Dilemma Relationship
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3 words : communication, effort and time.
this 3 stuff is very important in any relationship. ask yourself if enough is spend.
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not just girls, guys like self-assured gals too.Originally posted by subaru67:Be steady. Be confident. Girls like confident guys. And your gf will flown back to you again. Be possessive and your gf will leave you.
how to do this???
how to do? right time right place, no secret to it or anything for that matter. -
thks for yr input
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just the right mood n tone.... hmm got itOriginally posted by dmuse:not just girls, guys like self-assured gals too.
how to do? right time right place, no secret to it or anything for that matter. -
For her of course the girl is ugly la, cos she is competing with her for her bf lehOriginally posted by jojobeach:Sir,
Please look at my post again..... realized the quoted message included in the post?
Thank you.
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power ah uOriginally posted by rainee:For her of course the girl is ugly la, cos she is competing with her for her bf leh -
Originally posted by jojobeach:Sir,
Please look at my post again..... realized the quoted message included in the post?
Thank you.
I missed out that last line.. -
So ?Originally posted by rainee:For her of course the girl is ugly la, cos she is competing with her for her bf leh
I'd rather my bf leave me for a more attractive gal than an ugly one.
If the other woman is chio, I admit defeat lor.
But a ugly one , super insulting....... -
hmmm then if gf leave u for an uglier bf? also same?Originally posted by jojobeach:So ?
I'd rather my bf leave me for a more attractive gal than an ugly one.
If the other woman is chio, I admit defeat lor.
But a ugly one , super insulting....... -
Thing is, you havent seen her yet to know whether she is really unattractive or just unattractive to TS because of the feelings of jealousy...Originally posted by jojobeach:So ?
I'd rather my bf leave me for a more attractive gal than an ugly one.
If the other woman is chio, I admit defeat lor.
But a ugly one , super insulting....... -
TS has her pictures. You say leh ?Originally posted by rainee:Thing is, you havent seen her yet to know whether she is really unattractive or just unattractive to TS because of the feelings of jealousy... -
where
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Page 2, TS's 55 post.Originally posted by subaru67:where -
oic... pai sei
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I have her pics.. but if i post it, its wrong...
In my eyes , she is ugly, coz she knows i am his gf... I spoke to her n she jus responded, you r ridculous when i asked if she knew so n so.
I asked wats their rs.. she become hostile n hung up the phone. Tat cfm my suspicions. And I cant remember how many days i went without food.. I was so hurt... I cant sleep... i made myself tired by doing alot housework n till i fell into bed without know how i did...
I hope she can buzz off.. she can still sms him n asked him if he is so busy taking care of me? ...
Really feel like slapping her. Keep on disturbing n disturbing...
If u say no pics no proof , i do have her pics... her numbers.. any one wans to know this piece of shit, can tell me... I give the number n u get wat u wan with her...
Its insulting becoz she is older, n yes, she does look old... n she isnt chio... thick brows....longish face... my fren commented tat she look like ah gua wor...
Dunno wat else to describe.. as theres too many things ugly... she still wanna hagn ard him to be his confident... stupid shit... -
Why do women blame the other woman, when clearly the man is at fault?Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:I have her pics.. but if i post it, its wrong...
In my eyes , she is ugly, coz she knows i am his gf... I spoke to her n she jus responded, you r ridculous when i asked if she knew so n so.
I asked wats their rs.. she become hostile n hung up the phone. Tat cfm my suspicions. And I cant remember how many days i went without food.. I was so hurt... I cant sleep... i made myself tired by doing alot housework n till i fell into bed without know how i did...
I hope she can buzz off.. she can still sms him n asked him if he is so busy taking care of me? ...
Really feel like slapping her. Keep on disturbing n disturbing...
If u say no pics no proof , i do have her pics... her numbers.. any one wans to know this piece of shit, can tell me... I give the number n u get wat u wan with her...
Its insulting becoz she is older, n yes, she does look old... n she isnt chio... thick brows....longish face... my fren commented tat she look like ah gua wor...
Dunno wat else to describe.. as theres too many things ugly... she still wanna hagn ard him to be his confident... stupid shit... -
Perhaps it is easier that way? to blame it on others than to blame your man or your own decision to stick with him?Originally posted by jojobeach:Why do women blame the other woman, when clearly the man is at fault?
To TS,
if you are so sure that your bf has cheated on you, and have decided to stick with him, my suggestion to you is to forget about the past and move on from that episode. Discuss with your bf. If he respects and loves you enough, he should provide you with adequate assurance, like keeping minimal contact with that woman whom he had cheated on you with (provided he really cheated on you lah). -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I agree totally with the moderator, for the advice is practical yet caring and sincere.
Most relationship never made it there because most relationships perish, not because of circumstances, but because of inner conditions.
Allow me to share my two cents for your consideration: please do not reckon that the mutual respect of space, freedom and understanding contributes to the downfall of your relationship. In fact, it's probably the first finger we often pinpoint whenever promiscuity/infidelity strikes in any relationship.
But I can tell you these only represent the catalysis.
The attribution to external causes per se only reveals a distorted truth; it always seeks to blur the real underlying problem of ourselves and tries to besmirch one's perception in Love.
