have a damn-mummy's boy for a bf.. it sucks!
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Kudos to that. After losing my grandmother earlier this year... I just feel that, I could have spent more time with her while she was still here. Now I can only look back and feel how silly I was.Originally posted by Uncertain:Sometimes, this kind of thing cannot help it one. For me, i really care for my parents - i joke with them, go breakfast with them every morning without fail. I am also a mummy boy and i know girl hates this kind of guy for being too obedient. However, TS what i want to tell u is the time u can share with ur parents together is very short.
If ur bf sort of married u at age of 30, how long u think ur bf can be with his parents? at most 15 years, y? because only when one reach maturity then one MAY realise how important their parents are. For me, i realise it quite late or rather i am really stunned when i really it. Therefore, i am happy to be a mummy boy at the moment so that i can treasure them while time last till we parted.
Therefore, sometimes please spare a thought for ur bf. -
A mommy's boy is a guy who let's his mother tells him what to do, decide for him, and controls him like a r/c vehicle.
A mommy's boy doesn't know how to think independently and requires approval from his mother for everything in his life.
A mommy's boy is one who has no self confidence to figure out what is good or bad for HIMSELF.
Being obedient and filial is different from being a mommy's boy.
You should be more careful about dating a mommy's boy.
Because mommy's boys don't know how to keep their mothers from crossing over personal boundaries. Including YOURS.
If the mother is very manipulative and controlling, you WILL have control and power struggle problems.
My mother is a manipulative woman, she wants to control every aspect of my brother's life.
When my brother and SIL had children, my mom wants to control how they raise their kids, and CONSTANTLY complain about my SIL.
BUYERS BEWARE.
I repeat,
Mommy's boys are those who cannot be assertive enough to tell their own mothers to BUTT OUT of his own marriage/relationship.
The only way to prevent big marital problems with mommy's boys are to ensure you DON'T LIVE WITH YOUR IN-LAWS. And make SURE you set your boundaries at the beginning of the relationships.
A guy can still be filial and nice to their parents without having them INVADE into their own personal relationship with their gf/spouse. -
*cough* you sure he was with ihs mom?
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Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:*cough* you sure he was with ihs mom?
Anyway, I love my mum, of course, but I make my own decisions. My neighbour, on the other hand, is an honest to goodness mamma's boy who needs his mother to make all his decisions, and I mean ALL. He wants to move into my apartment when I leave and what does he do? He sends dear old mommy to check out the place and wax lyrical about how her son is a good boy, when in actuality he strikes me as a filthy perv who walks along the corridor in nothing but his towel. And frankly it makes me sick. Sorry about OT-ing but I really hate my neighbour. If he was Singaporean surely cannot make it in NS
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me also from 83, my mum used to control me a lot but now i alot more freedom
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To TS -
wouldn't you too want your son to care for you and listen to you as much as possible too...?
i dun think hes mummy boy, just listening to him mum and being obedient to her thats all, of course i wouldn't really know to what extend. but would you rather have a bf who loves and respect his mum than a man who doesn't? -
u r evil...feed poison....but i think its okie to be fillial to parents. they brought us up and definitely require our attention at times.pls do understand your bf and show support. Rem your relationship with your bf family and you still a long way to go.Originally posted by lysa:Too over liao leh..as above that u have just mentioned.. he did it all okay.. i never spoon feed him lol.. 
if i did.. i would have blardy feed him poison sia.. -
This is a better definiton of mummy boy haha. But hor, this kind of guy like no thought, no initiative, no confidence lol... guy seriously need to be independent so that they can give a sense of security to their girlOriginally posted by jojobeach:A mommy's boy is a guy who let's his mother tells him what to do, decide for him, and controls him like a r/c vehicle.
A mommy's boy doesn't know how to think independently and requires approval from his mother for everything in his life.
A mommy's boy is one who has no self confidence to figure out what is good or bad for HIMSELF.
Being obedient and filial is different from being a mommy's boy.
You should be more careful about dating a mommy's boy.
Because mommy's boys don't know how to keep their mothers from crossing over personal boundaries. Including YOURS.
If the mother is very manipulative and controlling, you WILL have control and power struggle problems.
My mother is a manipulative woman, she wants to control every aspect of my brother's life.
When my brother and SIL had children, my mom wants to control how they raise their kids, and CONSTANTLY complain about my SIL.
