feeling lost.
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strong womenOriginally posted by jojobeach:Go get yourself new hair style.
Works all the time.
Get yourself a new boyfriend.
Works all the time.
Then you dump the new boyfriend and find a newer one.
Works all the time. -
not really "try your best and wait".Originally posted by subaru67:just try yr best n wait right
Carry on your life without him as per normal.
I mean you are so attached to him and suddenly he is not there anymore, you will naturally feel a loss and grief. You just need time to adjust back to singlehood and to live your life happily.
Life is ever changing in every moment every time.. a ever moving flow. Maybe he will ask for a patch back in the future and if you still have feeling, then patch back. If he is not coming back anymore, then it is also okay.
Sometime, people suddenly come into your life and suddenly these people have to go. There is a reason why relationship has to end with someone and to start with another.
Well, as i have said, try your best to save this relationship after the cooling down period ( 1 to 3 months? ). If the bf is not doing anything to save this relationship despite your pleading, then seriously reconsider him. You have other choices.
U should try to heal your own wounds before looking up for him in a month time.
It is not all your fault that things have to go there way. Sometime, it is how also how your bf deal with the matter and the interaction of dealing with the matter. I don't know the whole story btw u and him but i know u should deal with your own feeling first... be patience...
i do feel u have a chance, just don't dwell into depression. It serves no one's good... -
i do feel u have a chance, just don't dwell into depression. It serves no one's good..____________________ very gd advise.....Originally posted by Isis:not really "try your best and wait".
Carry on your life without him as per normal.
I mean you are so attached to him and suddenly he is not there anymore, you will naturally feel a loss and grief. You just need time to adjust back to singlehood and to live your life happily.
Life is ever changing in every moment every time.. a ever moving flow. Maybe he will ask for a patch back in the future and if you still have feeling, then patch back. If he is not coming back anymore, then it is also okay.
Sometime, people suddenly come into your life and suddenly these people have to go. There is a reason why relationship has to end with someone and to start with another.
Well, as i have said, try your best to save this relationship after the cooling down period ( 1 to 3 months? ). If the bf is not doing anything to save this relationship despite your pleading, then seriously reconsider him. You have other choices.
U should try to heal your own wounds before looking up for him in a month time.
It is not all your fault that things have to go there way. Sometime, it is how also how your bf deal with the matter and the interaction of dealing with the matter. I don't know the whole story btw u and him but i know u should deal with your own feeling first... be patience...
i do feel u have a chance, just don't dwell into depression. It serves no one's good... -
Thanks. i am damn grateful to all those encouraging words from strangers out there. maybe, maybe one day we will get back together, maybe we wont. i dont know how long this will take, but it just saddens me a lot because of the sudden disapperance of him.Originally posted by jojobeach:Hey girl,
It's ok to get depressed.
We've all been through the same sh1t.
Those heartless men !
Now you know why some of them got their diaks cut off by their wife/gf.
Cry, scream, punch the pillows... get it outa your system.
Allow yourself some time.. to grieve this betrayal of your love/trust.
You're sad now, it will eventually turn to hate.... then you'd be on your way to healing... it's all part of the process.
if it was feelings fading, i understand. if it was because of a major argument, i understand. I WOULD. I REALLY WOULD. but now, i dont know anything. it hurts, it sucks. -
Do you really need to know ?Originally posted by lalaladum:Thanks. i am damn grateful to all those encouraging words from strangers out there. maybe, maybe one day we will get back together, maybe we wont. i dont know how long this will take, but it just saddens me a lot because of the sudden disapperance of him.
if it was feelings fading, i understand. if it was because of a major argument, i understand. I WOULD. I REALLY WOULD. but now, i dont know anything. it hurts, it sucks.
If he just wants to teach you a lesson, to show you who's boss. Would you comply ?
He's just punishing you.. for being defiant. Would you think it's justified ?
For whatever reason he tries to justify his actions, it is plain WRONG.
All you need to know is that this is no way to treat a love one. -
Yeah. Try not to think about whether we will patch back anot. It will further reinforce your habit of missing him which will make you more miserable. Once a habit is made, it is hard to break.Originally posted by lalaladum:Thanks. i am damn grateful to all those encouraging words from strangers out there. maybe, maybe one day we will get back together, maybe we wont. i dont know how long this will take, but it just saddens me a lot because of the sudden disapperance of him.
if it was feelings fading, i understand. if it was because of a major argument, i understand. I WOULD. I REALLY WOULD. but now, i dont know anything. it hurts, it sucks.
Anxiety happens due to expectation for the future that has not arrived So don't worry about what will happen cos it is not here yet. You should not waste your life away think think think think about it.
Try to pre-occupy yourselves with something productive for the moment. Indulge yourself in watching dramas to take your mind off, take up a new sport and getting to know more friends.
Btw pain is a necessarily route to detach. Sometime letting go does not need a reason.
Justified anythings couldn't save the situation. -
somethings dunno is better... dun ask soo clearly is betterOriginally posted by lalaladum:Thanks. i am damn grateful to all those encouraging words from strangers out there. maybe, maybe one day we will get back together, maybe we wont. i dont know how long this will take, but it just saddens me a lot because of the sudden disapperance of him.
if it was feelings fading, i understand. if it was because of a major argument, i understand. I WOULD. I REALLY WOULD. but now, i dont know anything. it hurts, it sucks. -
Thanks, i needed that.Originally posted by jojobeach:Do you really need to know ?
