Am i wrong to be angry?
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My gf jus finish her A lvl like few days ago. But immediately she got 2chalet in 1 week. Of cos i was nt happy. Firstly is.. i cannot spend time v her. Secondly.. The person who open the chalet is 1 who she like last time. And they almsot get tgt. They got hold hand. But they nvr get tgt. I only noe this recently.
Then tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach. Then she sayh ok @ first. But say they going wild wild wet @ 10. Then ask me go @ 1+. then i ok.. Then change and change again.. until 6+ i mean who will play inside from 10-6. Then somemore.. i ask her.. i tmr feel like going escape.. then ask her wanna acc me ma. But she say she dun like and her friend dun want also. Then i ask her. Wad if ur friend like it, and want to go? will u go? she say YES!!
I was like.. i was nt even as compare to her friend. Ask her go escape, she say she dun like and dunwant to go. and if her friend wana go, she wil acc them..
then y can't she play v them until like 2+ then come out and meet me?? y must she keep sticking to them?
i mean.. i go there was to acc her de.. but it look as if she was the 1 acc me..
i was feeling damn angry and sad... should i go tmr?? -
how old are you?
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very easy...
break up lor -
19+ le lo.. haa
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hello wake up lah. u have huge trust issues. you dont trust yr gf thn better not get involved in a r/s.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:My gf jus finish her A lvl like few days ago. But immediately she got 2chalet in 1 week. Of cos i was nt happy. Firstly is.. i cannot spend time v her. Secondly.. The person who open the chalet is 1 who she like last time. And they almsot get tgt. They got hold hand. But they nvr get tgt. I only noe this recently.
Then tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach. Then she sayh ok @ first. But say they going wild wild wet @ 10. Then ask me go @ 1+. then i ok.. Then change and change again.. until 6+ i mean who will play inside from 10-6. Then somemore.. i ask her.. i tmr feel like going escape.. then ask her wanna acc me ma. But she say she dun like and her friend dun want also. Then i ask her. Wad if ur friend like it, and want to go? will u go? she say YES!!
I was like.. i was nt even as compare to her friend. Ask her go escape, she say she dun like and dunwant to go. and if her friend wana go, she wil acc them..
then y can't she play v them until like 2+ then come out and meet me?? y must she keep sticking to them?
i mean.. i go there was to acc her de.. but it look as if she was the 1 acc me..
i was feeling damn angry and sad... should i go tmr??
so what if she wants to party with her classmates after all the pressure of the exams. so what if its in one week. even if it was one month u will not be happy cause the other guy is ther.
you know she will be with her classmates yet u insist on showing up. duhz. n u complain she keeps postponing yr meet up, shes out with a group of frens. majority wins n primarily your not supposed to be anywhr near ther. y shd a group of people accomodate their fun for a single inividual who they probably have not met and such n MCP?
please la. be a man. have some spine. trust yr partner n get some frens of your own. -
it was she who ask me to go there for the 3 days of chalet.. and i reject... then she ask me go for bbq.. then i ok de.. nt i insist on showing up.. And i noe her friend well kaes..Originally posted by skeujin:hello wake up lah. u have huge trust issues. you dont trust yr gf thn better not get involved in a r/s.
so what if she wants to party with her classmates after all the pressure of the exams. so what if its in one week. even if it was one month u will not be happy cause the other guy is ther.
you know she will be with her classmates yet u insist on showing up. duhz. n u complain she keeps postponing yr meet up, shes out with a group of frens. majority wins n primarily your not supposed to be anywhr near ther. y shd a group of people accomodate their fun for a single inividual who they probably have not met and such n MCP?
please la. be a man. have some spine. trust yr partner n get some frens of your own.
but ur last paragraph.. i agree -
Give her a break la..
She just finished her A's want to have fun let her be lo..
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thn tell your story clearly in yr 1st post.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:it was she who ask me to go there for the 3 days of chalet.. and i reject... then she ask me go for bbq.. then i ok de.. nt i insist on showing up.. And i noe her friend well kaes..
but ur last paragraph.. i agree
you said "tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach."
the term "i plan to go" and "she ask me to go" are 2 different things.
even if you know her friends. are you within the social circle? you are n outsider. let your gf have some time with her own friends. everyday see your face also sian.
have you ever heard of this saying that goes "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? -
so should i go tmr??
