Why is that when break-up...
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guys find it harder to let go than gals? i tot men are supposed to be the stronger sex.
i don see gals coming here pouring out their r/s woes and asking for advice.
One reason cud be dat if the gal initiates the break-up,she's already mentally prepared for it whereas it comes as a bombshell for the guy,hence the guy feels more hurt..harder to let go etc..
but wat if the guy initiates the breakup?
Are gals really able to let go more easily than guys (regardless of who initiate)?
Any ladies opinions to shed light on tis?
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girls are outside entertaining their suitors liao
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not true.
there are girls who can't let go too..
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yeah true , after my ex break wif me 3 days , got one guy sent her home already and she is so happy wif that guy , and after 4 days which is 7 days after we break , they are together , and i took 2 months+ to forget that b!tch.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:girls are outside entertaining their suitors liao -
it seems girls have options, guys need to be the options. thats the chore of a break up.
but usually i give myself time to find the right one.
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Originally posted by sEphIrOth:
well..then its time for role-reversal..guys shall make gals options..
[b]it seems girls have options, guys need to be the options. thats the chore of a break up.
but usually i give myself time to find the right one. [/b] -
Girls usually have larger social circles because they need to accessorize themselves with company. Also, they are very poor at dealing with solitude and normally centre their lives around making and keeping friends (ultimate goal in life). Therefore, when shit happens, they have more readily available options which are convertible to boyfriends.
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Well if you can see most of those who is upset and posted here about their problem here are those who's partner wanted to break off...
it just happen that most girls initiate the break-up more often...
Well...
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That's because, during a breakup.Originally posted by forumer84:guys find it harder to let go than gals? i tot men are supposed to be the stronger sex.
i don see gals coming here pouring out their r/s woes and asking for advice.
One reason cud be dat if the gal initiates the break-up,she's already mentally prepared for it whereas it comes as a bombshell for the guy,hence the guy feels more hurt..harder to let go etc..
but wat if the guy initiates the breakup?
Are gals really able to let go more easily than guys (regardless of who initiate)?
Any ladies opinions to shed light on tis?
Girls tend to surround themselves with support from friends and families.
And we don't mind venting our anger/sadness/frustration to listeners.
Once the venting is done, it is easier and faster to move on.
While guys tends not to share personal stuff with their own buddies.
So they internalize their hurt, making the healing process slower.
And because the internet allows them to be anonymous, you see more guys here complaining than girls.
So you see why cool off period can actually back fire when guys use it on girls ?
Why girls tends to be the one to call a break is simply this lor.
" Woman hope to change her man, Man hope her woman will never change."
Man likes status quo, while woman wants improvements.
Man believes " If it ain't broken, why fix it ?" (fair enough)
Woman believes, " Improvement is good". ( how can anyone argue with that?)
You'll notice that when some things gets broken the 10th time, men will still try to fix it. ( even if it means making a bigger mess of it)
A woman will tell her man," Time to get a new one."
This kind of mentality ... means, if you don't budge after I nag you a hundred times.. I'd kick you out that door. -
quoted for truth. anyway this thread seem to be really familiar and i think it has been posted before. and the comment by jojobeach is also pretty similar to the comment given by Yunhaier from that previous postOriginally posted by jojobeach:That's because, during a breakup.
Girls tend to surround themselves with support from friends and families.
And we don't mind venting our anger/sadness/frustration to listeners.
Once the venting is done, it is easier and faster to move on.
While guys tends not to share personal stuff with their own buddies.
So they internalize their hurt, making the healing process slower.
And because the internet allows them to be anonymous, you see more guys here complaining than girls.
So you see why cool off period can actually back fire when guys use it on girls ?
Why girls tends to be the one to call a break is simply this lor.
" Woman hope to change her man, Man hope her woman will never change."
Man likes status quo, while woman wants improvements.
Man believes " If it ain't broken, why fix it ?" (fair enough)
Woman believes, " Improvement is good". ( how can anyone argue with that?)
You'll notice that when some things gets broken the 10th time, men will still try to fix it. ( even if it means making a bigger mess of it)
A woman will tell her man," Time to get a new one."
This kind of mentality ... means, if you don't budge after I nag you a hundred times.. I'd kick you out that door.
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Issit ?Originally posted by Chris1988:quoted for truth. anyway this thread seem to be really familiar and i think it has been posted before. and the comment by jojobeach is also pretty similar to the comment given by Yunhaier from that previous post
I don't remember if I seen that one b4.
Everyone seems to come down to the same conclusion after gaining enough relationship experience points lor. -
your explanation is so good and true!! totally agree!Originally posted by jojobeach:That's because, during a breakup.
Girls tend to surround themselves with support from friends and families.
And we don't mind venting our anger/sadness/frustration to listeners.
Once the venting is done, it is easier and faster to move on.
While guys tends not to share personal stuff with their own buddies.
So they internalize their hurt, making the healing process slower.
And because the internet allows them to be anonymous, you see more guys here complaining than girls.
So you see why cool off period can actually back fire when guys use it on girls ?
Why girls tends to be the one to call a break is simply this lor.
