Is it OK 2 end marriage for freedom? Which 1 more important?
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u all have to read his associated thread that someone linked.
honestly, u need to go for marriage counseling... i feel not worth it to end it like that. -
Ok I just read itOriginally posted by pwnz0r:u all have to read his associated thread that someone linked.
honestly, u need to go for marriage counseling... i feel not worth it to end it like that.
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pwnz there is a Miu Miu sale if you haven't bought your wife pressie yet
The bag I am bioing is on sale
To TS, it seems to me that running away is the best solution for you now in your books. I suggest marriage counseling too -
She has no friends and does not meet any. I got offer to take her meet my friend, but she dun wan.Originally posted by Kuali Baba:What's her attitude towards her own family and friends? Does she still meet them as if all is well? And how does she reaction if you offer to take her along to see your friends?
I fear the big 1 is coming. When CNY hit, and she prohibits me from seeing my relatives, but want me to meet hers, we will have a super big argument coming soon. -
So she's a homey, and you're a winged bird.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:She has no friends and does not meet any. I got offer to take her meet my friend, but she dun wan.
I fear the big 1 is coming. When CNY hit, and she prohibits me from seeing my relatives, but want me to meet hers, we will have a super big argument coming soon.
Udderly mismatched dude. -
You choose her
then you have to figure a why to convince her
but you also must be reasonable -
Perhaps you should sort yourself out before moving on to marriage.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:She has no friends and does not meet any. I got offer to take her meet my friend, but she dun wan.
I fear the big 1 is coming. When CNY hit, and she prohibits me from seeing my relatives, but want me to meet hers, we will have a super big argument coming soon. -
that is like too much maOriginally posted by Frustrated_guy:She has no friends and does not meet any. I got offer to take her meet my friend, but she dun wan.
I fear the big 1 is coming. When CNY hit, and she prohibits me from seeing my relatives, but want me to meet hers, we will have a super big argument coming soon.
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Yah lor, why did he married her in the first place ?Originally posted by mistyblue:You choose her
then you have to figure a why to convince her
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Bro, I was like you...many friends de. Then like you, because of gf, I gave up all my female contacts. Then guy friends I only keep in touch with 1. Then she also not happy, say I 'gay' with my friend (meaning she not happy lah)Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:Wah, you are my hero... my gf also that type, but less control freak, she only scared that I go drinking and let other girls sian... I told her friends important to me, and she only let me have male friends, lol... Everytime I happen to know a lady, she will go crazy... but she loves me so... I lan lan suck thumb lor.
I cannot participate in forum at home 'cause she will look over my shoulders and see what I doing when she hears typing sound. How? So sian?
If you sure your gf not like my wife, then I wish you all the best
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Hmm....have u gotten rejected by your wife for sex before? I'm sure every guy has some experience in this before.Originally posted by nehpyh:Bro FG, you will come whole circle even if you get divorced now, a few years later met some interesting lady, decided to try to settle down again because you are wiser. but consider all the lost opportunities?
I'm married but i still maintain my social circles with mixed gender and I mean 1-1 and vice versa for her. If your marriage means you cannot go out with gals, then you need to speak to your wife and that's a separate trust issues here.
If you are not getting a financial balance here, speak to her and sort out your crap.
If you are not getting enough sex, find out why? Pain, mess, tired, style pattern, etc...learn to match each other....
Human is all about balance. Take 10 steps back and look at your life. Which are the parts that are skewed, and balance it. Whether to divorce or not is not longer an issue here.
( Care to share with us your age, how long you have dated and married, etc...?)
Here's the thing; has your wife asked you go Geylang find prostitute instead of her? I tin only mine does that.... -
Maybe you're right.Originally posted by jojobeach:So she's a homey, and you're a winged bird.
Udderly mismatched dude.
Before marriage, I used to travel several times a year. Now is like no travel, and worse is meet friend or relative got problem. -
f*ck her hard. bear some kids. and she'll have her hands filled from taking care of the kids rather bother about you. then, you can have all the freedom in the world.
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I can't say I agree. If we have kids and eventually split, the kid will suffer...Originally posted by trendz:f*ck her hard. bear some kids. and she'll have her hands filled from taking care of the kids rather bother about you. then, you can have all the freedom in the world. -
Hey Frustrated,
You have been sounding very sour since the previous thread dude, just not sour enough to drop the minefield (your marriage) completely.
I think your first big mistake was asking her to marry you – because you tied the knot with a person you are fighting over freedom rights with. To top it off, you’re going to live together for the rest of your life, imagine that. Why are you in a commitment with a person who apparently, has more problems than you do?