Our relationship is never stagnant; stagnation is but an phrase we often used to describe the life of a relationship, but theoretically, relationship never stays dormant. A long period of stagnation is often unconscious degeneration of the relationship and before you know it, this degeneration will be revealed upon the introduction of 'catalysis'.
One must fully understand that relationship is indeed forged by freewill. Nobody is coerced to love another person; we love incidentally and later made the choice to further this love into a relationship. Therefore, you got to weigh your own risk to see if you are still willing to pool the resources to make this investment worthwhile.
Pull out if you can't seem to forgive - you will save yourself a lot of misery.
Hardwork never equate to success in love - you merely learn to adapt according to what your cosmic lesson would require and introspect regularly. Never set yourself on the degenerating path no matter what your encounters are - it's sad to know of people who saw the beauty of trust, only to destroy and blind this perception they once to bad circumstances.
So continue to keep good perspective and definition of love, but work hard at keeping the flame alive, if your decision is to continue. Three years of relationship might be a major consideration why you are still willing to give it a try, but if you are just planning to try-try-see-how, I say don't bother. Either you do your best to make it work, or drop everything altogether.
I will reiterate again: that would seriously save you a lot of misery.
If we go back to the golden rule - whatever decision you make, it [b]must eventually bring you happiness. From there, I believe it should dissolve your dilemmaÂ… like sugar to hot water.
Cheers[/b]
I like the part especially about the explanation of 'stagnation in relationship' and 'hard work never equate to success in love'.
Take care, TS.
If you are able to extend that same dedication and care towards people all around you, other just your bf, you would find that the love from others, who you call friends, would be more rewarding in ways which you can only experience for yourself.
Wish you all the best.
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the way u describe her, she may not be pretty...but...i can see...thick brow/long face...sounds like she's goodOriginally posted by mother-of-pearl:I have her pics.. but if i post it, its wrong...
In my eyes , she is ugly, coz she knows i am his gf... I spoke to her n she jus responded, you r ridculous when i asked if she knew so n so.
I asked wats their rs.. she become hostile n hung up the phone. Tat cfm my suspicions. And I cant remember how many days i went without food.. I was so hurt... I cant sleep... i made myself tired by doing alot housework n till i fell into bed without know how i did...
I hope she can buzz off.. she can still sms him n asked him if he is so busy taking care of me? ...
Really feel like slapping her. Keep on disturbing n disturbing...
If u say no pics no proof , i do have her pics... her numbers.. any one wans to know this piece of shit, can tell me... I give the number n u get wat u wan with her...
Its insulting becoz she is older, n yes, she does look old... n she isnt chio... thick brows....longish face... my fren commented tat she look like ah gua wor...
Dunno wat else to describe.. as theres too many things ugly... she still wanna hagn ard him to be his confident... stupid shit..., know what i mean 
guys do not necessary like pretty/beautiful/chio/young/whatsnot girls, those who has the skill to make him feel fulfilled wins the day, as u see, it's hard for guys to forget those wonderful feelings she gave him ...and she looks like the type who has what it takes - who says the world is not fair??? i've known at least one in my life since, and she's older too. she's absolutely wonderfully skilled...heavens on earth
perhaps u might want to re-evaluate your situation - not just looking at ur so-believed advantages over her...but observe her with a judgment-less eye. u might find out something about yourself that u might be lacking. turn this into opportunities to cultivate yourself...ppl generally gets better with age.
young ppl tends to overrate themselves...they've never learn enuff in life - how can it be in such short years of their lives, ask yourself. wait till u shed your beauty, then u really learn the real essence of life.
no hurry tho, your time will come
your friends only tells u what u want to hear, it's your enemies that will teach u something of real value in life. enemies in life is a necessary evil. without them u cannot find yourself - absolutely.
"keep your friends, but keep your enemies closer and reserve your praise for them"
"beauty in youth is an accident of nature, beauty in old age is a work of art"
"God is a necessary evil"
Now go meditate on these paradox. -
forgot to mention she has super tiny eyes. A few of my frens say she look like ah gua.. tats their view.. so i follow wat they think of her.
She like still wanna seduce my bf. MMs him la, but i dunno wats the contents..
My bf den wrote to her via email : I dun hate u , I jus cant love u...
I dunno wat it really means. Something like is not a clear cut answer? -
You sound like you are unsure of the whole situation, and that is your weakness that should not have been there in the first place.Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:forgot to mention she has super tiny eyes. A few of my frens say she look like ah gua.. tats their view.. so i follow wat they think of her.
She like still wanna seduce my bf. MMs him la, but i dunno wats the contents..
My bf den wrote to her via email : I dun hate u , I jus cant love u...
I dunno wat it really means. Something like is not a clear cut answer?
If there is anything that you need to know and felt compelled to ask, DON'T, because what you need to know, the answer had already took hold in your heart. That is the best answer you can ever get.
"Do not get blinded by details, it's the big picture that matters" -
Wait, what?Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:her pics , her boobs pics -
Looks can last meh?
Just because you 'think' you are prettier your bf should choose you? A bit immature of you to think that way if you ask me. Looks is not everything. Once you tear off that outer layer you are just like anyone else. It's the character that counts. Maybe you don't have that kind of good character the other girl has -
go ahead and break la...There are billions of guys out there and surely one of them can make you feel true love.