Why is that when break-up...

• Nata|ie

  18 Dec 07, 15:14

  Originally posted by forumer84:

  guys find it harder to let go than gals? i tot men are supposed to be the stronger sex.
  i don see gals coming here pouring out their r/s woes and asking for advice.
  
  One reason cud be dat if the gal initiates the break-up,she's already mentally prepared for it whereas it comes as a bombshell for the guy,hence the guy feels more hurt..harder to let go etc..
  but wat if the guy initiates the breakup?
  
  Are gals really able to let go more easily than guys (regardless of who initiate)?
  
  Any ladies opinions to shed light on tis?

  I beg to differ.
  
  There are guys and girls who find it hard to let go. Basically it's human nature.
  
  It's difficult for someone to let go especially when it's everything he/she ever wanted.
• dmuse

  18 Dec 07, 15:16

  Originally posted by Nata|ie:

  I beg to differ.
  
  There are guys and girls who find it hard to let go. Basically it's human nature.
  
  It's difficult for someone to let go especially when it's everything he/she ever wanted.

  sweetly said
• subaru67

  18 Dec 07, 15:46

  Originally posted by dmuse:

  paradox of man's existence: do the right things for wrong reasons, or...do the wrong things for right reasons?

  i find this VERY TRUE!!!!!!! WHY IS IT LIKE THAT
• dmuse

  19 Dec 07, 08:48

  Originally posted by subaru67:

  i find this VERY TRUE!!!!!!! WHY IS IT LIKE THAT

  no qualms bout it...u juz need to be skilled in execution of either one. the paradox exists...and nothing we can do bout it.
• subaru67

  19 Dec 07, 09:54

  Originally posted by dmuse:

  no qualms bout it...u juz need to be skilled in execution of either one. the paradox exists...and nothing we can do bout it.

  skilled? where to learn?
• dmuse

  19 Dec 07, 11:50

  Originally posted by subaru67:

  skilled? where to learn?

  man...don't be too eager k...life's lessons is the great teacher. one of the great skills we need to have is "Listen More".
  
  "no shortcuts to life or risk shortchanging yourself"
• Nata|ie

  19 Dec 07, 12:36

  Originally posted by dmuse:

  man...don't be too eager k...life's lessons is the great teacher. one of the great skills we need to have is "Listen More".
  
  "no shortcuts to life or risk shortchanging yourself"

  Well said.
  
  Life's a great teacher, she always put us to the tests first before teaching us the lesson.
  
  Just live and experience the lessons.
• subaru67

  19 Dec 07, 12:37

  so think abt it when the test comes to face as there is no way to anticipate for it
• Sakuraflower

  21 Dec 07, 01:21

  break up are painful when both of you are in love...
  
  but break up can be great too when both of you are not in love and do not wish to continue the relationship!
• dmuse

  21 Dec 07, 09:59

  Originally posted by subaru67:

  so think abt it when the test comes to face as there is no way to anticipate for it

  the idea is not to be too over anxious about it. our anticipations often come out short or veered off the on-coming bullet. it is to face it head-on, and be courageous.
  
  an old adage (fr Confucius? can't remember exactly):
  "man is not found to be in wanting of skills, but in wanting of courage"
• KronE

  21 Dec 07, 15:53

  gals have more frens to console and their frens will always spread rumours and badmouth abt u which caused em to have e metality to change a new bf becoz most of e gals doesnt have a mind of their own and often get influence. Just like how terrorists recruitment did. Oftenly e ppl wif e powerful mind control those that r weaker