Am i wrong to be angry?
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I really despise people like you. You need to get a grip, grow up and stop whinning. If your girl decides to leave you, its not that shocking.
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don't like that la.. once in a while people feel lost and confused and need some advice de mah.. that's why come AA what.. people needs experience and guidance to grow and learn mah.. if not don't need schools liao right? lets give the guy our best wishes la k?Originally posted by Gallardofever:I really despise people like you. You need to get a grip, grow up and stop whinning. If your girl decides to leave you, its not that shocking.
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The only reason a person would despise a personality trait in someone is because in some dark recess of their own psyche, they recognise that trait in themselves and that brings about fear. Fear of allowing that trait to become "active" in themselves. So they use hate as a "stopper".Originally posted by Gallardofever:I really despise people like you. You need to get a grip, grow up and stop whinning. If your girl decides to leave you, its not that shocking.
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hmmm.. just from my POV kae.
being angry is inevitable.
try putting yourself in your gf shoes. imagine u going to chalet after your As and blah blah blah you used to like this girl blah blah almost got together. you think your gf won't be the slightest bit of angry or perhaps jealous?
you said she values her friends more than you. is it really true? imagine you're out with your guy friends. you think you can accomodate both your guy friends and your gf at the same time? we can't split ourselves into 2 and entertain both parties. naturally being her, she would want to join her friends rather than you. afterall, its her class chalet am i right?
she asked u along, maybe to show that she wants to be with u. but deep down do you think she really wants you to tag along? you'll be more like an obstacle for her during the chalet because she has to entertain you.
sorry if i sound harsh here or anything but i just wanna advice you not to go. if you want, probaly find her during the night that is if she has nothing on with her friends. maybe if they want go red house than she don't want go, yes.. this is the time where you should go accompany her at the beach and all. not in broad daylight go what wild wild wet or escape or what. sometimes its about caring for how she feels. this relationship cannot go in your way always. it has to go in her way too -
shifu!!!!!Originally posted by skeujin:ok im going to be lor sor.
this is about lhow possessiveness will kill a r/s.
imagine that your cup your hands together and you are holding a pool of water in them.
imagine that the water is the one u love.
your hands protect the one you love. you shield it from the sun, you make sure it doesn't spill.
but what happens when u get possessive? you will want to grip onto the one u love more.
you clench your fists...
the water starts to spill...
the tighter your grip. then more you lose. and if you dont learn to let go. eventually you will lose everything.
understand?
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That's quite an impressive load of crap you pulled off trying to sound smart.....Originally posted by Clandestine:The only reason a person would despise a personality trait in someone is because in some dark recess of their own psyche, they recognise that trait in themselves and that brings about fear. Fear of allowing that trait to become "active" in themselves. So they use hate as a "stopper".
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game over already lah.... my new fling now also like that.. got all the time for "frens" just no time for mi....
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since it's a chalet organised by her frens.. juz let her enjoy for that few days?
even if u dun feel safe to leave them alone, also dun need to stick to her ba. -
you will be going to the army soon and you behave like a wanker, grow some backbone buddy.
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It isn't that hard to 'sound smart' next to the drivel you type.Originally posted by Gallardofever:That's quite an impressive load of crap you pulled off trying to sound smart..... -
TS, food for thought yah.Originally posted by skeujin:hello wake up lah. u have huge trust issues. you dont trust yr gf thn better not get involved in a r/s.
so what if she wants to party with her classmates after all the pressure of the exams. so what if its in one week. even if it was one month u will not be happy cause the other guy is ther.
you know she will be with her classmates yet u insist on showing up. duhz. n u complain she keeps postponing yr meet up, shes out with a group of frens. majority wins n primarily your not supposed to be anywhr near ther. y shd a group of people accomodate their fun for a single inividual who they probably have not met and such n MCP?
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Not quite there yet for a shrink wannabe. Try harder next time.Originally posted by Clandestine:It isn't that hard to 'sound smart' next to the drivel you type. -
i say give her her space. its like when you've got your own chalet and you dont want your gf to be calling you and interrupting you the whole time.
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First of All, what don't you try to improve your sentence typing and gammar skills? It will mislead the forumers.Originally posted by BrUtUs:jz suck it up... theres no equal in a r/s... teen r/s even more is abt frens n fun so dun take it too hard... jz enjoy the fun times...
