Is it OK 2 end marriage for freedom? Which 1 more important?
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benefit of doubt, people do change be it for the better or worseOriginally posted by Zarks:I really dun understand why u need to be with some1 that is married... And for your bf, hes a jerk to being disloyal with his wife.. i dont know how sad is your bf story or watever, but i seriously object r/s of some1 who is married and playing around behind their lover's back.. Thats just so irresponsible for a guy to do that..
I really cant understand gals..I hope the guy will treat u the same when u both got married and see how it felt when he leaves u for other women.. he can do it to his wife.. im sure he can do it to you too. God bless you. Its your life and path that u want it this way, dont regret if this happens to you one day if you married him. People seems to not learn unless they experience it themself
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If you want a divorce, you choose it outa your own free will.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:But if not for my wife who kept popping the divorce word, it would never really got inside my head...
Stop pushing the blame on your wife.
No,I've never come across anyone who would give up a good marriage for freedom. Because they know what they are getting into in the beginning. -
They were already staying apart for years already. as far as i know, It was becoz their relationship was badly on the rocks... Its nv easyto be with my bf as he got a terrible temperament.. I try not to make him upset n angry most of the time. I only met him 2 yrs after they stayed apart.At tat point of time, He DID mention to me tat he was married... n i said I dun mind coz they already dun see each other for v long already. I know its wrong, but I'm not a 3rd party in this rs. I never came btw them. I honestly love him and i dun see anything wrong with being with him now.Originally posted by Zarks:I really dun understand why u need to be with some1 that is married... And for your bf, hes a jerk to being disloyal with his wife.. i dont know how sad is your bf story or watever, but i seriously object r/s of some1 who is married and playing around behind their lover's back.. Thats just so irresponsible for a guy to do that..
I really cant understand gals..I hope the guy will treat u the same when u both got married and see how it felt when he leaves u for other women.. he can do it to his wife.. im sure he can do it to you too. God bless you. Its your life and path that u want it this way, dont regret if this happens to you one day if you married him. People seems to not learn unless they experience it themself
Its my 3rd year with him now... Life with him is full of ups n down, sometimes i forgo our differences n jus forget watever bad things we have n always have a gd start the next day.. I will stay with him no matter wat happens.. Unless he tells me tat he no longer love me....
Hope i will not regret this... maybe i love him too deep.. Even i hurt myself whilst doing tat, I still feel happy to do so... All for the sake of him...My precious.. -
The fellow is still stubborn but I keep talking.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:Hi Misty,
How are u and ur other half? MIL still playing her domineering queen role?
MIL still like to hold that role. But tone down abit.
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There are cases of course for any reason you can think of people has done it.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:To be honest, I just want to learn if anybody did it for the sake of freedom. Actually, I didn't really want to talk much about my wife 'cause this time it is about myself. Come to think of it, I felt rather selfish asking the question. But if not for my wife who kept popping the divorce word, it would never really got inside my head...
As for CNY, something miraculous happen. My wife actually managed to think things through and agreed to visit my relatives. Unbelievably, a potential disaster was averted.
Thank you all for the comment, whether positive or negative. Think one of u is right, I may have underestimated the amount of freedom lost after marriage.
Its natural to become aclimatize when a person is exposed to an items too much. For example we identify Colgate as toothpaste worldwide because we see their adverts everyday. We hear about all the negative things everyday, our brain pick it up over and over and just like computer, this frequently accessed item will be kept in the cache
Its important to be aware of this. Its even more important to know what You want in this relationship and what you can give to help it grow.
Well... as long as CNY, she's willing to visit your relatives. Keep it simple, short and don't have too much expectations. People say the wrong things and it can easily cause flare ups. Anyways, do show appreciation for her consideration for your side. -
You are his stepping stone now.Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:They were already staying apart for years already. as far as i know, It was becoz their relationship was badly on the rocks... Its nv easyto be with my bf as he got a terrible temperament.. I try not to make him upset n angry most of the time. I only met him 2 yrs after they stayed apart.At tat point of time, He DID mention to me tat he was married... n i said I dun mind coz they already dun see each other for v long already. I know its wrong, but I'm not a 3rd party in this rs. I never came btw them. I honestly love him and i dun see anything wrong with being with him now.