BUYERS BEWARE.
I repeat,
Mommy's boys are those who cannot be assertive enough to tell their own mothers to BUTT OUT of his own marriage/relationship.
The only way to prevent big marital problems with mommy's boys are to ensure you DON'T LIVE WITH YOUR IN-LAWS. And make SURE you set your boundaries at the beginning of the relationships.
A guy can still be filial and nice to their parents without having them INVADE into their own personal relationship with their gf/spouse. -
This is a better definiton of mummy boy haha. But hor, this kind of guy like no thought, no initiative, no confidence lol... guy seriously need to be independent so that they can give a sense of security to their girlOriginally posted by jojobeach:A mommy's boy is a guy who let's his mother tells him what to do, decide for him, and controls him like a r/c vehicle.
A mommy's boy doesn't know how to think independently and requires approval from his mother for everything in his life.
A mommy's boy is one who has no self confidence to figure out what is good or bad for HIMSELF.
Being obedient and filial is different from being a mommy's boy.
You should be more careful about dating a mommy's boy.
Because mommy's boys don't know how to keep their mothers from crossing over personal boundaries. Including YOURS.
If the mother is very manipulative and controlling, you WILL have control and power struggle problems.
My mother is a manipulative woman, she wants to control every aspect of my brother's life.
When my brother and SIL had children, my mom wants to control how they raise their kids, and CONSTANTLY complain about my SIL.
BUYERS BEWARE.
I repeat,
Mommy's boys are those who cannot be assertive enough to tell their own mothers to BUTT OUT of his own marriage/relationship.
The only way to prevent big marital problems with mommy's boys are to ensure you DON'T LIVE WITH YOUR IN-LAWS. And make SURE you set your boundaries at the beginning of the relationships.
A guy can still be filial and nice to their parents without having them INVADE into their own personal relationship with their gf/spouse. -
If the guy does not care and not filial to his own mum, DO NOT expect him to be faithful to you. If he can do that to his own mum, certainly he does not hesitate to do the same to you.
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Are you a son or a daughter ?Originally posted by 4getmenot:To TS -
wouldn't you too want your son to care for you and listen to you as much as possible too...?
i dun think hes mummy boy, just listening to him mum and being obedient to her thats all, of course i wouldn't really know to what extend. but would you rather have a bf who loves and respect his mum than a man who doesn't?
You need to understand that, women do have problem letting go of their own sons.
And when the son falls in love with a girl, the girl becomes the other woman in the son's life.
Don't forget, women are mostly jealous creatures.
Having to compete with ANOTHER woman is not something easy for any mother to deal with.
As the son, you must be the person to not let your mother interfere with your own relationship with your gf/spouse. -
Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by lysa:Hi folks,
After receiving so many wonderful helps from sgforumers.. i decided to post a new problems here again...
Here it goes, my boyfriend always likes to listen to his mum.. and i realised that those born in 1983 which is Pig in Chinese zodiac.. tends to be homely creature.. hey i don't mind but.. too timid sometimes.. mummy boy or girl.. I really don't know what to do.. any people born in 1983 here? (tell me how u behave pls)
Told my bf to helped me out with my repairing of my house TV. and he took a long time before he reached my house.. cos he told me..my mum asked me to eat lunch before going out.. the appt time is 4.30 pm.. and he reached around 7 plus.. damn sian.. wanted to go out leh.. and this is what he did to me..
I have gotten quite sick of this... everything revolve around the bloody mum.. don't get it wrong.. i don't hate MUMS but for a mature 24 year old.. everthing mummy.. mummy here and there (SOrry.. seriously i just needed to fcuk my ranting here)
Folks, i needed some opinion.. a good one.. pls don't dump crap here.. thx!
(P.S: killing his mum might be a good idea too)
I have nothing to complain since I got a friend of mine who is as simmilar to yur case. His mom loves him and is always worried. One thing for sure he bring some childish stuff to school. But I, rather than laugh, I adviced him not to bring it to school to avoid being a nuisance. There are some mummy boys in those top grade schools, so, why complain? I have nothing agaisnt them. -
mummy boy's are the ones who will never stray
so its guaranteed that he's your forever
there's always pro and cons to everything
it depends on whether you are able to accommodate him
if not, just break lor -
True to a certain extend.Originally posted by twinkleprops:mummy boy's are the ones who will never stray
so its guaranteed that he's your forever
there's always pro and cons to everything
it depends on whether you are able to accommodate him
if not, just break lor
Mommy's boy will not stray UNLESS his mommy tells him to.