LonerJays
P.S: nowsday female had their own thought and stuffs, so they wanna freedom even through if they are attached.
E.P.S: BrUtUs, hope you don't be mistaken, I was refering to topic starter. Good days mate. -
Break up is common, why? Because there were no love in the first place.
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Originally posted by lonerjays:
Its GRAMMAR.
First of All, what don't you try to improve your sentence typing and [b]gammar skills? It will mislead the forumers.
LonerJays
P.S: nowsday female had their own thought and stuffs, so they wanna freedom even through if they are attached.
E.P.S: BrUtUs, hope you don't be mistaken, I was refering to topic starter. Good days mate.[/b] -
gamma ray la.
how many days past liao, TS, so how is it now? -
Originally posted by Gallardofever:
YO, THANKS FOR CORRECTING ME. THANKS
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guys, bring yr tiff into yr personal PMs k.
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your feeling's can be understood. You feared losing your Gf. But you know, in a relationship, trust is the most impt key. So why not give your darling some time with her friends?
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just come back from it.. I duno y. Once we meet, abit quiet ba.. then aft awhile, ok le. ya. thx all
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then tomorrow she call you and break up le.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:just come back from it.. I duno y. Once we meet, abit quiet ba.. then aft awhile, ok le. ya. thx all
it'll be much easier for you if you have a life of your own. exams always come, then later she go uni le how... let it go ba, if she's yours she'll always be here for you. -
know wad?? my fren has a similar case like urs, and they broke up, cuz my fren feels tt the gal does not put him as the first priority...Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:My gf jus finish her A lvl like few days ago. But immediately she got 2chalet in 1 week. Of cos i was nt happy. Firstly is.. i cannot spend time v her. Secondly.. The person who open the chalet is 1 who she like last time. And they almsot get tgt. They got hold hand. But they nvr get tgt. I only noe this recently.
Then tmr i plan to go and ac her @ the chalet and stay v her @ the beach. Then she sayh ok @ first. But say they going wild wild wet @ 10. Then ask me go @ 1+. then i ok.. Then change and change again.. until 6+ i mean who will play inside from 10-6. Then somemore.. i ask her.. i tmr feel like going escape.. then ask her wanna acc me ma. But she say she dun like and her friend dun want also. Then i ask her. Wad if ur friend like it, and want to go? will u go? she say YES!!
I was like.. i was nt even as compare to her friend. Ask her go escape, she say she dun like and dunwant to go. and if her friend wana go, she wil acc them..
then y can't she play v them until like 2+ then come out and meet me?? y must she keep sticking to them?
i mean.. i go there was to acc her de.. but it look as if she was the 1 acc me..
i was feeling damn angry and sad... should i go tmr??
i mean, not as if everything muz go to bf first.. but sumtimes gals shld spare a learn how to spare a thought for us, the guys.. if she puts her priority to her frens b4 u, it seems to u that u r not as important as her frens... and here comes the understanding -wad's the difference then, btwn BF & Friends?? BF is whom the person shld be closet to u, as HE IS a single person.. Friends are a group of ppl who will be there to accompany u when u are bored, or to spend the rst of the day with... -
no i don't think you are wrong but then i don't see it is as a valid reason to get mad over with.. at least for long. Since ur gf does not want you around, then let it be and see how ur relationship goes from here. Relationship don't work by clinging cos love is supposedly free-will. It can come and go suddenly and it can't be protected by being possessive cos girlfriend is a human being, not an object that you own.. means she got feeling, got her own social needs. It is not always about your right and privilege. Trust is built over time and required you to give benefit of a doubt to your girlfriend. Sometime, you also need to trust yourself to trust your girlfriend.
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No point going green over these.
Give her room. She just finished her most stressed chapter in her life and need to relax and bond with her friends - female and male.
But do not give room until like you do not give a damn la...show support, care and concern. Be on standby and understanding.
She needs to know that you are more than looks and 'ownership'. She has chosen the last time so she knows why she chose you. You need to reinforce that in building your character in general. Not being jealous and an asshole. Dun complaint. Share.
Look for your own programmes (thread carefully if there are MOTS - members of the opposite sex) but her know know so that you can manage each other's expectations. Learn a tune, play the guitar.
Never use force or ego to deal with these issues. Respect all decisions and growth together with her.
Even if things dun turn out. You still have a friend and a stronger character.
All the best!