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chalets are for sex
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jealousy and insecurity is quite common la. some ppl are more affected, but trust me, its good to give each other some space to breathe. don't crowd her or she might leave.
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*nods in agreement*Originally posted by skeujin:hello wake up lah. u have huge trust issues. you dont trust yr gf thn better not get involved in a r/s.
so what if she wants to party with her classmates after all the pressure of the exams. so what if its in one week. even if it was one month u will not be happy cause the other guy is ther.
you know she will be with her classmates yet u insist on showing up. duhz. n u complain she keeps postponing yr meet up, shes out with a group of frens. majority wins n primarily your not supposed to be anywhr near ther. y shd a group of people accomodate their fun for a single inividual who they probably have not met and such n MCP?
please la. be a man. have some spine. trust yr partner n get some frens of your own.
u have to let her have her own private time.. its very impt one.. cannot 24hr niam tgt one.. sure will die very fast.. it may be very difficult at 1st.. that's how u learn to build up trust and that's how ur relationship can progress, if not, keep niam-ing tgt there will be no progress and it will stagnate and then it will become boring and die off..
let her go out and play, have fun, enjoy.. u also can have ur own activities what.. make appointments or dates with her now lo.. book her in the future 1st.. but if she already has plans with friends, dun go join her, unless she makes it known that she wants u to go..
dun suffocate her, and she wun run away.. show her the concern, but do it the right way.. care for her, but dun question her.. she chose u over the other guy, den dun make her think she made a wrong choice..
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ok im going to be lor sor.
this is about lhow possessiveness will kill a r/s.
imagine that your cup your hands together and you are holding a pool of water in them.
imagine that the water is the one u love.
your hands protect the one you love. you shield it from the sun, you make sure it doesn't spill.
but what happens when u get possessive? you will want to grip onto the one u love more.
you clench your fists...
the water starts to spill...
the tighter your grip. then more you lose. and if you dont learn to let go. eventually you will lose everything.
understand? -
sooooooooooooooooooooooo comforting for the TS's mind now..Originally posted by cutie-pie:chalets are for sex -
do you want to be a great bf?Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:so should i go tmr??
let her go party w her frens. let her be but do drop her n sms in the evening to she hows she doing, ask her to have fun and tell her u love her. (n once will be enuf! dont bug her the whole day with numerous calls)
in the time that you are apart. if you got no one to company u out n you dont know what to do. dont waste your time on tv and computer games. do a handmade gift for her, from your heart. do a montage of pictures from the day you met. of some nice trinket that you know she can see everyday and it will remind her of you and bring a smile to her face.
give the gift to her when next u meet after the chalet.
post here what happens n tell me if i gave bad advice.
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this is AA. go play in BAR whr u belong.Originally posted by cutie-pie:chalets are for sex -
I'd be irritated if i was in your situation as well.
The girl doesn't be as "into" spending time with you as much as you are with her. And this to me in a warning flag.
While i do agree with everyone else's view on "not being too possessive" i also think that not taking someone who loves you for granted is equally important.
Think back on your entire relationship and evaluate..
1) Are you a priority in her life...or just an option? -
thx.. i think i noe le. thx alot. so i think i better nt go tmrOriginally posted by skeujin:ok im going to be lor sor.
this is about lhow possessiveness will kill a r/s.
imagine that your cup your hands together and you are holding a pool of water in them.
imagine that the water is the one u love.
your hands protect the one you love. you shield it from the sun, you make sure it doesn't spill.
but what happens when u get possessive? you will want to grip onto the one u love more.
you clench your fists...
the water starts to spill...
the tighter your grip. then more you lose. and if you dont learn to let go. eventually you will lose everything.
understand? -
Both of you are not wrong...
You have the right to be angry is your feelings where you feel she did not intend to spend personal time with you...
She is not wrong where she will find that without her friends there will be less fun is her character...
Is both of your characters are both different so both of you must compromise with one another...
Talk to her that you would like to spend some personal time with her if you dun tell her she will not know...
If she say no way mean that she like to have more ppl ard if i am not wrong your gf is those fun loving type but u are the opp you are those who friend is friend family is family gf is gf all cant be associate with each other... You will like your gf to be with your side all day all night personal time with each other want to b more romantic but your gf is those where her friends are as equal important as her bf....