If he just wants to teach you a lesson, to show you who's boss. Would you comply ?
He's just punishing you.. for being defiant. Would you think it's justified ?
For whatever reason he tries to justify his actions, it is plain WRONG.
All you need to know is that this is no way to treat a love one. -
sad but true... thats why dunno the reason sometimes is gd... white lieOriginally posted by jojobeach:Do you really need to know ?
If he just wants to teach you a lesson, to show you who's boss. Would you comply ?
He's just punishing you.. for being defiant. Would you think it's justified ?
For whatever reason he tries to justify his actions, it is plain WRONG.
All you need to know is that this is no way to treat a love one. -
is he really punishing u ?Originally posted by lalaladum:Thanks, i needed that.
think first cos only u know the situation better than us.
but i do agreed with jojo... -
Originally posted by Isis:
Thanks. Thanks. Thanks.....
Yeah. Try not to think about whether we will patch back anot. It will further reinforce your habit of missing him which will make you more miserable. Once a habit is made, it is hard to break.
Anxiety happens due to expectation for the future [b]that has not arrived So don't worry about what will happen cos it is not here yet. You should not waste your life away think think think think about it.
Try to pre-occupy yourselves with something productive for the moment. Indulge yourself in watching dramas to take your mind off, take up a new sport and getting to know more friends.
Btw pain is a necessarily route to detach. Sometime letting go does not need a reason.
Justified anythings couldn't save the situation.
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i dont know. the only 'crime' i am 'responsible' for that i can think of, is 'not letting him go out with his friends' but for that i only asked if he can dont go so that we can stay home and game together. i dont see a need for such a punishment. he could have just went out and after that, reply my smses. the matter will not be as serious as not replying me for days.Originally posted by Isis:is he really punishing u ?
think first cos only u know the situation better than us.
but i do agreed with jojo... -
hmmm, i can't say for sure..Originally posted by lalaladum:i dont know. the only 'crime' i am 'responsible' for that i can think of, is 'not letting him go out with his friends' but for that i only asked if he can dont go so that we can stay home and game together. i dont see a need for such a punishment. he could have just went out and after that, reply my smses. the matter will not be as serious as not replying me for days.
Why don't u wait for two weeks again and see for yourself how it goes.
Maybe he is angry over something that u don't know and certainity needs time to cool down.
Anyway, i don't think it is right for him to use this method to punish u if it is really so. Maybe out of angry he did there and maybe deep inside he still loves u so?
BUT wait, observe the entire situation before concluding something. -
While you waiting...
Go out and do something you like.
Go out if got anyone date you.
Don't sit at home and sulk. -
maybe. i told him he's hurting me, but no reply still. sigh. we have been through a lot together, i dont think he doesnt loves me anymore though.Originally posted by Isis:hmmm, i can't say for sure..
Why don't u wait for two weeks again and see for yourself how it goes.
Maybe he is angry over something that u don't know and certainity needs time to cool down.
Anyway, i don't think it is right for him to use this method to punish u if it is really so. Maybe out of angry he did there and maybe deep inside he still loves u so?
BUT wait, observe the entire situation before concluding something. -
Why not try to treat this cooling period as a holiday for you. I know you might be very "ji" to find an answer to your questions. The answer will make itself known to you when the right time has come.. no matter how hard u try to figure out.. it only wasting alot of engry
Just be patient and see.
You just finished your O'level right. That means both have plently of time to spare. Why not take some time off this problem and find a job, get to know your secondary school friends better yeh ? Without bf, a girl can still survive one ok..
Don't think too much. -
Yes, thank you. Thanks. I guess you can really imagine how I am feeling.Originally posted by Isis:Why not try to treat this cooling period as a holiday for you. I know you might be very "ji" to find an answer to your questions. The answer will make itself known to you when the right time has come.. no matter how hard u try to figure out.. it only wasting alot of engry
Just be patient and see.
You just finished your O'level right. That means both have plently of time to spare. Why not take some time off this problem and find a job, get to know your secondary school friends better yeh ? Without bf, a girl can still survive one ok..
Don't think too much. -
heh welcome.
May you be happy. -
I wish that I could be happy too.Originally posted by Isis:heh welcome.
May you be happy.
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hai...Originally posted by lalaladum:I wish that I could be happy too.
fang xia fang xia.
And suddenly everything will seem so much lighter.
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When u feel restless from time to time, it is perhaps....
We have a tendency in wanting to hold onto something when we lose hold of another thing so it could be good to find a postive outlet/thing/activites for you to hold onto. -
maybe yr bf throwing prince temperOriginally posted by lalaladum:i dont know. the only 'crime' i am 'responsible' for that i can think of, is 'not letting him go out with his friends' but for that i only asked if he can dont go so that we can stay home and game together. i dont see a need for such a punishment. he could have just went out and after that, reply my smses. the matter will not be as serious as not replying me for days. -
ya lor... go all outOriginally posted by jojobeach:While you waiting...
Go out and do something you like.
Go out if got anyone date you.
Don't sit at home and sulk. -
u can do itOriginally posted by lalaladum:I wish that I could be happy too.