Friends-are hard to find......
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let me be ur fren.
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By losing their self-identity to feed their insecurities through unrelentlessly compromising their principles (that's if they even have anyOriginally posted by Prophecy_Master:But how to those people manage to have so many friends... i wonder...
) and pandering to the left, right and centre. All at the expense of ensuring they do not remain lonely.
While these people tend to assume they have a multitude of friends, the truth is they're, in all probability, the loneliest people around (lifelong friends are not likely to emerge from such friendships) for their "friendships" are all founded on shaky grounds. So, is that worthwhile?
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I have a few good friends, in the sense that I can go out with them, laugh but there's nothing special, no real spark.
I have 0 close friends now, maybe due to the fact that I am a withdrawn person, sometimes quite sensitive and emotional. Used to have a few but as time goes by, they all went out of my life. 1 by 1.
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I understand how it is like, for I am now in your shoes too.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:i am 19 this year and i envy those who have lots of friends to hang out with, to the movies, streets even chalet.
i won't say i have no friends but very little, maybe 2 or 3 ?
it is espically sad to know that, when u thought u are in the group, but in fact you are not.
classamtes collect money from you for someone's birthday, and when it is your birthday there isn't even a hand shake.
when they don't need help, you are invisible.
when you make a mistake they all laugh at you.
i always say peole in my class are all my calssmates, not friends.
i wonder am i wrong ?
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same sentiment...same fate
there's nothing i can do..xcept hoping that one day things will get better -
erm i said it in my last paragraph...Originally posted by skeujin:kns nvr mention sgforums frens...
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Sadly but still a no for meOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
I wonder will Jason next year organize wine outing..
By then.. I think you can join liao.. old enough.. 
Well back to topic.
TS,
we can be your friends too ^^
Check out this sgForum activities and outings ^^ -
No, friend are easy to find ... all you need to do is to do what they do ... Real friend are hard to find, yes. For all you need is only one good friend, you will die without regret. Those friend that you mention, they are just stranger you call them by their name .. don't bother about them ... In all my life, I has only one friend .. we don't even see each other once a month but when either one of us need help, we will be there without second thought !!! you got 2-3, better then me already ! Cheer up ...
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So many frens for what?? Most take advantage of each others only, you should rather expand your networking, not frens, get to know the peoples which u can seek for knowledge and good advices, like knowing teachers, lecturers or professors or some good uncles and aunties also good meh.
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TS,mi be ur fren wan?
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haha sure i welcome anyone to be my friend.
my real friends start from strangers people who u really don't know. because there isn't a need like in school where u need to work with each other.
so people who wants to make friends with me are completely sincere about it. -
everyone has friends, when you faced with problems, those good ones surfaced out of the crowd offering their help to you.
Just be yourself, treat everyone with sincerity, those who are genuine, will be there for you, at no terms or conditions.
For me, I have a group of good friends whom I will nvr forget them. They are the one who supported me during my darkest moment. Believe it or not, some of them are not local.
Be yourself, u can have a bunch of so call friends, if you ever meet with trouble, how many of them will be there for you? -
No, you're not wrong. (:Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:i am 19 this year and i envy those who have lots of friends to hang out with, to the movies, streets even chalet.
i won't say i have no friends but very little, maybe 2 or 3 ?
it is espically sad to know that, when u thought u are in the group, but in fact you are not.
classamtes collect money from you for someone's birthday, and when it is your birthday there isn't even a hand shake.
when they don't need help, you are invisible.
when you make a mistake they all laugh at you.
i always say peole in my class are all my calssmates, not friends.
i wonder am i wrong ?
Sometimes a stranger can be a better friend than some of your "classmates" (as you call them). Take all of us forumers as an example, all of us are here to help you in your time of need, doesn't that make as even better friends than some of your acquaintances ?
When you watch a movie and see 2 friends being so close, you envy them. Many of us know how you feel. I had a friend who was very close to me once, but once I showed my sensitive side, she shoved that aside and walked off.
If you have friends who are not really "friends", all you have to do is walk away from them. When they come to you for help, don't help. Laugh back at them when they make mistakes. I walked away from my clique just this year, and I'm doing fine.
There are always people who are more worthy of your friendship in this world, you just have to be patient and find them.
To me, Best Friends are very rare in Singapore.
I'm many years younger than you, and still I can relate. Friends come in all shapes and sizes, expand your range and you'll soon find some.
Remember - a good friend isn't someone who share the same interests as you, it's someone who will pay attention to you and your problems. -
well, i do feel the same as you many a times.
but i guess the impt thing is to keep open mind and let fate do everything.
don't tell yourself that you'll never be able to find gd friends if not you'll end up being introverted/antisocial that you'll REALLy not find any gd friends lo.
i'm open to be your friend too. Maybe we can get along well! hahaha...
can send me a msg
if u want. -
2 malay kakis are my best pals
and i'm chinese, but we don't mind
and make new friends la
sgf people also not bad 1 leh -
First of all , try to enlarge your circle , go out and meet more people , for example take up a sports and go out and play with the people outside and enlarge your friends circle. from there get to know more people and be more socialise. Try to get to know them well.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:i am 19 this year and i envy those who have lots of friends to hang out with, to the movies, streets even chalet.
i won't say i have no friends but very little, maybe 2 or 3 ?
it is espically sad to know that, when u thought u are in the group, but in fact you are not.
classamtes collect money from you for someone's birthday, and when it is your birthday there isn't even a hand shake.
when they don't need help, you are invisible.
when you make a mistake they all laugh at you.
i always say peole in my class are all my calssmates, not friends.
i wonder am i wrong ?
yes , sometimes friends tend to outcast some of their friends , that is normal , they are talking among themselves with other topic which don't interest you at all , so you must try not to get yourself outcast by trying to start a topic with them.
and this is the world , people don't tend to care about you when they don't need help , so at the most you should help yourself , because when you help them this time , they might not help you next time when you are in need of a help. So always try to help yourself first. -
there are some people out there that you'll click with instantly , usualy people with common interest hobbies etc.people at hobby clubs are very friendly e.g. photography , judo , sports club...Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:But how to those people manage to have so many friends... i wonder... -
Nvm... try to know more friends!
I am sure that you find your group of friends that be there for you!
Some friends are there for you..
some friends are those fair-weather friends that you can ditch!