Talk to her she will understand... No point getting angry with one another...
You shld not be angry @ her u shld go tml with her...
You say it is her A level finish and she meeting her freinds after that she will have less time with them and both of you are still with each other and spending time... Let it be... talk to her... -
Not right or wrong
it is.... you shouldnt be angry
she dont need your company.... she dont need you 24/7.... she needs to go out with her friends too, you know? she needs some life with her friends too
and finally theres time for her and her classmates to play together, so let them be.... that explains she choose her friends over you.. your gettin clingy in here
and also, if you know her friends, them you also join the chalet lor.. problem solve.. you get to see her -
How long have you all been together? Is the R/S stable before this happened? Learn to trust her more, dun everything don't trust her, r/s will die easily this way..
Take it as a test, if she leaves you now cos she wants to get back to those guy then let it go, if she loves you she won't do it de.. of course I'm not asking you to let her go too wild... -
your words contradict each other. you ask him to leave her to her frens yet u ask him to join her n her frens.Originally posted by Lorry`:Not right or wrong
it is.... you shouldnt be angry
she dont need your company.... she dont need you 24/7.... she needs to go out with her friends too, you know? she needs some life with her friends too
and finally theres time for her and her classmates to play together, so let them be.... that explains she choose her friends over you.. your gettin clingy in here
and also, if you know her friends, them you also join the chalet lor.. problem solve.. you get to see her
eventually even if he does know them. note that they are her frens, not his. he shd let her have her time alone with her frens w/o him being around.
his being there at the chalet will only show -
1) he is possessive
2) he doesnt trust her
3) he has no life of his own
4) too clingy
5) he is so selfish that he does not empathies with his gf's needs -
jz suck it up... theres no equal in a r/s... teen r/s even more is abt frens n fun so dun take it too hard... jz enjoy the fun times...Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:My gf jus finish her A lvl like few days ago. But immediately she got 2chalet in 1 week. Of cos i was nt happy. Firstly is.. i cannot spend time v her. Secondly.. The person who open the chalet is 1 who she like last time. And they almsot get tgt. They got hold hand. But they nvr get tgt. I only noe this recently.
Then tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach. Then she sayh ok @ first. But say they going wild wild wet @ 10. Then ask me go @ 1+. then i ok.. Then change and change again.. until 6+ i mean who will play inside from 10-6. Then somemore.. i ask her.. i tmr feel like going escape.. then ask her wanna acc me ma. But she say she dun like and her friend dun want also. Then i ask her. Wad if ur friend like it, and want to go? will u go? she say YES!!
I was like.. i was nt even as compare to her friend. Ask her go escape, she say she dun like and dunwant to go. and if her friend wana go, she wil acc them..
then y can't she play v them until like 2+ then come out and meet me?? y must she keep sticking to them?
i mean.. i go there was to acc her de.. but it look as if she was the 1 acc me..
i was feeling damn angry and sad... should i go tmr?? -
i ask him to join in because he said he knows her friends too.. (and know well like what he had said) so since he's so insecure, i guess he may join in tooOriginally posted by skeujin:your words contradict each other. you ask him to leave her to her frens yet u ask him to join her n her frens.
eventually even if he does know them. note that they are her frens, not his. he shd let her have her time alone with her frens w/o him being around.
his being there at the chalet will only show -
1) he is possessive
2) he doesnt trust her
3) he has no life of his own
4) too clingy
5) he is so selfish that he does not empathies with his gf's needs
of course, he should give some free time to his gf and let her mix with her friends.... actually i'd rather he dont go tomorrow
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same prob bro my ex wholeday neglect me cause of her friends and she really nvr make time for me at all.my prob is the neglecting part. not the boy part. and she always change time like forever.and i mean every single time. anw we broke up alrand from my experience, this means that
1.her friends come first
2.she lost feelings for you
and this means that if you cant take this, means you are quite sensitive and have a lil trust issue right here. just like me in the past.means that the both of you arent really meant for each other lah. no point continuing. because its like you are sensitive and your girl just nice is that type of girl that doesnt show love or care for the bf.
IF you still wanna continue the rship,dont show her that you are sensitive to trivial matters like this,show her that you trust her.if not, im afraid i have this feeling you are gonna get dumped soon.
gdluck