" Woman hope to change her man, Man hope her woman will never change."
Man likes status quo, while woman wants improvements.
Man believes " If it ain't broken, why fix it ?" (fair enough)
Woman believes, " Improvement is good". ( how can anyone argue with that?)
You'll notice that when some things gets broken the 10th time, men will still try to fix it. ( even if it means making a bigger mess of it)
A woman will tell her man," Time to get a new one."
This kind of mentality ... means, if you don't budge after I nag you a hundred times.. I'd kick you out that door.
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... people say that it is easier for the guys because they guys do not take it as seriously or fall as seriously as the girls.... but if the boy falls seriously... they will take it harder than the girls...Originally posted by forumer84:guys find it harder to let go than gals? i tot men are supposed to be the stronger sex.
i don see gals coming here pouring out their r/s woes and asking for advice.
One reason cud be dat if the gal initiates the break-up,she's already mentally prepared for it whereas it comes as a bombshell for the guy,hence the guy feels more hurt..harder to let go etc..
but wat if the guy initiates the breakup?
Are gals really able to let go more easily than guys (regardless of who initiate)?
Any ladies opinions to shed light on tis?
... but whether someone takes it harder or not (boy or girl) is because of how hard they fall in love.... not because they are boys or girls -
Mainly because gals usually do not have problems with sharing their heart aches with their family and friends, or borrow a shoulder to cry on from family and friends.Originally posted by forumer84:guys find it harder to let go than gals? i tot men are supposed to be the stronger sex.
i don see gals coming here pouring out their r/s woes and asking for advice.
One reason cud be dat if the gal initiates the break-up,she's already mentally prepared for it whereas it comes as a bombshell for the guy,hence the guy feels more hurt..harder to let go etc..
but wat if the guy initiates the breakup?
Are gals really able to let go more easily than guys (regardless of who initiate)?
Any ladies opinions to shed light on tis?
While men usually keep such to themselves. Hence the only outlet they have is this cyberspace. -
Yes, agree, mainly because for men there is an ego issue too.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:... people say that it is easier for the guys because they guys do not take it as seriously or fall as seriously as the girls.... but if the boy falls seriously... they will take it harder than the girls...
... but whether someone takes it harder or not (boy or girl) is because of how hard they fall in love.... not because they are boys or girls -
... ego? hmmmmm..... I think that they will be so consumed with the pain they have no time for ego...Originally posted by petti:Yes, agree, mainly because for men there is an ego issue too.
...most of the time the guys just want sex (and so pretend to fall in love) but if they seriously fall for the girl.... OMG they are worse than the women.... (that's exaggerating, of course, but only a little..) -
scarey right... they move on sooooo fast... btw how u know? u still see her?Originally posted by Resentment:yeah true , after my ex break wif me 3 days , got one guy sent her home already and she is so happy wif that guy , and after 4 days which is 7 days after we break , they are together , and i took 2 months+ to forget that b!tch. -
For the guys that gave up their good friends n buddies for the GF.. now get their @ss dropped like a sack of potatoes... now got NO support.. He has now one to come crawling back to. So he find it harder to let go. he he
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he was already spare tyre before she dropped him la..Originally posted by subaru67:scarey right... they move on sooooo fast... btw how u know? u still see her? sad... another.. used n abused.. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:not true.
there are girls who can't let go too..
it depends on individual.
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Yes, most of the time the guys just want sex. For the same reason, when they fall in love, some of such guys cannot believe that despite they have given in more than what they usually give (ie which is really nothing other than sweet talk and sex), they get jilted and hurt in the end. Isnt this an wounded ego?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:... ego? hmmmmm..... I think that they will be so consumed with the pain they have no time for ego...
...most of the time the guys just want sex (and so pretend to fall in love) but if they seriously fall for the girl.... OMG they are worse than the women.... (that's exaggerating, of course, but only a little..) -
... just as some guys pretend to love so that they can get sex... some girls pretend to love the guys as well... (maybe for sex, I don't know) maybe because they like to be attached...
... these kind of cases, hahaha boy or girl.... they will dump the other party like a hot potato... when someone better comes along... -
Seems like pretty true to certain extend...when girl drops the boy, she usually developed a aftermath plan like already have new boy/girl or decided to go single or whatever reasonsOriginally posted by BadzMaro:he was already spare tyre before she dropped him la.. sad... another.. used n abused.. -
Thats why , dont put too much effort into it. Many ppl say i dont put much effort .. and i always let the girl break with me. If u prioritize relationship as the first , it will be hard. U will know when things are not going well and they gonna break liaw. If u think its worth ur time to keep on to it , u fight for it.. if not , then just let it go. There are more important things to do. More girls out there.
But yeah.. i got it bad once...real bad. heh.. even fell sick for 1 month. But after that incident , i think i have become...well.. become less aggressive in relationships. he he -
they are good at planning la. cause there is another already trying to win her despite she got a BF liaw. So She can compare with the current guy and the loser with her.Originally posted by Mid9Sun:Seems like pretty true to certain extend...when girl drops the boy, she usually developed a aftermath plan like already have new boy/girl or decided to go single or whatever reasons