If his mommy don't approve of you, be sure he's gonna drop you like a piece of cow dang, no questions ask. -
First of all I'm going to have to agree with TS that he is indeed a mummy's boy. Looks like he's still living with his mother even though he's 24. No there's nothing wrong with children obeying their mums but he's not a child anymore. Sorry TS but I don't think there's much you can do except for getting a new guy lol.Originally posted by DrTech:So you have a problem with children obeying their mums?
Looks like your BF's "mum" is someone else. Must be something you aren't doing right that makes him 2.5 hours late. I mean, seriously. Lunch? 4pm? Until 7pm? Where are you/him located? You see my point?
Anyway, seems like you love jerks more... so, quit complaining if your BF isn't one.
The upside of this, however, is that if you want to be a controlling matriarch in the relationship then it'll be really easy lol. -
Hun, SG guys live with their parents and never get to leave.Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:First of all I'm going to have to agree with TS that he is indeed a mummy's boy. Looks like he's still living with his mother even though he's 24. No there's nothing wrong with children obeying their mums but he's not a child anymore. Sorry TS but I don't think there's much you can do except for getting a new guy lol.
After they get married majority of them still live with their parents. -
Sometimes, this kind of thing cannot help it one. For me, i really care for my parents - i joke with them, go breakfast with them every morning without fail. I am also a mummy boy and i know girl hates this kind of guy for being too obedient. However, TS what i want to tell u is the time u can share with ur parents together is very short.
Fu*king well said man.Respect to that,seriously greatly done.
If ur bf sort of married u at age of 30, how long u think ur bf can be with his parents? at most 15 years, y? because only when one reach maturity then one MAY realise how important their parents are. For me, i realise it quite late or rather i am really stunned when i really it. Therefore, i am happy to be a mummy boy at the moment so that i can treasure them while time last till we parted.
Therefore, sometimes please spare a thought for ur bf.Looks like he's still living with his mother even though he's 24.
Dai this one Singapore la,not America la. Whats so embarrassing about saying you love your parents?So many think of parents as a shame,thats a fu*king shame. Without em you are nothing,they spent for you on education,food,toys and what not? You mean you can provide for yourself at the age of 3? Its kinda sad now these days to see many sons and daughters not caring about their parents anymore. -
wad opinion u wan.. all i can say is tat if u feel tat this sucks den jus break up.. if u noe u dun1 break up.. den tink of a solution urself.. oh ok..hmm wait wait... maybe u shud go meet his mum ? let his mum noe more abt u den maybe she can entrust him to u... ?
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OMFG WTFOriginally posted by jojobeach:Hun, SG guys live with their parents and never get to leave.
After they get married majority of them still live with their parents.
YOU SERIOUS!? -
Only 3 scenarios
1) Your bf dont give a damn about you so he is taking his own sweet time to come over. He uses his mummy's lunch as an excuse.
2) Your bf is really a mummy's boy who seldom defies mummy's wishes. He is very dependent on his mother. Mother say whatever he will obey one. I mean wtf he is 24 yrs old already, gf tell him go out, his mother tell him go out after lunch and yet he obey his mother.
3) Your bf simply loves mum's cooking. He is a glutton. -
So not living with your parents = not loving them and being able to provide for yourself at the age of 3? Hmm not sure if your logic works.Originally posted by anfieldheroez:Dai this one Singapore la,not America la. Whats so embarrassing about saying you love your parents?So many think of parents as a shame,thats a fu*king shame. Without em you are nothing,they spent for you on education,food,toys and what not? You mean you can provide for yourself at the age of 3? Its kinda sad now these days to see many sons and daughters not caring about their parents anymore.
Btw this has nothing to do with America, I'm talking about almost the entire world from Europe, North and South America, the Middle East, Australia, Africa and almost friggin everywhere it's customary for the children to stop living with their parents once they reach a certain age.
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i am born in 1983 too. i am a male and i am single... do you....ahem...
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let the women fight among themselves
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these never happens, the man in between will always have to choose sides....and he will always lose....Originally posted by bryanw:let the women fight among themselves -
maybe he is using him mom to cover up the reasons of being later or something else? sometime man can be desperate for a valid reason to use any person to cover their faults