you are talking about. If jessica alba is around, i really dont mind him telling her and even me that she is sexier than me! i will personally tell her she is sexier than me. You know the difference between appreciating beauty and flirting btw?
perheps, he really think that malay ger is sexier? (if not, then either he's filirting OR he's sacrastic)
but since his frds said so (thats he's not filrt) and his behaviour had been good, i really dunno why u get too worked up over a casual remark (in guys opinion).
Summary: in guys opinion, it's a casual opinion.
If i'm to say that remark to that malay ah pui, it's be just sacrastic, and that malay is either too stupid to realise it or either she's looking for trouble. -
and ya, btw, i dun believe ppl have a fetish for ah pui, thus IMHO, it's a sacrastism from ur bf.
if ur bf wants to filrt, he wld find better ones. -
Yes, some people never tell anyone. and even if a person is trustworthy in the past, let's not forget that people do change.Originally posted by Cool-gal:sometimes their bestmate might not know them tat well either.
i ever had a bf who seems trustable to me, only after our amicable breakup, he told me wad he did. i was quite shock n angry but wad can i do.
he even told me tat he never tell anyone.
conclusion: not to trust ur guy 100% even if he seems trustable. always allow tat little doubtful thoughts. u never noe, reli. some ple can hide it well, real well. a great liar, i applause.
The above statement is not made with specific reference to my boyfriend. -
Sigh, guys guys guys! What you said make me recalled what happened to my past relationship. My ex boss was the one who saw how good and great interest/liking my ex had for me so I was encouraged to go with him. Guess what, she was the one who said she saw him intimately with another gal. Well, I finally broke up with that jerk. However, before that by observing my ex and based on my gut feeling I had decided to break off with him and then words from my ex boss just expedited my break off with him.Originally posted by Cool-gal:sometimes their bestmate might not know them tat well either.
i ever had a bf who seems trustable to me, only after our amicable breakup, he told me wad he did. i was quite shock n angry but wad can i do.
he even told me tat he never tell anyone.
conclusion: not to trust ur guy 100% even if he seems trustable. always allow tat little doubtful thoughts. u never noe, reli. some ple can hide it well, real well. a great liar, i applause.
It depends how close the bf is with those around him, I believe to some friends the bf will reveal almost everything to them. -
how do u know shes telling the truth? maybe shes lying, u gonna trust a stranger over your BF?Originally posted by petti:You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.
The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""
Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you? -
hey, there are men who go for plump girls. I used to know a rather gd looking and well-built guy who only go for plump girls.Originally posted by extrinsic:and ya, btw, i dun believe ppl have a fetish for ah pui, thus IMHO, it's a sacrastism from ur bf.
if ur bf wants to filrt, he wld find better ones. -
Well, if you followed the thread, you would have known that he had admitted to it upon confrontation.Originally posted by the.owl:how do u know shes telling the truth? maybe shes lying, u gonna trust a stranger over your BF? -
Not to one that I can think of, but neither she can prove that her bf is betraying her rite?Originally posted by qlqq9:is there a way she can find out if the boyfriend is showing more concern to the other gal constantly?