Its my 3rd year with him now... Life with him is full of ups n down, sometimes i forgo our differences n jus forget watever bad things we have n always have a gd start the next day.. I will stay with him no matter wat happens.. Unless he tells me tat he no longer love me....
Hope i will not regret this... maybe i love him too deep.. Even i hurt myself whilst doing tat, I still feel happy to do so... All for the sake of him...My precious..
Once he is done with his divorce, he'll look for some one else. Just brace yourself for this. -
why do you say that?Originally posted by jojobeach:You are his stepping stone now.
Once he is done with his divorce, he'll look for some one else. Just brace yourself for this. -
3 years together, her bf still never settle his divorce...Originally posted by blu_sky:why do you say that? -
What makes u say tat? I'm puzzled....U really think so?Originally posted by jojobeach:You are his stepping stone now.
Once he is done with his divorce, he'll look for some one else. Just brace yourself for this.
I know maybe I might be the stone he is stepping on, but I hope he is serious with me la. -
Becoz the house has not yet reached the 5 yrs occupancy yet . And he wans to retain this house. Now the new ruling, he is able to buy over from his wife... I'm not working, so its going to be tough on him...Originally posted by jojobeach:3 years together, her bf still never settle his divorce...
Still trying to work things out somehow.. -
He and his wife married for how long ?Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:Becoz the house has not yet reached the 5 yrs occupancy yet . And he wans to retain this house. Now the new ruling, he is able to buy over from his wife... I'm not working, so its going to be tough on him...
Still trying to work things out somehow.. -
how about carry on this discussion in her thread instead of hijacking TS' thread?Originally posted by jojobeach:He and his wife married for how long ? -
This talk about wanting freedom just shows how ready you are for marriage in the first place.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:I've been missing my freedom since my marriage. The kind of freedom that single people take for granted is what I've had, until I got married. I didn't realise I miss it so much until I chit chat with my friend. He said it is because of freedom that he does not want to settle down.
Before marriage, I was debt-free, happy and free. After marriage, I was not that happy, got cc debt and totally unfree. There's no third party whatsoever. I just want to ask, DOES ANYONE OF U KNOW ANYONE WHO ENDED A MARRIAGE FOR FREEDOM?
I talk to my wife about freedom and she replied, "Well, you can consider divorce. Once we divorce, you can have all the freedom in the world." Dead-end talk.
Anyway, I am considering her offer. Meantime, I just want to know how everybody thinks about it. Lastly, we have no kids. So, any thoughts? Freedom or marriage?
Did your wife do you wrong? Are there cracks in your marriage? Are there communication breakdowns between you and your wife? Or is it that you resent the fact that you no longer have a "life", that you have to pay for a family now, and that you seemingly can no longer do whatever you want?
You are selfish. You want to be responsible only to yourself, and you sure as hell do not care about your wife at all. I doubt u even love her. You are just not ready for marriage life, and yet u went into it, and now u talk about mounting debts, wanting freedom etc.
Take my advice, just divorce. Your wife deserves better. -
Well, things may be bad for mother of pearl in future but things may become good for her.
I think I am the more liberal type of person when it comes to marriage without kids... I find it is pointless to stay together just for the sake of staying together. If everyday both of you argue, fight, control the other and getting tired of all this, might as well call it quit and start anew. -
Married in 2001 ...prior to tat, they knew each other since their late teens or early 20s.. maybe its dependency on each other,not love..
I cant judge becoz I'm not her... They dun see each other anymore already..
Theres no more feelings ba.. I dunno alot about their past... -
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