But now itÂ’s too late because youÂ’re knee deep in the grave and there are always going to be problems so the question is, how deep are these problems and how often do they come up. If she is the wife to go ape sh*t each time you flip the toilet bowl, are you sure you can live with it?
Sounds like there are some pervasive problems and now youÂ’re wondering whether you should jump ship or weather the storm. When she repeatedly suggested divorce, what were your usual replies? Was she looking for you to tell her you only want to be with her? Is she that insecure?
When she was being unreasonable and siding with whichever branch of the psycho family you guys have, did you give her a lecture and convey your side of the story? Were you man enough to tell her off? You need to be man enough if you want to keep a hot but crazy wife by your side.
Screw the marriage counseling. But before ending the marriage, what I would do if I were you is go rent an apartment, live apart, unleash the dragon, bask in your freedom but continue to date Miss Nutter (your wife).
Because you guys have to start all over again. -
is she paying ur Geylang trips?Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:Hmm....have u gotten rejected by your wife for sex before? I'm sure every guy has some experience in this before.
Here's the thing; has your wife asked you go Geylang find prostitute instead of her? I tin only mine does that....
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ur wife really love u so much that she will say all sort of things to hurt herself & u...
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Zhun bo???Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:Hmm....have u gotten rejected by your wife for sex before? I'm sure every guy has some experience in this before.
Here's the thing; has your wife asked you go Geylang find prostitute instead of her? I tin only mine does that....
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Dear Fustrated_Guy
I really duno wat is wrong between u & ur wife. Ur problem with ur wife has been draggin for far too long.
From your point of view, I see tat she is always not happy with whatever u do, which is somehow fustrating even for an outsider like me. And I think there isnt a way to know wat's HER point of view here...
There are indeed pple out there who ended their marriage for their so-called freedom. But lemme ask u, wat made u decided to get married in the 1st place? Surely u dun need to know only now tat freedom as a single is different when married.
If im in ur shoes, i wld consider gettin a separation 1st if tat is wat the other party wants. It may hurt both party, but since none of u (or onli one of u) is interested to make an effort to make it work, time to go separate ways & not prolong the pain & unhappiness.
But of cos, if there is still hope in ur marriage, dun give up! -
Im not sure abt that, dude. Why wld u hurt/torture someone if u really love him/her so much?? It's too dramatic to b in real life.Originally posted by mystee:ur wife really love u so much that she will say all sort of things to hurt herself & u... -
your wife is really very very insecure...
i believe that this is intrinsic and there is nothing you can really do to mitigate the way she feels.
again, you can't force her, but professional counseling is probably your only option at this point, other than divorce.
truth be told, the problems started when you married her when you are already mismatched in terms of expectations.
and i really believe she just says those things in an attempt to be comforted. although she spits out those things, she actually wants you to vehemently disagree and pacify her. your wife is still very immature in that regard to play this kind of games.
but hey, what can you do, you're already married. make the best you can, and really really only consider divorce after every other option has been tried.
to elindra:
- eh, elindra, dunno yet leh... she eye one prada one, so decision will be by friday. on the other hand, i got 2 new pairs of hugo boss shoes -
Yes. It's true. But I never chiong sg chickens b4Originally posted by tzr79:Zhun bo???
btw, u married how long liao??
I heard 1st time got ang bao take. Can take other stuff like usb mouse or not?
Anyway, next time she ask me find chicken again, I ask $$ from her lah. See what her reaction... -
u seriousOriginally posted by Frustrated_guy:Yes. It's true. But I never chiong sg chickens b4
I heard 1st time got ang bao take. Can take other stuff like usb mouse or not?
Anyway, next time she ask me find chicken again, I ask $$ from her lah. See what her reaction... -
you got the wrong lady for a wife...had a boss whose wife refused to visit the in-laws....and they have kids....made him stay in her family home....
you're not alone from what i hear, many modern wives are difficult with in-laws, the reverse is also true though....
if it's me, i would end the thing, really pointless since you're bitter over it.....negativity breeds negativity...get out!!...best wishes...
hello misty, hope all is well at home....
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There will come a time when you will say "Enough is enough."
I think your time is near.
Right now your real problem is indecision.
Break clean, and start afresh.
Then either remarry or stay single.
If you continue to tolerate the emotional abuse, you will just snap one day, or you survive by giving up and become the living dead.
The worst thing that can happen to a human being is to lose the spirit to live.
You owe a duty to yourself to improve your life, or at the very least, to live a pleasant life.
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If you don't mind sharing here, I do wonder what sort of life style both of you had before you got married?
What are the main differences between now and then?
Would appreciate if you can share?
By the way, I'm married..