Am I a loser
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Fully and totally agreeOriginally posted by Uncertain:lol... TS never gives a girl EXPENSIVE GIFT especially so when u and her is not in a r/s. It is really a foolish thing to do. If possible, i think u ask back the ring from her.
Warning: u still have to face her in the company, so do it given u have a heart of stone like me.
The fact that she accepts the gift and give no positive response or rather even bother to respond has to show that she is a bitch lol... accept gift without any gratification
Prove to her, she is just another lady in this world and her existence to u is nothing.
U are not a loser, just being too naive or blinded by love. Never give an expensive gift to a girl given she becomes ur wife. Sggirls are materialistic in general.
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TS, you are not a loser. You see, you observe, you like, and regardless of the outcome you are courageous to put in action to show your affection.
The only thing I wanna say is you should not have bought her a ring. This is too fast a move for a guy to approach the gal in this way. Strange, dunno why she accepted.
Losers are guys who like the gals and yet dare not approach the gals. They only admire, stare and ogle at the gals they like. These people simply love to behave like losers, dunno why! Hey, guys, gals don't like losers! Guys who behave like losers are not charming and attractive, and these guys will only cause gals to withdraw from them. -
maybe you shldnt impulse 101 and bought an expensive ring... around how much it cost? dun take the ring back.. that will cause ur reputation in office to drop ...
ask her out again loh... or 'accidentally' put the price tag on her desk... if she still stubborn dun wan go out / return ring then have to find other girl ... -
Originally posted by man4nth:i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser?
You are not a loser.
You are just someone who doesn't know what he's doing.
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Not loser, at least you tried.
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i will try to forget this gal
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Why give up so easily without even know what's your result?
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"I think..... Therefore I am."
Based on the above quote, you are a loser if you think you are one. It's you who decide what you are......
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i don't hv the courage to ask her out again n i see her avoiding me.Originally posted by dcx:Why give up so easily without even know what's your result? -
If i may ask, what're you & her age?Originally posted by man4nth:i don't hv the courage to ask her out again n i see her avoiding me. -
both of us 28Originally posted by dcx:If i may ask, what're you & her age? -
I guess you'll need to know if she's attached or not.Originally posted by man4nth:both of us 28
If married, you can then try to cast away your feelings for her.
If attached, you still stand a slight chance, but don't throw in too much hopes.
If unattached, by all means, let your feelings to her be known to her.
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she is very secretive............. no one noes whether she is attached anot. she is definetly not married. even her best friend dun noe she attach anot. only noes she quite active in sport , games etc......Originally posted by dcx:I guess you'll need to know if she's attached or not.
If married, you can then try to cast away your feelings for her.
If attached, you still stand a slight chance, but don't throw in too much hopes.
If unattached, by all means, let your feelings to her be known to her.
You have to try, otherwise, you'll be stagnant. -
since she is avoiding you, you should know the answer already.Originally posted by man4nth:i don't hv the courage to ask her out again n i see her avoiding me.
Move on. -
Well...if i'll you, i'll at least make one more attempt to ask her out (Not during festive days, i.e. New Year Eve/New Year)...at least out for a coffee/tea, need not neccessary be a dinner...Purpose is not to tell her how much you like her, but to understand her & see if can build a communication with her.Originally posted by man4nth:she is very secretive............. no one noes whether she is attached anot. she is definetly not married. even her best friend dun noe she attach anot. only noes she quite active in sport , games etc......
You need to give yourself a chance to try your luck since it's been 5yrs already.
Don't give yourself up.
*Touchwood* Should this doesn't work out, you should try to meet up with more friends and to borden yourself & understand females more. (Though it's very hard to understand females, but at least, understand abit wouldn't hurt.) -
Ask her straight in the face, loud and clear whether you stand a chance or not.
1% chance succeed
99% chance, you should move on. -
perhaps you are taking the wrong approach.
you can have a casual chat with her on the spot without having to ask her out initially. get to know her as a person and how her personality is like. there could be a personality mismatch and you don't even know that.
it really appears that the girl does not know you at all. it is hard to find acceptance without even being normal friends with the person. really, you should just get to know her casually without being over involved. if something develops, be happy.
you have to communicate to her and be a friend instead of filling your head with thoughts of dating and bf/gf.
in fact, giving a present of a ring is kinda like jumping the gun. she could thinking, what a weirdo, i barely know you and you gimme a ring. -
Agree.. Have u been in a r/s before? Do not limit yrself in just that small circle. Widen it and meet more gals and friends. It is only thru trial and error that u become stronger!Originally posted by pwnz0r:perhaps you are taking the wrong approach.
you can have a casual chat with her on the spot without having to ask her out initially. get to know her as a person and how her personality is like. there could be a personality mismatch and you don't even know that.
it really appears that the girl does not know you at all. it is hard to find acceptance without even being normal friends with the person. really, you should just get to know her casually without being over involved. if something develops, be happy.
you have to communicate to her and be a friend instead of filling your head with thoughts of dating and bf/gf.
in fact, giving a present of a ring is kinda like jumping the gun. she could thinking, what a weirdo, i barely know you and you gimme a ring. -
then take the initiative to ask her out for some sports and games..Originally posted by man4nth:only noes she quite active in sport , games etc......
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hahaha...
u have chance ..
but the girl maybe a gold-digger...
not she may not too...
But why buy her so expensive ring... are u going to propose to her?
hahaha!
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yes, close thread pls. -
Actually, i trying to ask her to be my girlfriend!Originally posted by Sakuraflower:hahaha...
u have chance ..
but the girl maybe a gold-digger...
not she may not too...
But why buy her so expensive ring... are u going to propose to her?
hahaha! 
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High chance she is attached but available.Originally posted by man4nth:she is very secretive............. no one noes whether she is attached anot. she is definetly not married. even her best friend dun noe she attach anot. only noes she quite active in sport , games etc...... -
You trying to buy her love with a ring ?Originally posted by man4nth:Actually, i trying to ask her to be my girlfriend! -
The joke is that she might be laughing behind TS back, saying that he is a dumb guy whom she can used to get expensive stuff without doing anything.Originally posted by jojobeach:You trying to buy her love with a ring ?
She may even have many bf and TS may not even qualify to be one.
Yeah i agree he is a loser and he is a dumb one too.